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my 3 year anniversary with my bf kyle is coming up very soon. i want to do something special and non sexual. im only 17 and want to remain a virgin. he isn't but waits for me. i just don't know what to do for it, and what to give him. i was thinking about having sex, but i want to wait till we get married, or at least live together. but i was thinking about moving forward. we have only used our hands, but i was thinking about more than that but less than sex, it's hard for me to say it but... head. how do i do that and please him at that same time.
You don't need to give your virginity as an anniversary present. There are plenty of other things that'll make him happy without going against your beliefs & morals. Make him dinner, go somewhere that means something to both of you (maybe the first place you went on a date, or the first place you met), get him something with a little thought into it. & if you want to try something sexual, without having sex, try a lapdance or a full body massage. :)
I've had insomnia since I was twelve. Though when I slept over at my fiance's apartment (We just slep together, no sex or anything.) I slept through the whole night. Why?
It's probably just more relaxing, less stressful, & a sense of security. :)
very long sry >> my boyfriend is pretty amazing and i do like him a lot. he was one of my good friends before we went out. i like being with him, and he makes me happy. but lately he acts like hes only in it for the hookup. he doesnt do anything sweet for me, and girls are all over him, and i dunno, i just have a problem trusting him. to make things worse hes the player-type. i dont trust him very much...he\'s lied to me about things before, and he told another girl he was interested in her when i had confidence and trust in him in the fact that he would be faithful to me. he acted like it was no big deal but it was important to me. he tells me hes in love with me and i actually believe him even though i dont feel the same way. but ive come to realize that he doesnt act like hes in love with me. i dont want to drop him but i also find my mind wandering back to the guy i should be with, my ex. hes the sweetest guy i know and he makes me happy without even trying. im still in love with him and i cant just drop my guy for him, but that doesnt mean i dont want to. im worried about my boyfriends feelings and im also worried about my commitment to my boyfriend. but i really dont know what to do. i think im with the wrong guy, but i like him a lot and i like being with him...i liked being friends better though. and i also really love my ex. but i feel disloyal to my boyfriend because of that, especially because i got mad at him for basically the same thing. [telling the other girl he was interested in her] and i also get jealous really easily and idk if i will be able to handle seeing my current boyfriend with a new girl , because god knows they will flock to him if i drop him :[ oh please helppp lol:]
Lets face it: You don't trust your boyfriend, he's a "player", he doesn't seem to put much into the relationship, he doesn't care about your feelings, you feel like you're with the wrong guy, you liked the friendship better, you're feeling insecure....
& on the other hand: Your ex makes you happy & you're still in love with him.
You know which guy is right for you, but you're too afraid to admit it. You're too afraid to make the right decision & be happy when it comes down to it.
From what you just told us, it's pretty clear you should be with your ex. You can't be in a relationship where there's no trust & when you are in truly in love with someone else. Your boyfriend doesn't seem that great, so don't be an idiot & settle for less than you deserve. Reevaluate your situation & make the right decision.
hey im a guy 13, and i was wondering do girls like really confident almost over confident guys or does this make them seem annoying and cocky
Hey, yes confidence is GREAT! As long as he's not overconfident & cocky like you said. :D
do you dye your hair? its relly prettyy
Yep, my natural hair color is medium brown. Thanks!! :D
my daughter is 13 is she to young to get caught by me kiss with a guy but hes her best friend. shes never had a boyfriend. also she cusses and flips people off and just talks with her friends about sex humping and rapeing just perverted. shes just turned 13 shes shy and gothic which i hate it what should i do for her and all that stuff should she be doing.
I am no parent. I have no idea what it's like to have a 13 year old daughter & I could not imagine the hell you are probably going through. All I am going to say is step things up a knotch & get down her throat with stuff like that before things get worse & out of your control. Teach her none of that is tolerated. She cusses, flips out, even THINKS about having sex = she is not seeing her friends, she goes to school, she does her homework & she goes to bed - no questions asked. That's all there is to it. Yes, your 13 year old is going to go through a phase where she's trying to find herself. She's going to change her style/appearance, she might sneak out of her house, she's going to talk back & not want to have anything to do with her mother - that's absolutely normal. But there are certain things that are unacceptable & as long as you keep an eye on your kid, buckle down on her & guide her in the right direction, she'll turn out okay. That's how I was raised: "You obey the rules or your life is pretty much over." I like to think I turned out pretty good - no, my parents did not have me by the neck my entire life. Infact, I CHOSE to be the way I am because I was guided in the right direction. All I'm saying is: you have hope, just lead her to the right decisions now.
I really want a tattoo like Gisele Bundchen's, like with the star on her hand. its soo cute! but would the tattoo people or my parents let me? because im only 13..
I'll be blunt - you do not NEED to get a tattoo @ 13. By law, you have to be 18 @ most tattoo places. & if the tattoo place allows anyone under 18, the minimum is usually 16 depending on the laws in your state. Your taste is going to change, so it'd be a huge mistake. You may think it's cute now, but you'll regret it @ 20 when you realize you have to look at it for the rest of your life. And any parent in their right mind would not let their 13 year old get a tattoo if it was even allowed. & if they did, that's sad. Even 16 is still too young in my opinion. I waited till I was 18-19 before I got my two tattoos. & yeah, that's still young to some people. But unlike others, my tattoos actually mean something. Not only do they have meaning, but they are also discrete because I like having a very nice job & think it's more personal. Tattoos aren't smart to get just because they look cute. If you want to express yourself, decorate your room or express it in a drawing. But tattooing stars that represent nothing & are only there for cuteness will be a mistake. It's your decision to get it when you're older, but I can guarantee you, you will change your mind when you mature. So wait till you're an adult to make that decision.
Does everyone always suck the first time you make out? And can you tell that it's someone's first time makeing out? (like if someone who hadnt made out before, made out with someone who had)
Thanks so much!!
Not necessarily. I know that in the past, I could tell SOMEONE didn't have much experience (not in a bad way). But the next night, he got the hang of it & turned out to be the best kisser I've ever known. You may get the hang out of it within 2 minutes of your make out session. Or you it may take a few days or few weeks to get used to your partner's kissing style. Everyone kisses differently, so you can't really pass judgements the first time you make out with someone new. They may notice, they may not. But it usually comes natural, so it's nothing to worry about. :)
if i put aloe on after tanning, will it keep the tan longer and better and make it like.. healther and more noticable?
what if i put it on after using fake tanning lotion?
thanksssssssssssssssssssssss
stayy stellarr. ;]
I know Aloe Vera heals the skin & relieves dryness, but I've never heard of it holding color. If you want to hold a tan longer, exfoliate BEFORE tanning & don't shower/shave within 4-5 hours AFTER tanning. You can't really make your tan "healthier" considering a tan is damaged skin. Staying out of the sun, using an SPF of 30+ sunblock, using lotion/self tanner such as Jergins (@ most drugstores) or Bare Bronze (@ Victoria's Secret, $18) would be so much healthier. If you're having a problem holding color with a certain self tanner, either apply it more often or change brands. That's all I could suggest!
Does anyone know.
any good myspaces. or xangas.
with good graphics. or stuff for myspace?
please tell me.
or some good photobuckets.
Go to xanga, under Blogrings search "myspace graphics" (or "xanga graphics") & click any of the first few blogrings listed. In those blogrings, you'll find pages that supply those kind of graphics & cute stuff for your page. :)
i am doomed as a junior in high school.
can anyone name some good jobs that pay all right?
Considering you're still in high school & you're not really flexible (meaning you can't work days while you're in school), it'll be a little difficult finding a place that pays more than the typical high school job @ the mall.
- You COULD find a staffing agency & see if they have any part-time office jobs in the afternoon. Most temp jobs (through staffing agencies) pay pretty well - the lowest I've seen is $9. But they're usually for people out of school. The likeliness of you scoring a good job with your available hours is pretty slim, but it doesn't hurt to look into it!
- Also, try a place like a hotel working at the front desk. I know of someone who is still in high school & works at one for about $10 an hour.
- Receptionists @ a salon or resort make about $8 an hour.
- If you have a good memory & work well with people, waitressing @ a very nice restaurant may be something to look into. You can make some good money if you're pretty good. But if you're like me, it's probably not your type of job.
- I know department stores like Dillards pay about $8-$9 an hour. So if you wanted a mall job, I'd suggest working there over some other store where you'd only be making about $7 something.
That's all I can really suggest!
OMG
please help me i need an 8th grade graduation dress where can i find a cute knee lenghth dress with pretty spring colors that looks expensive but is 100 dollars and under?
please please pleas i need more than one response
thanks
I'm at Wet Seal every week & they have a lot of cute & bright spring dresses. You could also try Forever 21 & Charlotte Russe. I'm not sure how formal it needs to be, but if you need something more dressier, try a department store like Macys or Dillards.
:)
Ok so I'm on birth control and I try to take it everyday around the same time but some days I'm a few hours off ... a few days ago I let my boyfriend go in me without protection but I didn't let him cum....all I want to know is the chances of getting pregnant....are they low...because I already heard getting pregnant off of pre cum is already low.
According to Planned Parenthood, your pill is not considered late if taken within the same 4 hours every single day. For instance, if you took it @ 6pm on Sunday & then waited till 9pm on Monday night, it would not be considered late. But it's best to take it the same exact hour every single day, because it's 99% effective with PERFECT use. To help me remember, I put an alarm on my phone for 10:20pm every night so I can take it @ 10:30pm. I'm very precise with mine & so far it's been a GREAT way for me to remember - especially since I always have my phone with me.
If you missed ANY day within a week or two prior to having unprotected sex, then you should be worried. But in my honest OPINION, if he did not cum in you & you are usually pretty good with your birth control, you shouldn't be too worried. But as you said, you can still get pregnant from precum.. & birth control is not 100% effective. If you had any doubt about it, you should have gone to your local clinic or Planned Parenthood & gotten emergency contraception. It's only about $28 (in my area) & effective up to 72 hours after sex. But since it's been a few days, that is no longer an option.
Next time, if you want to have unprotected sex, be sure you take your pill every single day @ the same hour & have him pull out. But I highly suggest being on your birth control AND using a condom. That way if one method fails, the other is there to back it up & you will probably not be in the position to worry like you are now.
how do girls get used to wearing high heels? Like some high heels are so hgih that when you wear it, have your feet is bending almost in half!
The highest heel i can wear is 1cm tall, any higher and I'll fall. But there's no great shoes for me.
Honestly, the only way to get used to them is by "practicing" & wearing them around the house. I found a website giving you situations & how you should walk in them:
http://www.heeldirectory.com/high_heels.html
me and my old boyfriend broke up a long time ago. i kinda miss him but im afraid that when we start going out again that he will lie to me all the time ( thats why i broke up with him). what do i do?
What exactly did he lie about in the past? I'm assuming the severity & the repeative lies was enough to break up with him. So what makes you think he won't lie to again? Yes, it's very well possible for a person to change. But it's also possible he can lie to you again. If you can't trust someone in a relationship (especially going into one), it's really not worth it. Don't commit to someone who can't be honest with you & who you have to constantly worry if they're lying to you. Reevaluate the situation & make a wise decision. If you completely trusted him again, you wouldn't be seeking assurance from others on the internet. It's very well obvious he's not the guy for you & you should not set yourself up for disappointment.
hi, im 15, and im going to be 16 in october. i was thinking of having a poker party, in the most expensive room in this hotel-Ramada Jarvis, here in the uk. Do i need to be a certain age to rent a room out for me and my friends-about 10 of them? its going to have to be a double room as thats the largest they have. i wanted a bigger room with a big table but i think they are for everyone to use, like in the main hall. So yeah, anyway, do i need to be a certain age rent a room? and also any tips for the party will be appreciated. thanks
I don't know what the laws are in the UK. But in most states, you must be 21 to rent a room @ most hotels. (Some, but very seldom, will rent to as young as 18 IF you're lucky.) But since things are probably different there, it's best to call around & ask. If you wanted, you could have an older parent or guardian rent the room for you, but they must be present @ the counter with a credit card & ID.
I am clueless on what the laws are like in your area, but just be sure there's no illegal activity going on in the room. If anyone sees a lot of kids running around, you'll probably get complaints, causing you to get kicked out. Tips for the party - don't invite too many people or anyone you don't know. Only allow a select few who are mature enough to be quiet & not cause any problems. Have fun!
my condum broke when i was haveing sex with my girlfriend, her period ended today the condum had spermicide on it and it broke, i did not cum in her....but can she still get pergant, shes really scared and so am i, please help!!!!!
In your additional info, you stated she's on birth control & took her dose today. Well this is what you need to ask her: Has she taken it within the same few hours, every single day for the past week or two? If the answer is yes, then the likeliness of her becoming pregnant is pretty slim when a) birth control is 99% effective with PERFECT use. b) you did not cum inside her (although you can still get pregnant from precum.) & c) you used a condom with spermicide. With those 3 cases, it's very unlikely she could get pregnant. But like I always say, if there's any chance - I suggest your girlfriend goes to a local Planned Parenthood clinic within 72 hours after sex. In my area, they have emergency contraception (the morning after pill) for $28. (May be less or more depending where you live.) If she's over 18, she can get it over the counter within minutes. I don't know the process of getting it when you're under 18, but it's still available! It's better to be safe than sorry. So don't assume anything; take the extra precautions while you can.
k so recently my boyfriend has been fingering me. its something totally new to me. once he goes down ill feel a lot of pressure so i tell him and he will stop and says its most likely my cherry. but recently he did it and i went to the bathroom and there was a little bit of blood, and then just last time he did it there was more. now my stomach hurts and it kind of feels like i have cramps and my stomach is tight. i know its not my period because thats not until the 19th. whats going on? should i be worried?
im 16.
Hey, he probably "popped your cherry" (broke your hymen) & was probably too rough the next time around. The cramps are completely normal & a result from him fingering you - as long as they don't last for more than a day or so. Tell him to use one finger in the mean time & be a LOT, LOT more gentle. & you should have no problems then!
can u put two condoms on for double protection>>>????lol
Can you? Yes. Should you? Absolutely not. Although you may think you're getting "double protection", you're actually at more of a risk with the condom(s) breaking. If you want "double protection" use ONE condom & get on birth control.
OK, onne of my closest bffl's is getting on my last nerves. She's always saying that she is getting more guys than me. GRRRRR, its driving me nuts. Just because she has a bigger chest than I do and atracts older guys, doesnt mean she gets more guys than i do, right? I dont know, all i know is that im tired of her always bragging. If she wants to act like a slut and bitch , fine. But what should I do about the problem. I DONT KNOW IF I CAN TAKE ANYMORE. Can someone PLEASE help me?!?!?!?!?!
There are other things to worry about in life rather than a friend who says she gets more guys. That doesn't prove anything, therefore does not make you less of a person. Ignore it, confront her, or find new & mature friends. Complaining about her on advicenators will not get you anywhere. Addressing the problem with her WILL.