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Q: ive been with this guy for about a month and a half and its been really great and everything. valentines day is coming up and i never had a boyfriend around this time so do i have to get him something and is so what are some good ideas??

thanks so much

A card (obviously, haha), maybe a gift card to his favorite store, a teddy bear, a picture frame with a picture of you two in it, candy, heart cookie.

Q: If it gets confusing, I'm sorry. It shouldn't be too bad though.

There's this guy, we'll call him "Scott". I went out with "Scott" for about two years, then we broke up becauase of a lie. After the break up, we didn't talk. We basically hated eachother. That was in November of 2006.

Now, he has a girlfriend, and I still love him. He tells me he still loves me, too. [I'm guessing this goes with the whole 'You will always have feelings for your first love' type of thing] But I really still love "Scott". And I'm not too pleased with the way his current girlfriend is treating him. He deserves better.

I am best friends with one of his best friends. And he tells me all about "Scott". He told me, if I find a way to prove to him how much I truely love him before Valentine's Day, he'd give me another chance. Which is exactly what I need. I love him and I'd do anything for him.

So far, I already got him a Teddy Bear and a locket that says "You Hold The Key To My Heart." And I also wrote him a ten page paper about how much I love him. But, knowing "Scott", this won't be enough for him.

Any ideas of what I can buy or make for him? Money isn't an issue. I just really need to get this guy back..

Thank you so much

You can buy/make him a giant heart cookie and put a really cute saying on it to try and show him. :)

Q: If you have sex the last day of your period and the day after you get off what are the chances of pregnancy? We didn't use any protection and I am not on birth control. Also, he didnt pull out. Please answer soon.

No matter when, even on your period, you CAN get pregnant. If you didn't use a condom, and your not on BC and he didn't pull out, I would say the chances are very high if he ejaculated.

Q: when giving a guy a hand job or head, how do you know when to stop? and please dont tell me if i dont know, then i shouldnt be doing it, because im not. im just curious. if your just going to say that, then dont even bother wasting your time, or mine for that matter.

thanks!=]

You (can) stop when:

-he asks you to (that will probably never happen though, haha.)

- or when he "finishes off".

but most guys will probably let you know when he's ready to finish.

Q: theres this new song
and its this guy
and its a really good song kind
of pop/like john mayer type of music.
and i think he opened for one of john's
concerts. any ideas?

Give some more information please, that's wayyy too general.

Q: The song is called "Without You"

I don`t know the artist && i`d really love to find it because my boyfriend said it reminds me of him.

it r&b sounding && is by a guy.

it is a new song.

i`m usually good at knowing the artist but i forgot. he has like a high pitch voice in the song.

please help.
i asked before && got one anser && they gave me artist that were females.

it is a guyyy!!

It's Robin Thicke. :) And it's called "Lost Without You".

I’m lost without you
Can’t help myself
How does it feel
To know that I love you baby

Tell me how you love me more
And how you think I’m sexy babe
That you don’t want nobody else

You don’t want this guy
You don’t want that guy
You wanna

Touch yourself when you see me
Tell me how you love my body
And how I make you feel babe

You wanna roll with me
You wanna hold with me
You wanna stay warm and get out of the cold with me

I just love to hear you say it
It makes a man feel good baby
Tell me you depend on me
I need to hear it

[Chorus:] [2x]
I’m lost without you
Can’t help myself
How does it feel
To know that I love you baby

Baby, you’re the perfect shape
Baby, you’re the perfect way
Treat me like my birthday

I want it this way
I want it that way
I want it

Tell me you don’t want me to stop [don’t stop]
Tell me it would break your heart
That you love me in all my dirty

You wanna roll with me
You wanna hold with me
You wanna make eyes
and get on to work with me

I just love to hear you say it
It makes a man feel good baby

[Chorus:] [2x]
I’m lost without you
Can’t help myself
How does it feel
To know that I love you baby

[Bridge:]
Cause you been tellin me
Every morning oOoooOo
Alright baby
Oh ya
Oh baby
Oh darlin
Alright, right

[Chorus:] [2x]
I’m lost without you
Can’t help myself
How does it feel
To know that I love you baby

OOo ya
Oh baby
Oh darling
Alright, right baby
Oh baby
Oh darlin
Ooo OoO Ooo baby
Alright, alright, alright

Q: this will sound stupid. but when people say like "what base have you been to" or soemthing i have no clue what they are talking about, so i just go along with it. could you explain like

base 1 is - then tell me

thanks

People have different things but this is mine..

Base 1 - hugging & any sort of kissing

Base 2 - Hand Jobs and fingering

Base 3 - Oral(blow jobs and eating out).

Home - Sex.

Q: What is a girl spose to get a guy for valentines day?

You can get him a gift card, or a shirt, or something he likes.

Or you can buy/make him a giant heart cookie.

That's what I'm doing for my boyfriend. :)

Q: it says my pic is greater than 15 k.
i dont know how much to reduce it to bc my computer does it in pixels..help!!

You can upload it on tinypic.com and use the url for your picture. :)

Q: are paris hilton and britney friends? i never knew that

Yep.

Q: what exactly does grimey mean?? like someone will say "shes mad grimey" what does that mean? thanks

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=grimy

Q: How do I tell if he likes me and he has a girlfriend that dosen't go to the same school?

He probably doesn't like you, unless you know him and his girlfriend are on the verge of breaking up.

but you can call him, instant message him.

Q: on aim how do you get ALOT of different colors for your profile or like generally in normal use? its hard to explain... look on xtaraisvibrant 's profile to kinda see what i mean if you dont know.

It's a program called Applesauce.

http://fileforum.betanews.com/detail/Applesauce/987092859/1

Q: I love when bands/artists come together and create a song. Can you just tell me some?
I like almost all kinds of music, except country.
but i really like indie, pop, screamo/emo and rock.
(examples: mcr and the used - under pressure ;; let the music heal your soul - backstreet boys, nsync, britney spears) anything would be great!

There is a "band" called "Roadrunner United" it's a record label actually, only every song consists of different members from different bands.

You should check them out.

Though, you may not like them because it's like, metal, but maybe it'll be something new and you'll like it.

http://www.roadrunnerrecords.com/

Q: my boyfriends grandma on his dads side has tourettes so him, his mom, and i were wondering if he has it. he says it only happens if he gets nervous, sad, or mad. i was at his house last night and it was so sad. his neck will twitch and like his head kept going back because of it or to the side and twitch like 5 times. he said he doesnt really have control over it and he cant really make himself move when it happens. it was so sad because we were sitting up on the floor and i was holding him and he was trying to put his arms around me except he kept twitching and then he finally got his arms around me and he twitched and his arms like fell off of me so i think he gave up. does that sound like tourettes? it came out of nowhere though, like it started a couple days ago and i just found out last night. oh and by the way, hes 15 if that matters

Yeah, it sounds like he does have it.
Don't feel like you're the only one though, my boyfriend has tourettes. Well, he used to when he was younger, but fortunatly, he grew out of it, but it comes back slightly when he gets angry.

Have his parents take him to the doctor, and they will prescribe him medication to help it. :)

Q: I'm making fortune cookies, among other things, for my boyfriend for valentines day, but I can't think of any "fortunes!"

So, any "fortune" ideas? or websites with "fortunes" on them? I'm really stumped!

Thanks!

Yeah, try google for this one.

But, I put a little thought into it:

Your current love will be the greatest for years to come. (or something like that)

Q: yesterday i broke up with my boyfriend for my exboyfriend. me and him went out last year and have a lot of history. ive loved him for about a year non-stop and i would spontaniously cry because i missed him sooo much and wanted to be with him so bad but he had a new girlfriend for 5 months.
i recently was asked out by my boyfriend i just broke up with. finally everything was looking good and i was slowly getting over the first guy.

my ex boyfriend (first guy) tells me that he still loves me and always has and he doesnt want to hurt me and he wants to be with me and he broke up with his girlfriend..for me.

now i know im going to regret being with him becuase hes probably going to hurt me and were going to fight all the time like last year when we went out.
but i love him. and ive waited forever for this.

i wish i could forget about how i feel and just go with what i deserve but i cant. please help me. did i make the right decision?
should i wait and see how things go?

I think you should have stayed with your recent ex (the second guy?).

I say that because you didn't mention that he treated you bad in anyway. I understand though if you don't have feelings for him anymore, but you didn't say that either, so I am assuming.

So now, I think you should not go and jump into a relationship (with the first guy), only because you said yourself that, "hes probably going to hurt me and were going to fight all the time like last year".

I would say to just go out (like dates) a couple times and see if he has changed, and if he hasn't, then stay single, or maybe try to go back to the second guy, but not as a rebound, only if you still have feelings for each other.

:)

Q: Alright ive heard from my friends that one of my guy friends is gonna ask me out. I dont see him like that at all though, and i dont wanna go out with him but i feel so bad turning him down cause hes really nice and i dont want him to be mad at me for it. How can i let him down easy?

Tell him you don't want a relationship right now, or, you thing a relationship will ruin your friendship, and you don't want that. :)

Q: What is the difference?
I am seriously confused,
because I've heard that Agnostic means you don't believe in anything, and Athiest means you make fun of God.
Is that right?

Not at all.

I am Atheist, but I do not "make fun" of god, i just do not believe in him, nor jesus christ.

That is what an Atheist is.

An Agnostic is believing when you basicly say, "I'll believe it when I see it" sorta thing.

Q: hey how do you put a layout thing like that into your profile. i just got one today and i ahve no clue.. is it like myspace? idk write back please and thanks

hey, no it's not, go to "Column Settings" then go to http://www.advicenators.com/backgrounds.php

and pick out the one you like. :)

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I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
I haven't been on this site in years, maybe I'll pick it up again. (:
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