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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!

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My internet is showing an "Error 102 the server refused connection"

What does this mean? And how can I fix it?

My husband says this could be a number of things and you need to call tech support

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I own a 1-year-old laptop running Windows 7, and like all PCs, it's begun to slow down over time.

What are some (free) things I can do to get it running more quickly? Are those registry repair programs a good idea? If so, what is a good free one I can download?

Ok I am not a computer genious, I suck with mine.. But my husband went to school for this kind of stuff.. He says to tell you that you can speed up your computer by keeping it cool... get a lap top fan.. He got me one for like $5 so they are cheap.. keep your memory clean and defragg your computer atleast once a week... as for the registry repair programs he doesnt know because he never used them but be careful about downloading you dont want to pick up a virus

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Guys call me boo,babe,baby,beautiful.. ect. What are names I should call guys?

I call my husband things like babes, love, sweets, huni, handsome, sexi cutesy stuff like that he loves it ... sometimes he will just randomly remind me how much he likes my little pet names,, his favs are babes love and sweets

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My son is 4 1/2 years old. He was just recently diagonised with ADHD. Where I live there isnt many children theripists. So were we go he can only get in once a month hes only meet her once and its been two months she rescheduled with us. So I am placing him on home therepy were they come in our home and help with behavioral problems and stuff. Well he seen a medication doctor he asked us a ton of questions and told us he had 7-10 symptoms and since the theripists are limited here they want to place him on medication a small dose to try. its called intruiv (i think i spelled it right) Is there anything else I can do to help my son. He usually talks like an adult but lately hes been talking like a baby (he hasnt started medicine yet it has to be pre autherized) I was also told to make an appt. with SSI since I have limited income and him being diagonised with this I could qualifiy for SSI?

I am so sorry about your little man, My little brother has adhd and we have found that if you keep him entertained and let him get hyper and playful with you every once in a while and also take him out to the park and let him run around he seems to be much better.... And my brother is on ssi so I dont see why he couldnt get on it good luck and best wishes

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My best friends mom thinks I'm like a bad influence because I am vegan, and eat organic. I mean clearly she must be uneducated in health. Sure best friends mom you can slurp up some more aspartame, and down another quart of sugar, but I wont. I am 15, and I do not know how to confront this problem. I do not care what her diet consists of...so why does she hate me for mine?

I dont think it is a problem with you... Probably just when you talk about foods you can come off a little rude... (i dont know if this is true about you or not) I have a friend who is a vegetarian and she will look at others and say things like eww gross how can you eat that and try to force her opinion on other people.. if you are doing this it may make you seem rude and also like you are insulting them.... also she is just looking out for her daughter she wants to make sure her daughter is healthy and strong and she may not think that your diet would be good for her baby... parents can be a little over protective sometimes but that is only because they love their children and want the best for them... maybe you could talk to her mom NICELY and explain that you are feeling a little hurt by the things she says and the way she judges you and that you mean no disrespect you just would like her to stop hurting you good luck

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So I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and we just recently started having sex. I'm 17 and I've been on the pill since I was 15. We're both eachothers firsts and I just wanna know if I really can have sex without a condom. Like all doctors say always use a condom but they're so gross and the lube always burns me. We've both been tested so I really just wanna know if the pill really does mean I can have sex without one. Are there things I need to do? Only specific times during the pill cycle I can have sex without protection?

If you do not want to get pregnant I would advise you use a condom... Try getting a different brand of condom maybe its just the ones you have been using... Even while taking the pill you still have a risk of getting pregnant, it is a small risk but still there is a risk...

"The effectiveness of birth control pills depends entirely on how they are used. While the stated effectiveness is 96-99% in reality this rate is much lower, around 87%. Poor user habits are the reason for the discrepancy. Taking the Pill at different times of day, missing days or skipping pills all decrease the effectiveness."
- about.com

the effectiveness of birth control can also be lowered when taking an antibiotic...
also a big reason you want to use a condom even with birth control is that you dont want to get an std even if you were tested you never know he could go out and have sex with someone else and catch it and then pass it to you... always wear a condom!! Good luck

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i was wondering if it is ok to leave my dildo in my vagina for a long time ? like would it hurt me if i left it in there while i slept? i just like having it in there it is about 2inches wide at the most....thanks for the help!

I really dont think that this would be a good idea... you can give yourself an Infection that waty and thats not something you want... also remember to clean your toys after using them

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17/F

I've been taking birth control for 6 months now, and this has never happened before. I missed a pill on the 3rd week of the active pills, i looked it up online and in the information packet the pharmacy gave me and it said to take the rest of the active pills and to NOT take the unactive (sugar) pills, it told me to use another form of protection for 7 days. it also said its likely i'd skip my period. The thing is, I've been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now, me and him have NEVER used protection, I had an abortion in January and it truly crushed us, especially him. I cant go through with this again.. we still dont use protection because i'm allergic to latex, but for those 7 days, we just chose to have him use the "pull-out" method. Is there anyway i'm pregnant ? i'm still on the third day of my inactive pills in the second pack, but my body doesnt feel like it usually does pre-period. Someone help pleaseeee!

even on birth control you still have a risk of pregnancy.. a small risk but still a risk... the "pull out method" does not work (ask my two children haha) go to your doctor and ask for him to do a test and if you are not pregnant then ask him what else you can do to prevent pregnancy along with the birth control you already have... good luck

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I don't know what else to do, or who else to turn to.. not that I've turned to anybody because I'm afraid talking about it is going to make it worse.

I've been with my boyfriend for six months, and I love him so much. He loves me just as much... if not, then more. He tells me he's in love with me and I'm the most important person in the world to him. He tells me I'm the reason why he's going to try to get into college. And I'm so glad I could do this much for him. I've always loved hearing this, us making scenarios about our future together like getting married and everything. We have legit plans to go to school near each other so it won't be too much of a long distance relationship.

I have never once doubted my love for him. I know I'm young, and so is he, but I never felt so strongly about somebody before. He electrifies my life. I love being with him, being at his house doing nothing but eating & watching movies, and I really like his family & vice versa.

But out of NOWHERE a couple days ago, I began feeling uneasy about this whole thing. I don't know if it's a long, committed future, or if it's that he's suddenly gotten a bit clingy (I get reminded how much he loves me dozens of times a day, and I don't understand why, because he knows I know already).

There isn't anybody else, I don't want anybody else. I want to be with him, but there's something stopping me from returning the words "I'm in love with you too", which I've already done before and I'm afraid he's going to think something's wrong.

Which I think there is. But I don't know what. I don't know what to do. He knows something's wrong but nothing this serious. I mean, it could be worse. But with the slightest doubt about ME scares me so much. I don't want to hurt him, I'm not ready to end this. I don't know what to do.

Just today, just a few minutes ago, he noticed I was a bit upset so he said, "Don't worry about me breaking your heart, okay?" assuming it was about that. I shook my head, telling him that's not what I was thinking about: I was worrying about me breaking his.

I don't know what's wrong, or how to approach it. But I need to fix it because I want to have that 100% feeling again like he does about me. But right now it's not 100%.

Hopefully this is just a phase. But it hurts me to tears. I'm scared of breaking his heart, along with breaking my own. I don't want to feel this way anymore, and I'm not ready to give up.

Any advice? Any similar situations? Thank you SO much.

I once had this feeling before my hubby and I got married... But I realized that the whole thing was that I loved him so much and I wanted to be with him forever but inside I was thinking the same thing you are... But for me I got so scared of hurting him and it made me push him away... I later realized that it was infact the total opposite... I thought I was afraid of huting him when really I was afraid of him hurting me and leaving... I was so use to people hurting me it just became natural for me to push people away that I loved... you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. let him know you love him and you want to be together and the reason you have been acting odd is because you are afraid to hurt him... because if you hurt him, he will leave and you dont want to lose the best thing that has ever happened to you... Its going to be okay, dont keep your feelings bottled relationships need communication... if you talk you and your relationship will get stronger good luck

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I'm a 21 year old male, and people don't seem to like me. I have some friends who if I really bother will do things with me, but I am still really insecure about whether or not they really want to be around me.

This is mostly about dating however, I'm having trouble meeting people. I tried online dating, but I find most people on there to be incredibly broken in some way, no offense but I'm not interested in a drug addict or someone who is my age with 3 children.

I have really worked to get in good shape, and have lost over 50 pounds and think I'm in good shape now. I'm in the last year of schooling for a great job in the medical profession. I'm responsible, have my own place which I pay for, and have a good relationship with my family. On paper I sound pretty good if you ask me, but I don't think people ever give me a real chance to get to know me, those who do know me well like me but its hard to get past that first 'hello' for me with someone I'm actually interested in.

Anyway my main question is how do I meet people who are single, and are in a situation where they are dateable?

You seem to be a very nice man... you are working, educated, smart, you have standards which is good, you arent going to just settle for just any one, and you are responsible, but you seem to be a little shy... dont let your insecurities get in the way, every one is insecure about something. but really its all just in their head... like for me if you ask me what I hate about myself I would say that I have huge eyes and its ugly... but I always get compliments on my eyes and people say they are pretty and hypnotizing (not sure of spelling there) but I hate them... a good friend of mine thinks she has a fat belly but she is major skinny... sometimes we just let things get to us.... try to be a little more outgoing... girls love that.... I cant say just what every girl wants but I will tell you things I like about a guy and maybe you can try it out with someone....
I love when guys compliment me a lot and flirt with me... kind of like (even though I know its not true) I am the prettiest person they have ever seen... I love when guys talk to me about theirself and when in a deep conversation they brush their hand on mine or put their hand on mine... also it makes me melt when my hair is in my eyes and a guy slowly brushes it to the side and either looks in my eyes or says some cheesy little line about covering my pretty face (I can be very insecure about my looks so I like when people make me feel pretty) when you talk to a girl look her in the eyes this drives me crazy (in a good way) ... also once you start dating a girl and you go for that first kiss put your hand on her face or curl your fingers around her chin and slowly pull her in (makes her heart pound) be romantic and do cutesy things... like probably the sweetest thing a guy ever did was dance with me when we went out for dinner... it was so funny and cute and a little nerve racking because we were eating at a place with no music and it wasnt a place where you would normally see people dnacing and he was just so cute and wanted to dance... people were watching us but we were so caught up in the moment we didnt even notice until we had stopped and went to walk out and they just looked and smiled like they were in awe :) dont try to buy her love... I mean you can get a gift every once in a while but not all the time for me it just gets annoying instead if you really want to get her a gift make her something, write her a letter, or instead of buying roses pick flowers (my ex once picked me a bunch of dandilions , and yes we knew they were weeds not really flowers but he picked me a little handful and then he came to my door with them and said "I saw these and thought about you." so I sarcasticlly say oh nice weeds remind you of me... and he said "yes, they can be stubborn, and all over the place, and sometimes people are too busy working with other things like their gardens to take time to stop and see how beautiful dandilions are and how lucky we are to even have the luxery of looking at them" I know it was so corny but it was so cute... a lot of guys think it is hard to make a girl like them but really if do little things to impress us, be sweet, compliment us, and do corny little things like that you will have the girl totally crazy for you in no time :) good luck hope I helped

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hi my daughter is 11 is she going to have her period soon

the average age for a girl in the United states to get her period is 12 years old... so she may start it any time now... good luck :)

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okay so me and this guy have a love hate relationship, i hate that i love him; like the song i hate that i love you by rihanna... what are some other songs like that?

thanks
kaaitlyn

Love the way you lie rhianna and emimem

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I'm a 13 yearold girl and i know it's normal to not have great skin because of puberty but how come celebrities get beautiful and glowing skin? What do they do? Please help I really would like pretty skin.
It's not really bad just not how I would like it. Thanks for eveyrones help!

It is very normal to have skin problens at your age... and as for celeberties they go through it too.. when they get breakouts they use make up to cover it until they can get it treated here is some things they do to treat acne http://www.ehow.com/about_5474595_do-celebrities-use-acne.html

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I am a 13 yearold girl and everyone says I'm skinny when I ask or they will just tell me and my stomach is skinny but my legs aren't as good as I would want them too. There not wicked muuscley. how can I get them thinner and have more muscles? I am self conscious in my suit bottoms so please help! :)

here is a link to a site that tells you how to tone your legs good luck
http://exercise.about.com/cs/butthipsthighs/l/bllegsbuttthigh.htm

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I am a 13 year old girl and I would love to get into modeling. It would make me more outgoing and I would wanna be a model for pictures not so much the runway type and everyone says I should cause I'm pretty and have as good body (I'm not bragging, sorry) but anyone have tips or advice on how to get started. Please help! :)

I did a little search for you and I found a lot of awesome information on how to become a model for you... here are a couple links good luck

http://www.wikihow.com/Become-a-Model


http://www.modellifestyle.com/how_to_become_a_model.htm

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I have $90 and I'm a 13 yearold girl. I can't get a real job but I'm trying to lay for my own things not have my mom do it so how can I make money quickly? And a lot, please help! Any advice and tips help. :) thanks!

You can go to neighbors or family members and do some chores or task for them for money like yard work or cleaning the house good luck

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i added you on aol like a few days ago :( but you didnt accept i think, i never really used it before so idk... im the girl about the 2 year boyfriend that left me for partying and all that :( ...

oh huni I dont need to accept anything all you have to do is email me and I will reply aol is not like that sorry to confuse you just send me an email and I can reply

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What is better shaving or waxing your vagina? Whenever I shave my vagina I instantley get red bumps and it gets really itchy! I have never tried waxing my vagina before, so I want you guys appinouns cause I no waxing will be really painful!

Ugh I hate the red itchy bumps... thats why I use nail for the bikini area :) works great!

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I am a guy and I wanna babysit to make money but everyone tells me thats a womans job. What should I do?

Men can babysit, honestly I would prefer a male baby sitter for my son than a female because boys wanna hang out with boys... dont listen to them you can do it :)

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Okay so this guy is 17 and I'm 14. I really like him a lot and we kinda talk to each other but I'm not sure he really notices me. He's cute, funny, great personality, fun to be with, and very sweet. I only get to see him twice a week and when i do see him I don't know if he really wants anything to do with me. I just want him to talk to me and feel the same way as I feel about him. I might be young but i know for a fact that I'm in love with him. Please can someone help me solve my love problem!?!? :'(

Go up to him and tell him how you feel. let him know that you like him a lot and you want to have a relationship with him and ask him how he feels about you.. good luck

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