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Parents *UGHHH!!!*
I've had my license for almost a month now and my mom STILL won't let me drive alone! The insurance they pay, the money they spent on drivers ed, and me getting my license were all a complete waste of time and money! What good is all that stuff if I can't use them?
Well, I talked to my mom about it yesterday and she said she'd think about it.
We were out shopping today and on our way home she dropped off a prescription at Walgreens. When we were leaving, she said that I could come pick up the prescription when it was ready, ALONE :D!! Exciting, right?!! NOT!!!
When it was time to pick up the prescription, she said I COULDNT GO! How messed up is that? I mean seriously, if she wasn't going to let me go, then why get my hopes up?? I was all ready to go too.
That just got me so upset it's like I can't even trust her. I would have been okay if she never said that I could go in the first place because I was used to it but when she told me I could go when we were leaving Walgreens, I got so excited.. I told her that she was ridiculous and that she shouldnt change her mind like that and went upstairs. I don't normally talk back to my parents but wouldn't you but really mad? I don't know what to do it pisses me off so much!
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im in drivers ed right now and i think part of the reason that she hasnt let you drive alone yet is because parents worry sometimes that when they arent in the car with their teens when they drive, they will drive wrecklessly. im not saying that you because i seriously doubt that especially when you made that grade on your test! im in drivers ed right now and we watched this video where parents put cameras in their teens cars and watched their driving for 6 months. you wouldnt believe some of the stuff these kids did when their parents werent around! she may be worried for your safety, and she is just trying to protect her child, alot of parents have a hard time accepting that their children are growing up and giving them freedom. have you talked to your dad about it?( if you live w/ him) if not, try talking to your mom again and listen to what she has to say, ask her what shes so worried about? if you understand her better youll understand where shes coming from better. good luck!
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Your parents are just being protective, which I can totally understand. They probably have these visions of you all bloody and mangled in a terrible car wreck that could have been avoided "if only they were there".
Of course every parent has to let go eventually, it is just taking yours a bit longer. I know it's frustrating, especially when you have been waiting for this time of your life since you were a little kid, but try to go along with it. It isn't that they don't trust you, it's that they are terrified. First off, tell them that it isn't fair to get your hopes up about going somewhere and then taking it back- they need to understand how excited you were and how it hurt (again, understand that they were just really scared to let you go on your own). The ask them to let you start small with short trips. Make sure you know what they are worried about so you can alliviate that. Tell them no highways or unfamiliar parts of town, no friends in the car, no loud music, no playing with the radio or putting on make-up, ect while driving. You'll call when you get there- that kind of thing.
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That sucks, damn. But what I would do is, you know how parents are always talking about how they hate driving their kids around so much? My mom always says she feels like a taxi driver. haha Well anyway, start asking her to drive you more and more places. After a little bit, she'll get tired of it and just give you the keys.
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get a job. she cant go with you and sit there the whole day while you work can she? unless she's the kind of mom who will take your car home with her and come back and get you later. i understand how frustrated you are. its like my mom telling me to pack my shit and leave, but when i go out the front door she starts cussing me out asking me where the hell i'm going!!
and then let me guess, after you told her what she had told you earlier, she said she doesnt remember saying that! right? well maybe not i just know that's what my parents do. well... good luck with that
xoxo
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I can understand your mother being overprotective, but sheesh if you have your liscence that means you know how to drive.
And that you passed the test, that the law and state know that you CAN drive.
And that you are fully capable, tell your mother you passed drivers training and the test,
and that you can drive. Tell her to trust you.
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That was realy mean i hate when parents get your hopes up and let you down with out even a sorry that sux did you try talking to her.
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Your kinda' screwed in this situation...there's not much we can say that you can relate back to her to make her change her mind about you driving. I can see why she doesnt want you to for fear of you getting in a wreck. What you have to do is convince her that your not like other teenagers and that you can actually take driving very responsibly. Ask to drive from now on when she is with you. Let her see how good of a job you can do. This will help ease her mind about you driving alone when she sees that its not a big joke to you, that you can take it serious. When I was 16 my mom bought me a car. I had my lisense and car for about a week when I flipped it in a canal going 92 mph. Now I'm 23 and I drive like a grandma. That is why she worries. She loves you and doesnt want you to get hurt.
That didn't really help huh well what do you expect ppl on advicenators to say?
Me telling you what happened to me when I was 16 was me trying to relate to you. Your not even asking for advice on here your just like oh im so mad wouldnt you be? Um no. Myabe your mom will never let you drive again? hmmm TO BAD SO SAD.....
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