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well i have been crushing on this guy at my school name Shaun. i have liked him for two years now, but i'm not sure if he really knows i like him or if it's a trick that his sister is playing on him. even though he broke my heart when he turned my down at the school dance i still like him alot. why won't he talk to me? (link)
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The guy might be shy or intimidated. I'm sure he'll come around if you just give him time. If not, maybe sit him down and have a really good one-on-one talk about what you're feelings. If things dont work out, i'm sure there's somebody better out there for you!!!
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i have a great friend who is turning 16 tomorro. he desserves a great little get together because hes soo nice and caring. him along with me and 5 other girls are really close and i want to do something for his birthday. (not a party, just a get together for 5-10 people)
i was thinking having us eat at a restaurant and of course my friend eats free..what do you think? what could we do after?
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Sounds great so far. I would recommend going to the movies. Always a great way to end something like that. And everybody would enjoy it.
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is that a good age to babysit? Because I have had like 2 years of experiance with my 2year old nephew! (link)
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It's kinda young but since you've already handled the responsibilty of a 2 year old (impressive) then i would say you are ready for it. If you feel like you can handle it then i'm sure you can. Go for it!!!
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how do i tell the guy i like that i like him when we barely talk ..., but he likes me back so i dunno (link)
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Well sit him down and really tell him. I'm sure you can find ways to talk to him. Email, private, phone, there are ways. If he likes you back, you have nothing to lose!!! Go for it!!
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I have 2 different contacts the one I got in after like an hour but the other one is so soft and it kept turning inside out and flipping up does anyone have suggestions for that one? I rate high help please! (link)
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I would recommend going back to your eye doctor who gave you the prescription for the contact. They could offer a different kind of contact that's more suited for your eye. I've heard the soft contacts are a lot better than the hard ones though. So stay with the soft ones for now.
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I have been with a guy for 3 years. I am 18, and he is 21 years old and we recently broke up about a month ago. The way he was treating me was horrible and we've been through way too much to handle, yet we have so much love for eachother. He recently matured and changed alot, or so it seems. There is another guy I have been very close friends with for about 4 years and we recently confessed our feelings for eachother. We plan on remaining friends for now and taking it extra slow when we both decide we are ready to persue our relationship. My problem is that I am not sure what I want to do right now. I really really like this other kid yet I am still deeply in love with my boyfriend and am not ready to start anything yet. I am just really confused on whether to give him another chance or just let it go. Please dont say follow my heart because that's just the thing, I dont know what my heart is saying right now. This other guy is everything i've ever wanted...amazing(if that info. helps at all) . Please help me. (link)
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First of all, are you really really sure this guy changed?? Say you give him another chance and he still treats you bad. Then this other guy will probably think he's being blown off and might go away. I say think about it for awhile. Let everything really sink in. Maybe even talk to this second guy about the first guy. Ask for suggestions. If he really likes you, he'll understand and want to help. And you dont have to start or decide anything right now. You do have time. So take things slow and one step at a time.
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Well everyone knows about writer's block well I think I've got chatter's block well there's this guy I chat to on msn he's kinda funny when we actually have proper conversation cause most of the time this is what we say "hi" (me) "sup" (him) "wot you doin"(me) "nuttin u?"(him)"same"(me) that is the conversation we have like everytime we chat so sometimes I make up fake questions to ask him just to have something to say e.g. what is the distance between the earth and the sun and he always answers them straight away so he is really smart but the thing is what do I say to him? what is there to talk about? he is in a different country so we can't talk about anything that's going on and he is like 6 years older than me say he probably ain't into the stuff I'm in don't worry we're just friends so age difference ain't a problem (link)
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I have those "boring" conversations too so i understand!!! Usually, i just ask him/her what kind of things they like. If you see something interesting ask them more about it and i guarantee it will most likely get them talking!!! The best results are when you both are into the same thing (which can still happen even tho you two live a long way away). Just find what interests them and that'll get them talking!!!
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Ok, now get this. I'm a 14 year old male, turning 15 in October, I'm 6' 2", and I weigh 130. I'm not skinny, as most people think when I say that. I do have a 30-31 inch waist, but I also have a large six pack, large chest (100+ lb. bench press, free weight, 180-190 machine), good biceps (35 lb. one-arm curl, 75 lb. two-arm), my forearm is larger than my elbow joint sideways, and my shoulders and neck are worked pretty well (40 pushups are nice and easy). I don't have any stats for my legs right now but I have really large upper legs and calves about the same size. I play baseball and I can run a 4:40 MILE easy (to give you an idea of my legs). But I want some more weight. I have all the size I need but I'm gonna start working with the football team soon for the next season (b/c I'm obviously too small right now) and, well, yeah, I need some more weight. Protein shakes aren't my favorite recommendation, to me they're like a legalized form of steroids. And they basically just build muscle - not the strength with it. But I'm thinking about 'em, but if I did do protein shakes, I'd only do one round. But chyeah, any suggestions on ways that I could go from 130 up to around 160 or 170 within the next few months (before the end of this year)? And hopefully to around at least 200 lbs. by the end of this school year (next May)? Oh yeah, and I'm at least 97-98% muscle and I'd like it to stay that way. Thanks for any and all suggestions I might get. ~All 4 Him 4eva~ (link)
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Well, i might not be the best health expert, but maybe eating more meats would help. I wouldn't exactly recommend sugar and all because that isnt' exactly good for you. Eat a lot of dairy products (good for protein) and meats. Not sure if i helped, but i tried!!!
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hey!
i'm on a diet where i'm really watching what i eat, and not eating junk food or anything any more! but it's 9:35 at night..and i'm hungry! what can i have that won't cause me to gain weight? we don't have alot.. but suggestions would be soo helpful! (link)
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It's great you understand how late night snacks can really affect your weight. Try fruit or veggies. Or if you can stand it, cereal low in sugar is good too. As long as you stay away from all the calories, fat, and sugar you can't go wrong!!!
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Hello. Im starting to excersize to lose weight and i was wondering..I like to eat salad with just lemon and salt, but i only eat lettuce..lol not much of a salad so basically lettuce in a bowl with lemon and salt on top..is that alot of carbs/calories?
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I think it's okay. Be careful on the salt. Too much isn't really good for your whole system. But as long as you keep it low in intake you should be fine!!!
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Is there any way to go to a doctor without your parents knowing?
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You could always get a friend to take you. The best idea is to have your parents involved. But if you really dont want that, get somebody older who can drive to take you and who you trust.
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well i was wondering if ny1 knew any good spray/cream anything that i could use to put in my hair before or after i straighten it so its smooth. i have like black curly curly hair.or something to help it so its not so fried help! thnx //♥ (link)
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Well, I use Biosilk. It's a silk gel-like therapy for your hair that keeps it soft and prevents frying your hair. It doesn't exactly make it easier to straighten your hair. But it works to keep it soft and prevent it from drying out.
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hey alright to cut to the choice i really like this one kid that i meet at my work (community center job) and he seems kinda of shy and nervous but in front of his friends he isnt that i no of. i havnt really talked to him but he loves to play pool and so do i he cute funny and i mean i dont really no his personality to well but everytime i see him its likes i get all werid and i mean i like him alot and stuff or something like i start to get shy because i havnt talked to him or anything well i am to scared to go talk to him what do i do?? please help me sorry soo long (link)
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Sounds like a sweet guy to me. Well, breathe gurl because you probably dont wanna hear this. You need to talk to this guy. Don't think about it, just do it!!! It can't hurt cuz you haven't even talked to him before. If you dont know his personality, then talk to him and find out!! That's the only possible way. I understand you being shy and all, but that's just something you'll have to work on. Just go up to him and introduce yourself. If you run out of things to say, talk about pool. It's a good start because you both share a common interest. So take courage and just do it!!! Good luck!!!
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I really think my life is worthless. I'm nothing special and i feel like such a waste. The only person who i can talk to, who keeps me going, who i have spent 3 years of my life being dedicated to, and loving .. could care less about me. I
f i can't have him i don't want any body else. I feel no point in living. I truely love him and he's the only reason i get up in the morning. I feel like just ending my life now, but i could no way do it, and i would never. This sounds immature and child-ish. But it's not. My feelings will never change.
What can i do to make everything better? (link)
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First of all, your life is NOT worthless and never will be!!! Every body has a purpose in their lives whether you know what that is yet or not. You are not a waste. You were created by God for a special purpose so dont think otherwise!!!
If this really special guy has disappeared from your life then yes it's going to hurt. But someway, you'll manage to get through this. There are a lot of sweet guys out there for YOU!!! Just because this one guy didn't quite work doesn't mean its the end. Even THINKING about suicide is going to make you really depressed. You say you would never do it now, but it does get worse unless you can find some other outlet for your pain. And yes, over time your feelings will change because they'll have to. Life goes on whether we're ready or not. It just makes it easier on us if we go along with it instead of fighting it. God bless you.
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how do i get more guys to be my friends?? i have like none i im not sure if any boy would be my friend i mean ya i do hang out with the popular group or whatever you wnt to call them but they never put me in thier profiles and like i feel left out like if someone hangs out with someone for one night they are automatically their friend but unlike me i take a whole year (link)
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I know how hard it is sometimes to get really good guy friends for us gurls. Sometimes you just gotta get out there and meet somebody. Really talk to him and get to know him. Ask some of your friends to maybe hook you up or at least introduce you to a nice guy friend. I doubt it's YOU who they dont like. Maybe you're just hanging around the wrong people. And usually, it takes longer than one night to make a truly good friend. The kind worth keeping, ya know??? So just get out there and really show some guys the real you!!! Good luck!!!
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i have so many guy friends. all of my friends are guys except a select few. but ive never had a b/f. could there be like a vibe im giving thats saying im not interested?!?! anyway my question is : What can i do to show a guy that i like him without telling him ?
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I doubt it's any "vibe" that's preventing you from getting a boyfriend. I would suggest really opening up to one of them you might be interested in as more than a friend. Start from there. If the guy gets the hint, he'll most likely make the first move. If not, keep dropping hints. Sometimes being too much "in their faces" can put a guy off. So take it slow. Good luck!!!
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im tryin out for freshman girls basketball---i cant do pushups to save my life!! what can i do to work out the "push ups" muscles???
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Have you considered doing weights??? That helps a lot. Sometimes you just have to build up. Don't start at like 20 pushups. Set a lower goal like 5 or something. Every day do as many sets of 5 as you can. Eventually you'll get stronger and you can do more. Just take it slow cuz it's a long process.
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Iam always nervous and deppressed no one around me like family,friends,stuff like that can tell. I have no brothers or sisters to help me,I'm scared of life to and of the devil I think I want a Theropist but I'm scared if I tell my parents i'll get in trouble and they wont belive me. I am 13 and female, I'm also scared of the fact of becoming one of those teens who get soo stressed they move things with there mind and don't even no it, and some of those kids become Excersist.
P.S. I'm that teen who is a Little too skinny. (link)
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I understand. I went through a pretty bad depression. You need to find ways of beating that depression first of all. Try talking with you're closest friends about it. If you hole everything up in yourself nobody is going to know what you're dealing with!!! I'm sure your friends would luv to help you so give them a chance. About being afraid of the devil. Well, I'm a Christian. I beat my depression by really reading the Bible and just praying. And you are NOT going to move things just with your mind unintentionally. That thing is of the devil and not right!!! When you said, "i'm that teen who is a Little too skinny" that made me wonder..are you going through anorexia??? Because i did too and it just makes things worse and more depressing!!! Sounds like you're having a really bad time. Just start praying. Even if you're not a Christian, Jesus is ALWAYS there for you and He loves you soo much. And He already knows what you're going through!!!
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this is really stupid.. but i met this guy online and i started to like him ALOT. well anyway i met up with him yesterday he is the sweetest/cutest guy EVER. I mean we had such a GREAT time! Well anyway he asked me if I wanted to go out another time.. and I said yes.. but see he's never done ANYTHING with a girl except for hug.. and yesterday we didnt do anything! If we go out again will he have the nerve to hold my hand?? and if he doesnt do i just grab his HELP ME PLEASE! (link)
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It's great you met somebody. Sounds like the guy is shy. Try giving him some time to get used to you. Holding hands is okay but if the guy is unsure, just ask him!!! Can't hurt. Chances are he wants to but is too shy to actually do it. Just help the poor guy along and it'll work out!!!
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Well yesterday was my brothers birthday but he died about half a year ago.I'm really sad cause he would of been 22 years old. I noticed that my dad is sad about it and I'm also feeling the same but a bit confused I'm not sure wut to think or feel. I want to do something special to give him the message he's still alive in my heart though I'm not sure what to do.I can't goto where he was buried cause he was buried in Florida and I live in Texas. it's a long story but yea... any idea's would be highly appreciated thanks in advance.
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It's great you want to respect your brother by that. But the dead can't receive messages. All you can do about now is just remember him in your prayers. Just never forget about him and that will be more than enough.
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