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Q: im 13/m and just wondering. my goal is to be a virgin until i get married, i want that special moment to be with the women i love, can i get some feedback? anything you want to say. ill rate all answers with a 5
irish
13/m
Its easy to say that when you 13 because sex isnt really there yet. But being a male it will be easier to wait till marriage, as long as you have cool friends that wont say shit to you about it. Good luck though!

Q: okay well heres the story: me and my friend have been getting in ALOT of fights lately. Mostly about nothing!! :\ so like, she always talking about how people are doing sumthin wrong and how she would do it SOOO much better and it reeealy annoys me sumtimes. theres other things like, shes always like um....no or um...thats gay and never takes in consideration of what i say. she thinks she is sooo cool and like, she could get any guy she wants. She supposovley (sopposedly...o w.e) is my 'best friend' and everything and it would be really weird if we like, stopped be together all the time. we are in most classes together, and idk... should we stay bffs should i just make new friends and forget about her? idk how to explain this, just elaborate on your answers plzz!
_anonymous
I'm guessing that you guys hang together outside of school alot. Well quit doing that for awhile. When people hang with eachother 24/7 it gets old adn you get on eachothers nerves alot, so you just need to take a break. Also you might want to talk to her about it, so she doesnt think your just leaving her.

Q: Is it wrong to go out with your x-boyfriends brother? Cause I like my X-boyfriends brother and I think he likes me too! But the thing is if he asks me out...is it wrong to go out with him?
thanks in advance! {I rate 5's}
If he does ask you out, ask your ex-boyfriend what he thinks about it, because if he does have a problem it can fuck up his relationship with his brother, but if hes fine with it, go for it.

Q: i really like this guy... and he likes me too.. and heres the problem... hes 18... im 14.. and my mom wont let me go anywhere w/out her when im with a guy.. so i cant ever go anywhere with him.. and he doesnt go to my school.. and my mom just said im not allowed to talk to him since hes 18.. what should i do?
Your answer is in your question.. hes 18 your 14. Dont do it even if he sez he likes you, he dosent. Your just gonna end up with your heart broken. I know its not what you want to hear but its the truth, its going to end badly.

Q: does anyone know and good, depressing, sad songs? not that im sad or anything, but i love listening to them, like sad songs by evanescence. does anyone know any other good ones?
Anything by Damien Rice or Magnet.

Q: about three months ago my ex-boyfriend died. i broke up with him b4 he got sick or i knew he was sick. after his death i had feelings of guilt. i thought his funeral would help he seek closure but it only made it worse. now all i can ever think about is how unfair it is. sometimes i have nightmares about him hating me. i used to go to a therapist before his death for other issues but and i didnt really like it b/c i never got any advice or anything. but sometimes the nightmares are too much to take and all i want to do is cry. and sometimes i cant cry hard enough to make the pain stop. and all the things ppl say like "hes in a better place" doesnt change the fact that hes dead. does anyone know how to deal with death?
Thats really something you should talk to your parents or religious leader about, because they could help you out alot better than some kids on the internet.

Q: my best friend just called me 2 minutes ago. I was over her house earlier but her Dad said I couldnt stay for dinner which is weird because i do alot. Im practically part of their family. But anyways, my friend calls me and goes, "My mom has breast cancer." Then she had to go but she promise she`d call me back. PLEASE help! Anyone. I need something to say to her - Im crying because her mom is like so close to me and my family. I have never been through this and i dont know how to comfort her. ♥
A way to help her would to just be there and listen to her, everyone is different when they need comfort, so just make yourself avalable to her. And for yourself.. maybe talk to your parents about it and they could probly help you.

Q: Ok, this one girl keeps saying stuff about me that isn't true. I don't know what I should do!!!!!! I don't want to hit her I just want her to leave me alone!!! Any advice would be great!!
Tell her to fuck off. You can fight her verbally right?

Q: whenever i do crunches on the floor, i always get bad headachs. does anyone know whyy? well anyways, so since i get headaches while doing then on the floor, i do the crunches on my bed. do you think theres a difference between doing crunches on the floor and the bed? its my only way of doing crunches because my head hruts whenever i do crunches on the floor pleasehelp!
It might be that your head/neck isnt getting enough support. So maybe try some other exercise to work your abs.

Q: hey im 15f, whats the best way to quit smoking? i tried cold turkey and lasted 3 days.
Thats pretty much the best thing I've ever heard.

Q: Okay, my friend...Let's call her Jill, is really in love with this guy...Let's call him Jack. She's liked him since 6th grade. Well, Jill is one of my best friends and Jack, he's in my 2nd period and hes been flirting with me alot the past few months, and i'm sorry to say I've flirted back.
Well, this morning, he gave me a note and explained to me that he liked me. And then I heard him talking to his friend about me.

I really like this guy and I want to go out with him but I still want to be friends with Jill.

-I know that I should talk to her about it, and everyones telling me that if she's a good friend she'll support Jack and I's relationship, but i know deep down that there will be some sort of awkwardness around Jill.

So the question here is: How can I have a relationship with Jack, without ruining my friendship with Jill?
Your dumb. Why the fuck do people change the names of their friends like they are going to read an anonymous question and know that you wrote it.

Also you would be a total bitch to date 'Jack' and you should be punched in the face for asking if you should.

Q: Why do they chain the pen to a bank desk yet leave the vault doors open? That is so bogus...
Its to make stupid people ask stupid questions like that.

Q: well theres this girl that i have gone out with before and she broke up with me and now she likes me again but she has brokin my heart more than once should i ask her out?
no

Q: This is SO werid and ive never heard anything like it before but ..please dont delete it because i reallly need help!! Well, my nipples hurt so bad! I mean theres like a burning feeling. At first i thought i might be cold but i put on a sweater and put a blanket over me but nothing worked! so it couldnt be that!! Is it normal for nipples to HURT this bad? And i cant tell my mom because i dont know..we dont have a good relationship and i dont tell her things. Please help me!! Whats wrong with me?? Could i have cancer?!? Im 13/f ..not sexually active or anything ..im a virgin -- so whats up!?
Maybe your about to hit puberty.

Q: ok well i like this kid and i want to be his secret admirer(sp)because i know where his locker is and everything so i want to send nots and give clues to who i am an i was thinking of staarting monday(V-day) is that a good idea??

please dont delete this it means a lot to me
Yes! Totally do that, me and a friend did that last year to this kid two years older than us and it was so much fun.

Q: my frinds bf keeps saying that she hates him and has told everyone in the past two days. she doesnt hate him. hes spreading rumors that shes saying all this stuff to him and treating him like crap but its not true. he also said that shes been cheating on him but that is also true. they are both really upset about it nad mad at each other. my friend doesnt know what to do! please help her!
signed stuck in the middle friend.
That is so easy, break up with him. How dumb are you people?

Q: OK im about to get my permit and I was just wondering what is the test like? and what do you have to do? (I've already read the book but I can't remember all the things)
To get your permit you only need to know shit abotu driving like simple stuff, you need the stuff in the book more for the license test.

Q: what is the "Kegal Excercize???" Im confused..I hear people talking about it but I never know what it is specifically...please help!
There to tighten up your pussy. You just squeeze then release.

Q: hey. im going to ask my dad if he will take me to a dermatologist. im not scared about asking him though. what i really want to no before i do ask him is what they do when i go? (i have acne) and can they put me on pills or some lotion that will clear my face up?
Yeah they will put you on some pills or lotion but dude take the lotion, cause alot of the pills have really bad side affects.

Q: I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and we havent done anything more than hold hands and hug. THe reason why i am affraid to go any further is because i am affraid that he is going to judge me because i have never made out with any body or anything, and he has. I am just scared i am not going to be able to do it right. What should i do?
Making out with someone isnt that hard. Just let him make the first move and you just follow its really just that simple.

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not much to say, other than i'm a vegan, so i love animals.
my favorite thing to do is ride my bike around on nice spring days.

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