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Gender: male Age: 16
Me and my gf havent exactly been getting along we cant talk much it neva works, we hug sometimes, and we dont do anything else either because there was a problem and we said we'd work it out but obviously not and im a shy guy and i get pretty depressed often and today one of her friends(also friend of mine) told me my gf wants me to stop me getting into depressive moods and make more of an effort to make the first moves or she will dump me. And then her friend also told me that she also liked another 2 guys and she things my gf is just using me.
But when i was 1st goin out with her i have neva been as happy and im not sure i wanna give up on her and thus lose that happiness.
What do u think? am i just being stupid?
and if u think i should dump her please tell me.
How?
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Watch and wait. Don't be too suspicious, it may be nothing, but don't be naive either.
Maybe you should seek professional help for the depression...
If you are still unsure about this relationship with your gf, maybe you should break it off. Don't burn your bridges, in case it was nothing, but maybe some time to yourselves will help?
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16/f. This is been going on for about a week now. Every so often during the day, my back & chest/stomache has this like, burning feeling... and then it'll go away. But its like an irritation. But it'll go away and then it'll come back like 10 minutes later. What is this? I haven't changed any products like soap or anything, so I don't think I'm allergic to anything. The only thing I can think of, is that I've been using tanning lotion (I've been tanning outside)... but I've been using it for about 4-5 weeks and this only started a week ago. Whats wrong? (link)
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It may be from the heat. Try to stay in cooler areas. Keep a fan with you, etc.
Also, all the tanning may be hurting your skin. Apply some aloe to the irritated areas, and see if that helps.
If all else fails, see a doctor.
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I just want to make clear that me and the person involved have NO blood relation. And I am still a virgin.
August of 2004 my 2nd step cousin (adam) and his cousin on the other side of the family (cal) came to visit my family for 5 months. They stayed at our house. At that time I was 13. Then in October Adam, Cal, me and my sister (19) went to the city (New York City). After that we went to dinner. I was next to cal. And then out of no where he just grabbed my hand. So we were holding hands the entire time. We ordered like 5 bottles of wine. When we got up to leave we all felt tipsy at the same time. So we were walking back to the train station and in the middle of no where Cal tries to kiss me and we were walkin behind my sister and Adam so he pushes me agains a building and leans on me and kisses me. But I pushed him off. I did want to kiss him but for some reason I was scared too. He kept trying to kiss me the entire night. On the train on the way home he started asking me why i wouldn't kiss him. And you know how people say they are telling the truth when they are drunk.. Well he kept saying how much he liked me and other stuff. They were staying in our basement so that night me and my sister stayed with them. So I went to get drinks. Cal followed me behind and pushed me into another room and we started making out. Then I felt him get hard on me so i decided to give him a handjob. Then after that night everytime we were alone we would cuddle and kiss. We didnt tell anybody about us cause we were scared of what they would think since he was 19 and I was 13. After my birthday in Nov when I turned 14 he fingered me only once, but I have him head ... alot, and I gave him handjobs. We dryhumped like 4 times. I even gave him head in the shower. He wanted me to have sex with hime but I said no. cause I was a virgin. I knew that this "relationship" wouldnt go anywhere so I didnt want to lose it to him. And I knew that I would end up getting hurt but I still wanted to be with him. I almost got caught by my mother giving him head. So she was always suspicious of me. Then Cal and Adam left in December. Now I am goin to go visit him and idont know how to act. should i act like nothing happened? I'm a bit confused because I think now I am ready to lose my virginity to him but I dont know if he still has feelings for me. Now he is 20. But also for some reason after he left I have had the sudden urge to want to fuck somebody. I'm a virgin and I want to wait but damn...its hard. And I have particularly have given a liking to giving head. This wasn't really a question but I hope someone could give me advice anyways or help me. sorry its long. (link)
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It is hard to wait, but it will be worth it. Tell him this. You want to wait, so it is over between you two. And stick by it.
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Anyone have experience with wisdom teeth?
Well, my appointment for getting my wisdom teeth surgically removed is on August 2nd. No, my wisdom teeth have not sprouted, they're still hidden inside of my gums. I'd kind of like to know what to expect. I don't want to be too freaked out but then again I don't want to be unprepared. If you or someone you know has gotten their wisdom teeth out, could you please tell me the procedures before, during, and after? I'm not too worried about the after, I know it will be painful, but I can deal with it...just not the before and during. Don't give me a website, I've already done my share of researching, I just want to hear from real people that have experienced it. Here are some questions buzzing around in my head and I would be VERY GRATEFUL if these are answered:
- Will I get a shot for anesthesia? Knowing my dentist...I don't think I will get sleeping gas. Many people say they just got sleeping gas. My last bad experience at the dentist was when I had my four permanent teeth removed. And for that they gave me shots. Boy did it hurt. I still remember my eyes watering from the pain and the blood squirting...I am really scared of shots.
- How do they keep your mouth open? My brother said they stuck a big block into his mouth. Eek. I'm not to comfortable with that either. I have pretty bad gag reflexes.
- How can I keep the empty sockets that will be there after it's all done clean? I heard about salt and water?
- Any foods you would recommend? I know I'm going to miss eating "real" food.
Thank you VERY much for your help. It really does ease my nerves a little. (link)
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It is different for every person. I was normal within a week, my sister took a month to fully recover.
Before, they usually give you an IV, oxygen, and a blanky. It gets cold, lol.
During, you'll probably be asleep.
After, you'll probably feel groggy, and your mouth will be numb. Just get lots of rest and fluids. Apply ice packs often for the first 48 hours, then heat packs after. You'll have swelling (peaks on day 2 or 3) and bruising. But nothing too horrible.
I had an IV that made me sleep. That's probably what they'll give you.
They will keep it open. I don't quite remember how...
Salt water rinses are good. They should be stitched up though, so not too many worries. Also, get a small squirt syringe thing, to help clean it.
Try yogurts, drinkable soups, anything you can manage, really. Soft pastas and rice may be good.
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When I would sit in the tub for like 30-60 minutes, I would notice that the water would get gritty and then I would rub my skin and it would come off!!!!!! Then there was a lot of DIRT or something on the sides or the tub when I got out, is this normal!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Thanks in advance for helping me (IF YOU DECIDE TO BE RUDE THEN I WON'T EVEN RATE YOU!!!!) (link)
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It may be dead skin. So don't worry to much.
If it bugs you, buy a bar of exfoliating soap. It should clear away the dead skin.
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ok i think something is wrong with my vagina, it itches and kinda burns i take like 2 showers a day an always change my panties or thongs wich ever i chose to wear ive never been sexually active well not really and when i pee sometimes it burns and other time it doesn't and i dont' pee opsesivly if that helps any i really need helpmy b-day is 2morow and im gonna do something special so please im beg'n u please help me ill give you a high rating if you really help
thanx (link)
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You may have an infection. Go to the doctor.
And drink cranberry juice. It may help.
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On Xxrocker's column page, I posted a huge question about this girl who I was friends with, but had a crush on. I asked how to tell her that I like her. Well, now, I've told her, and she sent me a huge long email, where every other word was "sorry", and that she liked me as a friend, didn't want to break the friendship, I'm the coolest guy she's ever met, etc. etc. etc.
I tried to shrug it off, I e-mailed her saying that I really didn't care, I was just wondering, all that jazz. Only problem is, ever since I got one girlfriend, I've developed a need for them in my life. I'm really scrrewed up now, I keep thinking about her... I need her... or someone... only problem is, there's no one else! My only other girlfriend ever was online, and she's never on anymore! I'm kinda messed up now, even more than I had been when I thought she liked me.... Everyone was sure that she liked me and had been flirting with me all year, I shoulda accepted their bets.
Fellow advicenators, what should I do? (link)
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She might develop feelings later. Just be friends! ^^
Talk to more people! You'll meet someone.
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Me and my boyfriend went to the movies last week. Just me and him. (link)
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He just wanted it.
Be glad he left now, before anything happened.
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It was my week to feed the dog and I totally forgot because I got so caught up on going to a a carnival thing where "famous" people were going. I kept getting out of the house with my friends looking for good clothes and stuff like that, you know getting ready. So I TOTALLY forgot about the dog and left the poor thing with no food. I know it was my fault but I didnt want to get grounded from going so I blamed it on my brother. I told my mom that we switched weeks and we didnt. My brother will not talk to me because hes grounded for the rest of the month since the dog is sick. And it really sucks because its summer! Well I want to tell my mom that it was really my week but I dont know if I should. I am driving myself INSANE over this. Please helppp!!
Britt (link)
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Tell her!
And maybe invest in a dish for your dog that automatically dispenses food. As the dog eats, it puts more food.
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I used a semi permanent hair color, pink, on my already lightened blonde hair. The pink turned out looking really bad, and I dont want to wait a month to get rid of the color (plus i need to look for a job, and that color wouldnt look very professional) I have no money, so going to a professional, even just going out and buying a 10 dollar stripping solution, is unfortuatly, out of the question. Are there any at home remidies to get rid of it? Ive already tried washing my hair with clarifying shampoo 6 times, and it really hasent done much. Any help will be much appreciated! (link)
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Peroxide can bleach it...
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14/f Ok so i have nothing to do this summer and I've been riding my bike to K-mart and stealing. I know its wrong, but its k-mart. I got some thongs---my mom don't let me wear them so i pissed her off and some hair dye which pissed her off even more. But i want something better to do with my summer besides a life of crime. Any suggestions? (link)
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Reading and writing is good. Or video games.
Maybe try learning a new skill? Try cooking, painting, anything you'd like.
Don't steal. Even if it is K-mart. There are better things to do.
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okay well my friends birthday is coming up... shes turnin 16... but her birthdays a a suprise! so i really need ideas for what to get her... her parents are gonna buy her a car i kno... and her bff is buying her a really really expensive jacket... so what are some ideas!! please help! thanks... ill rate (link)
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Get a gift to remind her of your friendship. If there is a movie you two like to watch, or a song you like to sing, get it for her!
Um, aside from that, not too many ideas... Perhaps more info on her likes/dislikes would help?
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i want to make a shirt for my best friend, because her birthday is comin up... shes very religious and i want to put some sort of quote on it...so does anybody kno any short bible verses, or religious quotes?? thanks for your help!! (link)
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1 Timothy 4:12
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity.
This is one I always liked.
Look online for ideas. Biblegateway.com has a searchable bible, so you can find the perfect verse. Then pick a picture that matches it.
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(FOR THE LADIES)
What could a guy do to get your attention and make you feel like the most special girl in the world? (link)
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Random gifts are good. Just little things out of nowhere.
Tell a girl she is pretty, cute, or beautiful. Never say hot or sexy. Those are okay sometimes, but can make a girl feel insulted, so best not to risk it.
Give her hugs!
Talk about her in front of friends. Brag about her, show her off. Be proud of her. But not just looks. All of it. If she's smart, talk about that. If she's artistic, talk about that.
If he's already close with her, a kiss on the forehead is very innocent and sweet.
Sing to her. Girls love that. ^^
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Ok so Im a 14/f. I've had 2 boyfriends. I didnt do anything with either one except i like cuddled and held hands with one of them. I know its not a big deal, and I feel like im being left out, yet its my fault. My first ex is really into like hooking up and stuff. Even though we're not together, he wants to makeout with me like all the time. I think I still like him, and Im going to be hanging out with him and some other guy friends in a few days. The problem is that im too scared to makeout but at the same time, im not. I want to, im just scared that I wont be good at it. And i know im going to have a hard time getting myself to actually go through with it. Is there any way I can signal to him that I just want to kiss him, and not makeout? Without actually speaking the words to him? Thanks everyone, sorry its long. (link)
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Maybe start with small pecks, just to let him know you want to take things slowly. You can move forward from there. But if you don't want to make out, then just don't. If he tries to go there, stop, and tell him you don't want to. He should respect that.
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ok here is the thing....
i went to my boyfriends house the other night and did somethings i have never done before and then he went and told his sister(my best friend) and then broke up with me....
what can i do to feel better about this and to get him not to be mad at me and to keep him talkin to me.....
i really like this guy alot........
so dont tell me to quit talkin to him
please and thank you.....
~kashia
:( i wish i could die (link)
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It sounds like you were used/
Tell him off, and get a new, better guy.
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you see iv liked this girl for a few weeks and she means the world to me..she knows i like her A LOT but i mean iv never felt this way about someone but the problem is like i dont really think we EVER have a chance going out because shes like more a friend and she doesnt like me anymore than a friend can someone tell me what to do ? (link)
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Talk to her! Maybe she will develop feelings for you?
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sigh, why does life suck so much? Literally, i've been backstabbed and bullied on when i was a kid in grade school, first year university now... I still can't learn to trust and am so paranoid around people. Um, i'm in a situation where I hate relationships, how troublesome they are, where I feel like I want to be with some girls but the feeling of being crushed... again ...prevents that so I stay alone, and remain alone just considering people as friends and being close. Sure it's a blast but the whole thing drives me insane. I don't know, like a lot of the girls i've actually had some feeling for, before it develops I always push them away, finding how who they like or encouraging them when they think they've found someone (if they're a good person) :/ ... though I laugh, smile, and joke about these things, I really don't want them to go and it always drives me insane. This is killing me so much and not to mention my friendship with a few people is failing horribly. Again I feel betrayed and destroyed, I just got backstabbed again which just KILLS. Yeah well what to do, how can I learn to trust again? This feeling is so heavy on my heart it makes me suffocate and kills me to the point I find myself shaking my head and going crazy. (link)
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As my friend Nick once put it, "If the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off."
Just relax! You've had some tough luck. But if you like a girl, tell her! The worse that could happen is she says know and you move on.
I know it can be hard. If you are in any way religious, pray about it. God will help.
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Ever since I was a little kid, for some reason, no one respected me. From 3rd-8th grade people made fun of me non stop. My 3rd and 5th grade teachers hated me, and many of my 7th and 8th grade teachers hated me too. From 9th-11th grade, people made fun of me "just kidding around" whenever I am with my friends they don't treat me with respect. The only real friend I have right now is my sister, and tonight for some reason she didn't want to hang out with me tonight, but she did want to hang out with her other friend. That is the last straw. I really don't know what to do. I am so lonely, and I am such a nice person! I have never had a boyfriend and I just feel like my childhood is being flushed down the drain. Due to people constantly making fun of me, I have ABSOLUTELY no confidence to go out and meet new people. I just don't know what to do anymore, I can't go on like this. I need to be a normal 17 year old girl. Can someone help? (link)
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Maybe you need new friends?
Try praying about it. God can do much more than we can.
With that said, maybe talking to others online can help build your confidence? Find a good message board/forum and just talk. They people there only know you as you present yourself, so be who you truly feel you should be! These people will know you and love you for who you are. Then maybe your confidence will carry over.
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I know i'm a dumb ass cause I don't do anything about it really... and this moral thing seems like an excuse. LIke everyone else I carry on with my life ignoring these things. These things i'm talking about are the people constantly dying around the world. Mainly all the bastards killing people, rapists... pedophiles, robbers, thieves, molestors, child-killers... parents who beat their child for no reason, people who harm other people for no reason... ugh these people, I want them all dead and I also ask why God would allow such an evil to exist as this kind. My answer to this is what i've heard before, God does not interfere in our lives, he cannot perform miracles all the time and just come down and slay all those people. So therefor God created everything and merely watches us, and when we die, we return to him. So I continue to thank my blessings and all the good thigns and good people in the world, but i've stopped really believing if I pray to God for good things or to help the O-zone layer or enlighten people it will happen. What's the point, he cannot interfere in our lives, he chooses not to and its understandable considering he's God. Anyways-- my morals are breaking. I find myself going crazy especially those bastards that make my life miserable. In my high school and grade school there were these people that constantly tormented me for no reason, even made me snap and start getting violent in grade school... then burst out in tears on my first day in a new school, new city. I'm believing to not give a shit about whether what I do is wrong or not, i'm tired of this fuckign bullshit about jail or w/e i'll kill the cops then myself for all I care as long as I take down my enemies and as much of those wretched bastards in the world. I know i'm possibly not capable of such a thing as this mass murder, i'm not that strong, but seriously i'm going crazy with all this shit and all these social problems, friends backstabbing, relationships gone wrong, physical illness is consuming my life as well now and possibly cancer, but that's an uncertainty. I don't want to die with a frown, and hating the world which has destroyed me. My family knows nothing because everyday im smiling and happy, my true friends know nothing because im always smiling and happy. Im the energetic bastard that runs around like he is on crack, willing to try new things and cracking up jokes 24/7 yet it hurts so fucking much especailly the fact that i'm unable to truly trust people. This girl.. I can't get into a relationship with her, I want to, but everytime I think about it I always feel wrong. My dreams, if involve her, I remembre them all they usually involve us being together and her cheating on me, or something happening of that sort. I cannot rest in peace and it would be best if I had no exist because this is just killing me so much, it hurts, it hurts so. Yet I cannot kill myself, for one reason and one reason only, not only have I not made up to my family whom I love and cherish as my treasure. I haven't done so well in school, of lack of motivation and sheer laziness but that's changing slwoly. I want to impress my family, live up to their kindness and efforts to raise a good successful child, and make them proud and happy before they meet their end. To make money and settle any fees they have and just make their lives good, to have children and hope they do not share the same wretched fate as me. Oh woes me, I am wretched in the inside, my mind? It dreams of death and perverted incidents with some of my friends whom I care about and want to be with yet I cannot bring myself to admit my liking to them. Destroy me, free me, yet if that is so I will never be able to repay my family for being the only people who I can assure trust in. If they were to fail me as well.. I don't know what I'd do. (link)
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God gave people free will. Unfortunately, many people choose not to do the right things. But many more do! Also, God loves all of us, even the bad ones, so no, he won't just kill them off. If your kids did stupid things, you wouldn't kill them. Same with God.
But most people aren't bad! We all have our flaws, but not trusting anyone hurts more in the long run that trusting people. Heck, you can even trust us random strangers! ^^
A lot of the people who do wrong things also have mental issues. They aren't of their right minds. Some were abused themselves, and are unaware how to do anything else.
Just pray about it. Miracles come in strange places, but you have to ask for them. Start small, but keep working at it.
Tell your friends and family what you feel. They will help you! They love you no matter what you are going through, and I'm sure they'd like to help.
If you wish to repay your family, seek help if you need it.
Never forget this: Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
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