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so, there was this boy i saw in 06, at a show, and we had this.. i dont know, unspoken understanding of each other. it was like, mutual, smiling, laughing, not very much talking, he left before the show ended (it was in a small coffee shop), I never thought I'd see him again. speed up 07, i saw him the other day, talked to him even, he didnt remember me. But i wouldnt expect him to... haha, but now I know where he works. I dont even know if he has a girlfriend, but how do I casually like.. I want to hang out with him or something.. ahhh.

I would go over to his work and chat with him a little, mnake some small talk and have some laughs. Before you leave, slip him a piece of paper with your number on it. If there is a concert or show around invite him along. Good luck!

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ok today me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months , we've had major ups and downs . but latley its just been downs , we love each other very much ; but we are so jelous its creating problems more nad more everyday , i cant even remember the last time we've went the WH0LE day with out one argument . its eaither always over some girl or some boy . we are very jelous & it kills me , we call each other bitches and ass holes it breaks my heart . we know we both love each other very much but we need help . i mean reall good advice . we both dont want this to end but its not lookin good .

help

I think you should plan a special day for the two of you. Maybe have a candlelit dinner, rent some movies, or go out somewhere to a nice place, comedy club, BUT before you go out, i would just have a talk with him. remind yourselves of the good times, maybe bring out some pictures or talk about the cute memories you may have shared. Then what needs to take place is something to rebuild TRUST, because trust is the issue here. Ask him who and what makes him feel jealous and threatened? If it will make you two feel better maybe go through your cell phones or myspace messages to prove there is nothing going on behind each others back. Hopefully after this one time the two of you can move on and trust each other. The two of you need to make an effort to not fight.

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Is it true if you get a physical for school since you have to do that every time you start a new school, is it true that doctors during the physical [or just in general by tests] can tell whether you're a virgin or not? Thanks [:

no way you dont have to worry about that. no doctor will go down there to look around for a school phsyical. a gynochologist could obviously tell because he/she is poking around down there, even if thats the case they have to abide by laws protecting you of your privacy and confidentiality

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ok so i have, and all that..i just have like a confusion with it. like i feel when im just repeating myself like when i suck it up and down. isnt there like something else to do? like i play with the balls and stuff im just talking about like, ive heard theres a way to like not have it in your mouth but like do something to the sides? ahhh confused!!

also..is sucking balls gross?
anddddd ..

when you swallow do you keep giving head while youre doing it and just swallow as you do it? ive heard its hard to swallow also. so im kind of nervous about that.

thanks :)

ok, im not really supposed to go into techniques on how to do sexual stuff on here, but definitely IM me at eatapasty on AIM if you would like to talk about it. sucking balls isnt gross. i would probably view it as gross if it werent with someone i really cared about. when you swallow i have heard from people that it feels good for the guy if you keep it in your mouth as you swallow and even use some tongue in there. its not hard to swallow,you might not be expecting it if the guy doesnt warn you, but he might warn yuou or tell you when its aboout to happen. sorry i couldnt really go into detail here , but like i said feel free to IM me

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Okay so I am 14, and so is my boyfriend. We are so in love with eachother, and I know that. I really think I'm ready to have sex with him, but I feel like I'm too young. Can anyone tell me how they knew it was time? And what it was like? Thank you (:

I knew it was time and it was so clear to me..clearer than anything. I had no doubts, worries, or anything, its hard to explain. I was 16 about to be 17 in a couple weeks. What it was like? It was good, i have no problem discussing things with you but not really on here haha so if you want, you can leave me some feedback and let me know of your AIM sn or something and i can tell you more about stuff.
I honestly think 14 is pretty young, but if you have your mind set on doing something i know there is no stopping it. Just dont do anything you will regret. Wait until you know for sure you are totally ready

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sorry this question is going to sound weird but when you have sex what do you do during it? like does he just put it up there and you just both lie there while its happeneing or are u kissing during it and stuff? it just seems awkward.

hey dont worry, it wont be awkward because it feels so amazing..and especially if its with the right guy who cares about you and you care a bout him. while your having sex he doesnt just push it up in there..there can be kissing involved,touching, holding one another..but in some positions it isnt possible to be so intimate, but it feels amazing so as long as you are comfortable with each other, it wont be awkward.

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is it wrong for me to mastorbate im only 14 and i want to get a vibrator but i dont know how to with out my mom knowing help me!

love,
confused =/

hey, its definitely not wrong its perfectly healthy! have you ever heard of spencers? its a pretty cool store that might be in a mall near you. they have a section for sex toys and books, you might find a vibrator there. try and save up some money and check it out. they also sell other stuff not sexual so it wont be weird for you to look in there. maybe get dropped off at the mall with a couple friends for a couple of hours and buy one. i think thats your best option because you cant exactly ask your mom to go to the sex store for you haaha. if you find one there, keep it in your purse and always have your purse around you so your mom wont find it. another idea is maybe get a tiny massager at brookstone. brookstone is a normal store with all kinds of massaging type things, comfy chairs for the home,etc. every now and then i see them selling tiny massagers that are more like vibrators. they are like 4 inches in length. so i think those would be your best options..good luck and if you have any more questions inbox me hun! :)

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my life is like a video
everything happens the same!
its so boring
i know wats gunna happen, thats how boring and change-less my life is!
i need a little spice in my life but dont know how to find some,....help

alright, well if you are old enough to drive..get in the car with some friends and take a road trip for the weekend. drive wherever and split the cost of everything. go to a party, a comedy club, a dance club, etc. if you are still in school then join a club or sports team. maybe hang otu with new people, do homework during the week with friends..order pizza , watch movies, get a part time job to save up and go on a trip if you are old enough by yourself. i know during the week it can get boring..im in the same place as you. so to change things up for myself, im going to a bar type thing where they are giving away pizza and wings for free..so im going to check it out, maybe meet some new people, etc. so just look for opportunities to do things you dont normall do. go to a concert. i won tickets from a radio station to check out a small concert but it was still good to win them and get out of the area for the day.

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16/f
What would I have to know how to do (or just know) to pass my driving test to get a license?
What do I have to do?
Any tips?
Thanks.

i took drivers ed. it was a huge help! he was great at getting me prepared. i had to do a K turn (3 point turn), parallel park, and drive around for a few minutes. They look to make sure you check blind spots, side mirrors, etc when pulling away from the curb,doing your k turns, changing lanes, etc. i got so nervous during my test, the person grading me even told me to calm down haha. so just relax, definitely practice! if you arent taking drivers ed, maybe ask your parents to give you a practice test. another big thing. definitely come to a compleeeete stop at the stop signs. make sure you do all the basic things..

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wah does it feel like to be fingered?...n when somebody does it is it meant to hurt? and does masturbation hurt? x

well., it depends on the person doing it. if the guy doesnt know what hes doing, he can be too rough and it wont feel good. masturbation is meant to feel good, plus you are in control so you pick your pace and you do what feels good for you. if you masturbate and figure out what you like, you can guide your guy if hes not so good at fingering you

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This is for either girls or guys.

What are your standards for someone you would date?

Sometimes I think my standards are a little too high, so I was just wondering about other people's. Looks; type of personality; color hair; height; style; family; beliefs etc. Not really your ideal person, but rather (Put bluntly) what MUST they have or be?

Thanks

Well, i dont consider my standards high. Maybe because i dont feel i am extremely good looking, i dont expect my boyfriends to be. A big thing with me is a good personality. I want to be able to laugh, have fun with, and go out to places with my bfs. I look for the chemistry connection, trust, honesty, loyalty,etc. Looks are a plus but not essential to me. I love it when a guy has beautiful eyes i can just gaze into, but looks really takes a backseat when it comes to the guys i like. if i get along with a guy, like his sense of humor, and have a good time being around him, im happy with that. the guy can be anyone except for goth. i dont really like that style. everyone has their own standards, its not a bad thing if yours are higher..everyone is different! :)

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I am 19/f
He is 19
Roommate is 20/f
Her guy is 23

Me and my roommate both started dating guys on the same night and we are both still dating them... Good times! So Saturday is both of our 1 month aniversary's and we don't know what to do! I am closer emotionally and physically to the guy I am dating and am officially his "girlfriend" but my roommate's guy is a little more stand off-ish but they both still really like eachother.
SO what do we do for our 1 month aniversary's?!? Any gift ideas please?!?!

well, i would collaborate time with just you and your guy, then later the 4 of you could meet up and go out to dinner, a club, a comedy club, etc. for the one on one time with you n him..maybe park somewhere, gaze up at the stars, watch a movie all cuddled up..it doesnt have to be anything spectacular, just something cute for the two of you to do in celebration of your one month. gift ideas..cologne, gift card, a cute card, photo album of you two, or if he is a really big fan of football or something maybe a poster of his favorite player? lol well i hope you have a great time

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16/f
What are some cool gifts that I could get my friends (female)? $10-20.
Things that you would want to get... more specific that just "clothes" or "candy".
Not money or gift cards.

Thanks.

well, i dont know your friends, but maybe they are into bath sets, lotions, sprays, jewlery? i know i can find some really good buys on jewlery sets in jcpenny and other stores. maybe you can remember if they have been wanting something for awhile. like i personally really want a hair straightener, i just never get around to getting one haha. and i have seen a couple good ones for around 15-20$. so my advice is just to think about them and what they like.

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Well, my bf has a little drinking problem. Its not all the time, but when he starts he cant stop, but hes not dependant on drinking. He doesnt do it all the time. Well, one time he said he went to a poker party. I went out to a club with my girlfriends. While i was there, i danced with my girls. Well, this particular club had like little beds with a sheer curtain around it for people to hook up. Well, i saw this girl getting a little friskey with a guy, like shed known him for a while, well they closed the big black curtain, but before that she took off her clothes and so did he. I thought i saw my boyfriends face so i ran up there and i peeked through the black curtain. I saw the back of the guys head having sex with the girl, well he had long brown hair like my bf. I didnt want to seem like a pervert if it wasnt my bf, so i crept to the other side and saw it was my bf!!! I ripped open the curtains and was like WTF JAKE and hes like katie, come join, i love threesomes! and i was like WERE OVER. The next day he called me and didnt remember anything at all! I told him about it, and hes like well i was at my friends but i started drinking, and we ended up at the club...then all black, then i woke up in the club with no shirt on. I dont know what to do. I was like well were over, and he showed up with flowers, the next day with candy, the next with a diamond necklace. I think he really wants me back. Should i take him back, or kick him to the curb??

no dont take him back. he has a problem, and this will happen again. you will get mad, and he will just show up with flowers. you shouldnt have to be ok with him having sex with other girls when he drinks

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OK. this is kinda long, BUT I NEED HELP!!! I've had this gf for about two months now and we've had sex and all, but shes kinda 'picky' i guess you could say.
Like:
She dont like me too look at her
She dont want it from behind (just front)
She dont like me to take off her clothes
She dont want me fingering her/eating her out
She dont like being on top.
plus some more....
but im an extrememly slow typer, and this isnt working out for me. lol.

but yeah
i guess my question is,
why is she like that? and how do you get her to like new things? She says she doesnt like to feel uncomfortable, but i wanna know how to tell her to more things with me. I was a virgin until i went out with her, and i wanna try new things.

I dont wanna sound like a jerk, but she was raped not too long ago at a party, and i was wondering...could that be why?

being raped probably had a huge affect on her , and yes that could be the reason why. you need to understand this must have been very traumatic for her and you have to be patient and work with her. hopefully if you treat her right, make her feel beautiful..hopefully she will loosen up a bit and overcome some of the issues shes having. for now you have to be understanding and supportive of her

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well i guess this isnt really sex, but it was close enough haha.
alright so recently i got fingered for the first time by my boyfriend that i realllly like a lot, but the problem is i dont see wht the big deal is. like i dont really seem to enjoy it. It feels weird, even. like it doesnt feel good, like people say it does. i dont know if its because its the first time ive ever done anything like that and i need to just get used to it, or if hes doing something wrong.

and im really like sexually attracted to him, so thats not the problem


please please help, i would really appreciate it :)

14/f

i think you should guide him a little on how to make it feel good for you. you know what you like, so you should teach him so he can please you and i bet after he gets some practice you will find it very enjoyable

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is being french considered white or something else? :)

well, i disagree with the other columnists. france is a country. being french is your nationality, not race. just like being american doesnt mean you are white. if you are american, you can be black,white, etc. so if you are french it isnt any different.

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so i was at starbucks today and the barista is really cute and i go there a lot and we chat and today he was telling me how it was slow there that day and he was doing a crossword puzzle and was asking me for help w/ some of the answers. so next time i go i wanna let him know i'm interested. i am thinking about getting him a book of crossword puzzles and in the front cover like putting my nuumber?

any opinions on this idea?

that is such a creative idea! i really think he will like that,its a great present because he likes crosswords, and the phone number idea is great! i really think he will call you! good luck with it! :)

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Alright, I was just wondering a couple things.

1. Does getting it in "the ass" good? or painful?

2. Does it hurt the first time? Just like Sex?

3. If it does, for how long?

4. Is it possible for the butt to bleed afterwards?

5. Is it possible for the penis to still go in even if it's really tight?


*It'd be best to get these answered to the people who already had this experienced or what their answer is, it's a FACT.

*ALSO, PLEASE BEFORE ANSWERING, be mature about the questions I am asking.

Thank you.

**the person below mentioned it bleeds if your cherry pops? shes completely off. your hymen or cherry pops during vaginal sex. there is no hymen for the anus. **

from what i understand, it hurts everytime. because the anus is a muscle meant for pushing things out, not letting them in. it stretches to allow the penis to fit. it will hurt a lot at first, have the guy go slowww. after it gets all the way in, the pain will get better. it is possible for it to go in even if its tight, but it will hurt. make sure there is lubricant, he goes slow, etc. and it hurts everytime, its not like your anus gets loose or broken in, because it is a tight muscle. after it stretches to accomodate the size of the penis, it returns to normal size. it is possible for it to bleed if it is too rough or there wasnt enoguh lubricant.

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My boyfriend lives three hours away and he's coming to visit for our one month anniversary and since it's my hometown, the planning is up to me. I live in San Diego. There's the beaches and the stuff and we're meeting up downtown. What are some creative things we can do on this day together?

well the beach thing is perfect. would you two more enjoy spending the day at the beach playing in the sand, swimming, etc? or maybe a more romantic approach like a walk on the beach at sunset and look up at the stars , collect seashells etc. if you are meeting downtown, maybe plan a lunch or dinner out. i dont live in california but san diego is a pretty major city, is there hot air balloons you could go on? well i hope you liked a couple of my ideas..have fun!

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