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Q: how come that whenever i ask a question... (not even bad or sexual or anything) that the mods delete them! i asked one about a friend problem and a hair problem and the mods deleted them! whats up with that? if ur reading this then this is the 1st one in 4ever they didnt delete!
THANX IN ADVANCE!

Maybe the questions was asked a few times before by different people. Thats why they delete it. Cuz they have other questions on the exact same stuff..just a waste of room to keep on putting the same questions up..hope i helped

Q: im starting to fall for this sweet/funny kid in my classes at school, we sit next to each other and he's very nice to me all the time. i really want to get to know him better- but he's really popular... not stuck up popular... but popular as in not the crowd i usually hang out with everyday. i know the people he is usually with at an okay relationship, but other than that our social lives are completely different. im really shy and i cant "hang out" with him or anything because we arent that close yet. he seems like someone i could really trust, but im not sure if it's worth the chance of even bothering. advice?

ahh whats it gonna hurt to try? If he's not stuck up popular then he might hang out with you. Start saying hi outside of class, when you walk pass him or something and maybe one day ask him if he wants to hang out. So go for it!

Q: i broke up with this guy about... 10 months ago. i really liked him, and it still kind of hurts. he just got a new g/f and i feel... badly. i wish that it was me again that he was talking to. i know i deserve better than him (he practically ignored me the last two or three months of our relationship) but i feel horibble. anything i can do to stop feeling this way?

Liking other guys! and telling yourself your x bf was a jerk for treating you badly. Just find other hott guys, flirt..and go out with them. I know how you feel you just gotta tell ur self he was a jerk and start liking new guys and stuff

Q: i guess this is mainly for the guys, but ladies can help too..i've never made out, or french kissed , but i want to. however i think i'd be more comfortable starting out with like a peck, maybe a lil open mouthed, no tongue. do guys think thats dumb or w/e? like do 15,16 year olds actually kiss like lil pecks too? or just tongue??
yah im a late bloomer, please give me some advice, and mods please don't delete, i really would like some supprt.

It doesnt matter if ur 6 or 16 I think you could start giving pecks and then move on to makeing out when its comfortable

Q: I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. We've been together for 16 months and i truly believe that we are madly in love. I somewhat believe he is the one for me. He's a senior and will be graduating this year, I'm only a junior. I'm really scared of whats going to happen when he graduates. I've seen movies and shows where the couple breaks up because the one goes to college and never sees each other or whatever the deal is. He's not sure where he is going yet but i really hope it all works out. he mentioned something before like "if we're still going out next summer before i go away to college, i'll propose." It's scary how i feel like i could run away and get married with him right now. what do u think about this situation?

Well he promised you he'd propose so theres nothing to worry about. Just act normal and when the time comes you guys can talk about it. After he proposes wait until your 18 to get married. So that way if your parents disaprove you can still marry him.

Q: OK ive been going out with my bf for a week so far but I'm still kinda nervous around him cuz I like him so much. I want to surprise him and kiss him in like an empty hall tomorrow when we're walking together to show him that I really like him but I need like a game plan here lol can anyone help me out ? Thanks so much!

When you guys are talking and he says something interupt him and say "shhh" and then kiss him

Q: SweetKisses told me to ask you about cheer. So I need stunts and tips. Thanks.

Well the last time I cheered was a long..long time ago but I still love it so I'll be able to help..haha. Make sure you have a coach to spot you on stunts and teach you stunts. If anyone feels uncomfortable doing a stunt dont do it until they feel safe! Since your team is beginners the first thing you should do is find people who want to be the bases, flyers, and spotters. Bases should be tall, but not too tall. Flyers should be light weight and flexibile. And backspots are the tall ones. Everyone involved in a stunt needs to be strong. One little mistake can make the stunt go horribly! You guys all have to be strong so go to the gym and work on arms and legs! Work on your stomachs because flat stomachs help tumbling. Make sure you have a coach or you will not understand what to do. A good beginning stunt would be the Thigh Stand. Have 2 bases lunge in toward one another and have the flyer stand behind them. Then the flyer puts her right foot on the right bases left thigh, and puts her other foot on the other base, she's in a standing position on their thighs, and their holding her legs...she has her hands up in a high V. (If you dont know what that is ask your coach). Thats one of the basic stunts, for more just ask your coach. Good luck with your team! I think your team should go to a tumbling gym to work on your flipping skills, a regular gym to work on strength(arms, legs, stomach), and get a certified coach to help you over all! Beginning tumbling you should learn is cartwheels, round offs, and back bends. Once you guys have mastered back bends take a backhandspring/round off backhand spring class. And learn more skills from there. Do Not do not do not!!! Do splits in a routine. Thats not a good thing. Because it takes too long to get up. Dances are easy, just ask your coach to teach you some. For cheers/chants go to google.com and search cheers and chants. you will get so many. Good luck, need any more info ask!

Q: ok i know this is a question alot of people ask..but i like this guy..like alot and we're good friends and we talk sometimes..i guess? i wanna tell him i like him but i can't..cuz im too shy..and he doesn't have a screen name..Ah..so are there any ways to show him i like him..without ya know..atchually saying it directly..alomst like flirting? Thanks!

yea flirt, compliment him or something. Flirt flirt flrit..and then he'll get the hint..haha good luck

Q: All my friend has been doing lately is complaining. Not to be stuck up or anything but things are going a little better for me than they are for her lately and shes tryen to bring me down with her so we can share being upset all the time . On the fone she doesnt stop complaining I just want to hang up on her. I dont want to be rude to her about this but im just so sick of listening to her complain. PLEASE help!

She just wants someone to listen. Just tell her she complains too much and if she wants you to listen that you will but yea just tell her what you think good luck

Q: hi...this isnt the person asking about her overweight but i read the question and im a little over weight so can u tell me about that no carb diet u were talking about...thanks!!!!

Sure, I'm, doing it right now nd so far so god! haha..If you want to lose 10-15 lbs this would be a great diet for you!!

You cannot eat bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, cereal, fruit, junk food. You cant drink jucie/soda. Diet Pepsi is OK.

For breakfest you eat: Eggs or Lettuce wraps (leetuce wrapped around meat)
For lunch you eat: Hamburger meat, grilled chicken, any meat you want, lettuce wraps..
Dinner: All of the above

Dont eat after 6:30 PM

The goal is eating meat, which has protien. A lot of protien makes you lose weight. make sure you eat veggies to break down all the fats you eat or you'll have problems..if you know what i mean. Good luck, tell me if you have any questions or wanna tell me how much u lost! By the way it takes about 2-4 weeks to lose 15 lbs...so its fast!

Q: I am 16/f and have almost chin length blond/brown hair. its super thin and pretty damaged from flat ironing it. i kinda wanted 2 grow it out... but i was jw... how long would it take to get it 2 my shoulders? can i speed the growing process up... and will it look bad?

Cant really make your hair grow fast. But since its damaged try going to a salon and asking for prooducts to get ur hair looking nice..and it might take 3-6 months to get to your shoulders.

Q: sO...i've been a vegatarian my whole life... but i never have ne protein! is that bad? what can i eat? (not eggs) and am i really unhealthy?
THANX IN ADVANCE!

You should drink protien shakes. Their for diets mostly, but you need your protien. Also talk to your doctor about other ways you can get protien..

Q: I wasn't sure what category to put this under by recently my girlfriend / best friend and I just lost our virginity to each other. It was amazing. But then the next night, I get a phone call from her brother saying to go the hospital because my girlfriend's just been raped...by her father. I didn't know what to do, so i just froze and went after her father. I beat the crap out of him and broke my hand. I know that wasn't smart but what he did to her was less smart. He's been abusing her since about the age of 4, I was one of the few people who knew this. She didn't want ANYONE telling the police because her father threatened her. And she didn't want to run away and leave her little sister with her father for fear he might hurt her too.

Well anyway, back on topic, her father went to jail and everyone testified against him. So he'll be in there for a LONG time. My problem is, my girlfriend is still in shock over this. We tried to have sex a few weeks later but she was so scared and still thinks about the rape. I'm not frustrated about the no-sex part AT ALL believe me. But what I'm wondering is if there's anything I can do for her to make her get over this. I want her to be happy again. I love her with all my heart and hate seeing her like this.

Any girls who have been raped, you could probably help me most on this. How did you get over it? Thanks SO much!

All you can do to help her get through this is be with her all the time. Be there if she needs a shoulder to cry on, or needs someone to talk to. And I give you SO SO SO many props for beating up her dad! I'm really sorry about this..you guys are in my prayers!

Q: hey does nair really work? because i have a hard time shaving my legs and getting all the spots and i thought it would be nice but i want to know if it works first. thanx.

I used nair for a while, its awesome. But it smells like crap. You could try getting the rasberry smell see if that works...But make sure you have like air freshener to take the nair smell away after ur done or ppl in ur house will yell at u...trust me i know!

Q: Hi everyone, does anybody know good ways to make money? Thanks, I'll rate the first three that answer a five.

Baby sit, do chores around the house, car washes, sell some of your old stuff...like a rummage sale or something:)

Q: Well one day, my 2 girl-friends were really bored and started talking about this girl Becca. Well one of my friends went on a guy's screen-name and started talking to Becca...and she really liked "him". Ya well it turned into this dating game which the girl didnt wanna do cuz she had to pretend to be a guy..but it was really funny at first. So they did it...well becca and the "guy" which my friends named him Erik dated like 2 times and their going out again. We made Erik the hottest,sweetest, popular guy.. This is all over the internet cuz u kno! Well my friend doesnt wanna be erik anymore, because this was all a joke but this joke has been going on long enough. And she's too busy to be a guy right now l0l! But its soo funni! What do we do Sherry? I'm asking you because you pretend to be Erik's cousin. Thanks!

Oh you guys wanna end Erik? Awww but hes so fun! lol I know she (not giving out any names) doesnt wanna be erik anymore, cuz shes told me like for soo long that she wants to end erik and all but another girl was like no keep doing it. But now your really going to do it..here's a good idea. Let someone send becca my advice column so she reads the question herself and my answer. I bet she's so happy she doesnt have to be a lesbian anymore haha. And yea sorry Becca!

Q: ok well i went to " your questions " to see if any one answered my question. well the only question in there isnt mine. its like I dont know what subject to put it under!
Question Posted Sunday September 19 2004, 7:18 pm

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I am a freshman in high school...There is this guy in school that I like... his name is nick and well some people say that he likes me tOo. We are talkin all the time and we are each others hoes... yea not really funny but its an inside joke... AnyWayZ. I like him and so does my friend paige but that really doesnt matter... but this girl breanna is like threatin'n me like if I go out with him she is gunna beat me up and I dont know what to do... we are always together and we both told her to leave us alone and she wont... I dont wanna get her mad at me and make her wanna beat my butt... but I like him.... what should I do!

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Erika

^ wat happenend?

Thats weird, if your not erika then you should talk to advicenator_admin about that or maybe someone got into your account...

Q: I really want my family to own a house before summer comes. We dont have enough money to move right now. We've moved every year for 4 years. Im sick of moving and I just want to own a house. If you've ever heard of the houses ` rent to own ` can you give me a site that sells houses that has that option? If you know any thanks. Ill rate you a 5. And if it matters I need it in West seattle washington. Thanks.

You need to go to a real estate agency around your area and ask them if they could help you. Look in the yellow pages for their number and info and stuff. Good luck:)

Q: I hate going to work with my boss. She makes me feel SO ignorant! Whenever I do one little thing wrong she raises her voice at me in front of customers and pushes me out of the way to show me how to do things right. One time I got this customer's order wrong because she (the boss) and the customer were talking to me at the same time so I thought the customer told me she wanted the 3 cookies instead of a medium drink. After I finished the order and she paid I asked her what cookies she wanted and she said she wanted the drink instead. So then the boss looks over at me and rolls her eyes and was like "What happened?" So I told her and then she started yelling and everything.

Sorry that was so long! But anyway I really like where I work and I don't want to get another job but then again, I hate feeling so low about myself like I can't do anything right. I don't like confronting people either. ESPECIALLY my boss. So what should I do?

Thanks, and I rate!

Since you like your job so much just pay attention and try to stay away from the boss..since she gets annoyed if you do something wrong..She's just being hard on you and seeing if you can work under pressure..so show her that u can do it:)

Q: Is it possible to overdose on vitamin c? i mean i just bought cough drops that say each drop has 100 percent of the vitamin c i need each, is ok to take more if i need them?