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hi i had my last period on july 26.. had sex on aug 27... i hvnt got my periods yet.. took some tablets like premoult and mensoon... wt shall i do now (link)
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You have yet a while to way. Typically menstrual cycles (your period) average 28 days, give or take a couple days. It's no where near august 27th yet. Wtill about 19 days from that. Do you mean August 7th? Or perhaps you actually meant, JUNE 26th was your last period, had intercourse on JULY 27th, and since it's now AUGUST 8th, you have yet to get your period? If you aren't ready for a child, perhaps you should consider getting put on birth control pills should it turn out you are NOT pregnant. If I'm understanding what I read about Pemolut, and Mensoon, those are a form of self induced abortion pills. I would suggest taking a pregnancy test, but considering the dates you gave, it's honestly very difficult to tell whether or not you need any assistance or not. But I would say, wait another week or two, if you still have not gotten your period, then go to your local pharmacy and purchase a pregnancy test and check if you are pregnant or not. If it turns out you are NOT pregnant, then I would suggest going and speaking to your physician, and state your concerns to them about this. Birth control can help regulate your period, as well as prevent pregnancy. Hope this helped.
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im a 15 year old female and i see my boyfriend everyday(we've been dating for 2 years now and have had sex 4 times)so were completely comfortable with eachother, so he makes me orgasm 3 or 4 times a day. is this ok? (link)
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Climaxing (having orgasms) can help relieve any stress you may have encountered that day. But, too much can also make it not as enjoyable. But it really depends on the person too. If you have not noticed any difference from when he originally started doing this, then there is nothing to worry about. If you two are not having intercourse, all the better. Just means you will not get pregnant, especially since you are still so young. But do remember, sometimes when males do this for their lady partner, it is always nicest, if you were to aid him as well. It can help relationships and so forth. Although sex and sex related activities alone cannot make a relationship strong, so I guess it wouldn't be so bad to occasionally pass up on the courtesy and just go out and have fun.
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hi.how are you?i am going through a really bad time.i am 22 years old and in a relationship with a girl from past 3 years we fight alot but from last 17 days she has started loving a friend of mine and she told me this herself.she even told this to that friend of mine but now he is ignoring her because he is in love with some one else.i love this girl alot and seriously cant live without her but she is all the time talking about that friend of mine and crying because of him.this thing is hurting me alot i feel like killing my self.pls help me out of this. (link)
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No one is worth your life. It's painful, yes, but if she is interested in someone else, she is NOT worth your time. Even if you were able to work things out, chances are she may just end up doing it again. Your best choice is to be strong, tell her how you feel, if she can't accept it, tell her to get lost. I'm sure you have heard this many times, but there are "other fish in the sea". You will find someone much better and who will love you and only you. You're only 22, so, don't make any rash or stupid decisions about killing yourself. No one is worth it. It always feels like the end of the world when someone you love does things like this, but it's not. You need to be strong and keep fighting. No one said life would be easy, love especially won't be. But in time, the pain will pass, and you'll feel better again.
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Hi!
So there once was this guy from church that I was seeing for like a whole year.As many relationships start off , it was nice and wonderful at the beginning . In a span of 2-3 months he said that he loved me, we had done "some things " together and he had also told me that he wanted to take me to his grad next year and that by then, he would like to make things official with us. As the school year came and went by , we would always have our ups and downs. we would always bicker about what our relationship was and how he wanted our relationship to be hushed. Because we were never official, things got complicated as we continued to act like a couple even though when really we never were one.
He would always make excuses about how half of the time he felt like he would date me and how half of the time he wouldn't because he didn't want anything to be serious at the moment. Although i knew i shouldve took it as a red flag, I would always ignore it because I didn't want to lose him .
So ,when the following year finally came he told his parents that he was going to take me as his grad date. But instead of being ok with it, they were shocked and disapproved of it . They gave him a whole lecture about how it would be best if he dated someone outside of church . And their reasoning behind this was because they didn't want any rumors and awkwardness happening around in the church.
To sum things up, in the end he took a different girl to his grad , I got jealous and he broke up our so called bond. Although he said that we could maybe get back in the future and that things would never change between us, the whole friendship became really hard on me because things were changing and he wasn't texting me as much as he used to.
And now that I think about it, I feel like he never tried hard enough to make it work.
I feel hurt and used, that now whenever he does text me, it feels that it is only just for the sake of it.
And as for that , I haven't answered his text yet. I don't know what to do !! Is it best if I continue to ignore him , or should I continue to talk to him and be a friend?!?!!
Please help !
Thanks
Ps sorry for the long message haha (link)
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You should always follow your instinct in these types of situations. When you talk to him, does it hurt more than make you happy? If so, perhaps it is time to just move on. No one is worth another's happiness. In time, you will feel better, and you will find someone who will fight for you. Until then, find time to heal yourself. No point in waiting for someone who may never really come back around.
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Ok so I'm 14 and I have a "best friend" that's 14 also named jake ok well I'm trying to find out if he is a true best friend. So we have a pretty fun friendship, we hang out ALOT. About every 3 days we have fun play video games just do fun normal things but the thing that I think is that when you have a best friend you guys talk about everything we don't really talk about everything at least we don't talk about personal things like who we like and stuff like that and tonight I brought up the subject about like If he ever needed to talk to me about anything and he was like "ok" or something I mean he doesn't really have any CLOSE friends I can't explain it but we has lots if friends JUST FRIENDS and he hangs out with me the most and I really want him to be like my true friend that I talk about everything about I mean what can I do? I think he wants a friend like that too but maybe he won't admit it.and another thing I asked him why we even became friends because we have nothing in common he is my almost complete opposite and so I asked him "why do you hang out with me we have like nothing in common or anything" and he said "idk" I mean how does our friendship stand? What can I do to improve it? Is it worth carrying on? (link)
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Perhaps your friend is the type that doesn't share what's buggin them. All you can do is be supportive and do what you are able to to keep him happy or get him through it. I have several friends, and even best friend who never tells me whats wrong. Sure I ask, but if he won't tell me, I can't make him. I figure in time he'll tell me what has bothered him, but for now, I just enjoy hanging out with the bugger ^_^ Just give your friend time. When he's ready to talk, I'm sure he'll go to you. Until then, be supportive and be there for him.
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i am from india .i m in chennai,in my locality for the past few months there is increase in diarrhoea,fever ,jaundice cases.basically the water we are using for consumption and other activities is muddy in colour i think this is mainly due to pollution of water by industrial waste and mixing of sewage with the water we consume .i am a social worker ,kindly need information to address these issues in my locality .how can i help my community for safe and potable water (link)
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You can always start off by making people aware of the harmful consequences due to polluted water. Do some reading on it and get more knowledgeable about the situation as well as getting those around you aware and hopefully in time it can help. Also, finding the main cause of the pollution and doing your best to put a stop to it or a solution for it can also help. But things like that don't work unless you are able to get enough people who also feel the same way.
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i've ruined every relationship ive ever been in, pushed them away and had my guard up. Ive lost everyone whose ever loved me. Now the only thing i want is to find someone special and give them everything the deserve. Ive got no self confidence, never truely happy and i prentend to be something in not. I dont know what to do. I dont have family to turn to, nor friends. Im in a new place and im clueless. I want to fight and do something good for myself i just cant seem to find to motivation to do so anymore. What should i do? f/17 (link)
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Perhaps you should just stop dating for a while and get to know, love, and believe in yourself before you try to get to know anyone else. It's always painful at first, but it always passes. So focus on yourself, focus on getting stronger, on liking yourself more. Then worry about relationships.
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13/f hey, I really want to lose a few found like maybe 10-15 pounds. What can I do to achieve my goal by the end of the summer? (link)
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A good way to lose weight is to eat healthy and do plenty of cardio. Cardio exercises include running, jogging, swimming, biking.. anything that really gets your heart pumping. But while do this, you also run the risk of stretch marks.. No one likes those -.-; So while you are doing cardio, it would not hurt to also do things like sit ups, crunches, and small weight lifting, etc etc. To ensure you tone your body as well as lose weight. It may take some time to get to your desired weight, but so long as you keep to it, you'll lose that weight in no time. Just check out youtube or google for exercising videos and exercising techniques as well. But considering how young you still are, you will lose that weight and be fit in no time. But please do remember, In order to keep your look, you have to exercise regularly. Exercise for a day or two , and then give your body a rest, enough time to heal from the breaking down and rebuilding.
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I probably have everything that a average guy shouldnt have.Im very shy,have low self respect and have always thought that life was not worth living.Even made a suicide 7 months ago.Have been feeling depressed for quite a long time,all because of my rather bad ug college life. Now im out of college for good and have got admission to do my masters. Im really looking forward to do my pg.Now the problem is that ,the feeling of worthlessness is coming back. Im still in a dilemma no matter how hard i try to get away from negative thoughts. I seriously want to change the way i have been all these years. Would also like to get advice on how to get out of being shy and talk in front of class and with women as i feel rather nervous when trying to talk with them.kindly advise (link)
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Going back for your masters? That isn't something you should be feeling worthless about. You have a goal in life, which is pretty damned cool honestly. Hell, I'd kill to be able to get into college, but as things are, bah! I'll just have to keep working my bum off until I can afford it ;p As for being shy, it's difficult.. Believe me, I know. It's really hard being sociable. I never know what to say, most of the time, I don't even know what in the world that they are talking about, it's really embarrassing for me lol, but I found, that having friends with me when I'm hanging out with anyone, especially new people >.
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Hey, I'm 13yo/f and I like this dude, 13yo/m and he used to like me too, but now I'm not too sure about it...well, we chat all the time on Facebook and that's when he said he likes me, I do too...so out of the blue he kind of stopped going on Facebook, I get confused if he's online or offline cz he's logged in on his iPod you know...like me, some people think I'm online, but I'm not I'm just logged in on my iPod all the time...so he's like obssesed with Basketball, so we all know he towers me cz he's very tall. I messaged him one day saying, 'if you dont like jus tell me.' the next day he responded and sed, 'you know, I'm so so sorry, but I'm too busy with basketball and I don't have the moment to get into anyone..' I said, 'sure ok, but i still kinda like you.' and he said, 'ok, I'm fine with it.' and that was the last conversation we had...IDK, if I was sad or what, but I unfriended him!! It has been 2 weeks since we haven't talked and the time I unfriended him. We just now got to be friends on Facebook since Sunday. I messaged him saying I just want to be friends with him again, and he said, 'yes, sure thing Buddy.' Buddy is like our nickname for one another. So, after that I started liking him again!! I was so confused and sad that I'm crushing on him! I want to tell him I like him, but he's way too in love with Basketball!! I don't wanna b rejected over sport!! uugghh!! I like him what do I do?!?!? (link)
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Just be supportive. You are both young, no need to rush into things, such as dating. Just talk to him, hang out, watch his games etc. Perhaps in time you may get over him, and if not, who knows? You two may even end up together later on. So it wouldn't hurt to get to know him much more now.
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I am a young adult now. I am not independent. I dont know how to pay bills and how to live when i move out and live by myself. So, anyone please tell me what to do first when i move out? What all do you have to do and go before you move out? I wanna be independent. Is it very hard? (link)
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Living on your own is always hard at first, and it takes time to get use to it. As for paying your bills, whatever company you are using (local electric company, phone, internet service, etc.) they always send you a bill, telling you how much you owe, and the bills usually have instructions on them about paying, typically, you can call them and give them your card number that they can withdraw the money from, or send in a check/money order to them with their name and address along with yours on it, as well as the account number. Or even pay at locations near you. With those, you just bring your bill with you, and the people, and they make sure it gets to the company you need to pay. As for what you have to do before you move out, first of all, it's always a good plan to have a job, and make sure you are capable of providing for yourself. ALWAYS have money put aside for emergencies. Like say, you didn't get enough work hours on your pay check, so therefore, you do not have enough to pay all your bills, rent, etc. You at least have some back up money to help out with that. Since you'll be living on your own, remember to keep everything clean. Depending on where you live, a dirty house may attract bugs. When you move into your new home, make sure that you read all the can's and cannots on your apartment/house lease. It would be awful to get in trouble. Some leasers are very strict, and can and will evict you should you not follow any rules they may have for the place. A BIG thing to remember is to be sure you have EVERYTHING you will need. Hair care products you may use, toilet paper, a plunger for any bad days
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Whenever I am out in public I get nervous, my heart races, I get tensed and paraniod. I always feel like I stick out like a sore thumb, If I am in the check out and the worker makes friendly conversation I forceably smile and I become extremely uncomfortable. I often avoid going places I may fid myself having conversations with people. There have been many times where someone is talking to me and I suddenly loose interest. I've been told all too often I have terrible eye contact and I talk under my breath to where I barely talking.
Why may this be? (link)
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You may just have social anxiety. It's quite common, so don't feel bad or ashamed of it. You can always get help by speaking with a counselor, or you can try to deal with it yourself. It's not easy, but it can be done. Look into it. May find ways to help yourself out.
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Hey! I'm 15 and female.
I've gone through a lot, but of course one of my problems has to be a guy :/
Basically, I met him, we hit it off. I didn't like him at first. I thought I'd end up friendzoning him, but I started to like him. And not for shallow reasons. Lot's of guys call me beautiful, but he's no quarterback, and I really don't mind. He's sweet, smart, and my type, and we spent a lot of time together. If someone my age can fall in love, I did it there.
So when I finally tell him I like him (VERY brave, for me at least), he responds well. Telling me how sweet and beautiful I am. Etc.
Then, the next weekend, my best friend, who knew I liked him, announces they're going out.
And she's so crappy to him. I try to forgive, to be happy for them. But she always insults him, talks about other guys in front of him. She did ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING but cheat.
All of his friends, my friends, and even her friends told him he has the wrong girl. And I stuck with both of them through it all. I didn't wanna ruin two friendships, even though what my best friend did was bad.
And then, it happened. She cheated. She didn't tell him. She broke up with him and then begged me to tell him. She said she didn't regret cheating. I told her it was her responsibility, but eventually she got me to tell him. At least, he deserved to know anyways. But my best friend has never been a true best friend. She started acting mean. Well, more so than her usual mean self. So I stopped talking to her. I never told her off for all she did. I just stopped.
I've been there for him the whole time.
He and I still talk often (text).
My ex best friend moved, and basically told us that we should go out and she'd be happy for us.
He says he's over her, and I give him space. I don't think he knows I still like him, but basically, I feel forever friend zoned. I've tried everything. He lights up my life, but the fact that he doesn't seem to care about me hurts. I've tried moving on. Doesn't work. Please help. Anything?? (link)
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Perhaps he believes you are no longer interested in him due to what had previously happened. Just let him know again. Tell him, that even with all that's happened, you still have feelings for him. No point in being nervous or afraid, you've done it before.
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i'm 19/f.
he's 22/m.
this boy i've been crushing on. i feel like he gives me special attention. I live 3 hours away during the school year, but during the summer we hangout. saw him last nigth and i was about to leave, so i gave him a hug- he was distracted (talking to someone about dinner plans) and I escaped. i had a previous engagement to get to, anyways. he then texts me 10 minutes later and says, "why do you always leave?! you couldve come out to eat with us."
then this morning he texts me and asks if we can get coffee tomorrow..... whhhhhat?
what do y'all think?! does he like me? what should i do?! (link)
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I'm not 100%, but it seems as though he may be trying to get to know you. I would just go with it, and see where it takes you. Who knows? You two may end up an item. He asked you to go out for coffee, that may be a start into something more. Just go with him and enjoy yourself.
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My main dream is to be a famous songwriter/singer. I want to be many other things but I really want to be a singer and a songwriter. I only have my mother,aunt and uncle, and my grandmother and other friends that support me. With the little supporters I have and no instrument, I don't know if my dream would ever come true. What should I do? Should I give up or keep trying?! Someone please answer! :) (link)
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Do you believe you should give up? It doesn't matter if you have no supporters, or a crowd of them, if it's something you really wish for and hope for, keep going for it. Don't have an instrument? Save up your money, and go to your local pawn shops, check around. Pawn shops usually have instruments, and for a decent low price. Better than nothing at all. But if this is something you want, I mean you REALLY REALLY want, don't give up, you'll only regret it and hate yourself later. Keep on going.
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I have windows vista. Can I get back everything the way it was like when I bought it?
I don't have a restore CD. The one we used to have you can only use it twice and its done, so we don't have a restore CD anymore. I already tried to download anti-virus stuff in safe mode. My computer won't download.
I think a virus has removed a lot of things on my computer and I can't access programs or download vitus protection. I have given up. I feel like backing up my HD and starting over would be best. How can I do this? What do I need?
Can anyone offer step by step instructions so that it is as if I have a new computer after wards? (link)
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Here are some sites that may be of assistance. It never hurts to read everything thoroughly and ensure that you follow the directions as they say. That is if either of these sites have any of the information that you seek. But I hope this helps you at least a little. Good luck
http://www.makeuseof.com/tag/clean-computer-original-state-reinstalling-windows/
http://www.pcworld.com/businesscenter/article/155995/reinstall_and_restore_your_windows_pc_in_eight_easy_steps.html
http://www.wikihow.com/Reinstall-Windows-XP-Without-the-CD
http://answers.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/forum/windows_vista-system/i-want-to-do-a-complete-system-wipe-out/ab29e3f9-9b3b-4b5e-b459-bb6affb88882
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I remember watching regular porn. But I remember exactly how I came across transsexual porn - by accident. And as soon as I realized what I had clicked on, I got curious and explored. That was about three and a half years ago, I was in ninth grade 8( I've always tried to stop. I've made improvements too. But I feel like I have no hop whatsoever. I'm always awkward and nervous around girls that I like, and nobody knows about this addiction to weird porn. Is there any chance that over time, I could re-stabilize and go back to the closer to "normal" life I had? It went from every single day to every weekend. There's been times where I've gone two weeks. Recently I've been having relapses though. It's like whenever something doesn't workout or I feel like I've failed at something, it makes me go home and relapse. Similar, if I'm having a good day/week, I won't do it. I've tried a few things that have helped though. I put a random password on my PlayStation's internet browser starter. And now, I've come to the conclusion that in order for me to really stop. (Seems impossible) I have to stop using the computer, stay out of my room, and avoid being alone in my room late at night. How the hell am I going to do that? I live with my parents. It happens only on my computer and in my room when I am alone. And I have to avoid those things, it never happens anywhere else. The most I can do is avoid being in the house for as long as possible. But, I eventually will have to come INTO my house to sleep. Which puts me in my room ALONE, with access to my COMPUTER. And I need my computer for homework (Stupid technology nowadays) (link)
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The only one who can quit it is you. There's really nothing you can do, other than get rid of your computer all together, or just have the willpower to just stop all together. You feel like you're going to look at it? Play a game instead, or read something. But if it's something you really want to do, then learn to live with it. You don't have to let anyone know what you like. And if you're worried about being caught, always remember to clean your tracks. Such as clearing the browsing history etc. But, ultimately, the choice is up to you. It's you who has to make that final decision, continue, yes or no? ;p
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Okay so I am 16 years old and i cant do with just fingers anymore. I want to get a vibrator online (since i cant go to a store underage). And i have the money but how do i recieve it without my parents finding out? I dont want them to find it in the mail...and they always check the mail :( what do you guys suggest? also where would you suggest i hide it incase i somehow get one? (good hiding places!) (link)
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I don't know if you are able to even purchase them online. If I'm remembering correctly, you have to be 18 to order anything from adult toy sites. My best suggestion would be have a friend who is 18 purchase it for you... As for good hiding places, there are special pillows with hidden zippers to hide those things. I think they are called Stash Pillows. You can get them any where online, and I believe you can find some at your local mall at like.. spencers or something. I believe though, that the only site/store you may be able to purchase an adult toy would be spencers... I'm not for certain though. Times may have changed a lot from when I was a teen.
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about a year ago, i started getting this white liquid stuff in my panties and later found out that its a vaginal discharge and that it come before and after a period. but mine comes EVERYDAY ! so my question is , does this affect sex in any way ? (link)
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It does NOT effect sex in anyway. Every women does it, some more so than others, but it's completely natural. The only thing you can really do to "keep it under control" is to use the restroom frequently and clean yourself up. The only time that it MIGHT effect sex at all, is if it comes with a strong odor. If you ever notice an odor with your discharge, go and see a doctor to ensure it's not an infection of any type.
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So yeah, I go kayaking and the water have diseases in it but it is so rare! so any time I come home a and I have a shower there or here I see bumps on my legs I love this club and I want to stay! So can I stay? (link)
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It may be that you actually got bit by some insects. If they become very bothersom (won't stop itching, won't heal, etc) I would suggest making an appointment with your doctor. But if they are there, with no problems, then there's nothing to worry about and staying in your club is entirely up to you. No one can make that decision for you except you :)
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