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I'm Jaz. I'm 17. I love photography and writing. and I've gone through a lot with self-injury, depression, and guys. I hope I can help you ask much as possible. I will give the most honest answer.

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ok well my dad is so annoyin no matter wha he does or says. we really dont have dat type of dad n daughter realtionship. we dont fight or nothing like dat but how can i stop being annoyed bu him. im 14/f. i love him dont get me wrong

You're a teenager, EVERY teenager is annoyed with their dad. Look at my friends, every one of them doesn't have a good relationship with their dad. When you get older, things will get better.
Also, just accept what he says and does. He's your dad after all.

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well im 14/f n there are tymes where i would want to die. see im not scared about dieing i would do it in a hearbeat but then i start thinking about my family and friends and how i want a family when i grow up. is this only me or are there other people feeling like this?
i rate high

It's called depression, dear. Please tell one of your parents about this and they can get you some help. Therapy can work wonders.

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School's about to start, and I don't really want to carry a backpack around all the time this year. I was wondering if anyone knows where to get those cute shoulder bags that are rectangle-squarish? They have really cute Coach ones, but I'm on a low-budget.

Kmart. or Kohl's. (i hope I spelled the second store right. eep!)

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i need everything to no about making out like how to do it?

not another one....GOOGLE IT DAMNIT!!!

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Hey you guys seem to have really good taste in movies. I was wondering if you'd give me any recomendations. Anything that deals with
psychology, drug use or a movie that makes you think. I've seen Thirteen and Spun so anything else would be great. Thanks alot.

Prozac Nation it just came out on video FINALLY. it was on digital cable for a while. But yeah I deffinatly recommend Prozac Nation.

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im goin out with sumone right now and have been for 3 months he askes me if im ready to have sex but i have no clue what to say because im scared and at a young age (14) my body feels like its ready but i dont know if i am he says hes ok with whatever my choice is!i want to but i dont know if its the right moment sometimes?what should i do go on with it and deal with everything or forget about it???please i need some advice?

You don't sound ready one bit. So don't do it. Just say no. And your reasoning is because you're not ready.
Simple as that, dear.

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i make such a big deal out of little things with me and my boyfriend.. he thinks kristin from laguna beach is so hot so we fight wen he watches it.. its not my fault im jealous, but what can i do?

Guys are going to think girls are hott no matter if they're in a relationship or not.
But see, girls are the same way, I do say "so and so is hott, omg" and my boyfriend doesn't care. and I don't care if he says someone's hott. And this is 'cause I know just because you rate someone's looks doesn't mean they want to be with them.
And yeah, I have bad jealousy too. Just stay calm about it. It's not like he can meet the girl from Laguna Beach.

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I'm just wondering, my friends say sometimes I act like a prep. And I dont mind that, cus like we were doing this quiz that like "sterotyped" you and they agreed on the answer. But I was wondering, what makes someone a prep? Is it like there popular or something ?

it's a fucking label to make kids feel bad.

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my parents are WAYYYYYYY over protective.. i mean if i go out the house in front of my door they come after me.. i tryed talking to them and explaining to them that i am not a baby anymore and i need to learn to make my own mistakes and etc.. but all the said was were not over protective we just care a lot about you.. i cant have a boyfriend until i am 16 and when i get one at that age my dad and my uncle have to be wit me the whole date with guns and if he trys makin a move on me he will basically be died.. my dad said he would hire a body gaurd but he doesnt want to spend so much money on one.. for prom the plain on gettin me a lemo but i CANT have a prom date and my parents will be chaperoniing the dance.. i swear i think i dont have a life.. when ever i get a boyfriend i NEVER tell them.. i only tell them who ever it is is only a friend but i cant go one like this for ever can someone plz help me out!!! i am dieing to get some freedom.. o yea i am a 14/f..

i'm sure your dad is just kidding. but it is good to wait until your 16. guys are asses anyways.

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Ok, this might sound really stupid, but this bugs me so much. My mom normally lets me get my hair cut before each school year starts but this year she won't. She told me she doesn't feel like I really need one cuz she gave me a trim a couple months ago and she also said she wasn't gonna let me get it done for a whole year! I thought that was pretty harsh. My hair bugs me cuz it gets in my face when I play basketball and I told her I'm not gonna tryout unless I get it cut. How do I convinve her to let me cut it, or ways for me to like my hair.

a year!? Ew. There are going to be really bad split ends then.
My advice: Pay for the haircut yourself. Or have one of your TRUSTED (yes TRUSTED) friends cut it for you.

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Hey All.

My boyfriend is coming over in a few hours, and we have to stay outside. He will only be here for about an hour. He has a car, and he can drive, but we can't go anywhere. What are some things that we could do? (like games or w/e not nasty stuff)

Thanks in advance!

I'll rate and leave feedback, if that helps!

Oh, Its our 18month anniversery today, too.

-SLeK-

take a walk and talk. lay in the grass. stuff like that.

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Hello, i found this girls layout I like very much, but i got the picture and i have the backround and everything...but her tables!!!

I put transparent and it doesnt look like hers, what do i put as the color for her tables?

Here is the link to her profie http://www.myspace.com/jorriepantsxoxo

Will rate a 5 for an attempt, thank you!

style="height: 0px; filter: alpha(opacity=70);"

orrrr "view source" and see what she did.

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im a 13 yr old black female in okc and my bf is 16 and my daddy found out everything about what me and him been doin he said if i end up pregnant he is throwing him in jail for statutory rape. im scared about that can that really happen i thought you have to be at least 18 yrs old for all that to happen please anyone look this up for the state of oklahoma

well...to solve all your problems USE PROTECTION.

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everything is goin great between us or atleast it seems like it...lately he hasnt been tlkin to me as much and stuff like that...i have a feeling sumthing is goin on but i need someone elses opinion

thx

it's summer, hun. i don't talk to my boyfriend 6 hours a day anymore, but i'm okay with that 'cause we were talking too much. just call him, but don't over do the calling.
good luck.

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Ok, I was just wondering what color eye liner you thought would go well with me. I have blue eyes most of the time (they change) And brown hair but not really dark. And also blonde high lights. Plz help

try brown. but do NOT use blue because blue will blend in with your eyes and it will look bad (i got this advice from a pro. make-up person at kaufmans since I have blue eyes). you something contrasting (not TOO contrasting though) to bring out your eye color.
hope that helped.

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wherever i go, i call my boyfriend before i go and tell him or he makes me feel bad

whatever i do, i call my boyfriend and tell him before i do it or he makes me feel bad

when we fight, i am given all the blame

if i want to hang out with friends, i can, but he makes me feel bad

if he is stressed out, i am feeling bad because hes telling me what i try is not enough and i should always put him before me

hes needy, and he knows it!

if im happy spending time away from him and im w/ friends, he feels bad and makes me feel bad

but he says nothings ever his fault, he cant help it if he feels bad

i am the one who has to do EVERYTHING!, because he used to do things for me in the beginning of our relaitonship but now if i dont do it, he makes me feel bad.

im always made to feel bad.

BREAK UP WITH HIM!!!! my god. don't put yourself through that!!! i had a boyfriend that was the same way (not quite as bad, but still) and it is NOT worth putting yourself through that!!

sorry if it seemed like i spazed, but it's true. don't deal with his bullshit.

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well i have a problem... every one at school makes fun of me cuz i have like absoulutely no!!! boobs. i cant do anything about it but everyone makes fun of me like its my fault. i have no clue what to do. and the main reason why i have no boobs is because i havent had my period and its not like i can control that either! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

ignore them. my friend was the same way, she finally started all that wonderful puberty stuff. but enjoy it while you can with not having boobs or your period. lol. but there isn't anything you can do, and just ignore people, they are just jealous that you don't have to worry about anything yet.

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ok, well my parents are divoreced and i live with my mom. i see my dad like every other weekend. well lately hes been pressuring me more then usual to move in with him. he even plays guilt trips on me like if i lived with him then he wouldn't have to pay child support(niether would my mom, my sis would stay there), anyway i dont want to live with him cause i know like 2 people there and i'd leave all of my friends(the best in the world, great listeners, mostly). i dont want to hurt my dads feelings but i dont want to live there with him, is there any way i could kind of let him off easy? i'll rate high for good answers.

sorry this is so long.

you just need to tell him you don't want to move in. I went through this and it resulted in me not seeing my dad for 2 years because he finally got on my nerves and i just stopped calling him. You just need to tell him "no i don't want to move in. please stop". If he doesn't stop, tell your mom, ask her to talk to him. Be strong about this, don't let his guilt trips work on you.
if you need anymore help with this, i can help you as much as i can from personal experience. IM me on AIM: fatalxhaerts or email me: brokendreams447@yahoo.com

-jaz

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I'm going to the Pittsburg Pirrates game on the 6th at Pittsburgand as most people know after thats the sky blast, when is the sky blast usaly over? I need to know how late i will be home. I live in Ep, Ohio... Can anyone help me?

I live in Pittsburgh, but I have no idea. I tried looking for something online, but couldn't come up with anything. I think I've been to that though, and it might be over around 10 or so? don't take my word for it, but possibly.
sorry i'm not much help.

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I've been cutting for a while, and i have tried to kill myself before.And its all over a boy whos name is aaron and i think i'n in love with him. And the only time he notices me is when he wants something like sexual and then he goes to another girl when hes done with me and when hes done with the he comes back. And i wanted to know if you knew anything that might help me stop.Because everything i try doesnt work.

Tell your parents and get a therapist. Therapy will help you. I'm a former cutter and trust me, therapy helps.

IM me if you need anymore help: fatalxhaerts

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