help this thing is hurting me alot i feel like killing my self.pls help me out of this.
Question Posted Sunday August 5 2012, 3:40 am
hi.how are you?i am going through a really bad time.i am 22 years old and in a relationship with a girl from past 3 years we fight alot but from last 17 days she has started loving a friend of mine and she told me this herself.she even told this to that friend of mine but now he is ignoring her because he is in love with some one else.i love this girl alot and seriously cant live without her but she is all the time talking about that friend of mine and crying because of him.this thing is hurting me alot i feel like killing my self.pls help me out of this.
1. Your brain keeps developing until you are 25-26 years old. This means that you experience a lot of evolution in your taste and thoughts on things and that includes what partners you want to be with down the road. Your girlfriend has had a change of heart. It happens. You were too young to be stuck in a relationship anyway. If you don't have that exploratory phase of dating life you will regret it later. In adversity there is often opportunity and this is your chance to go out and mingle and really get a handle on what's out there as far as possible partners. So git!
2. Clinging to a woman who has checked out like that is redolent of both stalkers and needy wimps who have such low self esteem they can't believe that anyone else would want them. In other words, you are believing in something that is unhealthy. If she wanted you at one time someone else will want you, too. In fact, probably dozens of someone elses. So get in there my son!
3. You've humiliated yourself by allowing her to cuckold you. Instead of booting her once you got wind of her seeking other partners you go to her on bended knee and ask her to reconsider. Come on, dude, have some pride as a man, okay?
4. Suicide, except in cases of being afflicted with some awful terminal disease, is inherently a narcissistic act. So knock that crap off and show her that you're in demand and she lost out. Otherwise, people will laugh at you for all time as the "loser who killed himself over a girl." [ VoiceofReason's advice column | Ask VoiceofReason A Question ]
alexisgirlie answered Sunday August 5 2012, 8:10 pm: Hey there! I know how awful it feels when your partner suddenly doesn't love you anymore. I know the awful feeling of rejection and I know about the pain. You have to remember that you deserve the best girl out there. This one isn't worth your time anymore. You deserve someone who will love you unconditionally and only you. And believe me, she is out there, and waiting for you. If your girlfriend treats you anything but as a first priority which in this case you're not her priority at all, then it's time to think about ending the relationship. Why should you settle for something less than the best? It will be painful living without her but the minute you will look into those eyes of your true lover it will all be worth it. I am exactly quoting a lot of people I know that have gone through what you have, and now have had their fairy tale ending. It was only made possible because they left those jerks they were with. Remember she isn't worth your time, and certainly isn't worth your life.
adviceman49 answered Sunday August 5 2012, 2:55 pm: I'll tell you what my mother always told me on occasions like this. "There are more fish in the sea.
Frankly no girl is worth killing yourself over. If she can't see that you are worth having and that you love her and will cherish her for the rest of her life. Well that is her problem not yours. She is not worth your love let alone your life.
My advice tell her she has to choose, if she has not already done so, you or the other guy. If she chooses him then tell her to pack up and move on. Then have yourself a good pity party. Afterwhich rebait your hook and go fishing again. There is a girl out their that is worthy of you and you of her.
I found my girl that way and so will you. FYI; my girl and I celebrated 41 years of marriage last month. I don't know how she put up with me all this time but I love her more today then the day I met her. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
Rena-Chan answered Sunday August 5 2012, 1:03 pm: No one is worth your life. It's painful, yes, but if she is interested in someone else, she is NOT worth your time. Even if you were able to work things out, chances are she may just end up doing it again. Your best choice is to be strong, tell her how you feel, if she can't accept it, tell her to get lost. I'm sure you have heard this many times, but there are "other fish in the sea". You will find someone much better and who will love you and only you. You're only 22, so, don't make any rash or stupid decisions about killing yourself. No one is worth it. It always feels like the end of the world when someone you love does things like this, but it's not. You need to be strong and keep fighting. No one said life would be easy, love especially won't be. But in time, the pain will pass, and you'll feel better again. [ Rena-Chan's advice column | Ask Rena-Chan A Question ]
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