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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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I guess you could say that i am prude...but I have made out with a guy and he has felt me up, but I am really scared to be in a situation where he wants to finger me or he wants me to give him a handjob,or do anything else for that matter.(he is my boyfriend) I just think it would be awkward and i dont know what im doing when it comes to sexual stuff. can u jus give me advice on what to do if the times comes? Sorry so long...i rate high

Don't worry about the longness or the rating - I answer because I want to help! :)
If you're 100% comfortable stepping onto the next level, you should talk to him about how he would like you to do it. Don't act stupid, just ask what he would like which would pleasure him the most. But please please please, only go for it if you are happy and comfortable doing so, don't be rushed into something you don't like. And if it ever feels like that, stop.
Hope you make the right decision! :)
x Steph x

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how do you french kiss?

Perfect Site - http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm

Step-to-step guide on how to french kiss! :)
x Steph x

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*15 female*
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and like 2 weeks. I care for him a lot, but i'm such a jealous girlfriend and I can't help it.I mean I get jealous even when he says jlo is hot or someone else famous. I don't like when he hangs out with other girl unless i'm there to. I feel this is wrong of me. I trust him with all my heart but sometimes i just can't help it to be jealous. any advice?
Thanks in advance

Main two things in ANY relationship - Love and TRUST. You must trust him with your life and know that he won't cheat on you. I blame it mainly on soaps with the amount of affairs the characters have. It's not like that in real life. I guess there is no over-night cure, but you just have to let him have his own space, if you don't, he might not like you 'invading' his space. I'm sure you're a fantastic girlfriend, just give him a little breathing space and let him talk to whoever he wants. You must like celebrities too or think one/some of them are good looking. He chooses to tell you not to get you jealous but because he trusts you! :)G
Good luck!!
x Steph x

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I got a porn pop up and now I got a virus!! I rebooted my computer a while ago and I really don't want to do it again.

My question is does anyone know any free virus things that will delete it?

Thanks so much.

Microsoft Antispyware which can be found at
http://www.microsoft.com/athome/security/spyware/software/default.mspx
just download it and it should clear any viruses! :)
x Steph x

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my myspace is getting really boring to look at and it needs a change. im looking for a country layout. not a country scene, but like browns and tans, and maybe even pictures of cowboys, boots, or cowboyhats.. does anyone have a site i could find one?

also does anyone know where i can find cute journal icons?

Cute Journal Icons = dollidol.com
http://www.outerworlds.com/yearbook2001/Postcard_Gallery/ScarlettT_TXCowboy.png
Perhaps that one for the texasy one! :)
x Steph x

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okay i have been going out with this guy for a month and by christmas would be three months. i am needing help on what i can get him for christmas. i dont know what to get him b/c we would be going out for three months and i dont want to get him someting that special. so can someone plz help

thanks alot
punkbaby69

- A box of his favourite chocolates
- A mixed tape/CD of all his favourite/a favourite band/artist of his
- A shaving set (shaving gel, aftershave, deodarant etc..)
- A football/basketball (depending on what sport he likes)
Hope he likes whatever you choose, I'm sure he will!
x Steph x

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okay well i have long, thick blonde hair.. and in the shower it comes out REALLY EASiLY.. and a lot. like seriously ... a bunch of hair. idunno.. so .. does anybody know any shampoo && condishiner(sp?) that prevents this.. right now i use Tressime.. ((im 13/f if it helps any))

Herbal essences should cure that. This type of shampoo and conditioner are manufactured for that type of hair. Make sure you get "deep conditioning conditioner"!
Hope it works!
x Steph x

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Their are these two guys and their constantly fighting over me and their really good friends with me and my friends and also good friends with each other and it's always justc been a joke to me and my friends how they act around me but now it's gone to far they got into a fight over me and ever since they havn't been friends and I feel so bad that I caused it. They got suspended because of the fight but when they got back both of them tryed even harder to get me and started flirting way more with me and I dont know what to do because I like both of them more than friends and I know they wont be okay with me dating both of them.

Hmm..that's a tuffy! Surely if you like them both the same, you can't choose. I doubt you want to break the others' heart as you don't know how they'll react. It could be that one hits the other because you're going out with him and nothing will be sorted. Why don't you put your foot down and say "I'm not picking between you two, if you want to fight, carry on but I'm not interested in either of you if you're doing". You're not a prize to be won, hun, you're a real human being and they shouldn't treat you like meat!
Good luck!
x Steph x

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I'm very shy but I want to be more outgoing, i'm popular but I think I would be more popular if I was more outgoing, What should I do?

You must try to indentify what is it about you that makes you shy? Think of today as your last day and you didn't say to someone that you like them or you didn't stick up for yourself or whatever. Wouldn't you be happier knowing that you're last day on this Earth was a good one where you were happy and confident? You have nothing to lose, you're already popular so it's not like you'll lose all your friends. If your friends are confident, try to see what they're doing that you're not!
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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I'm not fat but I would feel much better about myself and more confident if I was skinnier, what are some good ways to lose weight, i'm already in soccer and bearly eating anything, but i'm not losing weight.

Exercise, exercise, exercise. That's the key to losing weight. Why not buy a work out video for you to work out to in your own home? It'll tone your muscles which will help lose the unwanted weight?
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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okay so im 16 and the guy is 17. he is in my genetics class. and yaeh he may not be the cutest or anything but is so funny and is nice and all. he talks to me and stuff. been thinking i may like him more than a friend. just wondering if there are ways to know if a guy likes you as a friend or as in a more than a friend way.?? hope that made sense... any help/advice would be GREAT! :)

http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/doeshe.html

Excellent website to tell if a boy likes you (some signals).
Good luck!
x Steph x

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My dog is a mixed breed. He's rather tiny.. I'm just wondering how long do those kind of dogs last? He's healthy but I'm kind of worried that I'll lose him. He's 7 years old and apparently is having some hearing problems?

http://www.sonic.net/~petdoc/lifespan.htm

This website gives the average age of animals' life span.
x Steph x

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im 13 and a female. everyday me and my bf go to our school library and hang there and we are usually kissing and making out but i dont really want to all i want to do is talk to him and some friends, snuggle close with him, and maybe a odd kiss a day if im in the mood. he love to snuggle with me too but he takes it too far and i really need to be answered tonight cuz tomorrow i might be biking to his house tomorrow and we will be alone and im sorta afraid of what he will do. is that wrong? what should i do? sry its so long.
**sleepiesheep**

Relationships are all about trust and love. You need to trust your boyfriend. Why not talk to the lad? Say that you love him to bits but you want to take things a little slower then tell him what you want (snuggles, talk to friends, an odd kiss a day). If he loves you as much as boyfriends should, he will understand. He wouldn't want to rush you into anything you're not ready to do. Please don't be pressured into doing things you think are too much too soon. You seem like a nice girl and I don't want you getting hurt.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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I just started a new job last week. The store is brand new so everyone is on a 3 month probation. I've been working for a week and have always been on closing shifts.
Well tomorrow we are having a staff meeting for all the girls in our department. (the clothing department). I've never actually worked with my supervisor yet because she always leaves by the time my shifts starts.
The problem is I've been hearing from the other girls that she thinks I've been doing a lousy job. I'm trying the hardest I can. We have to deal with cutomers, make the clothing look tidy and do the cleaning. By the time I get home I'm exhausted.
The meeting is tomorrow. How should I act when my boss tells me what a horrible job I'm doing? I'm so stressed I'm thinking of quitting by then again I really need this job for the money.
I rate high
thanks

I'm not bothered about the rating - I just want to help.
IF your boss tells you that you're doing a lousy job, why don't you say something on the lines of:
"With all due respect, I believe I have done more than a good job during this week, I have delt with every customer with a smile and tried my hardest to keep this store clean. When I get home, I'm exhausted but I like doing this job and I am prepared to work my hardest to keep it"
Good luck!
x Steph x

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My friend broke up with his gf a week ago well actually she broke up with him and she is also my friend, he is like my best friend and i can tell him anything even tho we dont hang out, and same with her im really close with her too, i like really wnat to tell him that im starting to like him again but i dont know if i should cause i know he DOESNT like me and he liked my friend like crazy and she broke up with him so he might still like her or one of the 100 girls who like him, so many girls are always flirtting with him that i just feel like im not good enough for him,i dunno i get a tingly feeling just thinking about him... but yea do u think i should tell him I serioulsy need to know whether or not to, i want to be like your one my best friends right? and I can tell you anything? and then be like I think im starting to like you again... but then im thinking its probably way to soon and i should just wait or get over him completeing because hes not good with any of his ex's... but yea any advice?

With all due respect, if you know that he "DOESNT" like you, then surely you don't want to risk getting your heart broken? I just don't want you to get hurt where you can avoid it, rejection hurts. I think you should look around the fish tank, see if you can find your Nemo!
x Steph x

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I have a friend that i've known for a year or so and she's been my best friend but lastely she's been getting on my nerves. she acts like me and does things like me and it's bothering me. It's been getting annoying and i don't know what to do. please help me! Thanks.

It's probably admiration and she's most likely jealous of you and how you are. She probably just wants to be like you and what seems annoying to you might be flattering to others. Talk to her about it nicely, no shouting!
Good luck!
x Steph x

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well me and my friends have been friends since middle school. now they all see to have started leaving me out. not asking for plans. barally talkign to me in the halls, talkign to me like only if its convienent for them. even my best friend now has a boyfriend and she does not make time for me and i ask her all the time for plans but yet it seems as though she has plans for them. im so lonely. i recently stoped talkign to the kid i like. and we stoped hooking up, and i have no one. please dont say that i should go make other friends. cuz this is highschool, its not that easy. those are my friends. i just dont now what to do anymore. i hate sittin ghome and being alone.

Why don't you throw a party, tell your friend that she can invite her boyfriend or not even a party, you can just all go to town or something. I know what it's like to be left out, it hurts and you become lonely. It's one of the worst feelings in the world. Chin up and try your best to sustain the friendships you have.
x Steph x

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when i put on deoderant in the morning before i put my shirt on, it gets all over the shirt while i am putting it on. if i try to do it when my shirt is on, it is difficult to lift up my shirt. i do not want to use a spray deoderant, so please don't suggest that. how can i put it on eaisly with out getting it all over my shirt?

Apply the deodarant, leave to dry, then put your t-shirt on!
Hope it works!
x Steph x

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hey thanx for everything the only thing is i already kno those things about him...i mean the only things we only talk about is like things new in our lives, we're pretty boring lol. ok well if you have any ideas about how to ring it up, like i have someting kinda important to tell you... ok well thanx
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Kiki

No worries! Any time, no need to thank me for what I like doing! :)

I suppose you could ask him what he does on the weekend then ask if you could join him one day! :)

Whatever happens, I hope you're happy and get what you want! Best of luck!
x Steph x

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How long have you been giving advice? YOu give really good advice. I want to be an advice coulmist when I grow up, (I'm 14) and I just wondered how long you have been giving it, and how old you are now.
Aunt M.

Hey there,
Thanks for the admiration, I really appreciate it! I've been on this site since yesterday (9th November 2005). I'm 14 too and I guess I pretend to be in the same situation as the person seeking advice then think how I would deal with the situation in hand. I've been giving advice to my friends/people who talk to me online for a while and it's only recently I wanted to give advice online.
Thank you! :)
x Steph x

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