Being a teenager is the toughest thing any of you will go through..well except for a divorce or death of a loved one.
Adults just do not remember how hard this time of life is for you.
They forget how important all of these things that you ask questions about are.
Parent do not have all the answers either..they just muddle through life..just like you.
I am as old as dirt..and still have some of the things that happen to you..happen to me.
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well my boyfriend is sweet and everything but he is too sweet , I mean he watches out for me and he said that I was the only one in the world for him , he even promised that he didnt like no other gurls like cheerleaders and movie stars , stuff like that, but I cant stand it any more! he calls to check on me at 4:00am! what do i do ?
I dont want to break his heart but I need some time alone, plz HELP!!!! (link)
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ok..do you still want to date him??that is really question..if you do..just tell him that you care about him but you want some space away from him. you guys can still date but you need some more time to yoursefl..and fill in the excuse that you want to use.
however..if he is too clingy for you you might have to break up wiht him. Fine line between being a god guy and a clinging vine
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14/f here, freshman in high school if that helps.
This requires a lot of explanation, so it'll be pretty long- sorry.
I have been going out with a guy, let's call him Bob, since October 18th. I first met Bob in sixth grade Art class, however he was really dorky and being the prep I was, I ignored him. In seventh grade I didn't see him or think about him at all. In eigth grade he was in my health class. I noted he was there and looked vaguely familiar, but didn't think much of him. This year, I saw him again at the Aloha Dance, and he looks much better, basically average. I danced with him and we agreed to meet up again sometime, then the dance ended and we went our seperate ways. Me & my friends were hanging out after school at the library one day when my friend asked who the guy was staring at me. I turned around and there he was! I said hi but that was it. This happened several times over the course of the week. Finally two weeks before the Homecoming Dance he asked me to go with him, and I said yes. I was so thrilled to be asked, I didn't really think about whether I liked him or not. He picked me up for Homecoming with the traditional wristlet, photos, etc. etc. then we went to dinner, and it was pretty quiet. The homecoming dance was fine except for the fact that he insisted on spending all our time with HIS friends- a few times I sneaked off to the "bathroom" just to hang out with mine. Also, he insisted on dancing VERY close. Finally at the end of the night he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes, once again so happy to be asked I wasn't thinking. That was October 16th and I'm still dating him. There are several problems though.
First off, I DON"T LIKE HIM!!! Not at all. As a friend, yes, but no romantic interest.
Also, he's superpossesive- I never get to spend time with my friends at brunch or lunch. He insists on kissing me in front of my friends, which embarasses them. It just really annoys me.
Third, he's too serious about our relationship- he's told me he loved him (i just smiled), and is talking about PROM! (I'm a freshman, as is he.)
I know I should break up with him, but he's just too nice. Many people have told me I go too far when I try to be kind, and this is the best example. I really don't want to hurt him!
-tinkerbell_7141 (link)
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you have too be cruel to be kind..break it off..he sounds a wee bit off anyway..any guy who is that possessive..is going to be trouble later on.
Just tell him you want to ahng out wiht your friends right now and not do the b/f g/f thing.
But be careful..he may take it poorly..ok..so be super wise in your words when you break up.
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I kinda feel liked i was always used by my b/f's..They always thought i woudl do stuff with him...I rly wish i could just meet the guy that dosen't me expect to go all the way...i want a rly good guy and thats hott..lol..to treat me right....how would i find him..? (link)
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dont go all the way..if they dump you for not doing what they want..then they only wanted you for sex. A real man..will wait until you are ready.
Once you expect more out of yourself..they will respect you. Why do things..you do NOt want to do??No man is worth that.
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My parents disapprove of a lot of my friends. One of them.. ok.. shes a slut.. and they know that.. and they think im gunna be like her (i sorta am.. but not NEARLY as bad.. shes been with like 15 guys.. me only 2) and another friend has been pregnant before (shes 16) and another friend Steals and gets high alot... (they only know about the stealing)
My parents dont know i've had sex.. and they dont know i've been high (AND THEY AINT GUNNA!)
Since I hang out with these people (nicest people i know).. they dont trust me to even be around them at skool.. how can i get my parents to trust me more? I havent done anything to lose their trust (that they know of)
Theyso wont let me stay the night with anyone.. even the people they trust.. how can i change this
DONT TELL ME QUIT DOIN THE STUFF I DO!! I DONT DO IT NOW! AND DONT TELL ME THAT THEY DO HAVE A REASON NOT TO TRUST ME CUZ I ALREADY KNOW THAT.. BUT THEY DONT KNOW MY LIFE.. SO THEY ACTUALLY DONT.. (link)
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no not going to tell you to stop..although trust me..you will get in trouble one day..and then wished you have done differetnly.
it is your life you have to make your mistakes on your own..but..you are on a long hard path...
See..in life..the company you kep is what brands you. So if you hang out wiht sluts and criminals..everyone will think you are one too.
if your friends have stopped thier bad behavior then they deserve a second chance..but do not ever expect your parents to like them
see they have lived your life...and believe me..they DO not want you to get hurt..like they have.
Be the best person you can..no drugs or sleeping around..and your parents will trust you..do what you are doing..and they will not.
you have to EARN trust...
But again..it is your life...do wiht it what you want.the only person who is going to get hurt...is you.
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Okay so I have this friend and she has a boyfriend and I am his friend a little bit like he talks to me and stuff and he gives me money but I asked him if I could have a sip of his Powerade and he said yes so I took a sip and my friend saw me and she got all mad at me and said that I have been flirting with her boyfriend, and that I like him even though I have my own boyfriend....I sent her a text message saying sorry and I even tried calling her but she won't answer. I need help what should I do (link)
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sounds to me like your friend is really insecure. Sit her down..tell her the what is really going on..and find out why she is so insecure..could be he is flirting wiht others.
if she still is weird toward you..blow it off...she will come around ..but in the end you did nothing wrong.
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ok there's this boy a whole grade younger than me but i like him. and we talk online and sometimes we get into fights but we always end up forgiving eachother by the end of the night lol. but one time i went up to him in school (he was with his friends) and i asked him a question and he said "hey dork (even though im head cheerleader) do i know you?" i was so hurt that i left and everybody started laughing! then later that night he IMed me and said sorry and i said "2 bad u made me feel like crap so apology not accepted" and i blocked him.. was i right 2 do that? or should i give him one more chance? (link)
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ok he dissed the head cheerleader..no offense..but what is he stupid...i am thinking he was just trying to be cool in front of his friends..whom I am guessing are NOT popular..so he disses you..woah..look..at him.
BUT..any friend who is a REAl friend..boy or girl..DOES not do that.
he is really immature..is this what you really want? If so..lay donw the rules..he either accepts you publically or bye bye.
me..head cheerleader is on TOP of the chain..i so would set my sights higher.
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okay there is this girl named Tessie and she is supposedly one of my best friends! well everytime I try to plan something with tessie she always says that she can't do and always seems to have an excuse! what should i do? is she really my friend? she seems to think we are but i don't believe that she is telling me the truth!! i think she is using me What is ur opinion on this?? (link)
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well are her excuses legitimate? This happened to me...turns out my so called friend just really did not want to ahng out wiht me. If her excuse are real..it may be that she is really busy.
Talk to her..find out the real deal..if she is lying..find a new friend..see a friend is somone who WANTS to spend timw with you.
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i have these kids i babysit for, and i mean theyre okay and everything, but they dont listen!! i dont know what to do, i even take out my cell phone and pretend to call their moms! theres a 8 year old A.D.H.D. boy, a 4 year old girl, and an infant. i get paid 4$ an hour...does that seem like enough for what i have to deal with? (link)
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nope..for 3 kids one an infant and one wiht adhd..i would charge 5-6. And trust me..that is low...they are getting a HUGE deal with you...i bet they do not listen to their paresnt so do not take it personally...but if they want YOu to do something fun wiht them..have them see what it is like if YOU do not listen.
Good luck!
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hi im 13/f and my mom still wont let me babysit. its rlly embarrasing bc i am 13 but she thinks im not "matture" enough. i feel like im being treated like a baby. how do i get her to let me start babysitting so tht i dont hav to hav a babysitter? thanx ~steph~ (link)
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babysitting is a hard job..could be your Mom just thinks you are too young. Go wiht a freind and babysit..or do it while your Mom is home to show her how good you are..if she still says no..try asking again every few months..trust me..eventually she will let you!
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What should you do if you keep on babysitting and they always say they will pay you but never do, and you are too nervous to ask them to pay you? (link)
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First of all..if you cannot ask for the money get your parents too. As a parent..i am MAD that they have not paid you..what losers..but if you cannot ask your parents...NEVER babysit for them again..plus I would spread the word to your friends..these people are deadbeats!!
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Why is giving others mean advice actually considered ***FUN***, yes, it's not a typo, some people considers it fun. However sick and disgusting that is, I would like to know why? (link)
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it is called immaturity..they get their jollies from cutting people down..they really do not like themselves so they are going to make fun of others..it is really sad.
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ok, so all my friends are fuck!ng crazy! they have way to much drama and its really getting on my nerves. they have all pretty much dated with one another or hooked up with them. but now, they all hate who the others are going out with. its funny to be me sitting back and watching them fuck up their lives, but how do i get them to realize that its best to just grow out of that shit and enter the real world? (link)
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Hyey..guess what..you just became an adult...you are far more mature than your friends..
no go out and find some REAL people who have a real life..like you and lose these kiddos.
ps congrats on being way mature!
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The girl who hooked me up with my boyfriend now is obsessed with him. She flirts with him, she hugs him, and she talks to him on the phone. I can tell he doesn't like it that much, but I just don't want to lose him because of my so-called "friend". What should I do so I won't lose my boyfriend? (link)
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ok..he does not like her..and she hooked you up..probably to get close to him..unless she is your best freind I would limit my contact wiht her..as she is BIGTIME trouble..she will get in the way between you and him..trust me on this...she sounds like she liked him so much she wanted to have ANY kind of contact wiht him that she could.
Lose her...she is going to be a pain later on..
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I have a sister who is almost 18, and I am 16 and she treats me pretty badly. Now, I know that is typical for two sisters to do while both in high school. She doesn't have a lot of friends and not many people like her because she is rude to everyone and talks down to people a lot. I started high school this year, at a new school, and a lot of new people. Now, the people I have been going to school with for the past 6 or so years treated me horribly in Elementary school, so I left and went to another school. There I was treated bad to, so I decided to go back to the junior high everyone I knew was going to. My 9th grade year, I did alright, I became friends with people I never thought I would, but this year, because of my sisters reputation people are talking trash about me, and telling me I'm not worth there time. I don't really have any friends, I sit in the library at lunch, and most of the time I don't really talk to anyone. I was wondering if there was a way to meet new people, or some way to not let them judge me for who my sister is? It hurts to be left out, and forgotten by people because of someone else. Thank you. (link)
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your sister sounds like she does not like herself..that is probaly why she does things that people question her rep.
As for yours..to me..if these losers are JUDGING you..on your sister..i would not even care what they think. How shallow are they not to know that every sibling is different.
I am so sorry you ae hanging out in the library. Is there not a club you might join that would show people that you are your own person.
As for your sister..until she gets happy...you and her will never get along. sounds to me like she needs tot alk to a professional.
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This is kind of wierd and I don't mean to be all snooty when I say it...
I love to go shopping, I love going to get my toenails done, I love going out to eat at fancy restaurants. But the thing is, my friends hate doing that kind of stuff. I would be like "Lets go get our toes done!" and they would be like "lol, No, thats stupid". I DO admit it. I'm the stereotypical 'Californian' girl who...spends money and goes to the beach and stuff. But is that bad? My friends never like doing that stuff... and I feel stupid. Its not like they don't have the money. We all have the money to do that stuff, they just think its stupid. What should I do? It seems like I'm the only "preppy" girl at school and I don't fit in with anyone. Yet I've lived in my town for 16 years...so its not like I just moved here and don't fit in. I'm just different. Is there anything I can do to convince my friends? How should I handle it? Because it kind of sucks... and I listen to like, Ashlee Simpson, Hilary Duff, and everyone hates those people... I feel so out of the loop, and yet I don't want to be in the loop...I want people to come to my loop.... (link)
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I cannot believe you are the only girl who loves to shop, gets her toenails done and likes to eat out. To me..you are the normml teenage girl.
Are you more wealthy than your friends?/Do they no have as much disposable income as you?
Maybe you all could compromise...eat out somewhere then do what they like to do. you must like them if you hang out wiht them/
To me..you sound just like everyone else..what are your friends like?
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ok, i love this guy "John", but we currently arent together. but yet i still love him. and a freind of mine is trying to get me back together with one of my ex's "David". i mean, i like David, and would love to date him again, but i would feel ba cuz i cant give him my whole heart like i did last time, cuz i am in love with John. so i dont know what to do, me and David are still really close and are soooo alike, and i guess his friend picked up on it, and i dont know what to do, cuz, if i wait around for john, and thigns dont work, i could miss out on David, and vice versa. so someone please help me!!!! (link)
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you and David are close like friends...but how does he feel?
Is it fair to him to give only part of you? I do not know...i think I would be straight wiht David..tell him how you feel...and give him the choice..who knows..something really special could grow out of this.
As for John...only timw will tell..why are you still in love??why did you break up..those would be questions I would ask myself before moving onto a new love.
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These past 2 years i've been feeling really depressed and its reflecting the way i act towards people now. I feel as if i can't trust anyone, and unpleasant things have been going on. Since 6th grade i've been cutting (im in 8th now). And now, It's like i always want to,and i cant stop, but its gotten to the point to where i dont even know it. I cant concentrate because i've lost most of my friends, and the 2 friends i have now act like they dont even want to be around me. All this anger is built inside of me, and i have no one to talk to about it and so i take it out on myself because i feel like its my fault even though it may not be. Im losing almost everything, and i always feel like my friends talk about me behind my back. I want help, but i want help from people who understand me, and who actually want to listen and care about me, but it seems none of my friends can really fill those needs. (link)
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YOu need to see a doctor. They are meds..that will totally take away your sympotsn and make you stop cutting yourself. Lots of people do what you do.
Talk to your counsel..get a anmeof a doctor.and see them
TYou will feel better...trust me..once you get on the right meds..your life will change..totally.
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whats happenes wen ur hvin a panic attack? (link)
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shortness of breath..dizziness...black outs...headaches...hypervnetiliating...rapid pulse
if you are haivng them you need to go see a doctor. They can interfere with your life.
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Okay, please Mods PLEASE do not delete this as I'm REALLY concerned!
Well, this girl at my school, she's not my friend or anything I don't know her that good, but she's pregnant. And, she's only 12. We're in 7th grade and all that, and she's expecting TWINS, she should get an abortion and all that but she wants to go through with it. At least that's what I heard, (I hear a lot of gossip. -__-;) Well, anyway, she also smokes and drinks, and she has purple hair and a ton of piercings, and I'm afraid if she goes through with it, her body won't be ready with all those drugs, and she's so young, and she might die...
She's got a pretty bad life, and nobody really likes her, but I still worry about these kind of things...and well, I'm not quite sure what to say to her to try to convince her not to do it. Can anyone give me ideas?
Sorry this was so long. =\
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can you imagine being 12..and having a baby?? I cannot
She is probaly in denial..wow..
She does not want the baby ...it is clear....
And trust me..she does not want to live..if she cannot keep it togehter for her babies.
maybe she can get a couple to adopt them that will take her in.
She needs to get help..she needs therapy.
That you care enought about her to wtire heew..just shows me what a great person you are.
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When I was 17, everything was going great in my life. I had a job, a car, a boyfriend, and family that loved me. But my great life soon turned into a nightmare-I got a phone call, my mom and dad were in the hospital. They were driving when a car had hit them, and they died 3 days later. I'm 20 now, and I take care of my 13 year old sister and 9 year old brother. I have so much stress being a 20 year old parent. Sometimes I just break down and want to die. Of course, that's not an option. I need help, how can I keep up with working full time and taking care of my two siblings. I dont have family that could help me, I'm all on my own! Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. (link)
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I am so sorry about your loss..wow..you ahve been thorugh more than most of us.
This is so hard..you have to do so much.
But can I tell you how awesome I think you are...instead of breaking up your family..you are keeping them together.
I know you are giving ups so much for your siblings..but you are MY hero today...
Bless you...I would give some more responbility to your sister..and even your 9 year old brother...they can do more choires that will mkae yor life easier....
I wish you had someone to turn too,
but again..i am in awe of you..what you are doing..is so amzing..you are such an amzing person!!
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