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boyfriend problems- 14/f
14/f here, freshman in high school if that helps.
This requires a lot of explanation, so it'll be pretty long- sorry.
I have been going out with a guy, let's call him Bob, since October 18th. I first met Bob in sixth grade Art class, however he was really dorky and being the prep I was, I ignored him. In seventh grade I didn't see him or think about him at all. In eigth grade he was in my health class. I noted he was there and looked vaguely familiar, but didn't think much of him. This year, I saw him again at the Aloha Dance, and he looks much better, basically average. I danced with him and we agreed to meet up again sometime, then the dance ended and we went our seperate ways. Me & my friends were hanging out after school at the library one day when my friend asked who the guy was staring at me. I turned around and there he was! I said hi but that was it. This happened several times over the course of the week. Finally two weeks before the Homecoming Dance he asked me to go with him, and I said yes. I was so thrilled to be asked, I didn't really think about whether I liked him or not. He picked me up for Homecoming with the traditional wristlet, photos, etc. etc. then we went to dinner, and it was pretty quiet. The homecoming dance was fine except for the fact that he insisted on spending all our time with HIS friends- a few times I sneaked off to the "bathroom" just to hang out with mine. Also, he insisted on dancing VERY close. Finally at the end of the night he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes, once again so happy to be asked I wasn't thinking. That was October 16th and I'm still dating him. There are several problems though.
First off, I DON"T LIKE HIM!!! Not at all. As a friend, yes, but no romantic interest.
Also, he's superpossesive- I never get to spend time with my friends at brunch or lunch. He insists on kissing me in front of my friends, which embarasses them. It just really annoys me.
Third, he's too serious about our relationship- he's told me he loved him (i just smiled), and is talking about PROM! (I'm a freshman, as is he.)
I know I should break up with him, but he's just too nice. Many people have told me I go too far when I try to be kind, and this is the best example. I really don't want to hurt him!
-tinkerbell_7141
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You're not doing him any favours if you're staying with him just to be 'nice'. If you really don't like him, break up with him! (but do it in a nice way :) This way, you can find someone who you like, and he can find someone who will like him back.
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Let Juliett spread the love (*'../'*). Well I know this will be hard. Obviously u need to tell him. Maybe set him up on a few dates- with people who like him of course. Hopelly he accepts your honesty. Be brave!
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I understand that you want to be nice to this guy and that you don't want to hurt him, but if he thinks that he loves you, and you don't feel the same, you shouldn't be leading him on. I guess the best way to break up with him would be to tell them that things are moving a little too fast and you think that you just might need time alone. Tell him that you still care about him and that you still wanna be his friend, but not as a girlfriend right now. It will probably hurt him, but in time he'll feel better. Hope I helped!
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hey...well, i think that you should do whatever you want....you shouldnt go out with someone that you arent happy with...if he is a nice enough guy, i think that he wlll understand..if you arent comfortable kissing him in front your your friends, dont let him...dont let him do anything to you......hope that my advise has helped you...if you need any other advise...im here to help!
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If your not happy with him then you should brake up. Maybe you shoudld talk to him about being able to do things that YOU want to do.You shouldnt be pressured into doing anything you dont want to like saying i love you to him. If you brake up with him you shouldnt care if you hurt him or not because if you dont like him then whats the point of sticking around?
Hope I Helped!
~ Brina~
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Tell him what you just told us in a nicer way. Tell him you thought about his questions too fast, and answered without thinking. Explain to him that you're not all that interested in him anymore, and you think it'd be better if you seperated. ;/
xo Ariel
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You need to dump this guy and tell him the truth. You should've never went out with someone that you DONT LIKE!! Think before you act honey!
-Emmy Boo-
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tell him straight sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind but make sure u do it ur self and not get one of youre m8s 2 do it. just tell him everything tht u have just told me. if he doesnt take it straight away just turn round to him and say that u neva lykd him the way he likes u and u only went out wiv him to be knid. BUT if he still doesnt take it my next piece of advice is DONT TAKE ANY SHIT FROM HIM!!!! i really hope that helps. GOOD LOOK!!
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you have too be cruel to be kind..break it off..he sounds a wee bit off anyway..any guy who is that possessive..is going to be trouble later on.
Just tell him you want to ahng out wiht your friends right now and not do the b/f g/f thing.
But be careful..he may take it poorly..ok..so be super wise in your words when you break up.
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