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Not to dump or to dump and how.
Gender: male Age: 16
Me and my gf havent exactly been getting along we cant talk much it neva works, we hug sometimes, and we dont do anything else either because there was a problem and we said we'd work it out but obviously not and im a shy guy and i get pretty depressed often and today one of her friends(also friend of mine) told me my gf wants me to stop me getting into depressive moods and make more of an effort to make the first moves or she will dump me. And then her friend also told me that she also liked another 2 guys and she things my gf is just using me.
But when i was 1st goin out with her i have neva been as happy and im not sure i wanna give up on her and thus lose that happiness.
What do u think? am i just being stupid?
and if u think i should dump her please tell me.
How?
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Dump her without a doubt. Don't ever let a girl walk over you.
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Ok. here's what I think, it's your girlfriend's friend that told you that your girlfriend was seeing 2 guys and using you.They might be lieing Try talking to her on the phone. Try talking to her whenever you see her. Invite her to your house sometimes and talk to her. If you see something suspicious then, just dump her because if your girlfriend really likes you then she wouldnt do this to you. If your girlfriend's friend tells you another story about your girlfriend that's bad, that's probably because because the girlfriend wants to break up with you because if those poeple are really your girlfriend's friends, they would do bad stuff her, so probably your girlfriend planned this. I'm not sure. Just try talking to her an see what happens. Tell me what happens.
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I think you should dump her. Tell her you know about the other two guys, and you don't want to be a pawn in her twisted little game. She should get the point. Also, then try to feel better. Do some things with your friends and just hang out, because you don't want to become actually depressed. It sucks, trust me.
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just try talking to her tell her why your getting depressed and exlain that your getting bored that you never do anything and tell her that it seems like a waste of time and if she doesn't get her act together then your gonna break up with her
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okay. you said that when you 1st went out that yoou were happy...but are you happy now? Are you happy with not doing alot of things with her? you said you were going to work it out but you havent. i think that you should break up with her. Because, you dont seem every happy with her right now...and there are sooooo many other girls out there. Not just her...and there's some one who will treat you better than that.
Hope i helped,
SAM
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lets start from this her friends might be lying to you about how she likes two other guys and shes using you
you should call her up and talk to her tell her how you feel about the relationship tell her you dont see this going anywhere
if nothing happens after that then maybe you should consider breaking up its not fair to her or you that you two are not happy and you guys should just get to know other people
hope that helps if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
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okay her friends might be lying to you. maybe they dont think shes right for you and they dont want you to go out anymore. you should talk to the girl and se whats goin on. no lies. and if she says some stuff you dont like just say its over. when the time comes it might seem a more challenging but if you really have to do it then you will... but dont go on too long like this... cuz then youll get depressed and bad stuff like that.
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You are totally not being stupid. You have every right to be conserned about whats going on in your relationship. Find out the truth from your girlfriend.About the first moves, if she wants, she should do the first moves if shes so worried about it. You really should talk to your girlfriend about all of this. I'm not sure if you should dump her, when you find the true facts about how she feels, and if the things your friend said are true, then i would suggest only being friends with your gf. Good Luck!
~Brina~
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Well, since things seem like their not working out, just call her up one day and just say, "(her name), I don't think things are working out and I think things would be better if we didn't go out anymore"
But you can't really say that its her that's making you totally happy. Because if she is the only thing that makes you happy, then what's the point of doing anything else besides being with her?
I hope this helped.
X_Amanda_X
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Firstly, you should never totally depend on someone for happiness. That's a no-no. Especially when you're a teenager, as inevitably, teenage relationships don't last forever. Don't just stay with her because you're relying on her for happiness. In the long run, it'll probably do you more harm than good. =/
As for dumping her.. well, it doesn't sound like things are working out, but you could give it one more try and have a serious talk with one another, discuss what's wrong with the relationship and try and work through it. Tell her that you can't control your depressive moods, it's ridiculous she wants you to stop being depressed. If she can't accept you for who you are, then the relationship is pretty messed up anyway. As for her friend telling you that she's using you, I can't exactly see what she could be using you for if you don't do anything. I doubt she's using you. I don't know if she's liked other guys, but give her the benefit of the doubt. Her friend could be lying because she's jealous or just wants to stir things up.
Good luck.
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If you are getting depressed to the point you are losing relationships because of it you need to see your doctor. You can get medication that will help with your depression. Once you are getting help for your problem you may be able to get the girlfriend to give you another chance. Depression is rough for those who suffer from it. It is also rough on those around them who would like to help but are unable to. It is frustrating to say the least. Talk to your parents and go visit your doctor about it. :)
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The thing you need to ask yourself is are you happy with her now and if no, is it something that can be fixed.
If you're getting depressed quite often, it might be time for you to talk to someone about getting help for the depression. So many relationships fall apart because someone with depression refuses to get help. I've listed some common signs of depression below so you can see if you fit.
-Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood
-Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
-Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
-Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex
-Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down"
-Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
-Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
-Appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain
-Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
-Restlessness, irritability
-Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain
Since your gf also mentioned you making the first move more, you're going to have to overcome the shyness or at least put it aside. Girls like romance and it seems to me that is part of the problem. The following sites have literally thousands of romantic tips to try.
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If you do decide to dump your girlfriend and I'm assuming you don't want to hurt her, try to do it gently. Tell her that your depression is something that you need to deal with, and it would not be fair to ask her to wait. Make sure you make it clear that it's nothing she has done to cause the break-up.
I hope this helps. Good luck with your girlfriend.
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Watch and wait. Don't be too suspicious, it may be nothing, but don't be naive either.
Maybe you should seek professional help for the depression...
If you are still unsure about this relationship with your gf, maybe you should break it off. Don't burn your bridges, in case it was nothing, but maybe some time to yourselves will help?
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