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my "best friend"
I've been really good friends with this one girl for nearly my entire life (I'm a girl too btw) and I've always considered her my best friend; however, she's never been very nice to me. She's not a very nice person at all actually. We may have had laughs and great memories together, but as long as I've known her she's always done incredibly bitchy things to me. She would give me something for my birthday and then take it back and give it to her bf. She's stolen the guy I liked right infront of me (and whenever I'm around she calls him on her cell just to make me jealous), she invites all of my best friends to her parties so they won't come to mine telling them that if they go to mine instead of hers that she won't be friends with them anymore... she constantly complains about how stupid I am... and other things like that too. I know that she's not a good friend, and I admit that I don't like her at all anymore! but she thinks that I'm her best friend... and it makes me sad to look back at all the things that we've gone through together. I can't just stop being friends with her can I? We've been "best friends" for over 11 years now! I don't know what I should do. If I told her that I don't like the way she acts I have the feeling that she'll punch me in the face because she's done that before... what should I do?
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Yep relates to my "Best friend" i wouldnt say she has punched me.. i dont think she has the 2 balls to even do that.. i prolly could take her.. but seriously its time to let go.. and if she wants to be friends again let her call you let her crawl back to you instead of you calling her.. dont be a lil puppy beggin for more.. u've had enough im assuming
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i think that you should just ignore her. i've had the same exact problem with my BFF. it like they just think of theirselves. soon i'm going to call her and tell how i'm feeling. you should do the same. and you can just stop being her friend until she asks for the friendship back.
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your friend needs to seriously grow up..you can try talking to her one more time but if shes not gonna listen shes not ur friend..of sjes really ur friend she'll realize that your hurting and u dont like how she treats u and she will try to change other than that its beyond ur control!
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OMG u can not let her walk all ova u like that and if u said u've tried to tell her and she punched u than u really need to leave her alone. i believe if u don't talk 2 her for alil she will notice that she is missin sumthing and maybe treat u better. but ppl like that need to be left alone. i don't understand y ppl r so afraid 2 lose her as a friend. u really need to stand up 2 her. think fa tha better of ur self.
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wow.. well. I think that you should. Bakc off from her for a little while. Personally. Shes a bitch! I've never met anyone who is like that! i dont think you should call her your bestfriend. at all. she doesent seem very nice at all. Just back away from her. and get some new friends. If she comes crawling back to you. then just say im sorry this is the way you have treated me. This is your problem not mine. and if she stars talking bad anout you behind your back ignore her. shes not worth it. If you need to ask me more questions please IM me kImMiLiCiOuS xXx
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OMG. How did you put up with her for so long??? you need to tell her how you feel, she may punch you in the face but you have to tell her. If she can't change then she's the one who's going have a lonely life and no fun, not you. you don't have to be her friend, she has no power over you. You don't have to put up with the insults and her cruelty, just tell her how you feel, if she can't change, ditch her.
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Honey, speaking on behalf of someone who has been best friends with a girl for nearly 15 years now, that is not how a best friend acts. You should break this off and quit investing your time on her and invest it on trying to find a REAL friend...one that respect's you. Maybe, after you break it off with her she will come to realize what a shitty friend she has been and start to be better?
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first off all we applaud you for dealing with someone like that for 11 years! if my best friend treated me like that i wouldn't be able to deal with it! but now i'm afraid its time to break off the friendship... if she changes over time thats when you can hang out with her again.. for now just ignore her and if she trys to talk to you just don't answer and if she tries to punch you then you let her be the bad person and she will be punished for her actions. just tell her straight up that you don't need to be treated like that.
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there are your good times and your bad times thats what you have to remember people change over time maybe there was a time when you to got a long but people change over time and go in different directions and it sounds like she took bitch road. 11 years is a long time youto have a history talk to her remind her of all the good times and your crush talk to her tell her it really hurts you for her just to be all over him in front u. if in ur heart u know that ur friend ship wont last then do the right thing and break it off with her there alot of other people looking for a friend like u i know its hard because you'v known her so long it hurts i know but in the end she'll be left with all the memories and relize what a good friend you really were she'll get her turn when all her friends ditch her she'll need a friend to lean on she'll think of u and relize she lost u to because she is what i like to call a super Bitch. I hope it goes well email me at AskDanni@aol.com to tell me how it went later-Danielle
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wow, she sounds ignorant. you could tell her that we need to take a "break" or something and if she still acts like that after awhile, i would consider not being friends with her anymore. that isn't how a friend should act to you, let alone anyone. she seems to disrespect you, but in the end you just have to do what you think is right.
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If my best friend was mean to me i wouldn't consider her my best friend. and if you both had a party on the same day then you should have had your party combined so there wouldn't be a problem. this girl doesn't sound like a very nice person to everyone and if you tell her straight up that thats not the kind of friend you want you just might punch you but at least you have told her how you feel. a punch might be what you have to get to be able to get away from that girl. You just don't answer her phone calls and start hanging out with other people that she doesn't like being around. she won't be around you if you try to avoid her.
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why be friends with her? get away their is way better people then that! you can find better friends i'm sure.
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Well I don't mean to be rude, but my goodness she sounds like a bitch. However, this is a long time friendship and if it's important to you then you should let her know that you're not going to take her crap anymore. And that she has no right to treat you the way she does and her actions don't make her a good friend. Also there might be something bothering her, she might have some family problems, perhaps she needs to feel that she's better than you and compete with you to make herself feel good.She might not mean to make you feel bad, she just does it because of how she's been treated by family members or frineds.. But you don't deserve to have that kind of friend around and talking it out with her first would be a good idea, letting her know what she's doing and how it's making you feel, and if that doesn't work, than it's definatly best if you drop her as a friend. 11 years is a long time babe but nobody deserves to be treated like crap by someone who is suppose to be their "best friend". If she can't change her rude ways then you have other friends it sounds like, and you'd be better off with them.
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get an adult to talk to her with you..or a friend who is on your side, tell her she needs to stop the nonsense and come back to earth..nobody should treat anybody like that. Maybe she is just jealous of you.
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