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so my boyfriend and i are (or were?) pretty much perfect for each other. we got in little fights here and there but they never lasted more than a day, i think it was healthy fighting, every relationship has them. over february break, he went on a cruise and i was stuck home missing him like crazy. now that he's home i've been getting really irratated by him, i mean really really irritated. and our phone conversations went from us talking for 6 or 7 hours to us hardly being able to hold a coversation for an hour. idk if it's just me or if our relationship is starting to lose the sparkle it had only 2 weeks ago. please someone tell me something i could do to better our relationship. i know i'm sounding a tad bit melodramatic but, i don't want to lose him :(
Hey =]
Let me start off by saying, this happens in most relationships, it's quite normal... About the irritation, you need to analyze why you're getting irritated. Is it because you don't have control over him, because he does things you tell him not to like touch the chair(lol sorry for the crappy example)? Ehh sometimes we get bored with our boyfriends and/or girlfriends, it's up to both partners to spice up the relationship though, so you're right... About the phone convos, I can't help you there lol some days my bf and I talk for hours.. others just for a couple minutes.. Maybe it has to do with the amount of time you spend talking to each other or being with each other (?) ... I guess you can talk about way back when ya'll met eachother.. the cute little things ya'll would do.. and so on.. and maybe that will give you and him ideas on what to do now.. Maybe you miss a certain nickname he used to call you, or a certain way he would look at you... Just think back on the good times, I'm pretty sure you guys love eachother. Good luck!
Flirty =]
Im gonna try to keep this short and simple even though its probably going to be long. Im 17/f and hes 16/m. Hes shy, and Im shy sometimes but not really. Hes really sweet, and always likes to be the good guy, and never wants to hurt anyone. I started dating him in august. I took him for granted and tried to act like I didnt care (to make him want me). It was stupid, I know. So, about two months later he broke up with me. He said it was because he 'never got to see me, our relationship sucked,(he only put it like that after I had been really rude to him) and it cant always be about him making the first move.' (I never made any moves because he seemed like a goodie goodie and I thought it was just going to take awhile) And I agree with him. But I completely freaked out. I wanted to go back in time so bad. He said we could maybe give it another try later. But I said no. His friend called me a week or so later, to tell me my ex supposedly wanted me back and wanted to hang out. But nothing ever happened. Me and my ex talked occasionally through text messages but never saw each other. Sometimes I would freak out on him and be mean, but it was only because I wanted him to ask me to do something, but I never told him that. I went all those months trying to let go, but I never could. Now, when we talk, Im really nice, but Im starting to think its just pushing him more away. Ive been through this before, but its just different this time. I was crazy about him the whole time we dated, and I was so happy to have him, but I never let him know that. Eventually (in late October) I ran into him at this thing in our town. He was walking towards me but I got mad and looked the other way so he just walked past. Then I got my friend to go ask him why he didnt talk to me. Again, stupid, I know. He told him 'tell her I still love her and for her to come talk to me.' But heres the thing, he had his arm around some chick while he said it. So I was just like gah whatever, and I left. Not because of him, but just to go to my friends house, but I left without talking to him. Then the next day he texted me, and we had a good conversation, and he asked me why I didnt want to talk to him, and he told me he still loved me. And I said it back. Then we quit talking. Then it was just like nothing really. We had a few more awkward text conversations every now and then, and then he eventually got a girlfriend. (January) A few days after they had been dating, he texted me for the first time in forever. He told me it wasnt working out with her. And he asked me if I had dated anyone recently. I told him no. Then we talked a little about stupid crap, and then it ended. Then I found out he broke up with her the next day. And we havent talked since. Then about a month passed, and yesterday, (February) I found out that he has another girlfriend. Shes only fourteen but she seems sweet. I dont know what to do. I cant keep pretending like I dont care, when I think about him all day everday. He really has no reason to take me back, because I acted so stupid around him, he doesnt really know the real me. I cant tell him that though, I dont like making excuses. What can I do? I really dont want to let this go, thats what Ive been doing for months. I think its time to make a move. It would be best if I 'ran into' him somewhere, but we dont go to the same school, and I never know where he'll be. I just dont know what else to do.
Hi there
Well to be honest, your actions have pushed him away completely... Let this be a life lesson, to never act immature again.. Because the way you were acting was immature. Sorry to say it that way. If you want to let him know how you feel, let him know, but don't go into anything crazy, because remember, he now has a gf... My only advice is act more mature, think about the consequences of your actions, and let him know how you feel. That way, he won't think youre feeling the opposite of what you really feel. Sometimes us girls want guys to be so romantic and forgiving when we are at our most bitchiest moments... but think about it... Would you try to be nice with him when he's being very mean to you? If you told him you still love him, and he just walked away or never looked you in the face again, how would you feel? Good luck, and I hope next time around you take all this into consideration :)
Flirty
Well i have a slight conpusion with my sexuality and feel really attracted to me best friend who is a girl. Problem is i am a girl, her best friend, and she has a bf. wat do i do? she told me after i realized i liked her, that she was bisexual. this suprised me but she just doesn't feel the same way. should i tell her about my feelings
Hey :)
I say, go for it! She's bi, but has a bf.. Talk with her about your feelings.. and see what she says.. But you also have to be careful with her bf... If her bf is fine with his gf dating another girl.. then great! You gotta know what you want in life, you know? Good luck!
Flirty :)
I broke up with my crazy boyfriend for a really nice guy. I'm 17, about to be 18. I do school online and got laid off from my job and it seems like i'm never happy. My boyfriend is soo great but he dated my good friend so now her and her best friend hate me and i was good friends with them both so that makes me really upset.
Usually we just hang out in my room and i yell at him about EVERY little thing he does and i can't even help it. IDK what to do! i'm ALWAYS bored even if he's here and i won't even go to his house anymore because i get too bored. I feel so bad because he treats me soooo good and im mean to him a lot and yell at him for everything.
What can i do to be happy? How can i stop being mean to him?
Hey =]
Well about the yelling thing, yeah that has to stop before he gets fed up with it.. I would suggest looking deeper into what things is he doing to upset you? Why do they upset you? And what can he do instead of that...
Which brings me to topic number 2: Boredom and replacing it lol. What do you like doing? Maybe you can be the person to make the first move, he's not a mind reader, so let your wants and needs be known :P ... Ask him to go bowling... go wherever you wanna go, do whatever you wanna do... Maybe it can be one week his, one week yours, and so on.
Put yourself in his shoes, how would you like it if he yelled at you for every little thing you did? If you think about it before being mean to him, you'll understand and stop... Also, for the sake of the relationship... If you like/love this guy.. and don't want the relationship to sink... Do it for love. Change :)
Flirty
Hi :) 16/F
So I'm in my first relationship ever, and it's going great.
There's just one problem, and it's becoming more and more of an issue.
Before I go on, my boyfriend loves me, and I know he does. He doesn't mean to offend me and I'm sure he doesn't realise what he's doing, and that's part of the problem.
He seems to talk about other girls, a lot. Now, I really don't care if he talks to other girls, or befriends them. It's his life, he can do whatever he likes. HOWEVER, he talks about them in a very...explicit manner.
He will constantly tell me about girls he wants to have sex with, girls he wanted to have sex with in the past, and girls he regretted he didn't have sex with.
It makes me feel pretty insecure, am I not good enough? Firstly, I know guys have these sorts of thoughts naturally, and I have no problem with that. Really, I don't. Just because he's going out with me, doesn't mean they will go away. I just find it disrespectful he will tell this to ME out of all people. I don't care if he says this stuff to his friends, I just don't want to hear it.
He also rang me up today to complain about his porn collection being lost. It wasn't even a "Hahaha my porn collection got lost :P" it was a full on bitch session.
I know, I know, why am I telling you guys how much this bothers me instead of him.
Well, I have 2 questions.
1. am I just being jealous, or is he doing something wrong? As I said, he can talk to girls for all I care. I just find it disrespectful he tells me how much he wants to do stuff with certain girls to me. How would you feel if you're cuddling with your boyfriend and then he suddenly goes on about how much he wish he had sex with his ex's sister? :S I'm pretty sure I'm not being ridiculous, I just want an opinion before I do anything else
2. It's being going on for too long, and I'm stupid for not saying anything sooner. I know. But because it's bothered me for so long, it's embarrassing to say anything now. At first I thought he was joking, and it wasn't very often. But as our relationship went on and we saw each other more often, it happened more often...anyway, I'm just letting it slide because
a) I don't want to sound jealous and insecure to him. I'm not jealous, it just makes me feel...weird.
b) Because it's been going on for so long he'll make a big deal out of it and ask why I didn't tell him sooner. I don't want it to be a big deal, all I want from him is to stop
c) I've been thinking about dumping him over it, that's how much it upsets me. But I can't dump him before I tell him the reason, and give him a chance to fix it.
So in short? How can I let my boyfriend know how much this bothers me without sounding jealous, and not sounding ridiculous I've let him do it for so long even though it really upsets me?
All my friends want me to dump him because he does it and doesn't even realise, but I have to let him know so he has the chance to fix it.
Hey =]
Answer number 1- You can be jealous, but you honestly have a full right to be jealous. What he's doing is wrong. It's disrespect.. I mean, obviously he hasn't matured (no offense)... You are doing nothing wrong with the way you are feeling, don't ever doubt it. And if you ever go off on him, it was his fault for acting this way with you..
Answer number 2- Although you have let it slide for a while, it's never too late to tell someone how you feel, especially in a case like this... Speak up! You have a right and opinion just like everyone else does, and if you let this slide.. and don't speak up.. imagine what other types of situations may arise from you not taking action =/ you know? I suggest you talk to him... If he doesnt get it... or change.. dump him. Seriously... Sometimes people don't know what they have till it's gone.
In short- You can let him know but sitting down with him somewhere quiet... private. No giggles obviously... have to be straightforward and STAND your ground! If he says you sound ridiculous, well you know what? He's ridiculous for hurting his gf who loves him so much this way. If you're putting up with this, and seeking ways to fix it, you love him, because any other would have done the same back to him... basically getting no where.
Good luck hun!
Flirty =]
well so im 14, turning 15 really soon. i do not look my age at all. i look atleast 17. anyways theres this guy. i met him and he said he was 19, and i really started liking him and stuff, but later on i did find out that he really is 27, he has his reasons to lie about his age but i dont want to get into it. and i just found out his real age the other day, it shocked me to death the first day, second day pretty weird, but today im totally over it and still really like him. and we had a talk last night about us being together and me soon moving in with him when im able to move out. he still doesnt know that i know hes 27, he cant know i know, long story. but is it wrong to be in love with a 27 year old when your only 14 years old? =/
I say, it's not wrong to love anyone.. It's better to have loved than to not love at all... that type of stuff... BUT.. I don't recommend continuing or starting a relationship with this guy.. Believe me, right now, you may think he's awesome.. So sweet, so kind, everything.. But you gotta understand he's experienced many things in life, after all, he's much older than you.. Be careful with this =/ I really wouldn't encourage a relationship though... Also, he may have his reasons, but don't you think it's wrong to have lied to someone about their age? I don't think it's fair for him to lure you into thinking he's around your age range... seems a little fishy.. Especially if he tells you he wants to keep this on the down low, etc etc. Try not to do anything drastic... like run away with him, or let him convince you to do anything. Even if he says something like Oh i'm gonna go visit you or something... Noo... Good luck hun, we all mean the best for you.
Flirty
17/f
Is it possible to build a worthwhile relationship with a "ladies' man?" What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He seems to know all of the right things to say and do but sometimes doesn't seem genuine. Thanks!
Hey =]
Well a ladies man is exactly what you describe.. knows how to sway the ladies with his words.. What typically goes wrong with this type of guy? He might be super confident with himself (which is not bad but over the top is) that he will most likely flirt with other girls, talk and get close and friendly with em, possibly, if he's into it, go out with other girls behind your back... It is possible building a relationship with a ladies man, and yes, people can change, but I would keep an eye on him, things don't change so quickly. be careful =]
Flirty
I'm 16 years old , Female . Well I fell in love at the age of 14 [ don't care if anyone thinks it's too young ] . Me and my first love Dated for a year and 3 months . We broke up summer of O8' June 1st , and best believe it was the hardest thing I thinkk i've had to go through . Well In November I started dating this guy named Jason , treats me better than any guy ever has ... Well I do love him and believe I am in love with him. Problem though , It's so hard getting over Justin [ first love ] & it sucks because i'm the first girl Jason [ current bf ] has ever been " in " love with . Y'all it's almost been a year since the break up with Justin & I really need to get over him but I know it takes time ... But I feel horrible bc I can't give my whole heart to Jason when I still feel as if Justin has some of it but I have all of Jason's heart ... It would'nt be that hard if Justin did'nt go to the same school abd I see him everyday . But Jason said he'd wait because i'm worth it but honestly no guy wants to stick around when ur stuck on someone else .. Help me get over Justin , I need to give my all , 100% to Jason , he's the greatest boyfriend i've had .
Hey :)
I agree with Sjack.. When you love someone truly, you will always have the memories, will always have certain things stuck in your head, in general, sometimes these things don't go away. Only advice I can honestly give you is focus on your man... You definitely know that over a period of time, feelings get stronger, bonds become stronger, and hopefully the things about Jason will overcome the things about Justin. Good luck :] just hang in there if you truly love Jason =]
Flirty
i am a 14/f and i was wondering what are some things to do or say when people make fun of you or crack stupid jokes or try to make you feel bad?? like something that will make it seem like i dont care or can laugh along with it rather then something that will make me sound or look bitchy or like a total idiot
I agree! The best way to make people feel stupid is to just walk away, look the other way, pretend like you don't even hear what they are saying or know they are even trying to make fun of you. Just ignore em. They want to provoke you and make you feel bad, just think of the positive things in your life, that they probably don't have. Don't let them get the best of you, always try to be the bigger person. Good luck, and hope they mature sooner lol
Flirty :]
This may seem like a dumb question but i am very ugly. how can i become prettier? if i need to add a picture i will.
Hey there :]
Why do you say you're ugly? We at advicenators don't know who you are, or what you look like, but trust me, everyone has flaws and also good things about themselves. I'm sure you're not ugly, don't be so harsh on yourself. You don't need anyone else's approval, only YOU need to be happy with yourself, because other people have different ideas of what is pretty and what isn't. If you feel there are things that you dislike about yourself, try working on them. Let's say, for example, you don't like the way your eyes look. Make em pop out with some sort of eye liner or eye shadow, and so on. If you need any help, you can always leave a Q in my inbox. Good luck :]
Flirty
im 15/ female
ok this is just a little akward...my boyfriend and i had sex 5 times yesterday and yeah i like it really rough and hard but this morning and today my vag has been really sensitive and sore is this normal? im sure it is but i really don't know.Please help me...
Hey =]
Yes, it's absolutely normal. Think of it this way, you don't do anything down there on the daily or every few hours (I assume), so when you do, it's bound to get sore. Hope you feel better.
Flirty :]
Hi!
I like this guy names Matt. We have been talking on my space recently, and I have been noticing that he has been glancing at me...a couple times during our school week. Do you think he might like me? Is he thinking about me ?I really NEED a confidence boost. I can't talk to him at school...he's a nice guy..I think. It's just so hard for me!!! I like him SO much.. and he knows it. I've told him. How, should I communicate with him threw the day? He changed his 4th period study hall ..that's the only class we had together...because he's and 8th grader...and we don't have gym with each other anymore...because of the new semester . So, what can I do...to gain confidence?? I just always think I don't have a chance...my friends ...say " You never know... he might fall for you ". I REALLY like him... on our Christmas break ...I cried over him ...because I can't talk to him.. and ...I kept thinking that he's to perfect...for me. So, how can I communicate with him...at school ? Do you think he'll talk to me ? Do you think he likes me?
Please, anyone help!
- Teenage + romance = HELL
LOl HI THERE.
So you guys talk on myspace? How about you ask him why he doesn't talk to you in school? Hey, maybe he is just as shy about this as you are.. It's quite easy to make friends on myspace or over a website, because they judge you on what you say, not what you look like or act like.. If you guys are comfortable enough to joke around, why don't ya'll make a plan to hang out or meet up at a mall.. anything. Make a group hangout so it won't feel awkward lol. Maybe talk on the phone? If I were you I would talk on myspace, then gradually talk on the phone, then make a date (as friends) to hang out. Good luck!
basicly im a 17 year old male. and for the past i dont know, 6 months or so, me and this girl have been i guess you could call it dating. i really don't know.lol but anyways, i fell extremely hard for her, i mean with in about 2 months i was in love with this girl. and i still am. but during the first part of jan. we ran into some trouble, and she accussed me of somethings that i flat out didnt do. so we stopped talkin for awhile. she then goes on a cruise w/ her family and from what i understand, meets this dude that shes liked, and yeah, need less to say they start goin out. and i mean she literally i feel, threw me to the curb. didnt call me, didnt say nothin to me, just left me. and I've been pretty friggin well depressed since then. i mean i cant help but think about what all that happened, how it all went down, and how happy she is with this dude. i mean man this sucks. so basicly i just need some guidance, i have really know idea what im goin do. i just want her back. i aint even goin lie. but i also dont wanna get hurt again either. so please help me out here
Hey
I;m sorry to hear this. I understand, it's pretty unfair that you did nothing to deserve what you got. But to be honest, look at it this way. If she dropped this relationship quickly enough to get involved with another guy, she didn't love you as much as she said or as much as you loved her. She didn't care for your feelings, it's wrong on her behalf. I say, you deserve waaaaaay better than this kind of treatment. Let time heal you.. TRUST me it will, it might take a while, might take a little. But just keep your head up. Do something that validates you. Something that makes you happy. Keep yourself busy, good luck!
Flirty
For the last few months, I've had this ricidulous urge to become pregnant (I'm only 16). At first I thought it was a phase but lately all I think about is how wonderful it would be to have a child. I understand how insane this is; I don't have a job, I haven't even finished high school yet and I'm certainly not ready for a baby.
I started birth control 3 months ago and take it religiously but one night I had sex with my boyfriend and for some reason he was freaked out that I would get pregnant. All I could think about was how happy I would be if I was.
I've also had a few dreams about being pregnant and having miscarriages (over the past 6 months-not consistently)
This doesn't seem normal to me and I want these thoughts to stop. I would never do anything intentional to get pregnant so thats not the issue, trying to find a way to stop this crazy idea is what's bothering me. I don't want to be pregnant because of Jamie Lynn Spears or because I'm trying keep my boyfriend around (we have a healthy relationship). Is it a possibility that it could just be hormones and I will get out of this phase? :/ Thanks.
Hey :)
Well to be honest, I've been feeling the same way as you. And I'm proud that you have the maturity to realize you aren't in the position to have a baby. Of course, having a baby is a blessing, but also difficult. You might not get out of this phase, maybe you will, but it's only normal. You're a woman. Do you enjoy children? I mean, you can work at a toddler daycare or something? Babysit? Just keep being mature and realistic about this situation, soon you'll be so busy you will rarely think of getting pregnant, just keep yourself busy :)
FLirty
ok well I've had a crush on this kid and then it turned into me liking him. but from the first time we talked he told me he had a girlfriend and I was ok with that because just being friends with him would be ok for now. but then I one day he told I'd he liked me and then I just thought that he would break up with her for me. he said that he liked me but he likes her alot too. I mean I know were just sophomores in highschool but I don't know. I'm really confused because he's like the nicest guy ever and he doesn't play with girls but I just feel like giving up on this. she's a freshman but he talks to me all the time and tells me I'm cute and that he really wants to hang with me and when I asked him if this was all a joke he said I do like u, let me put it this way if I wasn't dating my gf right now I would be dating you. and I think that means he wants to date me in the near future. but I just don t want to get my hopes up and then he never breaks up with her. I need big time advice on what to do!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!!
Hey there :)
Well my advice to this is just let it go... Don't let him think he can keep you around with just pretty words, stay strong and let him know he can't be complimenting and flirting while having a girlfriend that's pretty unfair. I mean, if they broke up, I guess it's fine to accept his compliments and flirtatious invites, but think about how this will make her feel if she finds out. Also, don't you think he'd do the same to you if you guys went out and he found another girl? =/ Good luck hun
FLirty
I have dry skin around my nose and black dots on it too. how can i fix this?
Hey :)
The black dots are blackheads. One way to take em out (which is how i di it) is using strips from Biore or any brand that are meant to take out blackheads. And for dry skin you can try putting vaseline then patting it dry with a cloth or tissue, or put lotion like aloe vera. Good luck =]
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i broke up with my bf... he is in las vegas for2 weeks and he has only ben there for 2 days... but he spent 200 out of 310 dollars in 24 hours.. and he went to a strip cub by himself. is that a dumb reason? i am eally hut.. he is some amount of miles away from me and i cant do anthing bout it... he knows i cant... so in your opinion would you be that upset to break up with him? thanks
Hey =]
I don't blame you for being upset, I would be too! So you have done nothing wrong... About the breaking up part, how did he react. Was he shocked and now trying to talk it out with you, or is he careless and just lost in his Vegas? That proves whether or not you mean more than strippers in Vegas... I probably would be upset enough to break up with my bf if he did something like that lol... just depends on the way he reacts while he tells me what happened and why he did it. Best of luck to you!
Flirty :)
so i'm looking for a certain duck
cartoon character, and it's not donald duck
or daffy duck, but a less popular duck.
i know it's a random question. but he had a
big forehead and small lips and was maybe yellow or white? but i'm not sure.
okay thanks! (:
I hope this answers your question LOL...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fictional_ducks
I never knew there were so many duckies hehe... Hope you find the one you're looking for
Flirty =]
ok so i know this is bad but ive smoked marijuana at least 25 and i inhale correctly and everything. however, i do not get high. i know someone that has been smoking for 10 years and theyll get sooo baked but i get nothing? is it possible to be immune to marijuana?
I've never tried it, but some people say it's the way you feel before you smoke it that determines how you will feel under the influence. For example, if you're nervous before smoking it, you'll be a paranoid wreck under the influence. So how do YOU feel before smoking it? I'm interested in hearing...
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16/f
my nipples are really lumpy. is that normal or should i see a doctor?
ive had my period a little more than 2 years if that matters...
Hi there :)
If the lumps are tiny, like smaller than a pimple, there's nothing wrong. These are called Montgomery glands according to this website
http://www.007b.com/nipple_gallery.php
You can also go to google and type something like bumps on so and so... good luck. If you're still worried you should go to the doc to clear the problem worries :)
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