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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me.

I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.

I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)

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does putting toothpaste on pimples overnight seriously work? if so, how fast?
thanks *

well i can't say i haven't tried it back in the day... i think everyone has, and it is deffinitely a myth. if it doesn't work for everyone, then it doesn't work at all... i think those who say it has worked for them only THINK it was the toothpaste that made the pimple go away... but it probably just went away on it's own.

to get rid of a pimple practically overnight or even stop one from forming when you feel a blemish, just use clean and clear invisible blemish treatment. it's in a tiny tube, and it contains a good amount of salisylic acid, which is really good at drying out and getting rid of pimples!! :)

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Hey i asked you a question like this before and loved your advice, but now i need some more help on the same issue lol,
Ok my question is about my prom.... there is this guy at my school, and last week he was hinting a lot about prom and me... for example we went to the mall and he picked out a prom dress for me and told me i looked great in it (i looked horrible) and lots of other little things (like saying its fate for us to go to prom), now that i am thinking about asking him, this week hes changed a bit, a doesn't mention prom as much. Does he still want to go with me( or did he want to go in the first place)? should i ask him? and how should I? i just want to go as friends and have a good time, but i am afraid of rejection. Thanks in advance

hey!! well thanks for all your compliments!! :) and also, i just have to say that i got a good laugh out of your title "prom terror"!! hahaha

well ok back to business. i deffinitely think this guy still wants to go with you. the way i see it, he feels like he was nagging too much last week and doesn't want to keep doing that in fear of annoying you. maybe he was expecting you to ask him last week if he kept hinting about it, but since you never asked him, he has lost hope and took it as a "no i don't want to go with you, stop asking" sort of thing.

deffinitely ASK HIM!! i highly doubt he will say no if he was hinting about it last week! there is no way he can change his mind soo fast!! don't be afraid, everything good in life comes from taking a chance! make a joke out of it so that even if he does say no, it won't be akward. say something like "so since you think it's our fate to go to prom together, why don't we?" or something like that. he might think you're kidding or something, so if he asks just let him know you're serious!!

plus, you want to do it ASAP so that in case for some reason he does say NO (which i really doubt he will), you can still have time to find another date! let me know how things go or if you need any more help... hope this helped!! :)

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so ive tried everything to gain weight and it doesnt work. well i am 5 7 and weigh 100 lbs and on top of that i am 21 years old and recently had a baby. well when i was pregnant i was 108lbs and only went up to 123lbs, after giving birth im back down to 100lbs and i went to the doctor before and after having my baby, and they told me to gain weight id have to eat right. well i always have but no matter how hard i try it doesnt work and i eat like a pig. im really worried b/c i hate the way i look im too skinny id love to be like 120-130 lbs but nothing helps. too when i was pregnant you couldnt even tell i gained weight i was a toothpick with a big belly. so should i go back to the doctor and have them check me out in the hospital or something? please help me, thanks!

hey! well i want to help you but i don't think any advice you can get on this site would be the best advice for your situation. i've heard of a condition in some women (i'm not sure if i should even call it a condition... it's not a disease or anything) which causes them to LOSE weight after pregnancy, instead of gain it like most people. it probably just means you have a very high metabolism, especially if you do eat "like a pig" and still don't gain weight. i deffinitely recommend going to the doctor and explaining this to them. or, seeing a dietician is probably a good idea as well, because they can point you in the right direction and tell you what foods to eat in order to gain weight in a HEALTHY way!! :) i hope that was somewhat helpful!!

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okay this guy broke up with me like a few weeks ago and i was wicked upset and i told him too . so yeah anyways online he made a new screen name and IMed me pretending to be my friend when i knew it was him , he finally admitted it was him and i asked him why he did it , and why he would waste his time talking to me he told me he did it because he was bored .then a few days later he called me and left me a weird voice mail on my phone , then he started talking to one of my friends asking her about her relationship with her boyfriend who i am good friends with, and then today he called me and i knew it was his voice , but then he was like using a different voice (like ones on the computer where people use to make prank calls on like ebaums world or whatever) anyway now i think i am over him and im just wondering if you know why he did this , if he really was bored or if he misses me or what . thanks =]

usually when one person breaks up with another, they have doubts about it for a couple of weeks after the break up. even though he broke up with you, it doesn't mean that all his feelings for you are gone. he misses you and that's why he keeps trying to get in touch with you. the reason he is doing it in such weird ways is because he doesn't want to admit that he still likes you, because that would mean he is admitting that he was wrong to break up with you (and we all know guys can never admit to being wrong).

im glad to see that you are over him, and i suggest that you ignore his phone calls and IMs from now on. eventually, he will get over the break up and stop bothering you. but as long as you pay attention to him, he will continue to annoy you and maybe even try and get back together with you. i don't recommend doing that, because if he broke up with you once, there was a reason for it, and he would be likely to do it again once the same problem arises (im not saying you are the problem... maybe he doesn't want a relationship right now or something like that). you are already over him, so why subject yourself to getting hurt again? usually when someone wants to get back together with an ex so soon after a break up, they are only doing it because they are second guessing their decision for the time being, but they are likely to go back to their original thinking in as little as a few days after getting back together.

lol i hope that made sense and helped!! :)

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I have a couple questions but they pretty much are the same subject.


What is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.?

Im 17 female and i work with this guy around the age 24. Well im crazy about him. Many people say that if this guy can brighten your day, make you smile when you see him, hes all you think about. You pretty much love him. Is it true? This guy doesnt know i am crazy about him. When i work with him i get really happy, i cant stop smiling when im around him, And like just knowing he is in the store with me i feel save. If that makes any sense.

I have been in love one time before i met him. When i was with this other guy i felt like i could never love anyone else.

The guy i work with i want to be with him because im crazya bout him but at the same time i feel like these feelings i have shouldnt be there and they arnt right to have because he is so much older then me. But seriously when i have a thing for a guy i cant just stop it doesnt happen like that.

Sorry its soo long But i really would appreciate alot of help.

hey! well i think that the feelings you are describing for this guy show that you really like him, and maybe even love him. but i deffinitely don't think you are in love with him. usually when you love someone, being around them makes you happy and you enjoy their company a lot. you love your friends and your family for those reasons. being in love is a lot more complex and difficult to explain. we learned in class that when one person is in love with another, they want to completely possess that person and be possessed by that person. this might not make much sense, but it basically means that you are willing to do anything for this person, even give up your life for them. their well being is more important to you than your own, because just seeing that person happy is enough to make you happy. you would do anything you can to keep this person around for the rest of your life, because you can't even imagine living without them by your side. basically, being in love takes everything to the extremes... this is why it is hard to fall in love. it takes time and you truly have to find the right person before it can happen to you!!

as far as this guy goes, yeah he is a bit older, but if you think it can work out then go for it. you have a crush on him so it's normal to think about him all the time and have the thought of him put a smile on your face. talk to him and see where things go, and if they don't work out then you might be hurt for a little while, but you will get over it and move on!! :) good luck, hope that helped!!

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Is losing your virginity on prom night the worst thing ever??

cause me and my boyfriend are staying in a hotel with his bro and my best friend... but with 2 rooms?

Im a good virgin but i love my boyfriend... and i dunno if im ready...

hey! ok if you "don't know" if you are ready, then you are deffinitely not. it's not something you should have any doubts about. when you are ready you will know it.

having sex on prom night is the most cliche thing ever... i think it's done in books and on tv waaayy more than in real life. i mean, my prom was until 5 am and no one was allowed to leave early because they wanted to prevent people from drinking or having sex.

you will have more fun at prom night if you only do things that you are comfortable with!! plus, don't forget that if you are ready for sex you are also ready for the responsibility that comes along if you end up getting pregnant! that might spoil your prom night a lot more than it would be spoiled if you chose not to have sex! :) good luck and have fun!!!!!

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Okay, So I curl my hair with jell, mouse anything about but somtimes it doesnt work and i dont always like it, does anyone curl there hair "by hand" if so how???? give me step by step please..

ohh things i have--
jell(about 5 kinds)
mouse
tonz of hairspray
blowdryer
deefriz stuff
stuff to build volume
Gloss stuff


Please help!!!!!!!!!!

hey! i answered this question not too long ago for someone else, so here it is for you:

i used to try and scrunch my hair and it looked soo crappy! but now i've found the way to make it perfect every time!! i have very long, thick somewhat wavy hair... and my curls hold all day, so i KNOW this will work for you!

1) after you wash your hair, brush it to get rid of all knots and dry it a little bit with a towel... just squeeze out excess moisture!

2) flip your head (face the floor), brush your hair and spray aussie leave in conditioner/heat protectant... it's a 2 in one product that is cheap and i like a lot... but you can use any leave in conditioner!

3) while you're facing the floor (hair flipped over) scrunch your hair a little bit just to get it going. then, fill the palm of your hand with mousse (i use rave mousse), and apply it all over your hair, while continuously scrunching! then, squeeze some gel (i use LA looks for curls... it;s blue and like 2 bucks) in the palm of your hand, and work that all over your hair while scrunching! remember... you are facing the floor this whole time!

4) with the blow drier on LOW, start drying your hair with one hand while scrunching THE WHOLE TIME with the other hand! keep doing this for a few minutes, then flip your hair over and stand up straight and continue to dry and scrunch the front sections of your hair. as your hair dries, if you feel that its frizzy or doesn't have enough product, you can put more gel or moose or both in it and continue to dry! keep flipping your head over, and then back again and scrunching and drying until your hair is almost totally dry (and your fingers hurt from scrunching haha)!

5) finally when it's dry, spray some hair spray in it... and maybe pin the front section back with a little clip or something if you want!

it may take a few times to determine the right amount of gel and moose you need to use, but either way it will look good! hope i helped and this works for you!! :)

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What are good waxing things to use at home? and can i do brazilan at home?

hey! well im not too sure about this, because my mom makes a wax at home that i use... she boils water and adds sugar to it along with something else, and then lets it cool. i'm not really sure how she makes it. but if you go to wal mart or any drug store, just go to the hair removal section, and you will see all kinds of waxes and cream hair removers. some brands of wax are veet, nair and nads. they have different ones for different body parts, so just read the box and you will figure it out! you can do a brazilian at home but i don't know how easy it will be! if you are having trouble, i suggest going to a salon at least your first time to see how it's done and get a feel for the technique!! :) well i hope that helped!! good luck!

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like a lot of other people i have a bad habit of biting my nails. i ALWAYS do it! i like cna't stop. Can anyone give me advice on how i could stop?! I'll rate 5s!

hey! here are a few ideas:

- chew gum or have candy in your mouth as much as you can.

- paint your nails... you won't bite them that way because you will ruin the color, and you will end up with nail polist all over your mouth lol

- get your nails done... i mean get fake nails put on. there is no way you can bite those, and they last for about a month so you might kick the habit that way.

- a weird thing that i've heard of but i don't know if i recommend is rubbing something like a hot pepper on your finger tips, which should prevent you from doing it.

good luck! :) hope those were helpful

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ok well i broke p with my boyfriend 1 week ago and i realllllllllyyyy miss him, but hes really pissed off at me becuase he thinks im talking bad about him but i have no idea what hes talking about...i say i hate him but i sooo miss him and somtimes i remind myself of all the bad times which makes me hate him but they all go away and now i wish i never broke up with him...but i broke up with him for a reason and the day i broke up with him he said he was waiting for me to break up with me and so i got reallly mad and wrote him a mean note that basiclly said we were over.now he doesnt even wat to mention my name...and on top of that he tried to get his sister to beat me up but his sister and i are really close so she said she wasnt.i just wish he didnt have to be such an asshole...help! thnxs in ad.oh yeah and he didnt try to get someone to fight his last gf...why me?

he seriously tried to get someone to fight you?? what is that all about? as far as im concerned, no real man would do such a thing! but im glad nothing happened to you!

anyway, what you are feeling is completely normal. i don't know one person in the world (myself included) who did not regret breaking up with their bf/gf shortly after they did it. it is a completely normal thing to go through after a break up. it usually takes about 2 months of not talking AT ALL to an ex to get over him/her completely, so you have a while to go. Like you said, you broke up with him for a reason... second guessing your decision is only normal. Just stop talking to him and ignore your thoughts when you begin to miss him, and before you know it, you will not think about him anymore.

as far as why he would try and get someone to beat you up... i'm guessing that he is just mad because he got dumped! oh well, his loss go out there and find someone who will treat you better! :)

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i want to wax instead of shave...give me some steps on how a wax works...like at a professional salon..i want to get a brazilian wax done ..but im nervous and have never been to one...help me out

hey!! well ok, my mom makes a wax at home and waxes my legs for me every once in a while. First of all, I have to tell you that it WILL hurt. I can't even explain the pain, but it is deffinitely not fun at all. Waxing your arms is the least painful. As far as waxing your legs, the part below the knees hurts a lot less than waxing your thighs!! The further up you go above your knee, the more it hurts. I have never had a brazilian wax, but I have heard that the pain is unbearable. I would deffinitely recomend waxing your legs (or arms) first, just to get a feel for the amount of pain, and then deciding if you want to do your bikini line.

Also, keep in mind that your hair needs to be pretty long in order for the wax to grab on to it, so you will have to go a few days without shaving! This is because waxing works by sticking to your hair and pulling it off from the root. Basically all that they would do at the salon is spread it on a part of your body, and quickly rip it off. I think the hassle is worth it, because hair doesn't even begin to grow back for a month, and it is not stubbly like with shaving. Waxing is also good for your skin, because it makes it super smooth by getting rid of dead skin! :) hope that helped and good luck!

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what do you use to make your hair really soft and pin-straight? like what's the best straightener, shampoo/condtioner, straighting balm .. anything?! my hair is naturally really wavy and is really dry and damaged. anything i can do to fix that (except get a haircut? cuz i've done that lol) please let me know!

hey!! alright, sounds like we have the same hair... mine is really long, thick and wavy. If I put lots of gel in it and scrunch it, it gets curly. If I blow dry it and straighten it, it gets really straight. If I let it air dry... well it gets frizzy and wavy in some spots... groossss!! lol but everyone tells me my hair is really soft and nice so I think I can help!

Ok so anyway, I personally switch between 2 shampoos and conditioners... pantene smooth and sleek (green bottle) and John Freida's brilliant brunette. I shampoo twice (you can do it once... depends on your hair) and then i comb my hair in the shower. Then I apply the conditioner, mostly to the ends and comb it thru to spread it everywhere. Let it sit for a few minutes, then rinse it off. Finally, rinse your hair with COLD water... it does wonders!!

Comb your wet hair and squeeze out excess water. Spray aussie leave in conditioner/heat protectant (purple bottle... like 3 dollars)! Blow dry it the way you normally do... I usually brush the whole time because it helps to make my hair straighter. Then, I use the best straightener ever... it's called Remington Wet to Straight. You can find it for about 30 bucks at wal mart. You can use it on wet hair, but I don't because it takes too long. But even on dry hair, it takes out any left over moisture leaving it totally frizz free!! It's the most important tool for getting my hair straight and frizz free!!

If your hair is really dry, it is good to do a deep conditioning treatment at home once every week or 2. Also, make sure to get your hair cut every 3 to 4 months to get rid of the dead ends and keep it healthy!! :) hope that helped!

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Well today i approached my boyfriend that i told one of my friends he was cute. But it meant nothing because it was over myspace, and i was commenting his pictures. I mean being i have a boyfriend, i can't be super nice because then he'd get mad. He wasn't too happy about it but he said as long as it meant nothing that it's fine. And it didn't, see i think he's worried though becuase my friend that i called cute thinks i'm the most gorgeous girl he's ever saw and all that.

My thing is that i've tried telling my boyfriend that it means nothing in multiple ways, i've told him straight out, i told him not to worry, but i still have a feeling he does worry, because now he asks if me and my friend talk, and what we talk about.

So my question is how can i prove to my boyfriend who i love dearly and would never "drop" him for anyone, that there is nothing to worry about?

I'll rate high for good answers.

Thanks so much in advance.

does your bf know that this kid thinks you are gorgeous? if he doesn't, why not let him know? tell him something like "he likes me, but i see nothing else in him other than a friend. if i wanted to be with him, i probably could be, but i dont want to because you mean a lot to me and you are the one that i want." something along those lines, to let him know that you are with him for a reason.

after that, just to reassure him, do something nice for him. if he has a myspace, why not comment one of his pictures telling him he's the cutest guy you've ever seen or something like that. or make something sweet for him or take him out... just do something special that you think he will appreciate. hope that helps! :)

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I think I have depression, and I want to see a counsellor. I walked passed the room today but i couldn't go in, i just felt like i would be wasting their time and that I don't really need any counselling.

I have been feeling like thi for about 3 years, i used to self harm about 2 years ago but i got that under control - i still want to when i get wound up.

I often think about what it would be like when I'm dead, I wonder who would miss me, who wouldn't miss me.
A few months ago, I was going to commit suicide, i started to write a letter to my mum, but I couldn't finish it, I jut burst into tears.

I need someone to talk to. But I can't bring myself to walk into that room.
How can I overcome this?? Why can't i bring myself to walk into the room?

Please help me. x

hey... well i think the reason you can't get yourself to walk in the room is because you're afraid of what you might be told. you are afraid to hear that you are depressed, if that's what the councelor ends up telling you. tell yourself for the next couple of days that no matter what, even if you do have depression, things will be ok. you have to convince yourself that no matter what happens, everything will work out for the best. you've heard people say that the first step to solving a problem is recognizing that there is one. many people suffer from depression, and things are usually much better for them once they get help. you do want help, because if you didn't, you wouldn't even be thinking about talking to anyone. i applaud your decision not to take your life away. you may not recognize it now, but you do have a purpose on this earth... you are here for a reason. believe it or not, life would be different now and in the future for many people if you weren't here.

so just convince yourself that you need and want help, and that things will be ok. then rehearse a little bit what you want to say to the councelor... don't worry they have heard it all so they will know what to do and they won't think you're weird! they are there for that exact reason. once you know what you want to say, just go to the room and walk right in. go FAST... don't walk slow or think or seond guess yourself. just walk in and sit down as fast as you can, and then let it all out.

if that doesn't work, then why not call the councelor and explain a litle bit to her over the phone. then make an appointment to see her. or email her. those might be easier option for you. once you let her know that there is a problem, she will make sure you come to her for help. or talk to your mom and get her to go with you.

good luck with everything and i hope i helped!! :) don't give up hope, everyone goes through hard times... it's all about how you handle it. you really can do anything you set your mind to... if you convince yourself that you can get through this, then you will put it behind you before you know it! i promise!! :)

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Haha I had no clue what category this should of gone under, so I picked randomly.

Anyway.. I am 14 and a girl and I was wondering.. how many people shave(or wax or ect) their arms? Should i shave mine? I feel like my arms have light colored hair (blonde) but the seem hairy to me. I read in a magazine something about shaving arms, but should I? Would it be weird or would it be weird if I didnt?

heeeyyy... ok well here's the deal! i hate having hair on my arms, so i wax it! my mom makes a wax at home and waxes my arms for me... yeah it hurts a little (not as much as it does to wax your legs) but it is SOO worth it, because it takes about a month for the hair to START growing back. plus it makes you skin so smooth because waxing helps to get rid of dead skin. so get some wax (you can buy it too) or go to a salon and wax it if it bothers you that much! :)

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SORRY ITS LONG!!! PLEASE ANSWER THOUGH!!!

My friends are really starting to bother me. They write notes to each other all the time and dont show them to me because they say i wouldnt understand. The notes are about guys they like. And in them they say that they are in love with them. They havent even talked to these guys before, but they say that they love them. And its not true of course!!! I know it isnt! Its not like i dont believe that you can fall in love young, because i do, but i know they arent in love considering that ALL of my friends claim that they are in love and that they are in love with multiple guys who most of them, they havent even talked to before.
So how is it that all of my friends can "be in love" with multiple guys theyve never talked to?
it isnt possible right? so how do i tell them this without hurting their feelings or sounding rude, im the bistandard here so i can see what theyre talking about for the truth, and not from hormones making them think theyre in love. how do i make them realize this though?

haha oh man, these girls must be in their early teens, am i right?? i can see why you are annoyed because that 4 letter word gets thrown around SO much, and that only makes it lose it's meaning more and more every day. in a class last semester we studied love and what it means... it's a feeling that cannot be described, but when you love someone, all you want is to possess that person and be possessed by him/her fully and completely. when you love someone, you can't even begin to imagine your life without them, and you would do ANYTHING in the world to make sure that you stay together forever. because love means possessing one person and being possessed by them, there is no way you can LOVE more than 1 person... that's not true love at all! just tell them what i just told you. they may listen, and they may not... but don't get too worked up over it if they don't understand. just ignore them. most people don't understand what love means until they fall in love!! :)

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I have strep throat, a pretty bad case of it too cause I waited a while before I got meds for it. I haven't eaten much in days simply because my throat hurts to bad to swollow anything more then my own spit. I've had countless bottles of water trying to sooth the pain and keep my throat moist however I'm still in great pain.
Is there a good drink ( besides like Tea, it's really sensitive to heat right now, I tried tea already) that will help sooth the pain enough so I can talk and eat temporarily? Thanks! :)

ok i made this when i had strep, and it really helped me... it sounds gross but it's not that bad at all.

pour water in a glass, and microwave for a few seconds to a minute to get it warm. then put a tablespoon or so of honey in it, and mix. lastly, squueze some lemon and mix it again. i didn't mind the taste, but even if i hated it, i would have drank it because it made my throat feel SOO good!

hope that helps! :) feel better soon!

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i need to get rid of my acne, quick. please help me. i know about pro active but is there anything i can use without buying stuff like creams. if not products are good too. at this point im desperate. anything will do. * automatic 5`s if you give me atleast 7 different ways to get rid of acne *

it's actually very simple... wash your face day and night with a good cleanser (i use l'oreal), and MOISTURIZE after you wash!! that's the most important thing!! if you don't moisturize, your body will create it's own oil, which will clog your pores and result in pimples!! lastly, when you get a pimple or feel one coming on, put some "clean and clear invisible blemish treatment" on it. it comes in a really small tube, but it lasts forever and it works like magic!!! but yeah once you do those things, you should deffinitely see an improvement. :) hope that helps!

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ok well i have the same problem as this other girl on here that ....when she tried to brake up with her boyfriend he started to cry and make her feel bad so she stayed with him...well, i have the same problem...but i want to be his friend and he dont want to be my friend if we brake up...and that hurts me :( how can i get him to be ...my friend?

hey, well i answered her question, but here is the thing... when i broke up with my bf i wanted to be friends but he said no way! so we stopped talking, and after about 3 months we started talking again and are now good friends. there is no way you can be friends with him right away... it just won't work, and you guys will keep getting back together (and you don't want that)! plus he will be too hurt to be your friend. it takes at least 2 months of not talking to or seeing someone to get over them... so after the break up, give him some time, and once he is over things, then try to persue a friendship! any other way, it just won't work! :) good luck!

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I was just wondering if sensors ((on clothes)) make any noise when you cut them off or whatever to get/take them off. My friends and I usually steal but we cut around the sensor and end up with big holes in our clothes. I know the sensors make noise if you take them out of the stoiree but what about when you're like in the dressing room or whatever? Thanks in advance.

taking sensors off is a terrible idea... if you read what it says on them, most have ink in them, and if you try to take them off the ink will squirt out all over you and can hurt you. i had a friend who used to do what you do... cut the sensors off. she always had holes on her clothes, and it was SO obvious why they were there. everyone knew what she was doing and a lot of people lost a lot of respect for her. i don't want to preach, but maybe you should reconsider this. most people usually get caught stealing, and once it's on your record, your life is pretty much ruined forever... good luck getting a job or anything like that in the future, even if you just steal a piece of gum and you get caught!

get a job, buy your clothes and you won't worry about the sensors... they will take them off for you at the register... no holes, no nothing! :) good luck and take care!!!

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