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Q: what does it mean if i feel like i have to pee, but when i do, its only a teeny bit and its mixed with what looks like blood?

umm dont you have your period if you dot i think go to the doctor..

Q: I am really sad right now because well I'm 14. That gives you a good idea of what my life is like. Well I have a sister and she's 17. I love here to death but I hate her at the same time. The problem is guys of course. The guys that like her are like 16 or 17. So they're a lil' bit older. I just feel ugly because guys are always paying attention to her and not me. Is it because of the three years? They are just in love with her. they dont even know I'm alive. I dont think I'm pretty but I'm not ugly. Just average. People tell me all the time that I'm really pretty but when I take pictures of myself all I see is an ugly person. So I really do believe guys think I'm really ugly. They dont even talk to me. I just want to know why or how this is happening??? I dont really want a boyfriend just want guys to talk to me.

aww.. well im sure Your not ugly at all. But you see they like your sister because she is older and stuff and By the way everyone seems tofind themselves ugly in pictureS:D so dont worry about guys will aventually talk to you don worry give it time!!

much love
hope i helpeed:D! bye

Q: okay so me and my exboyfriend are still friends and today was the first day of school. i have lunch and computer apps with him and i sit with him in both. i think he likes me because he was asking me today if i wanted to like get together sometime and i just said i don't know. he broke up with me twice but i still like him for some reason. part of me wants to say yeah and part of me wants to just say no because i really want to find a new guy because i haven't had boyfriend since me and him broke up. i don't know what to do. like because he broke up with me and he told me he liked my best friend but she has a boyfriend. gr idk. what would you do? what should i do?

thanks =]

hey=] im sorry :/ but dont get back with him he broke your heart twice.. especially the best friend part... dude.. if your gonna go out with him your gonna get your heart broken again and im sure you dont want that.. and its so wronge for him to like your best friend
if that really hurt you if that hurt you , you would know not to get back with him
the choice is yours but i say dont
because ur heart will be broken again
and youll regret it
try to find somone knew
you know what they say
theres more fish in the sea
hope i helped
byee :/

Q: Well im 15 f and i weigh 52 kg at night and in the morning im like 50kg and i want to lose wight i want to lose 2 kilos and i want a flat stomach and thinner thighs and i want to go on pills or patches can someone please tell me how old you have to be to go on

Pills ?
Patches

Please i really want to go on one of them =[.

no no no and no
do not use pills girl
u still to younge for all that
itl mess up your body!!
just work out
and please dont use pills.. its
dangerouse
run
nd do sit uups
itl work
bye

Q: LOL ! Well i got 2 tickets to the Teen DOlly choice awards WOOOOT !
LOL and i want to go with my friend but my mum wont let me cause shes scared it finnished at 8:30 pm at night and we have to come back by train but my mum wont trust me and i ahrdley ever go out or anything anmd i really want to go im 15/f by the way any advice ?

=[

yeslol
well you have to tell your mom that your old enough to take care of yourself..
hope i hhelped bye

Q: okay, i'm getting married this week. and i just started my period. well, i don't want to "ruin" the romantic part of our wedding night with my period and everything. so, i'm wondering if i take a hot shower or bath, how long will that stop my period? we though about having a hot bubble bath together, would be period stop for that? thanks.

well i think that you dont have to ruin the romantic night .. i honestly think that you should just like wait til your period is over for you to do all the romantic stuff .. yoU SHOULD NOT take any pills or anything (if there is ) to stop your period it might make it worse in my opinion.. so just ask him to wait somehow..
hope i helped
goodbye:)

Q: I'm eighteen and i have an uncle who's kids are like my cousin and one of them is 14,13 i think dont remember excatly, but i went on vaction to see my cuzins well uncle who has kids who happens to be my cousin's and me and the person i like is 14,13 year old we always hangout togher and everyhthing i do like him like him alot and since i dont get to see him tell next yr and he lives seven hrs away but i can still call and text him onces a month b/c of the money and all is it wrong to like really like someone? he did tell me he loves me and that he will miss me and said to call me and his sis every month and all. what should i do i do really love him but i dont want it to feel as it's wrong.

plus i told my mom not about him but like make an excuse to see if it can happen about the cousin thing and she said it can but i was going to tell her but didn't and not going to until everything is ok with me and him what should i do i need help with advice asap.

plus i never had this feeling for someone before never this is like my first time ever.

yes i did have crushes on guys but not like this

soooo sorry for the longest longest messsage ever and please help me asap please dying for advice on this one

awwww!! ..:/ well im sure Your feelings are deep
i can tell
and no it isnt wronge for you to like a 13 year old but i think that he takes you more like a sister than a lover.. thats what i think im sorry but you know im not saying its easy for you to get over him but like.. hese still going through his teenage life.. you know what im saying?? i think that you should find somone with a bit more open mind..
hope i helped.And i know its not what you wanted to hear
sorry
bye

Q: ok well i have liked this guy for 2 years and about a month ago his frien told my friend that the guy i like wasnt interested so it was good i got an answer and i figured i would be able to get over him...then school started and it just didnt work...i dont know what to do...i just want him out of my head...and at school i see in his group there are girls and stuff and its like i get jealous...i just want it to stop...i dont get it...please HELP!!!!

hi.. i have the same problem as you but the guy doeesnt know i like him...im not even over him yet and i liked him for half a year and a couple of months but since that guy told you that he wasnt intrested then i think u should get over him by hanging out with your friends
go shopping
and try to get your mind off of him and dont look at him when he passes by ..
itl help
i hope
bye
good luck

Q: well im 14/f and i think i cuss alot.you know when you cuss axcedently and you say "it slipped right out of my mouth"!-well mine slip out of my mouth a flippn lot!!!! i meen its not like every word out of my mouth is a cussing word but its almost like at the worst moments to curse, i accedently curse!i find myself etheir cacthing myself about to curse or accually cursing when im around adults alot which is bad!i meen its not like i disrespectvly cuss, i just kinda add cussing words in some of my sentences.like today i was talking to some of my friends and we were waching j/v try-outs and there was this 1st grader sittn like 7 feet away from us and i was talking and i said"what the hell are you talking about" to one of my friends and she had to point out to me that there was a little kid like right near me-then like 10 min. later my friend called me stupid for some reason and i said"well your a dumb ass"! and i forgot the lil kid was still there!even though i know he prob didnt hear me i think i really need to control myself because i have one friend whos very religious and i axccedently said god danmet in front of her and she kinda got a lil mad and told me not to say it anymore and my other friends dont like that word etheir even though their not that religious.im not religious at all but i would like to try not to say it around my friends cause i dont want them to get upset with me or think that i am a bad person because i used the lords name in vain! i just would really like some tips on how to control my cussing. i meen i know prob every teenager cusses but i just cuss at the wrong times! i meen i got caught cussing infront of my mom and dad! my mom didnt realy care that much but my dad made me wash my mouth out with sope!sooo any tips would help! thanx!!

well,, just try not cursing by
in your mind before you say anything
just think of what your gonna say before you accually say it
EX:are u kiddin me?
in your mind say it first then accually say it outloud just try to watch your words itl be hard but then youll get used to it okay
hope i helped :):)
byee

Q: Ok well there was a car accident that I passed while our family was on a vacation.

It was realyl serious and the chances to me that that guy is alive are really slim but I really wanan know if he's alive.

it's been a week and he wasn't in the news or the radio.

Is there any way I could find out? how?

i dunt think so.. i think you should just wait.. becuz they probably wont put it up i mean theres alot of things that happen around the world and they dont even put it up on the news.. but i think they would on the newspaper just wait a lil more..
hope i helped =] byee

Q: Ok so im going into highschool, and well i found the cutest out fit, but its a tube top, and well my school isnt SO strict about it, like after three weeks they don't care what we wear. But my question is On the first day of school do they really look out and care what we wear and stuff and were they really strict about it at your school? thankss

haha yes!!!!!!lol!! they are so strickeD!!! they will kick us out of class if we dont wear the uniform seriously you should wear something a lil bit more appropriate just saying the truth so you dont get pulled out but theres a diffrence between your school and mine we have uniforms:S:S:S sucks,. yes i kno.. but then they dont care what we wear in the middle of the year cause they get to tired paying attention lol..
hope i helped bye..

Q: 15/f

ok im like way to tall. im 5'7 and only 15. i hate being tall everyone else is shorter and im taller than everyone. from christmas last year till school was out in may i growed like 3 or 4 inches. some days i will stand next to my mom and i will look shorter. other days i will stand by her and ill be taller. we are on the same level ground and standing the same way and everything. am i going to grow anymore and is there any change of me getting shorter at all?!

thanks.

:/ well honestly i think that you will still grow more dont worry about it everyone has there own ways of growin im really tall and im 13.. and im taller than my mom.. but i dont care lol.. i mean i kno ill grow more.. so what. but if you have a nice body and work out more your body will look very nice when its tal... hope i helped bye...

Q: There is this really hot guy in my grade. He just got in my class and I've seen him take some quick glances at me. But the problem is i dont know how to talk to guys. I've never had a boyfriend and I'm scared when he comes up I won't know what to say. What are some good conversations and how to be confident and not be nervous. Also its hard to look people staight it the eye. Is that bad?

hehe honestlY be urself.. seriously if he finds you all trying to make him like you then he wil prolly change his mind.. this is what u do when he looks at you look at him and smile then look the other way that will make him wanna talk to you... so when he does have conversatiions about stuff he will probably bring up something for you to talk abbout because if he didnt know what to say he wouldnt come up to you in the first place.. so i say that you listen and talk dont get nervouuse seriously dont it will make things worse.. just be urslef and im sure everything will be ok
hope i helped tell me how it goes
rate me:) bye

Q: Well heres a picture of me
http://coookiieloove.piczo.com/?preview=y&cr=7&rfm=y
Im on the right =]
I just need to know what type of make up would suit me or what make-up should i use just to make me abit prettier thanks MUCH

haha honestly iduno much about make up so iduo..lol but i was just gnna tell u tht ur real pretty haha :P but yah dont kno how to aswer this question
sorry
) bye

Q: On myspace, i see people commenting themselves on their pictures and stuff. But when i try to do it it says you must be someones friend to comment them, and so then i try to add myself it says you cannot add yourself as a friend. So how do they do it?

helo=] i go on myspace nd i comment my self it works but maybe peoples myspaces are diffrent? i mean it never used to work with me but then when i went on my friends lists nd i saw them do it then i did nd it worked i think now that tom(the owner of myspace) fixed it up a bit go try it
this question was such a long time ago.. im guessin but haha i went on a girls myspace nd saw it so yeah
anwyay
i kno i hepled =]
bye

Q: Ok, i am 13/f and i dont know if i should shave down there. What are all the other girls doing, shaving it all, some, or none?

DUDE SHAVE!! seriously its nasty if u dont.

Q: Okay well im going into 9th grade and my boyfriend is going into 7th. And hes just not like a little kid. Hes so mature and so sweet, and i really like him, and hes always there for me, but i was wondering does anybody think that its weird that im dating a 7th grader?

omg no its so not wierd!! so what?? i mean its barely a age diffrence nd if u rlly like this guy then u wont care what people think..

:) rate me
much love

Q: i THINK i started my 1st period, but I'm not sure. Like for about 2 or 3 days i kept finding brown marks on my underwear (and no they werent skid marks) and by the end of the 3rd, beigining of the 4th about it started turnigng a little red, but then it stopped. The weird thing is, the stuff would be on my underwear, but i never actually saw anything like come out if you know what i mean. So, I'm not sure??

yeah it probably is ur priod becuz when i first got my period i had orange mixed wit pinnk it was sorta scary cause i was freakin out.haha anyay we all have diffrent bodies so ya.. much love
Bye
i kno i helpedd =]

Q: How do I make my profile have no sections like this one for example: http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=20485364

She has made her profile in the one white box without separate sections. And she has just two plain black strips down the side. How do I do that?