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(14/f) Is too skinny even a thing? Well apparently I am and no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to put on any weight. It's really annoying and kind of depressing how my friends are curvy with a nice body and they seem to joke that they're fat and take the piss out of my lack of it.
I have little boobs and a small bum and I hardly ever get a second glance while my friends get wolf whistles. Now what I really want to ask is: How can I accept my body image or is there another way to put it on?
Does protein stuff work? Or am I doomed to eat carbs for the rest of my life? (link)
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I wouldn't go for high-protein/crash-weight-gain stuff if I were you. It's unlikely to give you a more womanly figure (bigger boobs and bum etc). Well, your bum might get bigger, but probably not in a good way. Your boobs won't at all. You'll most likely get more curvy as you get older, and it'll probably happen quite rapidly too. You might never have broad hips, big bum and a really busty figure. You might be a slender sort of girl. Now I don't really think that's a bad thing at all, do you? Like you've had already mentioned, Taylor Swift is slim and slender. And how hot does she look? Bet not many girls or guys would call HER too skinny or take the piss, eh? Just hand in there, you'll fill out a bit anyway, in the 'right places' as you might say. What on earth do you want to be fat for? Because your mates are and they tease you? I reckon a bit of jealousy might be behind that mate! Look a little into the future. How many ads do you see for new diets? Gymn membership? Weight-watchers? Loads!You ever see an add for 'weight gainers'?? Or an 'eat yourself fatter' diet? No. Check out the models in Cosmo, Hraper's and Vogue modelling the latest collections on the runway....you ever see a fat one? Not likely is it? You got enough here to start accepting your body image mate? Love might be a better word than accept!! OK, there might well still be a bit of 'kid' in your figure at fourteen. But that'll take care of itself.
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thank you!!!! That's means alot! And thanks for the talk of anxiety. Also my hair has grown almost a centimeter, is that fast or no..........? (link)
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A centimeter since we became talking is fast, yes. Keeps you on track for an inch and a half or more every month. You'll soon have long and healthy hair which you can style just like the photo. And very nice it will look too. It's growing all the time, even while you sleep, of course. We seem to arrived at a good working plan, don't we? Lot's of care. Avoiding heat treatments to dry and style. Avoiding anything too 'chemically' in terms of shampoos, conditioners or styling products in favour of high-quality natural products, like the coconut oil etc. Wash out salt water or chlorinated swimming pool water soon as possible. Adding extra conditioning products after long periods in hot sun. And always brush it out well before you sleep, and don't have it tied up or back while you sleep. Plenty of exercise. The outdoor walking is great, as we said. Fresh and often sunlit air, which maintains a good hormonal balance and that always helps a woman keep healthy hair and clear complexion. Eat well, natural, healthy, good foods high in nutritional value and vitamins. And some carefully chosen vitamin supplements, which can definitely help in the autumn and winter months when we naturally lose a little vitality and condition. (I reckon we have an urge to hibernate over winter and wake-up in spring, like a squirrel or something. I'd happily do that if I could mate!). We talked about watching the doses. I'd assume you have a good metabolism anyway, based on what you've said about that naturally quick hair growth and an active lifestyle, and we don't want to provoke any needless anxiety attacks, do we? A supplement you might look at is cod-liver oil capsules maybe? Modern, good quality ones don't leave any after taste, and I promise you, no chance of a sort of 'fishy-breath' either. It's a very old product, and has no known unwated effects I've ever heard of and very good for hair condition. The name sound a bit gross I admit. Just keep up the good work, the results will show. And regarding the diet and exercise parts of the plan, you'll really feel and look great all over, not just your hair!!
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Hi. So I was on a site and it said I won an iphone 6. I read the comments and it was real buuut I need a credit card to get it and my dad doesn't have one(NO ONE in my family has one). Anyway I came across this site where I can download fake credit card numbers and CVV codes but I don't know if I should download one. Will I get in trouble if I download a number? I really want that Iphone 6. (link)
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Hi mate. I have a strong feeling that the iPhone you have won does not exist. I've never seen a genuine source that asked for your credit card details to claim your prize. It's probably just as well that you had not got access to a credit card, since once you entered the details (which is what they want) there'd be no phone in the post, and some big purchases made on that card!! This sounds like a total scam, intended to get card details from people. Don't go near the sites that offer card numbers to download. They almost certainly won't be accepted by any vendor. And think about any site who is offering something which is (of course) illegal. When you click download I reckon you'll get a lot more than you bargained for in terms of viruses, malware, trojans, keyloggers etc. Good way to get a corrupted/locked-up computer, and all your email, messenger, facebook etc id's and passwords stolen. In return for a useless card number (which probably been put on stop, if it ever genuinely existed at all). You haven't been a mug or taken for a fool here. It's not a personal attack. Scams like this are massive right now and still increasing. They're fired out to huge numbers of people hoping, some will be tricked into giving them their card or bank details. Does your site offer a contact phone number or email site for enquiries? If so call it, saying you have no credit card? Is the card entry section flagged as a 'secure' or 'trusted' site? Is the address https/ (not just http/)? Are there icons for the names and details of the payment agency who will process it? Can you click on them to 'read the certificates'? I'll bet you anything the answer to any of these questions is 'NO'. And never type a card number in anywhere unless the answers are all 'YES' mate.
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My friends are not talking to me, it is been a week and when I chatted them if they are mad at me they msg me 'We are just trying if u can live without us'. I feel offended of what they told me.I want to talk to them but I when I talk to them they may think that I can't live without them. How can u help me
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Sounds like thay've set-up a bit of a game at your expense to me mate? Can you think of any reason why they want to 'test out' the strength of your friendship? Have you done anything to suggest you don't value them and would be better off without them? Quite possibly you have done no such thing, and it's just something they've decided on between themselves. I'd be tempted to play along with them. Message them saying something like "Come on guys! Stop giving me the cold shoulder. I miss you." I'd guess that's what (for someone strange reason of their own!) they WANT you to say? So give it to them! Unless there really is some genuine bad-feeling between you (which you'd surely know about, wouldn't you?) then it'll all blow-over and you'll have a good laugh about it. Sometimes friends have these outbursts of wanting to 'wind each other up a bit', as you might say. That would be my approach.
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(hair growth :p) i apologize for so many questions, its just youre extremely helpful. i wanted to know with all im doing, in your knowledge how much time do you expect for me to grow out: http://cos.h-cdn.co/assets/cm/14/25/539f99080ef2a_-_cos-02-maria-menunos-0808-lgn.jpg i think its soooooo cute!!!!!
and i found out the vitamins irritate my anxiety which makes it feel as if im having a heart attack when im really not. do you think its the miligrams because i was taking 3,000 before and i was perfectly fine, but when i started taking 5,000 it really irritated my anxiety. yeah, i think thats it, dont you? (link)
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Hi there! Listen. You're perfectly welcome to tell me or ask me whatever you want, whenever you want. Long or short. I'll be totally honest with you, I'm not a 'rating collector' (and anyway, even if you awarded me 5 every time, private chats like ours don't go towards my rating anyway!!). If I answer it's because I want to, and am happy doing so. Definitely don't apologise mate. You're welcome, like I said. It's good to talk. So, that's all sorted then?
OK. So the symptoms of a generalised anxiety disorder can feel very much like having a heart attack, as I'm sure you'll know! Shortness of breat, tightness across your chest (chest pains, even) and a very rapid and/or heavy heartbeat. Don't know if anyone has explained it to you why, but briefly our brains can issue almost instant signals (neurotransmitters) in response to a threat. Our body goes into what's called 'fight or flight mode'. We gear-up for the danger. Try to get plenty of oxygen in, our heartrate increases. Let's call this an increase in our 'metabolic rate'. It's setting you up for some serious physical effort. Also, we become intensely alert. Jumpy and nervy if you like, and focus intently on just one thing. This isn't a bad thing in it's place. In a burning building, this might very well save your life. With anxiety disorders you're issuing these neurotransmitters when the situation doesn't really call for it. The usual treatment is beta-blockers which simply 'block' the signals. Remember some of these terms (metabolic rate, neurotransmitter) for a minute. OK, Vitamin B6 and B12 and Folic Acid increase neurotransmitter activity. ALL vitamins are 'metabolic activators'. Higher doses produce more intense effects. What you noticed is perfectly sound then? But does that mean no vitamins for you? Well, no. Our bodies aren't able to 'store-up' vitamins effectively. We absorb as much as we can make use of from food (or pills/preparations), they're processed by the body, and any excess is eliminated from our bodies in the usual way (having a pee, in other words!). So we can't actually 'overdose' on vitamins and damage our bodies. But the same argument means that there is absolutely no point in taking too much either. They will pass straight through you anyway and more won't mean more or better results. In your case, you're noticing high doses trigger the anxiety symptoms. There's no real need to push the absorbable amount to the limit either. Unless you have a diagnosed deficiency. Diagnosed meaning, by a doctor, with blood tests to back it up. NOT self-diagnosed!! With pills and preparations it's much easier 'max out' and take in as much as your body can absorb. It's less easy with eating the right food. For instance, glass of fresh orange juice at breakfast will give you plenty of useable vitamin C for the day. You aren't likely to sit there and knock back a whole four litre carton of the stuff, are you? The 'most you can absorb' is giving you some problems by the sound of it? The increased neurotransmitter and metabolic activator suff, remember? What I'd suggest is that you have a good look at the make-up/contents of any vitamins supplements your are having. Then do a bit of research on the internet regarding suggested doses of these vitamins. Factor-in your age, height, weight, general health and build etc. (their might be a table, or a sort of online 'calculator'?) Clearly, a petite young woman will absorb far less than a rugby player! Work out a good idea of what you're getting from foods you are eating to and make the grand total the absolute maximum in any 24 hour period. Preferably, a bit less. If you notice stronger/more frequent anxiety episodes, back it off further. And if the pack says, like, 1 tablet a day max for adults, there's no excuse to exceed this, ever. Like we said, your body knows what is enough, the rest is passed out when you go to the loo and so mega doses won't have mega results. Trust me, being sensible with the doses won't set your hair growth backwards by ANY measurable amount. And more frequent and more intense anxiety symptoms are a bad trade-off for the attempt aren't they? They're bad enough as it is, eh? (You'll cope here, don't worry. Generalised anxiety disorders are SO common. Work or study strain, family tensions, personal issues, a trauma or crisis.....anything can trigger them. You'll come through it OK. A LOT people are going to have at least one episode during their life. Sometimes short, sometimes longer).
Regarding the photo, that is indeed a very attractive look. I'd say that let down fully and brushed-out her hair must be all of 16 to 18 inches? Assuming that from the tip of her chin to her forehead would be around 8 inches. I should think that by next March/April time you should have a very similar look. It will certainly be long, from your growth rates we were talking about and your health and care tactics. And we don't precisely measure other people's hair, inc-for-inch. we go more by the 'look'. Long, glossy, full and healthy. You'll get there. Hope you'll keep me informed of your progress?
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Can you get a girl pregnant by cumings in there mouth. (link)
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No. Pregnancy from oral sex is a biological impossibilty. Makes no difference if you cum in her mouth, whether she swallows a little, or a lot, or all of it.
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okay thank you......uhm I was wondering, my hair grows EXTREMELY fast........like an inch a month without doing much at all. I cut my hair about two months ago, and it's grown ALLLLMOST 3 inches already without doing much (it is like 5 inches to 6 now) just walking constantly every day (I walk around 4 times a day).........with all I'm doing how long do you expect (I know you don't know exactly) but expect for me to grow around ten inches with all I'm gonna do and with how fast my hair grows alone.......?! (link)
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Hi there! It's difficult to be precise. You would say the average is usually given as 6 inches a year (half an inch a month). But when we talk about averages there are plenty of people below, and plenty of people above to make up for that, and arrive at this average figure. You already sound well above average! So, I'd guess you're under 25, and obviously a fit and healthy young woman. The diet, exercise and hair care routine you're taking up, lets say you gain around 30 percent in actual length. That's a reasonable figure. We'd then be talking 1.3 inches per month, so at a fair estimate you should have ten inches of hair by maybe the end of January? If you mean adding 10 more inches to your existing six, you should certainly be there 5 or 6 months from now. The diet and health regime is not only about growing length quick, it's equally about the condition of the hair you'll grow. Denser, stronger and healthier. With a rich glossy look. Quality is as important as quantity, wouldn't you say? Do watch your hair care regime, a hot blowdry or heat treatment or two can cause damage so quickly. If the hair is damaged and breaks off along it's length or falls out it takes simply ages to grow out the damage. So don't be tempted to take styling and care 'shortcuts' any time. There's nothing much to suggest that human hair growth is affected by season. True, animals grow a 'winter coat' and then shed a lot of in spring. But we don't seem to share that at all. I guess the seasonal things that might affect you are lots of sun, and saltwater if you swim in the sea, drying and damaging your hair in summer. That's where careful washing and drying and your coconut oil conditioner etc is needed to keep it in good condition. The ultraviolet in sunshine is a good thing. It's a case of being sensible. If you're set on 'catching some rays' to the point where you need to use sunblock for your exposed skin, remember your hair's getting a good dose too. It won't 'burn' like skin of course, but make sure you give it plenty of TLC when you've finished a day in the sun. And the shorter, darker days of winter lower our general condition. So concentrate on those vitamin C and D rich foods to keep you fighting fit despite the natural seasonal low. So what should we say? By January you have every right to expect noticeably much longer, healthy and glossy hair. You're well on target. By spring, you'll be knocking everyone dead, I'm sure! Then it's a case of maintaining it with the care, diet and exercise.
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Okay so I've had the biggest crush on this girl for almost a year. She is so cute and perfect. I haven't told her anything because first of all, I don't think she's into girls. She's 3 years younger than me and I know it would not work out. I guess I have just held on to the little hope that she might be into me too because there had been occasions where she would blush when we would talk. Or when she asked me if I had a boyfriend randomly. Or when she would try to hang with me as much as possible but then again, maybe it was all in my head that maybe a wonderful girl like her would like me back. Anyway, I need to get over her. I just don't know how. I don't go to the same school as her anymore but I still have her on social media. I'm constantly checking up on her (not In a creepy way, maybe a little, kidding.) I think it's time for me to move on. I'm just hurting myself over and over again. She probably has no idea that I have a huge crush on her. It's kind of pathetic, I know. So any advice on how to get over someone that I never even dated? Thank you. (link)
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Hi there. Looking at someone and wanting to share your time and experiences etc, and of course keeping an eye out for any signs that they return the affection is a perfectly normal starting phase to many relationships. It's not sad or pathetic, so don't beat yourself up. Also, the thought that if she is so nice, why would she want ME is normal too. OK, it might denote an extremely low self-esteem, but more usually it's because we rate them very highly in our estimation. We basically question, "Am I good enough". If you'rre thinking like that about a person then it's a sure sign you admire them greatly, and that's a good thing. So you won't be seeing her again in the general course of things, but it appears you could still easily contact her via social media? That's looking like a good position to get a definite result (with no chance of awkward moments and gossip if it's a 'No') to me, don't you think? Write it and tell. How you miss her, how strongly you felt when you were around together. That you never quite got the nerve to ask her outright. You regret it. It was a missed opportunity and you're asking now. Maybe 'moving on' won't be the case at all? There's really only one way to find out for sure in a position like this. If it doesn't work then you'll know you did all you possibly could. Played your hand, in plain view, win or lose. A definite result. That's a really key step in 'getting over' someone and 'moving on'. Left hanging, it's more difficult. There's always that element of doubt. Like a little glimmer of a flame. It's flickering, and none too bright, but it won't quite go out, eh? You know what I mean, don't you? then it's usually a matter of time, moving on is a day-by-day, step-by-step process. Hardly ever like a 'lightbulb moment', like Click! "Hey! I've moved on." But (BIG BUT!!), before you resign yourself to getting over her, for goddness sake tell her how you feel. No beating about the bush, no coyness, no bluffs or double-bluffs, no playing cool. Time to lay your cards on the table! You sound well into her, so I'm crossing my fingers for you. For that chance you might have let slip by through lack of nerve. Send that message. Don't overthink it, don't talk yourself out of it, don't put it off until a better time. Just DO IT!
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(About the hair growth question) I'm trying to eat healthier for my hair, thank you..... Does walking help, cuz I already do that a lot every single day...... Also I'm gonna try a coconut oil by the Indian brand Parachute....... It's supposed to be amazing as he'll.........have you ever heard of that brand? (link)
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Hi there! Coconut oil is reckoned to be incredibly good for hair condition, Good for hair and scalp and gives a smooth and glossy looks, so good call. I haven't heard of the brand, but the price is a reasonable indicator. Pure, high-quality coconut products carry a fairly stiff price tag as a rule. If this one is pretty much available at a lot of places at a real bargain-basement price you have to wonder about it's pedigree and credentials, and so you might want to look out for something of a higher quality, albeit at a higher price. There aren't many undiscovered bargains out there I'm afraid. It's probably going to cost less than some of the professional salon branded conditioners. Which may contain no end of synthetic/chemical ingredients. Not suggesting for a minute that they'll actually harm your hair. The makers have big reputations to consider before they put anything out there on sale. But the cocnut oil sounds a great, natural choice. It's known to be great for hair and certainly cannot damage it. So if this brand looks/is packaged like a quality product, the spec reads like one and confirms it's ingredients etc, and it's priced about where you'd expect it, give it a try. Walking is good for just about everything. Muscle-tone, fitness, respiration, oxidation, heart etc etc!! If you're walking a lot every day then you are gonna be fit! And healthy. Walking helps with hormonal balance and so it's going to help your hair certainly. Hormones out of balance can lead to a greasy skin and acne. And, specific to our chat, lank, dull and lifeless looking hair. It can be especially so in early teens/around puberty. So yes, walking is a sure winner. I'm certain if you did NOT walk every day and had very low-energy/lazy habits you'd not be the shape you're in. Also, the hormonal imbalance kicks in again in later life, at menopause. This time its the ageing process that does the damage. Then hair can go thin and brittle and lose condition. And again walking combats the hormonal ageing effects. Guess that's not gonna be a problem for you for a long while yet?? But, in summary, walking's good, so keep moving. A reasonably brisk pace is best. So you can feel a little warmth and just a slight tingle in your thigh/calf. Nice chatting to you. Boy! You're gonna have some glorious looking hair if you embrace all this stuff and put it into action!
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Is it Ms. or Mz. addressing some lady you do not know in a letter? (link)
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As far as I'm aware if their status or own preference is not known to you then it is correct to use Ms. I haven't personally encountered the title Mz, but it might be a newer convention I'm not familiar with? Possibly the recipient isn't either, so the older and widely accepted Ms is your best bet.
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im already doing the inversion method for 7 days........ And using warm olive oil and massaging it into my scalp for a bit........ And drying my hair with a t shirt instead of a towel....... And not blow drying or curling it or straightening it....... And putting my hair into a silky shower cap at night........ And using mane n tail shampoo and conditioner (I know that doesn't make your hair grow btw. It makes your hair strong and healthy so it can grow faster)........... And keeping a bristled headband in my hair........... And brushing it gently every morning, afternoon and night........... And I'm going to start taking vitamins......... What else is there?! Thank you!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Hi there. You seem to be doing plenty to your actual hair. Much can be done to promote hair growth through diet. See you mention vitamin supplements? Before you buy pills and preparations have a think about how you could do it more naturally (and enjoyably!) through diet. These foods will promote stronger, more rapid hair growth. Oily fish (especially salmon, tuna is quite good, but fish like cod don't store oil in their flesh, they store it in their liver, so choose the right fish). You're getting protein, omega-3 and vitamin D from the oily fish, but don't let the term 'oily' suggest greasy and unpleasant, there's noting greasy about a beautiful bit of fresh salmon! Vitamin C is good, so obviously oranges and pure orange juice to drink are winners. (But soft drinks marked 'orange flavour' are no use, it has to be pure fresh orange juice. If you have a juicer, squeeze your own!). Oddly, yellow bell peppers contain huge amounts of vitamin C, so they're a good bet. More good foods are oysters (bit expensive, but delicious). Plain old eggs promote hair growth. So do sunflower seed, sweet potato, avocado and almonds. Now I reckon you could put together some classy and delicious meals incorporating these ingredients, don't you? And your general condition/health will certainly feel the benefits of eating stuff like this, rather than processed and 'junk' food. Why eat suff that lacks real nutrition and benefit and make up for the loss with pills when there are such lovely foods that have all you need built in? The look of your hair is usually a great indicator of your general condition. Eat your way to strong, healthy and glossy hair that looks good because you ARE good!
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So I only have 2 really good friends. I like them and they like me, I know I can trust them with secrets, but idk...one of them is really shy and never wants to do anything, the other is really stupid (school wise, she's smart but other than that she's a bimbo) and we just aren't into the same things. I like politics and human rights issues, I like astrology, and animal rights and follow the vegan lifestyle. I like the "scene" bands (i know that's not a genre but just putting it in general terms) and I wear black and have a fringe and wear band merch. I like darker things I paint my nails black. She isn't interested and is hard to start a discussion with, she isn't into astrology and thinks veganism is stupid. She likes pop music. She wears pink and has curly hair and is way too immature for the darker things, we're in 7th grade but she still faints at "darn it" she doesn't paint her nails. I mean when I first met her we were compatible as friends, but i don't think so anymore. I've met a few girls, like one girl from an enviormentalist account we like and comment on each other's instagram photos, like the same music, dress the same but I've never met her. And another girl I met at the park who I text, we like similar music and are into the same things, but she's in a diffirent town. Two other girls, one I don't have much in common with other than we boogy board together but she's at my maturity level, and another I don't see eye to eye on some things but she's still cool but I only see them when I go on vacation. A lot of the kids who dress like me and appear to like the same bands as me (they write band names on their arms for whatever the reason) have a huge superity complex and bitch everyone out. I just don't feel like I connect with people, and a lot of people are sort of scared of me because of how I dress and they think my music is scary (Suicide Silence, BMTH earlier, and Asking Alexandria terrifies them) and i just don't really like them, other than this one girl who im going to a Sleeping With Sirens & All Time Low concert with she's nice. How should I make new friends? (link)
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You sound like you're doing OK really. We're drawn to some people because we have the same interests and outlook. Also having friends who don't share our views closely is good too. It's nice to have that point/counterpoint aspect in the relationship if you know what I mean. Sometimes a discussion/chat/whatever with people who don't share our views can be stimulating and interesting. As much as someone we share a wavelentgh with, and at times even more so. Just be yourself, be outgoing and stay open-minded about what you do and what you talk about, where you go. We don't have all our friends all around us at the same time. Casting a broad net, as you might say, can open up new experiences and have us going places we might not have even thought about visiting ourselves, or within the group we share (on the surface) the most likes and attitudes with. You've recognised the 'superiority' aspect in some people, that makes them 'bitch everyone out'. That's a bad signal to put out if you want to have a good circle of friends, so put out good, welcoming vibes. We shouldn't confuse a level of intellectual maturity with simply being narrow-minded and set in our ways and attitudes. Real intellectual and emotional maturity is about recognising that we all have opinions and differences of opinion. For instance, although we wouldn't all claim to be 'into human rights' most of us have some idea of what is and isn't acceptable. There's room for dark and serious music, and light-hearted dance music. Getting young people to engage with politics and economics is very difficult in the UK where I live, for sure. How about getting a discussion going about how the mysterious 'government' and their policies affect our lives even without us knowing? From your post you sound like a very mature-thinking young woman. A proper 'world citizen' in fact. You won't raise everyone up to your intellectual level in conversation and friendship I'm afriad. So you have to step back a little sometimes, and keep the relationships on the level they warrant. I guess what I'm really saying is a good, true friend does not have to be a 'carbon-copy' of you and your ideology and interests. Keep your mind open and embrace as much of humanity as you can. In some ways it's a matter of thinking "I may not agree with what you believe and say, but I respect and defend your right to think and say it." A real world-citizen indeed, and you won't bitch out anyone and you won't miss any opportunities for personal development yourself either. A good listener and intelligent entertaining talker is welcome in any company. But NEVER 'preach' to people, I'm sure you know what I mean, and what the difference is. There's much more to connection with people than a sort of 'compatibilty chart' rating.
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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Hi there! This looks like a follow-up question to a question I have answered? Is that so? The site is what you call anonymous, and questions do not have any links or references to the original question or who sent it. So all I have is this question exactly as you wrote it. I've got a feeling you may be the young lady who became pregnant at an early age, were very keen on keeping the baby and were worried about the reaction of your parents? But I may be wrong, if so I do apologise. Whatever the case, how about writing something a bit more detailed to fill me in on the problem? It's all free to post a question of course, and you can write as much as you want. I'll get the message in full, even if it's really long and naturally I'll read it all. Could you do that for me? I'd love to help and will do my best. Hope I'll be hearing from you soon? CJB/rainhorse68.
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I am wondering if it would be sinful to get one just for fun. It s cheap. Would something bad happen if I got a reading? Would it open the doors to evil? (link)
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I'd look at this not from the point of view of it being sinful or not, but on you as a person. You're unlikely to get a bad prediction, since you are paying. Unless it's a trick to purchase some sort of way of changing it with further visits. That's not an unknown trick. If you are the sort to cling rather tighlty to predictions and 'promises' of great things, I wouldn't go either, as you're only setting yourself up for some disappointment when it doesn't happen 'as foretold'. If you want to go looking for a 'genuine' (??!) psychic/palm reader/fortune teller etc you're on a fruitless search mate. It's a bit of theatre, a gimmick. Popular in circus sideshow tents. Where it belongs. Do it for a bit of a laugh if you like, but don't take it seriously. If anyone on earth could predict the future we would all know about them. They would have incredible power, and wealth. They wouldn't be offering cheap fortune telling and sooth-saying, now would they? I mean, would YOU? I'd be charging massive money! Such people can often have extremely acute powers of 'reading people' by feeding them leading questions and noticing minute, subtle and brief changes of expression in faces, and intonation/inflection in voices. They're not without skill, but I promise you they have no secret or special supernatural powers.
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Being a virgin means you haven't had penetrative sexual intercourse. It doesn't really signify whether your hymen is intact, since masturbating with fingers or objects, and being fingered can tear it. Even physical exercise can tear the hymen, with nothing sexual whatsoever having happened. So technically your hymen isn't intact, but it's generally accepted that you are a virgin until you have penetrative intercourse, certainly in western societies/culture. I beleive in some cultures a woman is supposed to have her hymen intact when she marries, but this really is a cultural/custom/religious thing. Having oral sex with a guy does not constitute losing your virginity, neither does being fingered, or masturbating (makes no difference if you like to penetrate yourself, or prefer stimulating yourself 'outside' (your clitoris, for example). The anal sex thing is a bit more tricky. It's actually quite unusual I should think for a woman to have had anal sex before vaginal ('baby making kind')? It tends to be something they try later in a relationship. Some women enjoy it, some try it and find they don't enjoy it and so don't include in their sexual activities, some never even entertain the thought of trying it. Even the idea doesn't appeal. I think there's an idea that 'all blokes want to have anal sex with girls'. You've maybe ome across that notion yourself? It's quite often a fantasy thing, they like seeing it in porn. BUT they might not want to do it with THEIR girlfriend, and might not like the idea that their girlfriend has done it. So, I'm going to suggest something not quite honest. I'd tell my boyfriend I've had oral sex, and been fingered, but haven't had sex yet...so I'm still a virgin. In a way it's true. You haven't had penetrative vaginal sex yet, have you? I would tend to ignore the fact that you've tried anal completely. You've done it, that's OK, but it was with a different guy. Not THIS guy. Why risk putting him off by telling him something that never concerned him anyway? And that he might not like the idea of? This is purely because, like I said, it's in all fairness quite unusal to have anal first. And in fact, if it doesn't put him off he might use the fact that you have done it to persuade you to do it with him? So I'd suggest you wait a while before you mention anal sex? If after a while the subject comes up, and you both want to do it, then that's your choice. Just pretend it's your 'first time'. So, yes, I think you're perfectly justified to say you're still a virgin, on the whole. You haven't had 'sex sex', as you say. We aren't obliged to recount every experience we've had to everyone we meet upon early acquaintance, are we? Be a bit mysterious!!
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I'm a 26 year old woman who has been single for a long while, not for lack of suitors, but I have high standards. My most successful relationship has been with a man who was 5 years my senior, but that was 5 years ago. I am currently interested in my younger brother's college roommate. He is smart, funny, motivated and attractive. Unfortunately, he is 20 years old. (Not that being my brother's roommate is helping matters...) I have reason to believe that the feeling may be mutual. Is it worth it to pursue this? Am I being silly? (link)
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Smart, funny, motivated & attractive? And such praise from a woman who has little problem attracting admirers and admits she sets high standards? You're interested and have good reason to assume it's mutual? What are you waiting for? Give it a try. Nobody comes with a guarantee. I mean, was the successful relationship successful just because he was older? Don't let a minor age gap put you off. If it doesn't work, then you'll have dated a younger guy for a while. If it works, then you'll have a partner/husband slightly younger than yourself. To me the positives outweigh the negatives, and the negatives appear perceived, not concrete or quantifiable at all. It seems as though you're asking permission or approval. Like is it OK to date a guy younger than me, and who knows my brother? He seems to have passed your test on looks, intelligence and motivation. And he makes you laugh and smile. As for 'will it work?' I guess we'd all like to know that in advance, wouldn't we? Stop over-thinking it and give it a try. It's the only way you'll ever find out. I'd have a feeling that he'll have some doubts about approaching a woman a little older. Can I amuse and entertain a woman who has seen a little bit more of life than I have? Will she find me a little boring before long? Will she seriously entertain the idea of me as a potential partner? Us guys have insecurities too. So I'd suggest you be a bit proactive. I don't mean predatory here, you don't want to go blatantly chasing him. More a case of letting him know you are quite willing to be chased, and even caught!! I'm sure you know what I mean. Good luck.
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I can never find anything in my room! I have dance the day after and I can't find my dance clothes and I swear I saw them in my drawer! Sometimes, I even lose my homework when I could've sworn I put on my desk! My parents keep getting mad at me, telling me to be more organized and all but I can never find the time to do so and my room is such a mess now that I'm afraid it's too late to turn back. Do you have any ways of helping me tidy my room? Or perhaps about not losing everything all the time?? I try, I really try to put things in their places but for some reason, I can never find them again! I never even touched my dance clothes, they were sitting in their typical place in my drawer but now I can't find them... Any help about this would be greatly appreciated!! (link)
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I should say the first step is to have a really good sort out of your room, just for the sake of it...not a frantic search when you're actually in urgent need of something. That's when we open drawers and cupboards, rifle through stuff, then shove it some place, any place. And that's when any remote semblance of order gets lost completely. So the next search is even more hopeless. Is there some stuff you could get rid of completely? Get rid of it. How about stuff you hardly ever use or look at? Maybe that could be packed in cartons and shunted to a spare room or loft/attic? You've still got it, if needed, but it's not adding to the general clutter in your room. Make particular storage spaces specifically for certain items. A dance clothes drawer is an obvious starting place. If the drawer is hardly filled with them why not partition it? Put other stuff pertaining to your dance activities in it too. Like books, mags, photo's...etc. maybe organise wardrobe etc into what you wear it for. School gear, causual day time clothes, smart daytime clothes, best outfits for special occasions. School assignment work might respond well to three trays like the office-method of In-Pending-Out trays. IN is stuff you haven't started yet but have to do. OUT is stuff completed and ready to hand in. PENDING is the stuff you're working on right now, started but not yet finished. Stuff you use every day or thereabouts should be easily reached. There's no use storing occasionally used stuff on top of or in front of the regularly used stuff. You'll keep needlessly moving the occasioanl to get at the regular. Now, home and hardware stores have lots of organising-type stuff. Have a look around and if you seel some things that you think "That would be perfect/just the right size for my....(whatever)" make a note of them. And see if you can persuade your parents to fund your new organising essentials. Once you've got the system set-up, work hard and force yourself to return things to their places. After a time it becomes set in your mind, kind of automatic, or 'second-nature'. Labelling storage items is good too. You don't tip out the box wondering what's in it! And shoving things in a drawer which is 'marked' (either physially, with a label or just marked 'in your mind') for something which clearly doesn't match the label will feel 'all wrong' and hopefully make you think again and find it's proper place? I tend to be pretty disorganised (chatoic even!) myself. I have to fight the belief that I will magically remember where I put something, and recall the item and location on demand, as and whenever needed. The belief is mere wishful thinking, and usually fails dismally! When I see you say "I could have sworn I put it....." I think we might have a lot in common mate!!
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Hi. I just turned 18 yesterday and it was so boring. I never had close friends so I just celebrated my birthday with my family. I want to get a tatoo just because I want to have a memorable experience in my birthday that gonna last forever. My family are super strict and conservative. They don't even want me to have an extra ear piercing which I'll do soon. I want to get a tattoo in the back of my ears. What colour should I have that is not obvious when I go ponytail? Pls help. And what is the best tattoo? My options are semi colon (cancer awairness campaign), spider and infinity sign. I want a tattoo that is kinda small enough to be noticed from afar. What can you suggest? Thanks. (link)
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Hi. Just thought I'd point something out. Tatts on wrists, hands and faces can sometimes make it difficult to get hired for high-profile public-facing jobs. Because they can't be hidden. And many companies/bosses are a bit reluctant to have their front-people/brand ambassadors showing tatts. You won't be told that's the reason, they'll just hire someone else 'more suitable'. So if you see yourself up for this kind of thing in your career-plan you might think about having it somewhere that smart day wear or evening wear hides away. Other than that, I'd say a spider is questionable symbolism? Aren't they a bit creepy? Infinity sign or semi colon seem more interesting/mysterious to me. Do think before you have anything permanent on your face though won't you? I know celebrities have them, but that's not a very realistic career aspiration for the vast majority of us, and you don't want to stack the deck against yourself. The conservative and strictly establishment people might annoy you right now, but they often hold the reins in prestige businesses that pay the biggest salaries I'm afraid.
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So I hate my name so much so I'm wondering what is the name of female demons, fallen angels, minor goddesses, etc? BTW I'm doing this for an stage persona so how could I get everyone to call me that, and make it stick and have everyone call me it because my name sucks so much and I hate it? (link)
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Hi there. I like your style mate, and I'm at a bit of a loose-end. Some dangerous, sexy demonic women who might not be so well-known to sound corny? OK. How about Woglinde (pronounced (voh-glinda) or Wellgunda (pr. vell-gunda) or Flosshilda (pr. floss-hilda). The three beautiful Rhine Maidens who guarded the precious Rhinegold. Or the most beautiful Rhine Maiden of all, Lorelei (pr. lorro-lie). Sailors were so enchanted by her beauty they crashed their ships into the rock she sat on just trying to get close to her. How about Freia (pr. frayah) the sister of Fricka, the beautiful goddess of love and fertility who lived in Valhalla. Or even Fricka herself, wife of the supreme god Wotan. She was so beautiful Wotan gave up one of his eyes to win her and marry her. Two sexy ladies indeed. Brunnhilde (pr. brunnhilda)? Brunnhilde was leader of the Valkyrie (who were her sisters) and she flew across the sky on a fearsome winged horse, choosing only the bravest warriors who were killed in battle. She gathered them up and took them to Valhalla to guard it, and live with the gods and marry (or at least have fun with!) the beautiful hand maidens. Very strong and sexy character. Or how about the alluring and sexy Camacha de Montilla (pr. camatcha dee monteeyah). The beautiful and all-powerful Spanish witch that Cervantes wrote about? If you don't like the 'de Montilla' bit she was often just called 'Camacha' and everyone knew who they meant. Think dark-eyed, raven-haired Spanish-Gypsy looks, gorgeous flamenco dresses and big gold hoop earrings, but underneath the sexy looks, the most dangerous and demonic witch in all Spain. Anything there appeal? A bit lesser-known, and less 'corny' than using characters from well-known movies and TV shows, maybe? Camacha is Spanish, of course. Lorelei is from ancient German mythology. The rest are from from Wagner's Das Rhinegold & Die Walkure.
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Is using a toothbrush a good thing to use to masturbate? will sticking it in me cause a problem? (link)
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I assume you mean the inserting the end you hold, not the end with the bristles? It won't harm you or damage you, but don't poke it in too far. If it feels uncomfortable it's probably too far. You might want to use a lubricant, in addition to your own natural wetness. A proper one designed for sex and available from a chemist is better, rather than some non-specific hand cream or something. Give it a clean in hot soapy water before and after use. You might mean the head of an electric toothbrush, which isn't an unusual thing for young women to mention? The moving head actually has a very similar action to vibrators. So use the back-side, not the bristle side. And don't insert it, hold it against your clitoris. That's mostly outside, at the top, as you no doubt know. Don't forget the best thing might just be the tips of your fingers. A lot of women don't actually simulate sex, as it were, when they masturbate, by using something as a substitue penis and moving it in way that mirrors a guy having sex with them. I guess the advice is go gently and carefully. But no, it won't harm you or cause a problem, since sex-toys (vibrating or not) are sold and used by the million.
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