I'm a woman in Texas. I'm married and have a school-aged child. I have a medical background. I'm quite liberal, socially. I love helping people with medical, parenting, and social questions. Don't ask me about tech stuff or finances, because I need advice on those things myself!
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Location: Texas
Age: 34
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Xenolan
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sooo when i was giving my boyfriend a handjob when he was fingering me... then he rubbed his balls that had skeet on it and thenn continued to finger me. can you get pregnat that way? please reply as soon as you can! thanks (link)
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I agree. More than likely you didn't get pregnant, but you should both know that it is a small possibility. All the same, when you don't want to be pregnant, any possibility might be too big. Just watch and wait. There's usually no way to tell until 2-3 weeks after you might become pregnant anyway. Try to be optimistic.
Sabine
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ok so this doesnt have to do with me im just curious about it lol. how can a women be pregnant even if she gets her menstrual cycle. Also, the term spotting does that mean like bleeding a lot or a little. Again im just curious lol (link)
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Well, a woman can't be pregnant and get her menstrual cycle. What causes spotting (a little bit of blood off-and-on) is an imbalance of hormones and that can be caused by pregnancy. Some people even notice a little bit of blood when the fertilized embryo implants on the uterine wall. The point I think people are trying to make is that lack of blood does not mean you're pregnant and some blood does not definitely mean that you're not pregnant.
Sabine
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I got sick two days ago, and my throat has been sore the whole time. It's at the poihnt now that I can hardly talk. I'm giving a lecture in front of my class and it's a huge deal. I can't miss that day or I will fail. Any suggestions to get over this fast? I've tried zicam, apple cider vinegar... nothing works. (link)
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You can go to your doctor to make sure it's not a bacterial thing, such as strep throat (symptoms are fever, headache, sore throat, sometimes stomach ache and rash). If it's viral, the best things you can do for your throat are sucking on hard candies or menthol cough drops and drinking hot teas with honey, which will help coat the throat and soothe your vocal chords.
I can't believe that if you miss that day, even if due to illness, you can't make it up another day. (meaning that I'm expressing outrage, not that I'm doubting you.) I would be willing to bet that the principal/dept head would not allow the teacher/prof to enforce that.
I hope it works out for you!
Sabine
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hey.
well. tomorrow i have to present a social studies project
about a roman / greek topic & i just have to show the
class my shape sheet (just a picture of whatever you
are doing). & explain five facts about my project.
well i'm really not good in front of a class. i just get
really nervous & stutter.
how can i be more confident? i've already tried reading
it aloud in front of the mirror to myself, but that doesn't
seem to help.
thanks in advance. (link)
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Do you have a friend in the class? You can try to look at him/ her a lot while you're speaking. You can avoid direct eye contact by looking just over the heads of the audience or looking at everyone's hair. They can't tell. Rehearse what you're going to say and smile a lot so people think you're enjoying yourself.
You can look up other public speaking tips on google, but those are the ones that work for me.
Sabine
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I know this is sick, but I have a male cat and he has this problem with peeing everywhere, and my house smells like cat pee. It's absolutely sick, and I love the cat but it really makes me want to get rid of him. He stays in my basement/mudroom now, but what can I use to get rid of that sick smell? (link)
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Yes. You need an enzyme cleaner which you can find at Petsmart or a similar place. It wouldn't hurt to get one of those blacklight kits, also, which helps you find pee. He will continue to pee as long as he can smell his old pee. It's a territorial thing.
There are a few things that can be done for the cat. The first is neutering, if he hasn't already been neutered. However, it may not be as effective as it would have been if he had been a kitten when the procedure was performed. The second would be having plenty of clean litterboxes for any animals. For each cat you need one litterbox plus one to spare. Use unscented cat litter and scoop it daily and change weekly. Put the litterbox in a quiet, out-of-the way place where your cat can do his business in peace. Third, you can talk to your vet about these plug-in thingies (like glade plug-ins) that dispense calming cat pheremones. If that doesn't work, your last option to keep the cat might be something like a Prozac for kitties pill.
Good luck,
Sabine
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ok, i have a few awkward questions about sex and getting pregnant and no-no juice, and etc.
first of all, is it possible to get pregnant without the man ejaculating inside the woman? meaning, if a man is inside a woman, but pulls out way before he comes, is it possible to get pregnant from the precome?
also, can you get pregnant from semen getting on your vagina, when the man is not inside you?
thank you. (link)
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Yes, it's rare, but it could happen that you could get some sperm inside your vagina even if the man's penis is not inside. Sperm can swim!
Never trust someone who says he will pull out. First, there can be sperm in the pre-cum. Second, men don't always pull out before any of the cum is ejected. Just don't risk it.
Sabine
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Hey its summer and it's really hot and I don't know why but the pores on my nose is huge!
I don't know if it's hair or something else but huge black dots on my nose during the summer, a lot of sweat comes out of it and it's like no where else of my face sweats but all comes out on my nose, and it's really noticeable because everyone asks if I shave my nose or something.
Please help! I can't go to the doctors cuz it's too much money (link)
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I have to disagree with the advice to wash your face 2-3 times per day. Wash your face 1-2 times per day. If you wash it a lot, your skin will start getting dry and will step up the production of oils. She's right about getting pore strips. There's Biore strips for the nose, and they work really well. You should use a scrub, like neutrogena, on your face, but don't use soap. Start out with very warm water to open up your pores when you're washing. Finish off with cold water, which closes your pores down. A toner will do the same thing.
Sabine
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My dads birthday is the 11th, and I don't know what to get him. He says he doesnt want anything but everyone says that. He loves books and money, hes a doctor, and he loves smart quotes from people. I wont even be home for his entire birthday so I want to get him something good. Ive already gotten him:
Ties
Shirts
Socks
Gift Cards
Cuff links
Coffee mugs
Please dont say
Chocolate-he'll give it to me, forget about it, or think its too bad for him
Jewlery-he'll lose it
Or any of the above things. I have about $50 to spend. Thank you so much! (link)
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How about one book of quotes by smart people? Or a gift certificate to a book store? Or some really good coffee to go in that coffee mug. Maybe a tree for your yard, esp one that produces his favorite fruit, like apple, plum, etc.? How about a gift cert to his favorite restaurant? Tickets to a show he'd like to see? Movie tickets? Or you could take him to a movie and even buy the popcorn.
Doctors usually have a bunch of junk piled up at the office and no end of trinkets. Something personal which speaks to who he is will be the best thing to get him.
Felicidades,
Sabine
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my boyfriend whos really nice and i have been dating for three years were both seniors and we have sec occasionaly and i got pregnant and hes like well its not mine and he wont talk to me what should i do? (link)
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The first thing to do is to decide whether you're going to have the baby or have an abortion. If you're going to have an abortion, you need to do it before the fetus is 12 weeks gestation. It can be done in a few hours at a planned parenthood clinic for about $400. If you plan to carry the baby to term, decide whether you want to put it up for adoption or to parent the child. Either way, go to a doctor right away for prenatal care and follow up without fail. If you put it up for adoption, you can make a deal with the adopting parents that they will pay for your medical care and sometimes living costs. People who can't have a baby are desperate for an infant to adopt and they will help you in any way they can. If you decide you're having the baby and raising it yourself, you should inform both sets of grandparents, your parents and his, and be prepared to sacrifice your college and career goals for the child. You should take the father to court for child support and prove that he is the father so there's no getting out of it.
It's a pretty lousy person, in my opinion, who will date someone for three years, have sex with her, and then claim he didn't cause the pregnancy. If this is a good example of how he handles himself under stress, you don't want to be with him.
Sabine
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i'm 14 years old and i'm a female and i have had sex. how do i tell my boyfriend who i lost my virginity to that i don't want to have sex with him anymore. (link)
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Depends on your reasons for not wanting to have sex. You just have to be honest with him whether it's because the relationship is not what you think it should be or whether it's because you're not emotionally ready and you only realize that now or because you are having physical problems with it. If you write more, you might get more specific advice. But you just need to reassure him that you still care for him, if that's the case, and tell him that for at least a while, you're not going to have sex with him. Tell him specifically what you will do (is touching okay?) and what you won't. If he's a good boyfriend, he will take it gracefully and respect your wishes.
Sabine
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on the show " friends" joey likes it when two girls are together. why do men like it when two girls kiss and all that other stuff? (link)
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Well, my friend puts it this way: he likes women and he likes sex. So if he imagines two women having sex, there's no one with a penis hanging around spoiling the mood. He can imagine that if he were to accidentally break stumble upon two hot blondes in the heat of things, they'd be overwhelmed with desire for him as well and invite him to join them.
There's also this thing that some men think that women know inherently more about "girl secrets" and that we can pleasure each other better than they can. Not having been with a woman, I don't know, but I don't think we're those mysterious creatures whose sensuality only comes out with one of our own. Well, most of us aren't.
Anyway, to sum it up, I guess some men feel that 2 women = twice the hotness.
I've never yet met a woman who wanted to see gay men together. I think we tend to want to put ourselves psychologically in the place of the woman in any romance novel or pictures we see.
Sabine
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Is there any craft store that sells stirefoam balls that are different sizes to model the Solar System? Anything like a Michael's or any kind of craft store like that? Thanks! (link)
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I'd stick with Michael's or Hobby Lobby. You can also get some round balloons and blow them up to different sizes to represent the planets. Then you can use papier mache to create a sphere.
Good luck.
Sabine
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I was wondering, dont ask me why, but If you are dead is it considered rape or what? (link)
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Well, necrophilia is the name of the mental illness that would drive a person to have sex with a dead body, but the criminal term for having sex with a dead body is more like 'abuse of a corpse.'
Sabine
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how much is a pregnancy test (link)
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Google pregnancy test. They're about 2 for $10.
Sabine
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I used to masturbate on a regular basis, but not too much. Then all of a sudden I was horny all the time and couldn't get enough of it. But now, I hardly feel like it at all and only masturbate to releive cramps. What's the problem? Please help me! (link)
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What's the problem? Likely it's either boredom or stress. Either you got bored with masturbation after your marathon sessions or you are simply too stressed with school work, etc., to feel horny right now. Many things negatively affect libido (sex drive), including lack of rest, nutrition, thyroid function, stress, lack of exercise, and depression.
If you're out of school this summer and you don't find yourself staring longfully at others (guys/girls), and you're sure you're taking good care of yourself, then you should probably see a doctor.
Sabine
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inside my vagina, the side closest to the front of my body is kind of rigid, which I know is normal. But the side closest to my anus is really soft and squishy, is that normal? Because i heard that it should be kind of rigid and i just want to know if something is wrong.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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You are probably feeling the rigidity of the tissue and cartlidge surrounding your pubic bone in front. You can also sometimes feel bumpiness and that's normal. In the back, it should be soft. It's kind of a tube of flesh and it shouldn't be rigid. If you are very concerned, you can check out books, like Our Bodies, Ourselves or you can ask a parent, or speak with your doctor at your next appointment.
I think what you're describing is normal.
Sabine
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hey, so lately one of my boobs has been harder than the other, like around the nipple area. is there any reason for this? is something wrong? (link)
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I disagree with the advice below. You should see a doctor, not as an emergency, but at her next available appointment. If it were hormones, it might affect both breasts since hormones are in your blood and would go to both areas. If it's just developing tissue, then a doctor can tell you that. But even the smallest chance that it's cancer should be enough for you to go in and get it checked out. You don't give your age, but remember that cancer can happen at any age. It also could be developing tissue or a cyst. But you should get it checked out.
Sabine
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what are some good websites to get coloring pages from?? (: (link)
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HA! A question made for a mom. Go to the sites for the children's networks, such as www.disneychannel.com and www.nickjr.com, etc. or look up the shows by their names. For example, if you google Blue's Clues, you can find the internet site for Blue's Clues. Almost all of those sites contain downloadable coloring pages with the characters from the shows.
Good luck!
Sabine
Your reply: ummm yas thanx. but im not a mom :)
I get that. What I'm saying is that I was uniquely qualified and prepared to answer the question simply because I *am* a mom! :)
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13/f
I have a problem w/ my anus, its all red and itchy and it stings! what should a do about this, I DEFINETLY DON'T wanna go to my mom, its sooooooo embarassing!!! And a week ago, I asked her nervously what to do about it, and she said she'll take a look at it, that sounded embarassing. She called me to that bathroom, and I ran scared into my room, and said I was busy doing homework. I couldn't go out into the hall until she went to the grocery store. So what do you people think I should do[other than suggesting to go back to my mother!]
Thx
KP (link)
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I know, I know, it's different now, but trust me, she has seen your anus before. She knows what it looks like. So it's just your issue that you don't want to let her look. You should, though.
If you can't bring yourself to let her look, then maybe she will pick up some Preparation H at the grocery store for you. The Prep H wipes are also pretty good and they contain things to help with the itching. How do you know your anus is red? Did you use a mirror to examine yourself?
Sabine
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im so sick of wearing my hair down and straighten or up or just with a hump. What else can i do with my hair pictures would help thanks. (link)
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While that depends on your hair's length and texture, your bone structure, and your personal sense of style, here's what you can do to help yourself:
Look at magazines. People, Vogue, Glamour, Us Weekly, or whatever you can find. See how people are wearing their hair. If you see a photo you like, photocopy it or cut it out. Ask a hairstylist how to duplicate it. Look in your hairstylist's waiting area for books or magazines showing hairstyle examples. Go to Beauty Brands or Claire's or whatever and see what accessories they have that you like. Go to the mall or any average school. Take a look around. How are the other people your age doing their hair? Even if you don't want to copy, perhaps you can get some inspiration. Take a look on television shows.
Hair is all around you. It should be easy to find ideas of things to do with yours.
Sabine
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