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Being Followed
I'm a girl, in my last year of middle school.I hang out with this group of girls, and one of them, Audrey, is almost TOO nice. Anyway, there is this scary(scay I mean has no friends, yells BAD words at people for no reason, is extremley poor, you get the point) girl, Kirsten, who is OBSESSED with Audrey!! Now, Kirsten has insisted on hanging out with Audrey, wich means she's hanging out with the rest of us. Me and my best friend ( the only 2 out of the six who are worried about this) tried talking to Audrey, but as I said before, Audrey is almost tooo nice, and she doesn't want to hurt Kirstens fellings by telling her to shoo. So, we tried alking to Kirsten about it, and she just screamed at us! We really hate hanging around her, but we don't want to give up Audrey over it. What do I do?
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I think that Audrey just wants people to think that they can fit in... she ovbiously doesn't want people to feel bad. I know it might be hard to accept someone else that you really dislike into your group of friends, but maybe it's a good thing. You can't really do anything about Audrey and her being friends, just try to get along. Or ignore her if you have to. It might be tough, but in ways .. maybe Kirsten hanging out with you guys, could somehow change her for the good.
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I'm sure you feel like Kristen is invading you and your friends somewhat, or somethign to that extent. But have you looked at it from Kristen's point of view. She's probably dying for a freind, someone to be nice to her. She doesn't act the way she does for no reason. She's probably doing all of that and saying all of that, because she's hurting in some sort of way. And Audrey sounds like a good person to be so nice to this girl. And I would hope ya'll give her the same chance as Audrey has given her. If you two are the only ones worried then you should just try to give the girl a chance, that's probably all she wants, is for someone to care for her. Having no friends SUCKS and having no friends is the worst thing you would have to live without. Give the girl a chance.
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DEAR FOLLOWED
YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOUR BEST FRIEND OVER THIS LITTLE OBSTICLE SO JUST TRY TO GET ALONG WITH KIRSTEN AND IF SHE SHOUTS ANY CUSS WORDS AT YOU JUST OBIDE BY THIS OLD SAYING" STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES BUT WORDS CAN NOT PHISICALLY HURT. LET ME GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE:
IN 2003 I HAD A FRIEND WHO WAS THE MOST LOYAL ONE BUT THEN THIS NEW KID IN MY SCHOOL CAME AND HE WAS ALOT OF TROUBLE AND HE TURNED MY FRIEND AGAINST ME.SO I HAD A CONVERSATION WITH THE NEW STUDENT AND WORKED OUR DIFFERENCES AND HE, MY OLD FRIEND, AND I ARE NOW GOOD FRIENDS. JUST RELAX AND CALMLY TALK TO THEM BOTH.
SINCERLY:ADVICE GIVER.
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The best thing to do, I feel, would be to ween Audrey off of the scary girl. Start planning activities and only invite who you want to invite. If Audrey doesn't like this girl but is too nice to say anything she may appreciate a way out.
But on the other hand, maybe you need to just suck it up and give the girl a chance. Think of it as an opportunity to take the girl under your wing and teach her how to behave normally. The best way to change her weird attitude is to change your bad attitude about her. Maybe she just really needs a positive influence in her life.
However, if the girl starts getting destructive or violent you need to get yourselves and your friends away from her.
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