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where is the g-spot located?

I think knuckle deep ..watch "talk sex" with Sue Johanson..(the old lady) on this channel called Oxygen...you should watch it..its on at like 11 or 12

she takes phone calls from ppl who have sex questions and that question comes up

hope i helped!

-melissa-

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how do you finger a girl?

Hey..heres a few pointers

-be kinda gentle..she`ll let you kow if she wants it faster or w/e lol..but she might be shy and not tell u that your being too rough..so i`d start out gentley.

-um i guess play with the clit a little bit and work your way into the vaginal hole..keep your fingers rubbing the clit and she`ll have an orgasm

-hope i hlped..if not write me somethin and leave it in the inbox!

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I have TWO questions. One-I'm always bored and I never have anything to do. When I'm doing something I'm thinking of how bored I'm gonna be after it. Got any ideas? Two- I have to pimpils on my nose. Have any good advice on what to do?

If you live in a location where theres places to go, take advantage of it! I live in bum f**k nowhere lol.

Gather up friends and make plans.

Go to the school and play sports..

get ppl together and play manhunt,

have a party,sleepover, etc

If you have friends that drive go out driving!

Get a job

Do work around the house..like clean or w.e (hey ur not bored ne more when you clean!

Visit with family members

talk on the phone

surf the net

babysit ppl

i duno just DO SOMETHIN! then you wont be bored :)

As for your pimples...use coverup maybe

the best thing to do is to leave em alone..wash your face

hope i helped!

-meliss-

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I got my first period over a year ago, July 2003. I have gotten 4-6 periods when i should have had 12. i go long periods of time without getting a period. Like I got one in December and my next one was in March. I have one like every 3-4 months and what really sux about it is that when i actually do get them its not the same day of the month. My first one was on the 1st but i've gotten them anytime of the month. Im really skinny and some ppl say if u dont have alot of body fat it messes up ur periods.. is that true?

thanx... kt

that isnt always true..im a pretty big person and for while mine was messed up as well for awhile. Your cycles will get regular..not to worry!

-melissa-

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i am a 14 yr old grl from cali.. i have a problem.. i am obsessed with online cyber sex on one particular website and phone sex. i sometimes lie about my age and location when people ask "a/s/l" because the guy could be lyk 19 and ill say im 17 well i just cant stop cyber sexing online and sometimes while i do it i get so worked up i phone sex so i can make the sounds and hear the sounds.. i cant stop i tried blocking the site that i use i dont charge my phone soemtimes but it DOESNT WORK i just unblock the site or something its veery very hard for me to stop this and i am really young but it is an ADDICTION i need ALOT OF HELP please reply thanks

-cyber sex fanatic-

hmm..im no miracle worker but I`ll do the best I can!

Just keep in mind that it really is DANGEROUS! Ive heard horrible stories about teens being tracked down by stalkers who hold them hostage. This leads to death or rape! You want to stop..which is a good thing..

-so start by trying to get a boyfriend maybe. This will keep you happy and you`ll have no reason to cyber!

-hang out with friends more! go the movies, sleepovers, etc

-if you really cant stop the urge..then maybe try wtching porn and masturbating.

-ou could get help professionally if you want..but lets try to avoid that

I really hope I helped!

-melissa-

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OK..growing up I rarely saw my mom and dad hug or kiss.Last year they were thinking of divorcing and it was a really sad time for me. They arent divorced and they are working on their marriage. Problem is..they are like horny teenagers and it sickens me to see them make out and slobber in front of me. Last night we were at a drive up window and they started making out passionatly right there! What can I do to express that im happy for them..but to please do that STUFF in private!? Thanks for the help..i rate generously!

WOW im going through the EXACT same thing..i say talk to them..if it doesnt work..bring hme your bf or gf and make out in front of them and dont listen when they ask you to stop. I bet it will work like a charm.

i would do that if i had someone to bring home lol!

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ok well im a guy that no girls like cuz i am ugly. all the girls around where i live r shallow. none of them like boys that have freckles, redhair, and very very lite skin. what should i think of myself? as an ugly person or a cute person juss ppl cant see that?

I persaonlly love red heads :)

your a cute guy with sahllow girls around you who are missing out..thats all.

Dont worry you`ll find someone..best of luck!

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- - ok, me and my best guy friend Mike keep getting in fights over shtuff. Like EVERY SINGLE time i talk to him, he has to bring up his girlfriend, who is like one of my friends and he KNOWS I HAVE THIS MAJOR CRUSH ON HIM!! and we always get in a fight over it, cuz how would you feel if you asked your best guy friend out *not the brightest thing to do i guess* and he said no he isn't "ReadY" and then went and asked out your friend..? My god!! and now i dunno what to do, cuz i'm sick of fighting with him......

what do i do?
Signed..
- Stupid Best girl friend

i was in the exact same situation..one of my best guy friends knew I really liked him..but hes obsessibe over my best friend and its all he talks about..its like he rubs it in my face..saying how hot she is..lol

I took a break from my best guy friend for a week..gradually he stopped talking about her so much

If you 2 are such great friends im sure he`ll consider your feelings

Just say to him "dont rub it in my face.."

or that its hurtful..etc.

hope i helped!

-melissa- :)

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ok..i'm 15..im seeing this guy who's 16..and i really like, ok well love him and everything's so perfect right now..BUT i've never made out with any1..i've been the type of girl always into sports, school..not really had time for boyfriends or serious relationships..BUT he thinks i have "french-kissed" some1 and i feel dumb telling him

Your boyfriend will never know that youve never french kissed before.

It comes very natural..i didnt beleivbe my friends either but once i kissed the guy..i was like wow they`re right! And it only gets better from there!

some helpful tips ive heard:

-fresh breath

-pretend its an icecream cone lol

-dont be stiff..put your arms around him or w.e

i really hope i helped!

good luck n HAVE FUN! :)

-melissa-

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okay. i have a super-creepy stalker, and i talked about it at work and after that my friend called him and told him to leave me the hell alone because i told him to. the thing is.. i never said that. then my stalker got real mad and said " mind your own f-ing buisness a-hole!" and now im really afraid... for both myself and my friend. now i have to go back to school in a month and i have to see him everyday. im so worried that he is going to hurt me because he really doesnt respect authority at all. and i dont really want to talk to him at all because thats how this whole stalking thing began-- with me being nice to him. im so confused and everytime i see him i start shaking and my heart pumps really fast. do i need therapy or something? help me

Dont let someone rule your life like that! Call the police and have them do something! Get a restraining order out agaisnt him! Tell your mom,dad, anyone!

Its unfair to live your life in fear..i would be as scared as you are.

Its not fair to you..your friends..or family to see you suffer and be afraid. get that creep off the street so you can live your life! Sitting around is the worst thing to do about it!

Until then..travel in groups when you go out..etc.

Good luck!

I really hope I helped!

-melissa-

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hi my name is jessica and my friend thinks i called her jerk when i didnt now she started a big fight i said sry but i think shes still mad at mewhat should i do!!! PLZ HELP

You guys are friends..I think your friend just needs a little space. 99% of the time fights like these are resolved. Dont bend over backwards tooo much..but maybe make her a card? Im sure things will be ok shortly. If not..send me a question in my inbox!


good luck! hope i helped

-melissa-

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hey, if you have cut yourself on the arm really deep 3 times and your parents found out so you cant do it again, you do on your chest a couple of times because you really need to but it was only a couple of times and you feel like your gonna die if you feel relieved after does it mean ill end up killing myself? is it a major thing? like do i have serious problem here? ive only done it a couple of times but i cant control myself not when i feel like i really need to. help? please? anyone?

ONE time..i cut myself on the arm..only slightly..that wasnt a problem.

What you describes is a poetential problem if you dont stop it right away! Cutting on the chest is serious and this situation can get dangerous quickly. Dont be afraid to get help..it sounds like you only need a little.

its not that serious YET///

and it doesnt always lead to suicide.

I have a friend whos sister cut reeal bad..but she got help and shes fine now.

I really hope i helped..best of luck!

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okay, well i'm a 14/f and i hate my thighs cuz they're pretty fat *im a size 9* i've tried eating right, i usually run 2.8 miles 2-3 times a week, i play sports almost everynight and i do thigh excercises in bed..nothings working...does anyone know of any really good excercises i could do to slim down the tops of my thighs? thanks, and i will rate all advice.

wow it sounds like your doing most of the things i`d suggest! hmm..maybe

-lay on your back and do those bicycle things

-stretch your legs

-get into playing tennis..that really hardens up your legs

-adjust your diet if that might help

but you sound like your really doing great..so I think you`ll be fine with minor tuneups

hope i helped a little!

-melissa-

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Hey melissa, I have a BIG problem... literally... Girls say my penis is way to big. They think it will damage them if we had sex, and its too big to fit in thier mouth without thier teeth scratching my penis. Girls will only give me hand jobs cuz my penis is so large, and they have to use both hands, and its kinda hard to sneak a hand job when you have to use 2 hands, so i can only get hand jobs when totally alone. I have a cast on my left hand right now from a skating accident, and i cant masterbate for like a month! I dont know what to do about this, can u please help? - Aonomous

hmm..i see..this can be rather frustrating to someone as sexually active as you seem to be. Well...you cant change the size of your ..package..here are a few options..lol

-shove ice cubes into the girls mouth so it numbs it..then maybe she wont gag..

-as far as the biting probs..maybe fill her mouth with jello, pudding, applesauce,etc so it forms a coat of protection on ur penis perhaps?

-you could search for a girl who jus devours penises..and whos used to such large things..

hmm..i guess thats all i can say to help..good luck to you and your penis!


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Hey..im concerned that WHEN i do decide to have sex wit the man i love..that his thing will be huge and it will hurt! Ive seen some really big ones and thy look like they can hurt! I want to enjoy sex when i get married and do it..i just dont want to be in pain! Will it hurt or is it somehow pleasuring?

Thanks for your help! I rate generously!

hmm..hopefully the man you love will do it gently until you get used to it maybe. After all..he will be the love of your life so he should treat you great

hope i helped!

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Okay there is this boy that i met a couple times but i mostly talk to him on the phone i wanna hang out wit him n get to knwo him n we both agreed on that well the first nite we were suppose to do something he was sick for the day the sec time he got hurt at work .. im not sure if he is just making this up or it really happen but like i said i sorta like this boy n wanna get to knwo him n hang out what do i say to him for him to see it

that is a bit of a coincidence but who knows maybe its true?

Maybe hes shy?

The only way to find out is to confront him...
Sometimes its hard to say it..so maybe emailing or something is better for you?

Hope I helped!

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me n mi boyfriend have been tagether for almost a year now nd we've done everythin but have sex and well tanight he was fingering me nd that nd it got a little out of control nd ima virgin nd hez lyke well jus let dem meet nd i waz lyke k nd he did nd there wasnt a condom nd it wasnt long but im really afraid that i culd get pregnant i dunt no what happen lyke with him 'down there' but im so scared can i get pregnant from that it was only like a minute but idunno is there a possibility ? PLEASE HELP im way to young ta get pregnant im so scared

Calm down sweatheart. I know a girl who only had sx for one minute and she turned out fine. Its pretty unlikely so i`ll think you`ll be ok. If you get too tense and nervous about getting your next period..it might not come due to your nervousness..so try to relax. Wait for your period to come and go from there..

He didnt ejaculate ..but there was what they call precum...this is unlikely to get you pregenent..i think you`ll be ok

if you are pregenet write back to me...but dont worry you`ll be ok

if you want...you coud go to one of those centers and gget the "after pill" if u go before 72 hrrs of doing it unprotected..the pill will elliminate the possibility of you becoming pregnent.

hope i helped...

-melissa_

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hey--> my brother [a college kid] screamed at me because he said i told his best friends sister [who i really dont even talk too bc shes older than me] all these stories about stuff they do at parties but i didnt...i tried to convince him it wasnt me but he doesnt believe me...today i was looking through his conversations in the log manager on aim and my bro n his best friend were talking about all this stuff they think i said but i honestly didnt know about any of it! and i dont know what to do...me and my brother got along last year really well and this summer were constantly fighting...i tried talking to him but it didnt work...hope u can help

maybe it will pass...give it awhile. Then, if things still dont getpatched up do something nice like write him a nice card. He might need space cuz hes in college and its a whole new world.

good luck


-melissa-

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ok recently one of my good friends has broke up with her boo, lets just say his name is "paul". well "paul" n her hate eachother now, but i started talking to "paul" online n im starting to like him n i can tell that he likes me...and we also sent eachother our pictures so were not hiding anything...the only problem is that i have a boyfriend...but i really like "paul" too, then today i found out that they are friends again..i mean i know for a fact that they wont go out again anytime soon but i am so confused i dont know what to do!!!

sounds like you have a bf...dont mess with ur friends ex if you can help it. This will cause problems.

If you dont like your bf then thats a different thing.

good luck

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one night i got really drunk and i was talking to this kid justin (who wasnt drunk) then i feel asleep and i wake up and im naked and hes ontop of me on the bed and hes naked and as soon as he saw me wake up he ran into the other room...i dont no what happened really...i try to ask him and he tells me that he was just touching me he didnt like rape me or nething....but i would no if we had sex right? or if we didnt nething more...i no he put it in my mouth bc i had the taste in my mouth..but i would no rigth? please help meee

PLEASE HELP!

If you were a virgin you can easily tell if you were raped. Check to see if your cherry is still not popped.

If you werent a virgin..the only way to tell is to go to the hospitol and get tests. Or do you maybe feel sore down there? Thats a way of telling.
Ask around to his friends or your friends..maybe they know?

By the way...he put his dick in your mouth..this counts as some type of rape if you didnt want that to happen. He took advantage of you..are you ok with that? If not..report him.

good luck..be careful next time!

-hope i helped,melissa-

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