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Semi-breakup, huge crush =(
On Xxrocker's column page, I posted a huge question about this girl who I was friends with, but had a crush on. I asked how to tell her that I like her. Well, now, I've told her, and she sent me a huge long email, where every other word was "sorry", and that she liked me as a friend, didn't want to break the friendship, I'm the coolest guy she's ever met, etc. etc. etc.
I tried to shrug it off, I e-mailed her saying that I really didn't care, I was just wondering, all that jazz. Only problem is, ever since I got one girlfriend, I've developed a need for them in my life. I'm really scrrewed up now, I keep thinking about her... I need her... or someone... only problem is, there's no one else! My only other girlfriend ever was online, and she's never on anymore! I'm kinda messed up now, even more than I had been when I thought she liked me.... Everyone was sure that she liked me and had been flirting with me all year, I shoulda accepted their bets.
Fellow advicenators, what should I do?
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If you are that desperate to get a girl get your name out! talk to any girls that you can dont be shy just get out there and conversate man! Girls will never know you are there unless you make yourself stand out. Try to smooth talk a girl do some stuff that you enjoy to do and try to get your mind off of this huge crush of yours. forget about her and find someone new and fresh! Good Luck. hope you find that someone! you can do it, just try your hardest
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Dont just focus on her there are other grls out there for you and you never kno this grl might like you later on ! Hope i helped !!
kaitlyn jO*
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look. you're either going to have to show that girl how much yoyu care and NOT SOUND DESPERATE. cause thats a turn-off for girls ORR. your gonna have to move on with your life, if she REALLY doesnt like you as more then a friend then its not something that she can learn. liking sokmebody is a feeling not something taught. my advice:: try to show her how much you really care and remember not to sound desperate.
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Keep your friendship with this girl, first of all. Friends are some of the most important people in your life, and they'll be there for you through breakups, and other things that you can't share with anyone else.
Now, for this friend of yours. (I'm going to call her Jane.) When Jane says that she cares about you as a friend, she really means it. I can tell you a bit of what she probably felt when she found out. She really, really didn't want to hurt you, but just didn't see you as a boyfriend, and she didn't know how to tell you. She probably stressed over it for a while, and finally decided that the best way to tell you so that she could get all her thoughts out was by email. I'm a girl (as you've probably guessed), and this happened between myself and a friend very recently. Apparently my best friend had really strong feelings for me, but I just didn't see him as a boyfriend, because he just wasn't quite what I was looking for. he's having a really hard time getting over it (like you) and I just wish that he could see how much that hurts to know that I hurt him. He's my best friend, and I trust him with anything and everything. I love him to death, and would turn to him with anything or be there for him through anything. Sometimes it's better to have a friend for that, and I don't know what I'd do without him. So honestly, I'm guessing Jane really values your friendship, and she wants to be there for you and visa versa, but she's looking somewhere else for love right now.
now, about your dependency on having a girlfriend. Try to realize that while it can be nice to have someone there for you in the 'girlfriend' sense, there's a few things you have to get straight before anything's going to work out. First, you have to know who you are. Not completely, we're all still searching at this age, but make sure you're not lost, and that you're comfortable with the person that you've become. Trust me, a girl is going to like a guy if they truly have something unique about themselves, and their personality. Know what those things are. Next, you have to see that getting a girlfriend just to have someone there shoudn't be what it's about. If you're genuinely interested in another person, and what they think about and feel, and their hopes, dreams, fears, their perspective on life, and if you truly have a desire to know every detail of this person, you know that you truly like them. Wait it out until you find that person where you just smack yourself and say "That's her."
Good luck, hope this helps.
:) Nevaeh
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She might develop feelings later. Just be friends! ^^
Talk to more people! You'll meet someone.
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Wait it out and maybe she'll come to her senses. If you want a girlfriend, go and meet new people. Someday the right girl will come. Just a matter of time. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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aww i*m sry, well she sounds like she*s a nice girl so don*t like just leave her alone, but try not to talk to her as much because she will prolly continue to lead you on, which is always hard in the end. Now you're saying there's no1 else but hun it*s summer!! for now be single and just have fun when school starts meet new people, don*t go looking for a "lover" start out looking for a friend which normally turns into a relationship. However bout online girlfriends.. not always a good choice, i don*t think it*s worked out n they never turn out as good as you*d like them too! If you absolutely need sum1 now.. which you don*t but you prolly feel like you do, look around at pools, just be outgoing! if you have anymore questions just im me.. crazlilchelc152! hope i helped xoxo <3 chelsea
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Hun, everyone been through what you are going through. A lot of people have gotten their hearts broken, especially when it's one of their first crushes. Don't give up on love just because of one girl, get yourself out there and try to find a girlfriend. Don't be shy about asking girls out, the worse they can do is turn you down, but hey, everyone get's turn down once in a while. Even though, don't let this get you down. Maybe you could go on some blind dates. Get your friends to set you up with some girls and see where it goes from there. You could also ask some of your friends (that are girls), to the movies and see if something sparks up. As for this girl that turned you down, maybe you should keep on trying. If you feel like she's special, don't give up; it might be something worth fighting for. And you never know, she might realize that she has feelings for you and will change her mind. You never know with girls. Just be there for her when she needs you and be sweet and caring. Show her that you like her and you never know, something may just happen.
♥ Krissy
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If you stop looking for love..it will find you. Enjoy the time you have by yourself because when you get a girlfriend everything changes. Enjoy being single..and live life to the fullest. And, if you happen to find love along the way..good. But if not, your time will come..
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awww...babe! lol it's ok. honestly, she'll come around...b/c usually, its the girl that likes her close guy friend. so, eventually, she'll realize what a good boyfriend you would make...tell you that she likes you, and TA DA-you go out!
if you really feel the need for a girlfriend...then you just have to put yourself out there. don't be all shy and embarrassed to ask girls out and talk to them and get to know them. the worst that could happen is that they turn you down...but hey-you need to have experiences like this...because then if it ever happens with someone that you really care about and like A LOT, it won't be so bad...(if that makes any sense)
well thats all the advice for now, but if you need more, IM me on x0mrm0x, and i'll try to help you more!
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