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Hey my names ali i'm 17 from new jersey. i'm usually really fast with advice so ask whatever you want and i'll answer as soon as possible!!
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I am 14 and i havent started my period. I have been have this white stuff come out for about a year now and sometimes very heavily. Is there something wrong with me? I thought I would of started my period by now..

There's nothing wrong with you! Some girls do not even get their period until they are 16! Be happy you dont have your period, it sucks. The white stuff is discharge and once you start getting that, you know you could get your period soon.
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Alright, I asked a question here.and most answers came out that i might have an infection. I am soooooooooo scared to ask my mosther if she knows anything about my prob. Can sumone help?

My ratings are as good as the answer

If you want to know whats going on with your body and you dont want your mother to know, go see a clinic. they can get check you out or recomend you somewhere without your parents knowing. its totally confidential and free. if you dont want 2 go to the clinic, it doesnt help, or dont have one near you, talk to your doctor. when i visit my doctor, she always blabs about how i can tell her anything in confidentiality and maybe she can recomend you to a gyno or someone who can help you. but you should tell your mother. she could probably help you with the problem and she may be understanding. she was a kid once, remember?
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Okay my best friend just told me shes bi..And im a girl to.I dont know what to do, should I still be her friend or should I like not be..Im kinda creeped out cause I dont want her to like hit on me or nething.What should I do? Im only 14 to what should I do

Of course you should still be her friend! Just because shes bisexual doesnt mean shes going to make a move on you. She knows that you arent interested in girls and she will lay off. Believe me, theres no sense getting rid of a good friendship because of it.
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Hey Everybody!!
Well...I'm engaged now, and I'm starting to plan my wedding. I'm not sure of my color theme yet...but I know that it'll most likely be on the beach, in the summer...mainly around July or Aug. My dress will be either off white or white. My question is...does anybody have an suggestions about colors on bridesmaids or..other things such as decoration. Thank ya'll soo much.

First of all, congradulations on your engagement! I don't know what color theme you could do, but for bridesmaids dresses i'd recoment a peachy color .. or i'd highly recomend lavender. thats always the best bridesmaid color dress. you should go for a more pastel color vs. a dark color since you will be having a summer wedding. anything in the light pink, lavender, light blue family will work nicely.
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what are the "bases"?...you know like 1st 2nd 3rd 4th, what do they mean.Like when people say "I went to 3rd base with him" or sumthin like that.

Basically, its a very simple concept. When I was taught the bases, my friend called them the 4 f's. french, feel, finger, fuck.
1st - French
2nd - Feel
3rd - Finger
4th / Home Run - Fuck
sometimes people may say head is third.. but always go by the the four f's.
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i wanna start shaving should i just ask my mom?

Ask your mom. Tell her your ready. If she says no, spend your own money on a razor and shaving cream. It will only cost a couple of dollars & it is worth it.
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what should you do when you are feeling pressured into sex when your not readi?

Say no! If you do not want to have sex dont have sex. its your life. no one can make you do something that you dont want to do. if you are in a relationship wit someone whos pressuring you, get out of it. no person can tell force you to do something you arent ready for or just dont want to do.
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whats a good style of sneakers or brand or specific sneaker that i can wear to go back to school that not everyone will have but still come off as really cute.

im a girl.. if you didnt realize by now. Haha.. thanks for the help

I personally LOVE phat farms. they come in many different colors and i hardly every see people wearing them. also, there are baby phat shoes that are kinda expensive but probably no one will have them. g-units are cool, but those tend 2 be more poupular. hope this can help u !
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Ok, I have thick, brown, shoulder-length hair, and normally, I straighten it every day with my CHI straightener. But everytime I straighten it, it gets messed up within the next 30 minutes. So my question is, what should I use to keep my hair straight for the longest period of time possible? Like, should I use a gel type substance? If so, exactly what brand do you suggest, and exactly HOW do I apply it? Thanks so much!

If your doing your hair in the summer weather, the humidity can cause it to curl/frizz w/e. i have very curly hair and i used 2 straighten it 24/7, but it would just poof out. i'd recomend giving your hair a break and wearing it wavy until the fall/winter months when its more likely to stay in. but if you want to straighten it in summer weather, bed head 'afterparty' (the jar looks like a penis) works pretty well at keeping your hair in tact. it wont stay perfect, but this product will help it stay better. apply the product by putting a small amount in ur hands and rubbing it together, start in the back and smooth through until u get the front. dont use 2 much in the front or it will look greasy.
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uMm...i saw my friend make a move on my bf..what do i do ?

confront your friend! your friend is not your friend if shes trying 2 get with ur man. or maybe there was a missunderstanding or something. talk to your friend and your BF.
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When I get period on my underwear, I try to rinse it out in the sink as soon as possible. My question is this-- should I use hot water to rinse it or cold? I've heard both opinios for the following reasons:

*You should use hot water because it will rinse it out better.
*You should use cold water because hot water will cause it to set and then it will be stained. So I guess my question is, is this true?

Cold water. hot water will set the stain. use some peroxide too.
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i have a bump on the inside of my pubic area.. im almost positive its not HIV becaus i only have one & my boyfriend has no signs & hasnt been with anyone who has any.. its itchy & sometimes sore when irritated, im going to the doctor soon.. has anyone ever had one of these? what do you think it is?

It doesnt have to be HIV. there are more sexually transmitted diseases such as herpes, which can cause the bumps. you can never be sure if the person doesnt have STDs or not. sometimes the sypmtoms are not visible. go to the gyno and get it checked out. you can get on meds to tone it down or cure it.
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Can someone get pregnant from pre-cum?

yes! sometimes 'pre-cum' contains sperm, and u could get pregant from it. use a condom, solve the problem.
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i really love my hair being long but i sort of wanna cut it up to my shoulders so it looks thicker and just i think it'd look cute! but im scared that i'll hate it. should i play it safe and keep my hair long? my hair takes forever to grow.

don't cut your hair. short hair is always a risk and if it takes a while to grow, your stuck with it. try a smaller change like cutting like 3 inches off (not up 2 ur shoulders) and if that looks ok and u like that, try cutting it more. i personally love long hair on girls. if u want more volume, try it. but if u like the texture and stuff of ur hair now, dont do it
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Hi, I'm 14 years old and my mom doesn't allow me to wear thongs!!!! So she makes me buy the regular kind or boy briefs, whatever. I used to own a whole bunch but I think she threw them away so now I only have one. And my question is that if a guy finds out that I don't wear thongs then they will think I'm not good enough, or sexy. And I don't think they should base it on that. But I feel really insecure and not good enough because I don't wear a thong. What should I do? How do I get over this? Thanks for your help!

Some guys dont care if you wear thongs or not. All guys shouldnt care, but welcome to their shallow world. im sure if your wearing lacy boy shorts its probably just as sexy as a thong. try to get some lacy regular underwear instead of thongs if your mom will go for it. wear your 1 thong when u dont want panty lines and try 2 explain to your mom that panty lines suck and thats why u wear it. or just buy some with your friends, wear them, wash them yourself and hide them. i think no one should be judged by the underwear that you wear but thats the truth of the world.
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Okay, sorry this isn't exactly and advice, but you seem like you know a lot about this website. On my advice column, it says i've been rated 0 times, and my average rating is 0 but then i go to view feedback, and i've been rated 8 times!! Can you please help me!!

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yahoo:meganm244
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advicenators is updated like i dunno once a day? so all your rates are not put in until the advicenators people put them in. its ok, they will eventually be put in. its just a matter of time. by tomorrow, you probably will have them in. i hope this makes sense
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How often a day should you brush your teeth?

At least 2 times a day. You can even go for 3 times (once after each meal) and any other time your teeth feel all gross and full of plaque.
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what r the symptons of being pregnant?

the most obvious, blatant sign is a missed period. other symptoms include nausea and maybe being bloated. if you think you are pegrant, get a home pregancy test. you can get one at a drug store. this will most likely tell u if you are pregant or not.
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hey my mom said whenever i want to become sexually active she would give be birth control pills does that mean she cares or not?

Your mom really cares. she knows she cant stop you from having sex, so she turns to the next best option to protect you. if you are having sex, you should go 2 her for the pills. she has your best intrests in mind.
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im 11 and i weigh a MILLION pounds...what do i do???

lay off the fruit snacks and potatoe chips

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