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Iam 18 years old and just got into a new relationship with an older guy. Hes 22. Im still a virgin and he isnt. He told me when and if Im ready to have sex with him then that will be an issue that we sit down and discuss. Iam very mature and know exactly what I want out of life. Im a great person..so Im told. I really do think that I am emotionally and physically ready to have sex. Its just that Im so self concious and think that I wont be any good. Not just at sex, but kissing and oral sex. I havent kissed a guy in 4 years and Im terrified to mess up. How should I handle this? How can I make myself feel better about this?
since he knows that youre a virgin, i dont think he will mind if you arent good at kissing or oral sex or whatever. rather, hed understand and im sure hed help you out with it. stuff like this takes time to make right and to be good at it. whenever you decide to have sex, just have fun and dont get self conscious. its usually when you get self conscious that you get uptight and nervous and hold back from enjoying things. instead just let go, the less you care, the more wild youll be.
I might be suicidal. i dont know but i do think about killling myself a lot
so i guess i am... so someone help... and actually help!
well, i used to be suicidal, and i feel that if i really wanted to kill myself, i would have done it already. you may be in some type of depression, but i believe that you dont want to commit suicide. i know that you love yourself too much to do that. the best thing for you to do is to talk to someone about your problems and have them help you with it. it can be a friend, thats a start. but you really might have to go see a pyschologist or put yourself into a mental hospital. thats the best thing for you to do cause theyll help you get to the root of the problem and work things through. you shouldnt have to go through what youre going through, and i hope you get the help that you want.
im 14 years old i havent had my first kiss yet or a b/f yet and im starting to fell like im to fat and ugly and ill never find anyone what should i do about this?
well when i was 14, i didnt have a "real" kiss either.. dont ever think youre ugly or whatever just for that reason. dont rush into anything, its fine that you havent kissed yet. atleast youre not a whore like those other grls, who have had their first kiss at like 9, and is already having sex and everything at 14.
ok i just started high school a few days ago and its really hard to make friends b/c they all pretty much came from all the same schools and everyone already has friends and groups already and i dont... ive met some ppl but we arent like close or anything so what should i do
get to know them better, maybe you guys will become close. just give it a lil more time where you can meet new people. itll all fall in place in time
I am a 15 yr old who plays sports but i got injured (i fractured a vertebra in my lower back) ne ways i had to sit out for over a month i could not work out... Just a simple yes or no is 5'9" and 140 fat or not ?
nope, not at all
does anyone know some good stores for back to school shopping??????!!!!
um, it really depends on your style. im not really into that hollister, american eagle type shit. nor am i into that cheap ass rave type clothes either. if youre into that stuff, then go for those stores. but you can never go wrong with big department stores like strawbridges and neuman marcus. they have different brands and different styles there.. so maybe you should check them out
Well me and my friends are going out tommrow in hte woods to drink i drink alot but not so often so that isnt the big deal i guess but see im only in middle school and theyre bring chronic so they can try it and I REEEEELLYYY I WANNA TRY IT TO jsut to see what it is like you know?but trust me i do not think im going to get addicted to it what should i do tho?
first of all, youre too young to be drinking heavily. if youre going to be drinking and youre trying to smoke, youre head is going to be fuckin spinning. for some people, when they smoke, they get hyped and all that crap. for some people it just makes them lazy. i dont know, but weed doesnt do too much for me, except for making me tired as hell. and i dont really like the feeling all too much at times. if you want to try, go ahead i guess, but be sure you wont get too fucked up. just keep in mind, youre a lil too young to be doing stuff, even if youre just experimenting
Ok this might sound so waird but....All my friends have done weed that i basically know or wanna try it theyre not pushing me into it but i wanna try it to like REALLY badly but i have second thoughts all the time like what if my parents found out and i dont wanna be llike that i wanna be a good kid well atleast i try to i dont know what to do!!!!
yeah, dont try it. if your parents ever found out, youd probably get in a lot of trouble. and if they ever suspect you of smoking weed, theyll find out, cuz theyll test you and weed stays in your body for months.
I just broke up with a longtime boyfriend. He didn't seem to care at all. How do I deal? What do I do to keep my mind from straying his way?
do whatever makes you happy. try not to think about him so much and go out and meet new people. im not saying to find a new guy, but just to get to know people you know? when im sad when it comes to relations, i always go shopping for shoes and underwear. do something that you like, and do what makes you happy.
What the hell does IDK mean?
i dont know
I think I might be bipolar. How can I tell? And can I get tested w/o my parents knowing bout it?
if your mood changes drastically quickly. like, one minute your happy, and the next your sad or angry. i dont think theres anything wrong with being bipolar, its not like its an std or something, so you should go to your parents about it. if your bipolar, it can be hereditary.
okay hey heres how it goes... I'm gunna be movin inna month. ([ to King Of Perssia ]).. Is there anyone that lives down there.. ? [( im gunna be movin 8 miles away from the king of perrisa mall )]?!im going to the highschool in 9th grade..
but heres my question..
I've been going with my boyfriend for 8 months! And i love so much words cant explain how much i love him..and he loves me too [ the same way ] .. as you can see this is a SERIOUS relationship...we've done alot of stuff. [sex] [jerkin off] [and lotzZz more] shitt the sex is good :-)... [ lemme get back to my question ] but we talked about whats gunna happen when i move and everything.. and we decided to stay with eachother. But im still scared! I know im gunna be seein him and talkin to him on the phone and everything, hes gunna be allowed to stay over my house.. but the thing is... there is alot of gurls and guys that is hatin on me and my boyfriend.. and they always be startin shit to get us to break up.. it worked once but as you see we worked it out and are still together..but i know the second i move all these gurls that are hatin on me are gunna be all up on his dick! and tellin him lies and shit so he can break up with me. i already got in fights with these gurls and hes gotten into fights with some guys.. and its just to much drama..but I dont wanna break up with him but from where i live now to where im moving to is like 45mins away. (im 15) But do you think i should break up with him or trust him.. see i know that he wouldnt do anythin to hurt me.And i told him that if he hears something that he doesnt like that he should come to me and see if its true. But he tells me everyday "your not gunna hear and words come out my mouth that were gunna break up / i wanna be with you for the rest of my life / you my heart" - and he wants me to have a baby with him.. but im just confuse what i should do.. should i stay with him.. like i dont even know i just need help on what i should do please help me.. ill rate..
i lived up in king of prussia for a year.. my friends and stuff live up there.. but im back in philly now. youre probably going to upper merion then, i suppose?
i think you should stay with him and try to work things out. if you live like 45 minutes away, he probably lives in philly then? well if so, it wont be hard to see each other that much. i had to go through that when i moved back to philly and he lives in kop. we had to go back and forth to see each other. if you guys truly love each other, you guys can make it work. anythings possible.. and hey, if yal dont drive, and he does live in philly, the 124 and 125 buses take you back and forth to philly and king of prussia
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well kop is pretty boring, and really suburban. there isnt much to do there besides shopping at the mall and going to like walker field. theres parties down there, most of the time, since theres never anything to do around there. youre just going to have to make friends who knows how to have fun and like to party and not sit around and be boring. how old are you anyways? when you live in kop, youre going to need a car to get everywhere cause there arent any sidewalks. and its all bunch of roads and shit. yeah, i went to a school up there called upper merion. i guess i know a lot of people there. youll get along fine with the people. some arent too bad. i was there for my sophmore year and part of my junior year. you have any more questions, just send me a message to my inbox.
on the song milkshake what does milkshake mean?
i always thought it was her cootchie, or her sex.. or her dick sucks. lol, im thinking probably something sexual
Is it considered "dorky" to roll jeans that are a little short into capris? or should I just cut them? Thanks
do what you like. i dress crazy sometimes, doing really nut things to my clothes and ppl laugh at me and call me a freak and all... but who cares what people think? as long as you feel comfortable in what you wear, thats all that should matter
It seems like hoops are going out of style, am I right?
hoops cant ever go out of style. its just that there are other sytles out there that are just as nice
Why is sex such a big thing now? I mean young people are even doing this, I just don't get it. What happened to waiting until marriage?
because their parents dont teach them right from wrong.. they all want to go out and be little whores and shit and come home with stds. they think if they have sex then theyll be considered cool. theyre dumb fuckin retards. and its a damn shame
Hey..ok, whenever I try to put a picture of me on mii site it says that `You tried to upload a picture, but it was greater than 15K in filesize so it wasn't uploaded.` Do you know what that means, and if so can you tell me how I can upload one..? Thanks guys!
you have to resize the image before you upload it on the program you use to open your pictures up on.
Hey there. I'm almost 17 years old (female) and me and my boyfriend have started having oral sex. I'm having a problem though. When I give him a blowjob, I can tell he wants me to deep throat by his body movements and such, and I've tried, but he's like, way too big for me to do that without gagging, and i don't want to be gagging when we're doing that. So is there any tips you guys might have on how to deep throat large guys?
if you dont want to go too deep, use your hand and jerk the bottom. i dont know, but i guess its just as good as deep throating
Hey Caity...I went to party and I started talking to this guy Ryan at the time he seemed really cool so I gave him my number so we could keep in touch,we started dating and I got pregnet I told him and he told me he wasnt ready to be a father and i wasnt gonna keep it I felt really scared and i didnt know how to tell mt parents and what they`d think of me...Im 3 weeks pregnet now and Im only 16 I know i shouldnt keep it but apart of me tells me I should!Ryan still doesnt want me to keep it and he told me that he loved me and that he wouldnt let anything bad ever happen to me But if he loved me he would help me through this.What should I do? -Kayla
this is your decision, for you to either have the baby or to have an abortion. im against abortion. things can go wrong, and in some cases, women who've had abortions regret having one. i think you should do what you believe would be right. i also think that you should tell your parents now, so that itd be easier for to have an abortion if they think that that is right for you.
as for ryan.. if he really loved you, yes, hed help you through all of this. i know youre probably stressing, and it isnt right for him to not be by your side. i cant say that he doesnt love you though, because when a guy gets a girl pregnant, some of them start to freak out and not know how to react. have a talk with him.. and try to work things out
I've always been one of those people who got along with almost everyone. LAst year there was a girl that really didn't like me and I didn't know why. I still don't. Everyone thought she felt threatened by me, they said I had more friends or I was more punk, i dunno anyway. She's been starting rumors about me like I'm a satan worshipper???? Weird huh? What do you think I should do about her or say to her?
tell her to lick your fuckin ass. shes just jealous of you. you know how dumb girls are, they hate a person because they cant be like them. fuck her