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I've had my license for almost a month now and my mom STILL won't let me drive alone! The insurance they pay, the money they spent on drivers ed, and me getting my license were all a complete waste of time and money! What good is all that stuff if I can't use them?
Well, I talked to my mom about it yesterday and she said she'd think about it.
We were out shopping today and on our way home she dropped off a prescription at Walgreens. When we were leaving, she said that I could come pick up the prescription when it was ready, ALONE :D!! Exciting, right?!! NOT!!!
When it was time to pick up the prescription, she said I COULDNT GO! How messed up is that? I mean seriously, if she wasn't going to let me go, then why get my hopes up?? I was all ready to go too.
That just got me so upset it's like I can't even trust her. I would have been okay if she never said that I could go in the first place because I was used to it but when she told me I could go when we were leaving Walgreens, I got so excited.. I told her that she was ridiculous and that she shouldnt change her mind like that and went upstairs. I don't normally talk back to my parents but wouldn't you but really mad? I don't know what to do it pisses me off so much!
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Your parents are just being protective, which I can totally understand. They probably have these visions of you all bloody and mangled in a terrible car wreck that could have been avoided "if only they were there".
Of course every parent has to let go eventually, it is just taking yours a bit longer. I know it's frustrating, especially when you have been waiting for this time of your life since you were a little kid, but try to go along with it. It isn't that they don't trust you, it's that they are terrified. First off, tell them that it isn't fair to get your hopes up about going somewhere and then taking it back- they need to understand how excited you were and how it hurt (again, understand that they were just really scared to let you go on your own). The ask them to let you start small with short trips. Make sure you know what they are worried about so you can alliviate that. Tell them no highways or unfamiliar parts of town, no friends in the car, no loud music, no playing with the radio or putting on make-up, ect while driving. You'll call when you get there- that kind of thing.
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ok like im workin on losing some weight.. and like well i go on my tredmil land its syas like you lost 360 calories or sumtin (just givin a random number) but how do i kno like how many pounds i lost. like how many calories are in a pound of fat or sumtin. or is that like impossible to tell...?? (link)
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3500 calories is one pound (of body mass, which is what you want to loose, not water).
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My friend eats her discharge. Yeah gross- is it healthy? Normal?
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Are you serious? I have never ever heard of this before. I personally find it revolting, but it isn't unhealthy in any way. It's hers after all, she can do whatever she wants with it.
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This is strictly for the women on advicenators to answer. i am a male (21 years old) and I know it is typical of a guy to ask the question i have (in the title), and even more typical to be worried about it. i am not huge, nor am i claiming to be asking for a friend. i am average, maybe more, but i am thick. to make up for the lack of size, i give amazing oral until whomever i'm with reaches orgasm. my question is this; would a girl prefer a guy who is average but can really 'eat', or a guy who is well above average and only 'eats' about average? ( for those women who don't know, average length for a man is from 6-7" ) (link)
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Size does matter, but not much. Actually, I would say that thickness matters more, and technique matters MUCH more. There is a lot you can do even if you happen to only have a little, but if you are huge and can't work it, there is no point at all. I don't know of any woman who judges or makes decisions to date someone over size, but I do know some who will choose to get involved (for strictly sexually reasons) based on awesome technique. That is what it's all about. Everyone is different though. It's like how some guys drool over a woman with huge breasts, but meet an awesome yet flat chested woman and don't want anyone else ever again. Only with men size it isn't about just appearance, it's about what you do with what you have. And you sound like you are doing very well for yourself.
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i took piano lessons when i was 9 years old,and then because the teacher was so strict and i cried after sessions,i quit.and now i wanna study piano again but i don't think my mom would let me.i'll really stick to it,be strong,and work real hard on it.i just wanna learn how to play the piano again....13's not "too late" age,right??how do i convince my mom???tnx in advance (link)
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Just tell her that you want to try again, like you wrote in your question. You could also ask for the lessons as a gift for your birthday, or reward for doing very well in school....or help pay for them with money from babysitting or whatever you do for money.
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any tips an larger lips? (link)
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Victoria's secret lip plumper- and it's on sale this week!
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does eating chiles make your lips bigger? and also not to be vulgar or innapropriate (btw this s simply out of curiosity!) does sucking male genitals make them bigger (i'm trying to put it in as decent a way as i can.) i apologize if you find this innapropriate, but if you do you shouldn't leaving a comment. what with the likliness of karma ya know. (link)
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No neither one is true. Eating chilis might tingle, but you won't notice a difference.
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Okay, so I'm pretty much a hardcore soccer player. I play it often. But my mom is always thinking she knows so much about it, and I tell you she doesn't.
She yells at me for stupid mistakes, for everything that goes wrong in our house, and finds ways to call me a loser, loner, and that I suck at stuff, without actually saying it. She's called me a bitch so many times I couldn't count. But my real question is, is what she doing really abuse?
People have told me it was, but I just don't know anymore. She did physically abuse me ages 7-10, maybe that's why I'm not sure or not. And I've been depressed, at least I think a lot. She's making me want to quit soccer from all the camps and stress. And many of my close soccer friends are scared of that because I'm that one girl on the team who puts on a good additude, never gives up, gives it her all, knows what she needs to fix, and would miss what is important to her just to play. And I also go outside and practice often. And I just can't play well anymore and starting not to love it.
so is it abuse?
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Since I don't know what your definition of abuse in (from age 7-10) I am going to answer this under the assumption that she did not do anything excessive.
The way she talks to you is inappropriate and it obviously has a very negative impact on the way you feel. Depending on how often this occurs, it could possibly be a type of verbal abuse, but that isn't really the issue. The issue is what are you going to do about it? You love soccor and want to play without her interference...and you need her to lay off of the language and negativity. Talk to your school counselor for ideas on how to get her to stop and how to approach her. I seriously doubt anyone will call social services over this, but you do need some help dealing with her, it's just unhealthy. The counselor know how to deal with this, it's their job. They can help you.
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my sister moved in with my 4 year old niece and my 2 year old nephew and now they are sleeping in my room since we only have a 2 bedroom house and now iam sleeping on the couch and they are sleeping in my room and I don't think that is fair and when I talked to my mom about it she said I was being selfish am I being selfish?I have no privacy whatsoever and I think as a teenager I need all the privacy I can get and I have none how can I get more privacy?
please help me.
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Yeah, of course you need your privacy, but so does your mother...and all of them. What exactly do you want her to do about it? Obviously your sister is going through some tough times and needs some help until she gets on her feet. Your privacy is secondary to that. I understand that it sucks but honestly, what to you want your mom to do? Kick her out?
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I wanna wear thongs but i'm like afraid what my mom would say. not really afraid but idunno how to ask her! because i remember one time she told me like she was christmas shopping with my grandma lol and they were buying me underwear? lol yeah nd my gramdma picked up a thong [by accident] and my mom was all freaking out like its a thong!!.. i mean i'm 14 i'm going into high school. but i dunno how she'd react if i told her. and i dont know how to tell her. soo do you have any ideas??? and like i was thinking about going to the mall with my friends and buying one without her knowing but that would be a problem because my best friends dont wear them and like i don't do the wash! l0l yeahh =\ so how should i bring it up?? (link)
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There really is no reason for a fourteen year old to be wearing thongs. If you have a pantyline problem, then wear boy shorts. I'm serious, they don't really serve a specifi purpose for your age group other then to look sexy, and you really don't need that yet.
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Ok so I took some people's advice and asked my grandmother if I could go on the pill and surprisingly she said YES!!!
But she said she is coming with me to the doctors.
What kind of questions will the doctor ask? like am I sexually active? I'll have to lie to the doctor and say no because she will be there.
I told her it was to regulate my period which needs to be done anyway but she said the doctor will put me on a light dosage.
Will this mean that it wont be as affective with birth control?
I will rate a 5 for all questions answered thank heaps.
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She will not be allowed to come in the actual Doctors examining room with you ( because of the exact reason you are worried about....you might not be honest in front of her). Don't worry about a thing, just tell the doctor everything honestly. They will ask about being sexually active and the like, tell the truth. They are there to help.
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last minute i decided to have a birthday party. everyone i love is getting together to go to this cool club sort of place. My friend, lets call her Orchid, and her boyfriend Tom (now ex) were invited. They broke up bitterly. I think Orchid blamed me, even though i had nothing to do with it. Orchid's friend Bee was also invited. The invite and RSVP was after the breakup. Tom said of course he'll come. Orchid said ok, and so did Bee over the phone. Tom and Orchids parents varified they could come. Bee convieniently said she was out right now and that her mother was working. Then that her mother was sleeping, all of which she said online. Bee kept saying that she was worried that Orchid and Tom would fight. I said that both had a choice to say no. She kept going on about how she doesnt want them to fight and stuff. I said it doesnt have to do with her. Bee was typing unusually slow, so I think she was either with Orchid and were thinking together of what to write or that she was copy/pasteing the whole conforsation.
Now the night before, when I went over orchids house for her to sign something about the party, she didnt let me in. she opened the door a half inch and didnt even smile at me. Bee was there as well, but seemed nicer. I called Orchid to ask her why she was acting "all weird" andgoing on, that if shes mad she doesnt have to come. She said it was just bad chinese food.
Then today rolled around. Finally my mom got fed up (because we need to know how many r definitely going for transportation reasons) and called Bee's mom. She was home, and awake unlike Bee said. Bee's mom said it was fine, that her daughter can go and that her daughter was out with a "friend"
Orchid hasnt called me. When I called her she said, "we can hang out tomorrow. tomorrows tomorrow so i'll call u then" Tomorrows here and she didnt call me. she said that shes worried that I will feel uncomfortable that herself and Tom wont be talking. I said i dont care, to just keep their mouths shut and enjoy the music. She was like "sure Tori (my now fake name) nothing will happen". she said 'sure' like she was writing me off or something. I cant explain it, but it just didnt sound right.
Orchid also said "for my party when Bee was mad at Lea (another one of my friends) I didn't invite lea cause I didnt want to start trouble." I said that their wont be any trouble to start.
My thoughts: i think Bee and Orchid are going to pull out the last second and r just looking at my party as a game. OR that they r using me to see the band and for the free entry ticket (my mom is paying for everyone to enter).
btw, another one of my friends... lets call him Rob, said no to the invite. I found out later that he, Orchid and Bee were pranking one of my friends all night. Now Rob decided that he wanted to go. I lied and said I couldnt get him a ticket because throughout this drama he has been mean to me. Orchid at one point screamed at me (over the boyfriend thing that was about 4 days ago) so loud i couldnt make out what she was saying. Bee called me bad names. I had nothing to do with Orchids and Toms breakup (as Tom knows) Orchid agreed this was a 'misunderstanding' but didnt sound sincere. I think Orchid just wants to blame someone so she decided to blame me.
Question: if orchid and bee do show up, i think they'll cause trouble and team off. I want to just uninvite them at this point, but I dont want to be mean. I dont know what to do. And believe me, I may have writen alot but I just skimmed the topping of the drama thats been going on for the past week.
i'm turning 15 and i'm a girl. i wrote alot so u can get a clear understanding of whats going on.
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Your friends are immature, drama loving idiots. You should just univite all of them, I am dead serious. If they come and start trouble, have your parents inform them that they will have to leave.
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It seems as if all my kids have their problems anymore. It's hard as a Mother to hold things together sometimes.
I am not quite sure how to deal with my Son's gf who has bipolar disorder. (they are 21 & 22) It's like walking on egg shells when I am around her. I do like her, it's not that, but she can be so mean sometimes. Her angry comments are hurtful, to our entire family, including my son. They really don't get along that well, but there is nothing I can do about it, I know that. He has to deal with staying or leaving because he owns that situation, not me. However in order to maintain a relationship with my son, I feel like I have to accept her. However, because of her treating myself and my other children badly. I am really confused. She is not on medication because she can't afford it and her own Mother kicked her out. We are really all she has right now.
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You have no control over how she treats your son and other children, but you have every right to let her know what is unacceptable behavior toward you. Do not let her push you around. If it come to it, try to mantain a relationship with your son without her around (making plans just the two of you). She needs to be on meds, and obviously she cannot support herself. This is not your problem. Hopefully it is a comfort to you that they probably won't be together forever (judging by their ages and her instability), you really just have to be there for you son if he needs you, and keep her separate from him. I personally can not believe that he LETS his grilfriend speak to his mother is such a way. I really hope he wakes up soon, until then, just stay supportive and tell him (if need be) that you won't put up with disrespect and your feelings toward her has othing to do with your feelings towards him.
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I'm 15 and female and my b/f is 20, but I'm fixing to turn 16. My mom likes my b/f but my dad doesn't. They are currently filing for custody of me even though i don't want to live with my dad. The thing is that I may have made a huge mistake. I engaged in sexual activities with my boyfriend with my consent because I love him. We have been dating for nearly two years. The thing is that my mom has just informed me that the only way the can take me away from her is if we have had sex. I don't know what to do. Please, I need advice badly. (link)
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I actually do see the logic here. When the authorities ask you any questions, do not lie. Tell them whatever happened, but be sure to tell them about it being consentual. I don't know all the details as to why your dad is just now filing for custody, or on what grounds, but it is important to tell the truth. You really have to give you side and just put your faith in the decision of the authorities and making the choice that is best for you.
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my boyfriend has been an utter jerk to me lately. i dont know what to do. i found out a bunch of lies he been holdin out on me. but i cant break up with him because hes the father of my child- i just dont know what to do with him anymore. all he wants to do is hang out with his guys while i sit at home pregnant and in a crappy mood. hes blaming his ignorance on me, and says that im becoming the type of person he doesnt want to be around anymore. what in the world can i do to let him know tha its NOT all me, and that pregnancy CAUSES YOU TO HAVE MOODSWINGS???!!! hes jsut not gtting the concept. (link)
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Lying is never ok, no matter how "moody" you are getting toward him. He should be helping you and supporting you while you are pregnant, not treating you in this way. I bet it stems from him not being ready for all this new responsibility (the poor guy right? Meanwhile you're the one who actually has to give birth. Selfish, I know). You can't let this behavior slide, you need to let him know that you will not put up with it. This happens a lot in these situations, one person will start treating the other badly because they CAN. Like you said: "I can't break up with him", it's very manipulitive. If it were me, I would throw caution to the wind and tell him to get out until he is ready to treat you properly. Honey, if he is going to act this way, do you really want to raise a child with him...showing that child that the way he treats you is an acceptable way for a man to treat a woman?
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hey! well i have a problem...my best friend has this boyfriend that nobody likes and personally me and him hate each other but for some reason she still goes out with him..god who knows why. but im not gonna try and break them up because they have like twice and they keep gettin back together. well whenever we are by cute guys she always flirts with them when she has a BOYFRIEND. a couple nights ago we picked up her guy friend kevin and when he was walkin up to my car she was like ohh look how hott he looks! and she always lies to her boyfriend..like he called when we were with kevin and she is like im just with kristen (me)! and nobody else..and hes like no i can hear someone else..who are you with? and shes like nobody..and when she gets off the phone she continues to flirt with him. also when i was at my cousins she has this really cute neighbor and he came over for a bit to chill with my cousin and then she was like all flirtin with him and jumped on him because she wanted "shotgun" and wouldnt get off of him! i dont know it seriously bugs me and im like ohhh you were flirtin with him! and i tried talkin to her and sayin you have a boyfriend..if you flirt with other guys then why are you still with your boyfriend? and shes like because i like him! i dont know she is my best friend..ive tryed talking to her..she just bugs me when she is around guys! ...what do you think i should do in this situation?
i will rate 5 for anyone who helps
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Hey honey,
If she is truely your best friend, it would be highly disloyal to say anything to her boyfriend about it. Friends always come first, and it just isn't your place to get involved. Yes, what she is doing is wrong, but besides telling her how you feel about he actions...there isn't anything you can do. She get what's coming to her eventually, you can count on that. But besides letting her live and learn, just be there for her to talk when she needs you. That's is all you can do.
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is it true that if you wax all the time that eventually your hair will stop growing? (link)
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No, not true at all.
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My bf just broke up with me a few hours ago and I feel nothing. I really liked him, but I just feel numb. What happened was a guy added me and started telling me my bf had been saying things about me behind my back to his ex. This guy quoted snippets of the conversation with his ex and she was saying stuff like "he says he still loves me... his current gf is only ok for now, its not the same" I was really upset and didn't know what to believe. When my bf got on, I asked him about it and he got really mad, saying I didn't trust him at all and trusted this guy over him, etc. He didn't deny the guys allegations, just spent the entire time trying to figure out who it was. I got really upset and went offline for a few hours.. then came back online and told him I wanted to work things out. He said there's no chance of that and we're over, put it down to us being different people and that since I'm a senior he shouldn't be distracting me cause I want to go to college. He also said there's too many problems with us, but this is the first problem we've had in our relationship. He did later deny what the guy said, but I'm still unsure whether he was telling the truth or lying.
I just can't understand it. I told him I shouldn't have listened to the guy and I was sorry but he said we were over. He didn't want to work things out. He said that since we've been friends for years we should stay friends, but I said I can't have that because he was not willing to put the effort in to make things work with us so he didn't deserve friendship. Plus I know I'd never be able to get over him if we were friends. I said see you sometime and that was the end.
What exactly happened here? Should I chase after him and try and get him back? I have a feeling it'll sink in later. Was I in the wrong? This is the first time I've been broken up with and I just don't know what to do. I feel we broke over over a simple misunderstanding but something tells me he was just looking for an excuse to break up. I need opinions here. Thanks and sorry for the length. (link)
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The guy who told you those things was most likely telling you the truth. It sounds like this guy was looking for an excuse to break up with you, he must be too insecure to just do it and for some reasons needs to make you feel like it is somehow your fault. Don't chase after him, he just doesn't want to be with you. Don't even take it personally, especially if he is too much of a wimp to own up to this fact and break up with you like a normal and respectful human being.
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I am 32 female(married 4 years) and recently divorced - so I am totally out of the loop with dating and other stuff. Met this guy with issues(2ce divorced, children)and no time for a relationship. I need space and just want a roll in the sheets from time to time and he agreed, and actually suggested it. We had our first sexual encounter about 2 weeks ago. When I left his house I thanked him. - My best friend told me that that nobody likes to feel like a piece of a$% and by me saying that, he might have felt that way - regardless of the agreement. I called him a week ago and left a message and he did not call me back. Am I looking to far into this or should I take that as a hint and keep moving... (link)
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I don't see how you could have done anything wrong here. You had a mutual agreement and everything worked out just as planned. As to why he hasn't called you back or contacted you since then, it could be anything...he could be busy, he could be trying to keep distance (so it doesn't turn into an every other night thing- and thus a relationship), he could have another such buddy, he could have met someone he wants to try for a relationship with, he could have decided he didn't like the idea of friends with benefits after all...anything. Don't take it personally, not by any means. If you don't hear from him within the next two weeks or so, assume that your agreement wasn't working out for him and move on. I wouldn't call him again, you already made the first effort.
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hello sori to be a burden but can u reassure me. i took my period on wed nite by sat it had gone away, it does that sometimes goes and comes bac the day after anyway on sun morni my boyfriend and i had sex we used a condom but which we didnt know was it broke when it was in me and he came. my period came back an hour later again, what is the chances of me being pregnant, should i get the mornin after pill. am freaking out a bit. (link)
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Your chances of getting pregnant during your period are greatly reduced then they would be any other time of your cycle, but because you are young, you cycle is most certainly irregular and ovulation can't be predicted. Yes, get the morning after pill, and while you are speaking with the doctor, inquire about regular birth control pills so that you don't end up in this situation again. Call your regular doctor, GYN, or planned parenthood clinic (call 411 or use the phone book for locations) to get the perscribtion. This needs to be done asap, like right now.
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