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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
Giving advice is something I do best, I'll awnser any question you'd like, unless they're stupid and extremely pointless ones.
About me?- I like playing basketball, I'm still in Highschool, doing things that will get me in trouble, but always being good enough to get out of it.
My friends mean the world to me, without them I don't know what'd I do.
I could go on, but I don't think I will.
Anyways, if you do ask me questions, try to hold back on tYpInG lyK diZ N sTuFf alright. Other than that Anything you want to know I'll do my best to help with :)
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There is this guy I really like. Today I found out that he cuts himself. The only thing is, he doesn't know that I know. How can I bring it up and tell him to stop without sounding all maternal?
Well you really can't tell him to stop and he will do it automatically, cutting yourself ususally means you either want attention, or something serious is really going on in his life and that's the only way out that he could think of. The best thing to do is comfort him as much as possible and listen to him. He probably needs someone to show that they care and that is the best cure to help someone stop. Showing concern will be the best way. I hope you help him find that cutting isn't the awnser. Good luck babe
My friend lets call her "trish" and I both like the same guy!! I told her I liked him first and now she likes him!! I cant believe her!!
I've been through the same thing, except, i was the Trish.I liked the guy for sooo long, and then when my freind told me, it was like dang... but it brougth so much hardship on me and my friend... but i doubt that Trish will back down... it's something that ya'll both need to discuss,and see what happens from there. Trish SHOULD back down, you said it first, i didn't back down and it caused us to fight, in the end we became better friends, but it's something that ya'll NEED to talk about.. it's the only way it'll work... i almost lost one of my best freind's over it. ya'll both just remember, a GUY is not worth losing ya'lls friendship over.
how do i get one of my guy friends to like me?
Being yourself is always the best way to get someone, don't try and be something you're not. And let him know how you feel, hopefully it will all work out for the best in your favor.
I've been really good friends with this one girl for nearly my entire life (I'm a girl too btw) and I've always considered her my best friend; however, she's never been very nice to me. She's not a very nice person at all actually. We may have had laughs and great memories together, but as long as I've known her she's always done incredibly bitchy things to me. She would give me something for my birthday and then take it back and give it to her bf. She's stolen the guy I liked right infront of me (and whenever I'm around she calls him on her cell just to make me jealous), she invites all of my best friends to her parties so they won't come to mine telling them that if they go to mine instead of hers that she won't be friends with them anymore... she constantly complains about how stupid I am... and other things like that too. I know that she's not a good friend, and I admit that I don't like her at all anymore! but she thinks that I'm her best friend... and it makes me sad to look back at all the things that we've gone through together. I can't just stop being friends with her can I? We've been "best friends" for over 11 years now! I don't know what I should do. If I told her that I don't like the way she acts I have the feeling that she'll punch me in the face because she's done that before... what should I do?
Well I don't mean to be rude, but my goodness she sounds like a bitch. However, this is a long time friendship and if it's important to you then you should let her know that you're not going to take her crap anymore. And that she has no right to treat you the way she does and her actions don't make her a good friend. Also there might be something bothering her, she might have some family problems, perhaps she needs to feel that she's better than you and compete with you to make herself feel good.She might not mean to make you feel bad, she just does it because of how she's been treated by family members or frineds.. But you don't deserve to have that kind of friend around and talking it out with her first would be a good idea, letting her know what she's doing and how it's making you feel, and if that doesn't work, than it's definatly best if you drop her as a friend. 11 years is a long time babe but nobody deserves to be treated like crap by someone who is suppose to be their "best friend". If she can't change her rude ways then you have other friends it sounds like, and you'd be better off with them.
there's this boy... let's call him.... Jimmy. i have a boyfriend named Bob the Tomato. Jimmy and i are very close and he thinks of me as his little sister. but lately i can't stop thinking about him. my friend says i blush every time he talks to me and when i'm in his presence, and even when i'm talking with Bob the Tomato i can't stop thinking about him. Jimmy has a girlfriend who he seems to love very much even though they will be soon pursuing a long distance relationship due to her new location. i feel terrible that Jimmy, who entrusts me and expects the same, can't know who i think i really do love. how do i stop loving him? how can i make this go away?
You really should tell him how you're starting to feel. That's the only way anything can happen. And "Bob the tomato" doesn't seem too important to you and if you don't feel for him as much then you should break it off with him, to continue being with him is just leading him on and possibly making his feelings stronger for you. Make your move and let him know how you feel. You'll regret it if you don't get a second chance.
What does it mean if a girl's cherry pops?
it mean's that after she's had sex she starts to bleed a little and it basically means you've officially lost your virginity! But sometimes it happens after the second or third time of having sex so then again it doesn't.
my parents don't let me do anything they treat me like a child altho im 13 and almost 14 how am I suppoed to let them let me do stuff????
You know your parent's care, they're just trying to be protective of their child. But if you want them to trust you, be responisible. Let them know exactly what you're doing and call and check in. Don't let them have to call and see where you are, do it yourself. Be honest with them. Then when you're old they will believe you and trust you to do the things you want and be responsibile. It should work... TRUST is key into winning the hearts of parent's.
My best friend started worshipping Orlando Bloom two years ago. I liked him alot to but i didn't want to copy her so i just pretended to love Aragorn(lord of the rings)'. Then my sister began to obsess over Orlando. My sister and Best Friend became rivals and whenever we were together they'd begin on how much they love him. I had to pick sides and i went on my best friends side. After months of this pathetic behavior. I got fed up with him and thought i truly hated him. Like i LOATHED him completely! My sister has her group of friends in love with him too and it's a war over her coping her. Ugh! And as this all happened i grew more respect for Aragorn who did start becoming more hotter to my eyes. I don't hate him as much as i use to but everytime i see him a small fire burns in my heart.
But not only is he everywhere but everyone is in love with him that i know and sometimes it feels like being left out. What can i do against my friends and sisters obsession??
Well you must realize ya'll are fighting over a super star. This is something that shouldn't be bringing strain on you and your friend's relationship. You should let her know how you feel, and how her being competetive over this is making you feel left out. If this is becoming as serious as to when you see him in movies that you would like to strangle him through the screen then obviously this is starting to bother you and get to your nerves extremely too much. DEFINATLY talk it over with your friend and every your sister too. Tell them what their war over an ACTOR is doing to you and how it's making you feel, that's the only way you're going to get any relief from this argument.
what kind of gift do u get ur bf for ur one year aniversary?.. were only 15 but its styll a big deal for me... thanxs :O)
**emmy**
Well it's always a tough and important desision,think about what he loves, or what he likes best. Make the day ya'lls special day, plan something special... along with a gift make a full day with just ya'll two. I'm sure it'll be a day both of ya'll won't forget! :)
~*~*RRRRR!!!WHY DO GUYS HAVE TO BE SUCH DOOSHBAGS.I WAS DATIN THIS GUY THAT I SOME HOW FELL IN LOVE W/.I STILL LOVE HIM AND IM STILL IN LOVE W/ HIM AND I DUNNO IS HE KNOWS IT NOW AFTER WE BROKE UP BUT I TOLD HIM WHEN WE WERE DATIN AND I GUESS HE WAS HAPPY CUZ IT MADE OUR RELATIONSHIP BETTER BUT THEN WE BROKE UP AND I STILL TALK TO HIM ALMOST EVERYDAY AND I STILL LOVE HIM AND IM STILL IN LOVE W/ HIM.BUT NOW HE IS LIKE TELLIN ME HE'LL CALL ME BACK THEN HE DOESNT.BUT LATE AT NIGHT IF WERE TALKIN HE IS SOOOOO SWEET AND I KNOW IVE GOT MY BABY BACK.I JUS WANT HIM TO TELL ME HOW HE FEELS AND NOT BE SUCH A JERK.ITS NOT LIKE ITS HARD FOR HIM TO GET AHOLD OF ME WE LIVE 10 MINS FROM EACH OTHER.BTW THERE IS 3 YRS DIFF IN UR AGES.~*~*
Well, try and see how he feels about the situation. Ask him to be honest and see if there is still something there with him or not. And if there is, then work at it and keep up at being with him. If he doesn't feel the same as you, then it would be best to try and move on. Keep the phone calls to maybe every once in a while and start searching for someone new. It will be painful and hard to do, but with time comes closure and i'm sure you will be able to find someone who is worth your time and your heart. If he does want to be together with you then that's great! But you shouldn't let him try to keep you guessing, and wondering if things will go back to the way things where. I hope everything works out for you babe!
Why do you have to be so gay and stuck up on yourself? I hate people like you and I wish you would get a life that is more important than "High shoes" and being "snobby". For once think of someone other than yourself.
How is it that she's helping people out on here, but she's thinking only of herself? Don't judge her by her looks, judge her by her charater. And by the looks of it she seems to be a pretty good person, and isn't thinking of "just herself"
My friend thinks that she is addicted to smoking, but she has only been smoking for about a week. Could she really be addicted or is she being stupid!!?
She's being stupid. People say it only takes a puff for someone to be addicted, when infact that isn't true. She's probably not even inhaling the damn thing. Just make sure you do something for her before a week turns into a month. Smoking isn't worth it in the long run and make sure you help her out (not yelling @ her or telling her you're not goign to talk to her if she continues) but just letting her know that it's not too late and it's not worth and it will bring her down in so many different aspects in life.
ok, im a 16 almost 17 year old female. i have been datign this guy (Let's Call Him M) for about 2 months. and i love him, i truly do, and he lives in a different town. and about 3 weeks ago my ex (lets call him J) kinda randomly came to see me (we hadnt even talked since december my freshman year...im juss now ending my junior year) so i was excited...me an J were really good friends, then we started hanging out together. he took me to my concert, and i told M about how we were hanging out and he got all jelouse and we almost broke up. btu we are ok now, except, i have realized that i still have lotz of feelingz for J. and i dont know what to do!!!! please help me some one!!!!!!!
Make sure these aren't just OLD emotions you felt with J backwhen ya'll were something. That tends to happen when you spend alot of time with an old flame, the way things use to be start to pop up in your head. But you've met someone else. Your boyfriend now you obviously care about, and him being in a different city might make things a little more difficult, but i'm sure it's worth it. Don't go on the feelings you may have for J, they could just be old feelings you use to have,a nd thinking of the way things use to be coming up. Ya'll ended for a reason, whatever that may be. But now M is in your life and if you love him, the you don't want to lose him.
I'm a girl, in my last year of middle school.I hang out with this group of girls, and one of them, Audrey, is almost TOO nice. Anyway, there is this scary(scay I mean has no friends, yells BAD words at people for no reason, is extremley poor, you get the point) girl, Kirsten, who is OBSESSED with Audrey!! Now, Kirsten has insisted on hanging out with Audrey, wich means she's hanging out with the rest of us. Me and my best friend ( the only 2 out of the six who are worried about this) tried talking to Audrey, but as I said before, Audrey is almost tooo nice, and she doesn't want to hurt Kirstens fellings by telling her to shoo. So, we tried alking to Kirsten about it, and she just screamed at us! We really hate hanging around her, but we don't want to give up Audrey over it. What do I do?
I'm sure you feel like Kristen is invading you and your friends somewhat, or somethign to that extent. But have you looked at it from Kristen's point of view. She's probably dying for a freind, someone to be nice to her. She doesn't act the way she does for no reason. She's probably doing all of that and saying all of that, because she's hurting in some sort of way. And Audrey sounds like a good person to be so nice to this girl. And I would hope ya'll give her the same chance as Audrey has given her. If you two are the only ones worried then you should just try to give the girl a chance, that's probably all she wants, is for someone to care for her. Having no friends SUCKS and having no friends is the worst thing you would have to live without. Give the girl a chance.
There is this guy i know , and i find him really confusing . The first time i met him , he was flirting slightly with me , by saying things like "you're very cute" and "you look older than you really are" . After this day , he became slightly colder towards me , like only saying hi and stuff . And today , he was back to being nice to me again , but not flirting . The thing is , i have a huge crush on him , and he is rumored to like this other girl , who is a year older than him . Some time ago , when i asked him while online on MSN messenger regarding whether he still has a crush on that girl , he said no . However , he is acting as though he likes her , or at least being really really friendly with her .
Usually , i am a really loud and cheerful person , but around him , i am rather shy . How can i overcome this ? What do guys think about girls - would you prefer someone gentle and soft or someone loud who acts like "one of the guys" ?
I agree with the other responder, he may like both of you, he's just waiting to see which one is the most comfortable around him, and isn't afraid to be themeselves. You don't need to "act like one of the guys" or be loud or soft, just be what you normally are. You wouldn't want to end up being with him, and him falling for something you're not. He should like you for who you are and the way you are. Try and win him over being yourself. But I do think you should make the move, if he does like both and can't decide. Be yourself and make him choose you. I hope everything turns out alright for you!
These dreams go on when I close my eyes
Every second of the night I live another life its really tur i fell like im somewhere else and everymorning whne i wake up i feell like im going to that place i dont know where it is but its kinda like dayshaview and if i go somewhere and see something its like i already saw it and its really weird i just need help. theres something out therei cant resist it Every moment I'm asleep the further I'm away!! help
these dreams fell very real and i have this feeling that they are going to come true please help im 13 !!
Maybe you desire another life. Usually when you dream, it's something you WANT to happen, or something that you thought about or did that day. You'd have to describe it more to me for me to fully help you out. Like what do you do where do you go, and how does it make you feel in your dreams, what happens...
I'm going into a High School program(i just got outta middle school) that is suppose to be sooo hard that students who go there get so much work you have to spend the night studing and don't have time for a real life. I even have to go to summer school to get in. My mom's making me go. Worse of all i never do my homework. I've started working already to get ready. But i'm scared stiff. Any advice to help me be inspired to do my homework will help because i'm not sure how long this 'studying' will last.
I wouldn't trust that the school's going to be that difficult unless you get it from a reliable source. People tend to exaggerate that stuff quite a bit. But if it is as tough as you say it is, then procrastination will become your biggest enemy. Make sure you're on top of your game at all times. Don't hesitate to do work that needs to be done, get it done right away. And studying always comes with school. It's something that will never change. But a tip, instead of doing studying all at once. The day you learn something, maybe when you're doing homework or something like that, just go over what you learned that day for about 5 or 10 extra minutes. Believe me, if you leave it all to study in one night it becomes overwhelming. And also, make sure to make time to have fun! Don't worry so much about what's going to happen at this new school, and when it does happen, don't study so much that you become a slave to it! You sound like that is what you might start doing which is definatly not a good thing to do. Just relax and be prepared, in the end i'm sure everything will work out for the best and studying will be worth it. But don't procrastinate!
me and my bf have been together for 3yrs 5moths and 12days. hes the best thing that ever happen to me in my entire life i mean i can talk to him about anythin i trust him with my life. only thing is recently he has been havin some family issues. theres this whole divorce thing with him parents goin on and his dad is ( excuse my lang) but hes an asshole. just a complete asshole. well his dad did some stuff to his mom and my bf is kinda hurt by that but i think he has mixed emotions. hes mad sad all that then my brothers dont make things anybetter because they act like they want to kill him ( because i have over protective bros) i want to help him out with his rents and everythin because i know he would do the same for me and i want to get my brothers off his ass.. HELP!
The best thing you can do is LISTEN. That's the most important thing in his situation right now, believe me I know. For him to have to witness his dad doing that is something hard to take, especially if he cares about his mom.You need to let your brother's in on what's going on, and actually it's none of their buisness and although they might be protective, somehow you should get the point across that they aren't apart of the relationship, this is about you and your boyfriend and the things that go on between ya'll should stay private. But basically in this situation there isn't much you can do, except listen to him and how he's feeling. You being there to listen to him and him being able to depend on you will mean more than you know to him.
is it just me, or is everyone getting really annoyed with people asking alicia questions. please someone ask a question or put a comment that doesn't involve 'alicia you're so pretty' or 'i want to be just like you'. it's soooo annoying me now, please if you want to ask her questions use email, don't clutter up the site's space with this rubbish!
P.S if you're alicia, please answer because i would like to know what you think of all this. thanx.
There's no problem with everyone wanting to know about Alicia. She's someone who has obviously made a positive name for herself and I think she's doing a fine job handeling all of the questions and should just be left alone and same for the people who follow her. She's a positive person and she's going to get positive attention from a bunch of people. There's no point in trying to post against her or anyone who follow's her.
The man I'm about to tell you about is a friend that's married. We were co-employees in the same building. Our relationship started out from insults, literially! He's 6'7" and I'm 5'2" so you can imagine the short and tall insults we through at one another. The insults turned into jokes and jokes changed into long conversations as we appeared to be on the same level in so many things. The conversations turned into unexplained feelings that couldn't be denied by either but we were friends and he got engaged.
He's now married (about 2 months)but still wants to keep our friendship knowing there are underlying feelings that neither of us seem to have a firm grip on. We tell ourselves that we can be friends but who's kidding who? He got genuine feelings for me and I know this! We've talked about it but he's decided to let these feelings, out of nowhere, take him wherever they might lead! He's (we've) had these feelings before he got married and at first I thought it was going to be okay, but it seems they've gotten strong since then.
I've tried to put him out of my mind by substituting him with work, other friends and family but it doesn't help when he calls just wanting to talk or ask me to meet him. Nothing's happened between us physically but I'm feelings that's only a matter of time as there's a lot of chemistry and sexual tension between us whenever we're together. I've always prided myself in not getting involved with married men but in this case we're a little different since we started out unattracted to one another and it's grown into feelings that won't seem to go away for either of us. He's tried, or so he's says, not to think about me and concentrate on his marriage, but he can only for a few days before he calls me. I can't explain what I feel for him in words as I've never felt this way for anyone! I've always been able to turn my feelings off and on when it came to men as my first and only love saw to that. My girlfriend thinks we're falling in love (the real thing) with one another. Our relationship has grown over the past 2 years but I don't know if I can control what might happen between us. He's the first to make me feel anxious. The first man I've longed to be with in over 20 years. I've only been in love once in my life but this feels so different! He invades my dreams, for God's sake!
I need someone to put this in prospective for me. Confirm that it's wrong to feel this way about a married man, especially when I can't act upon those feelings. Is this really love or are we all a victim of circumstance? How can you be married to one but have strong feelings for another? Okay, there's much more to this story but this is the jest of it. Is there someone out there that can help? This time it's the advisor that's needs the help . . . . how ironic????
Well you're in a delimma indeed. This is now a lose-lose situation. Someone is going to end up getting hurt. Whether it be you, or his wife. You're describing all the feelings that love bring to a person, you cannot help the way you feel for someone, it's not something that happens in a day, as you said, these feelings have grown over time. I wouldn't say this is just your fault, the man knew he was getting married and still decided to get emotionally attached to you, and eventually lead up to something that could break his marrige. Before you go ahead with engaging in sexual acts with him, make sure he's worth it, and that something good and positive will come out of it for you. Now ceartainly it won't for his wife, but he was the one who shouldn't have married knowning there were feelings between you two. Just look at every angle of the situation and make sure it will be worth it, and talk it over with him, let him think things over and make sure he knows what he's getting himself into. In the end someone will be hurt, that is the kind of situation this is. But I hope the best for you and let me know how it turns out.