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Q: this may be a little long sorry.
im a 13 year old girl.
okay ive been friends with this girl since i was really little her name is rachael she and my other friend brittany were my 2 best friends rachael has always been popular and me and brittany never were. this never was really a problem till recently when she started lying to us and saying she had chores when really she was with other friends and would never call us back or talk to us we tried telling her on the internet but she would get angry and block us so one time when she did this to me and brittany we knew her password so we were gonna get on her name and unblock ourselves well we got on her name and she was on talking to all her other friends even tho she had said she couldnt talk to anyone because she had to research something for her dad this really upset us so we started talking to her popular friends and they thought we were her so we asked all these guys out and one who was her ex and she hated said yes we also said things to make her look stupid like im scared of the dark she got really upset and told us she was going to call the cops, she never did. we called trying to apologize but the no one answered then she left for vacation she jsut got back and i have been trying to apologize but she just either hangs up or blocks me. i feel really bad and i know 2 wrongs dont make a right but i dont know how to get her to listen to me and now she is telling all her friends really mean things about me and making me look bad this upsets me and then i try explaining why i did it and she just wont listen. and tells me to *screw* off. im really sorry, how can i make her listen to me and restore my firendship?
~very bad friend

This is tough, if I was your friend I'd be mad at you too. It'll be hard gaining her trust back, but just leave her alone for a while and maybe she'll forget about it in a month or something!

Q: Ok me and my friend were at the school watching my boyfriend practice for football and after-ward they get changed so me and my friend were outside waiting for him and at my school its like a long path way and half way is the high school and then all the way down is the middle school and then theres like little tower things on the side and me and my friend were sitting against them and my friend is a lot bigger then me so I wouldn't be that notice-able..so my boyfriend walks by and I didn't notice it was him and my friend was like hey its your boyfriend ( no names used ) and he was walking with his friend and he doesn't like my friend so she was like hey its .... and he doesn't even look over at us he just like throws his hand behind him like waving and walks away...so I was like about to cry cause I thought he was gonna break-up with me and so after we was up there me and my friend go and walk up and I see him in his car and he waves to me like all friendly and stuff...so then we met our other friends and I tell them what happened and there all like talking about breaking-up with him or like telling him off and so I call him and I was like are you mad at me and hes like like all in a happy voice and I was like then why did you walk past me and ignor me and hes like what? when? and I was like when my friend said hey to you and hes like you were with her? and then he had to go so I told my friends and their like hes lying and I dunno who to belive!? please help! sorry its so long!! I'll rate you high just for reading it all!

- c o n f u e s s e d -

You even said that you wouldent be noticeable..so maybe he really didnt see you:) Dont worry about it..

Q: Does anyone know how to move the names around on your favorite columnists list? Like, how to get a specific name up on the top of the list? I know some of them aren't displayed when it gets to be a lot so I want my FAVORITE favorite columnists on top .. any advice? THANKS!!!!!!

Everytime you add a favorite colmnist, the list goes down 1. So what you could do is delete all your fav columnists, and start over. add your least favorite columnists first, and then add your most favorite. That way the most favorites are on top!

Q: i want to get my belly button pierced but my mom wont let me i've tryed before butgot like half way threw and just sorta stoped how should i do it i mean i dont wanna kill myself or anythang haha thanks I RATE WELL

Use a sewing needle.It shouldent be to thin or you wont be able to put a ring in. steralize the needle, of course..just put the top of the needle through a a lighter then put ice your belly button for a few minutes so u wont be able to feel it. mark where u want the ring so it doesnt end up looking weird..then pinch your skin and push it right through,twist it a little, put your ring in..and make sure you clean it a few times a day, and move the ring around so it doesnt close up...good luck!!! i helped my friend do it so u could have a friend help u cuz she was too scared to do it by herself haha

Q: ok i hav a bf i really lik him weve been to 3rd already n stuff n i was talken to him tonight he was sayen how at school alot of times like his teacher n no1 is in his room and how he wishes he could do more with me n hang out more (i am grounded we havent seen eachother for a while but school just started) and so he said that he wouldnt wanna do things in front of anyone but 3 people or something wouldnt be bad! i said yeah and all that but i really dont think id want to there. plus if someone saw n told my mom i would be dead she alreayd found out about what we did before. dont get me wrong..i wanna do stuff but doesnt school and evrything makes me kinda nervous. i dont wanna put on a show jeez! and ik ur gonna say talk o him tell him but idk i already said yeah or w.e and idk im just confused help me plz

He wants you to do stuff in front of people? Tell him no way! You want the stuff you do with him to be private, so just tell him that:)

Q: What have been some of the highlights of your freshmen, sophomore, and junior years of high school? I hafta write an article for the school paper on fun stuff coming up this year and i only have a couple of ideas for each level, definatly not enough for a big article :o/ And everyone i ask can't really come up with anything .. and its due on the 10th and i really cant come up with much. So do you have anything that stands out .. not smthn specific to your school but just like, things that were special during the year for your certain grade level (*so far i have:
freshmen: new school & ppl, 1st homecoming
sophomores: not being the littlest, drivers ed/behind the wheel
juniors: class rings, drive to school, prom)

thanks soooo so much!! =)
xOxO Jeanette
(Jeeeanettesays)

How about the clubs/sports people join? Freshmen like the idea of having options to join a club or sport sooo maybe that would work. sorry if i wasint much help.

Q: ok I just started school and im new.its been about a week and 1 day and im starting to make friends.there is this girl that is nice to me her name is lauren.im sitting at a table with another girl named kaite and some people from my classes.a girl that is friends with the people from my classes comes up to me and says dont be friends with lauren,she is not cool etc etc.then some people move away.so now i dont know what happened or what to do.should I be friends with lauren who I sorta know and ignore the girl who told me to ignore lauren or should I not be friends with lauren and go with the people from my class (I like the people pretty equally)I have no idea what to do help please.
-mal

Dont listen to the chick thats like dont hang out with lauren , hang out with who you wanna hang out with...and if the girl gets mad at u for still hanging out with luaren then she wasint a real friend ne way

Q: yesterday at the doctors i got a shot in my arm (kind of my shoulder) and it didnt hurt at all, but now today it hurts really bad it feels like i have a bruise where the shot was and it hurts really bad whenever i move my arm. is this normal or should i be concerned? im starting to worry. how long should this pain last?

Its normal, it wont hurt when you get the shot but after it kills you...it'll take a few days..dont worry!:)

Q: I NEED ADVICE!
i love this girl and i want her to love me but she is obsessed with this other guy I really love her at first it sounded like she like me and it was flirting...I want her but she loves another What should I do?

If she is obsessed with this other guy theres nothing really you can do.be her friend...and maybe when shes over the other guy she'll like you..hope i helped:)

Q: Uh hey guys, just wondering, does it hurt?

Does sex hurt? Yea for girls, their first time mostly...but it just depends on the girl..

Q: ok, well i was on vacation for 9 days, i came back to find my hamster, decaying alive! It's so gross and nasty, i feel so bad for him, idk what to do! He has part of his skin missing, and fur, he can't walk or anything, i feel so bad. My parents won't let me take him to the vet, i think he has been alive for about 2 yrs or 1 1/2.....what should i do? PLEASE I NEED HELP :( HE IS MY BABY, I'LL DIE WITHOUT HIM!

Wow hes probably really sick. I think you should call the vet and describe what he looks like and if the vet says its not good i think u should convince ur parents to take the hamster to the vet

Q: ok soooooooooooooooooooo i have a little problem that i jus cna't seem to fix on my own alright so my best friend was going out with this guy who i've become like really good friends with *which is mucho weird but w/e* and so they broke up early this summer and now we've *guy and me* have gotten closer *well i think so* anywhoo so now EVERYONE AND THERE BROTHER think i like him WHICH i dont cuase i mean yea were friends but he went out with my best friend and its not like that would be ok either way BUT what makes matters worse is that my best friend seriously thinks he likes me and i'm like nooooooooooo were jus close....

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i have no idea what to do

pooheads

oh and if that didn't make sence sorry!

thanks

B

Just tell your best friend that your only friends with the guy, and if "everyone and their brother" thinks u like him..just defend urself

Q: ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now and we talk all the time on the phone and online but when we get to school we dont talk at all! we haven't even hugged..! and like all we do is say hi or wave and walk away like we're in health and Intro to something together and like everyone always talks but we never do! well me and my friend Sam are going to watch him practice and the kid she likes practice for football so if you have any advice on how to get him to talk to me in school please hurry cause my friend is coming over now! alright thanks!

-I rate high-

You should just go up to him and talk to him and ask him why you 2 dont talk at school..maybes hes shy...just see whats up..good luck!

Q: umm.. dont think im stupid for asking this but i just wanna be safe and sure. if a girl is on birth control, does the guy still need to wear a condom wen they do it?

If you want to be extra safe like if the pill doesnt work the condom will..or the other way around...then you should use both..but a girl on the muary show(lol) got pregnant using both things so its not 100% but sure..

Q: wut r u supposed to do when everything is going rite in a relationship then all of a sudden it just dies... like we werent going out but we acted like it and we havnt talked bout a week but i miss him cuz i like him alot.. i know hes not cheatin or wutever cuz not too many girls like him cuz hes not really a *stud* but hes amazing and even my ex is happy for me and says wed be great together...wut should i do i wanna at least be friends but id like to be sumthing more... that was a like a book in a nutshell cuz it would take me forever to tell me bout this amazing guy... so if u could plz help me out i miss him alot... thanx

kristi

Well call him up and talk to him..do you think hes avoiding you? if not it wont hurt to try to reach him..

Q: My boyfriend and I just had sex for the first time..He took my virginity. It was unprotected and Im not sure if he pulled out or not. We were both a little drunk. I dont regret it. Anyway, I was told that you shouldn't have unprotected sex for 15 days after your last period ended. Its only been 10 days. Im a little worried that, well basically, I could become pregnant. Im not sure if the 15 day thing is true. Im going to the health clinic in a couple days to get on birth control and they always give you a pregnancy test. I want to know if I should be worried about this or not and if the 15 day thing is true. Hurry..this has me scared. Thanks.

It doesnt matter about the 10 day-15 day thing..you have unprotected sex, you have a chance to become pregnant..soo good luck when u take the test.

Q: Hi well Im jj15 and i need ur help and fast!
I am going out with a guy named rocky , well everytime I go and talk to him he just says Hi and then says that he has to go, Im afraid that he's cheating on me.
I tried asking him if he was and he would just stare and say no then he gose off somewhere.
I am really afraid!!!!!
Help me plz what do I do?
please dont erase this ?!!
and I got my pic on my coulmn now

Hey well he may be cheating on you but if hes avoiding you maybe he just doesnt like you anymore? Talk to him about him avoiding you and stuff and if he doesnt listen break up with him..

Q: well i had a boyfriend and he was my bestfriends cousin right well he lives in south austin and i live in north austin an so we never rly see eathother and on saturday i made out with his other cousin and we were holdin hands and cuddling and then he all a sudden pulled me tight and we were layin like that 4 a lil while juss watchin a movie and then he kissed the side of my lip and part of my cheek and the next thing i kno his tounge was in my mouth and we were makin out...and b4 when we went out he only liked me for my ass (the guy i kissed we went out b4 but didnt do nothin then broke up now hes makin moves on me!!) so i dont kno why he kissed me when i was goin out with 1 of his FAVORTIE cousins...but back to the point it was my FIRST KISS and im 13 and i wasent expecting it so do you think he'll kno it was my 1st??..

sry sooo long but PLEASE HELP!!!

Well an experienced kisser would probably know if it was your first kiss but who cares because guys usally like that :)

Q: ok well......im going out with this gurl and im not sure if i shuld break up with her or not b/c shes looking for a seriuos relationship and im not wut shuld i do

Tell her your not looking for a serious realtionship right now, and if she doesnt like that then you guys should break up..

Q: i have a broken heart...long story, but i dont know how to get over him! he doesnt like me anymore and it really really hurts :( how can i make the hurt go away???? please help thanks

first, know that you WILL get over him. try looking for other guys and talk to them...that way you'll like them and not like the guy that broke your heart. and hopefully the new guy you like will like u too! Good luck!