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Over the last year and a half one girl has basically ruined my life. She has assaulted me twice (ruined both grad events so far this year) and turned everyone against me. I don't have many friends, I can't go to parties.. it's just a bad situation. I didn't do anything to deserve this. I FINALLY told the principal last week because of the last assault (I am pressing charges) and now she has been expelled (the school board, not the principal.. she has a bad history as it is).
Except now her friends are all trying to make me feel guilty. They're telling me she is dropping out (not finding another school even though she has that option) and she is going back into using hard drugs. They're telling me about how she has no home (lives with a friend) and now no chance to get an education. This isn't my fault. I didn't tell her to ruin my life, I really didn't. I haven't said anything back to her friends. They're trying to pressure me into telling the principal that she needs to come back to our school. I don't want her back! I don't want this pressure either though. What should I do? Thanks..
You are the victim here. Not her. Do not let anyone tell you different. It was her decision to be a bully and now she has to live with the consequences. Its called karma. What goes around comes around and now it has come back to her. You did nothing wrong here. She did.
If anything, I would just tell her friends to leave me alone and that she did it to herself. You do not have to explain yourself to anyone.
If they keep bothering you or bully you at all go to the principal again. Im sure he could do something about it.
You did the right thing. No one deserves to be bullied or have anyone assault them.
Good luck to you!
People have said that you can not get pregnant from having anal, is that true ?
Also I would like to know if you can get prenant from giving blow jobs ?
Yes that is true. You cannot get pregnant from either of those things. You can get an std however, if you dont protect yourself.
18/f
still a virgin
so my boy wants me to give him head. i've never really done anything like this before, and when i'm on my period i want to be able to do something for him you know? well the thing is i am nervous, obviously. i don't want to embarass myself by being horrible at it. he has only been with one other girl, and i know she did everything with him which worries me because what if i'm not as good as she was? some questions i have are:
1. is it really as awkward and disgusting as it may seem? i think the penis is actually pretty gross, but i am very attracted to my boy, he turns me on like no other.
2. i don't want to swallow, i actually don't really want that in my mouth at all, but i also don't want it getting all over the place
3. is there anything i should for sure do or NOT do?
4. i heard from somewhere that you use a condom when you give someone head, but that doesn't seem right?
well i know sometimes you can't really go into depth on here, so if you can't answer any of these questions i would appreciate if you could e-mail me or something (i'll give you my e-mail in feedback) if it's not too much trouble. thank you very much and happy thanksgiving :)
Dont be nervous. Relax and be confident and you will be fine.
1. I dont believe in the "if you love each other its not akward" concept. I think that if its your first time its totally natural to feel alittle akward because your unsure of what your doing. Like I said just relax. And no, in my opinion its not as gross as you would think.
2.If you dont want to swallow have a cup or tissue handy to spit in.
3. Cant answer.
4. Condoms are really only neccessary if your out hooking up w/ random ppl that you dont really know. In your case its not really neccessary.
my ex and i had dated for over a year a few years ago and then we dated other people on and off until july. we started dating and we were both really happy but i starting noticing that he was becoming more distant and so i talked to him about it many times. so we're both in highschool, same grade..all that jazz.
so it was almost four months and we started getting really tense, so i feared the worse.
then a week before four months he says he cant decide if he's happier with or without me..
so i wait all day, i went into school late, skipped lunch because i was scared to cry infront of him and i had been crying all morning.
so i went the rest of the day without crying and finally at one i broke down in his arms and i felt bad. so we talked a little bit in person but we started texting and he still couldnt decide so at like eleven that night i broke up with him hoping he'd be happier without me.. not so much
its been almost two weeks, and its not getting any easier. he said that if i was the same i was in the summer then he would date me again (happy, go lucky, enjoyable me) but i dont know how to be like that anymore.. any advice helps. thanks soo muchh!
happy thanksgiving.
Everyone goes thru heart breaks in their lifetime. They always get easier as time goes by. I promise.
No one should ever tell you that they will be with you if you go back to who you used to be. People change over time. Its a natural process. And someone who truly wants to be with you will love you for these changes and want to grow and change with you. Dont ever feel like you should change yourself for someone else. As long as your happy with yourself, thats all that matters.
The first step in healing a broken heart is learning to love yourself for you. Take a long look in the mirror and take notice to all the amazing qualities you have. Qualities that other people may even envy. Every single person in the world is amazing and beautiful in their own way. Yourself included. You do not need any one else to make you feel that way.
Many times, people will notice this extra bit of confidence you have about yourself. People including the boy that your having trouble with. And a lot of times that extra confidence draws peoples attention and makes them take notice to you that they have not have seen before. At that point, its up to you whether you want to bring them back into your life or not.
Learning to love yourself and the confidence it gives you does wonders. It has gotten me thru so many rough times, including some of my worst break ups.
This may not be your first heart break and I can guarentee you it will not be your last. But its the way that you handle it that makes it worse or better. If you take my advice, the heart breaks will still hurt, but not as much as the other girl who is sitting at home crying and trying to figure out what she did wrong and why she wasnt good enough. Instead of being her, you will be the girl who got hurt, but is moving on so much quicker because she knows that she is better off and that she will find someone who will love her exactly the way she is, and someone who doesnt, is not worth a second of her time.
I know that right now you feel like you ahve lost something. But if you learn to love yourself no matter what, you essentially have gained something that will last a lifetime.
I hoped I helped at least a little bit. Good luck to you and I wish you the best.
i just got my tonsils out exactly a week ago and they say the 5-7th days are the worst... but i have scabs in the back of my throat and all i wanna do is sleep, talk, and eat real food again.. how do i get these scabs out? i have tried eating, it hurts to much. i spit every 2 min and i drink like a dehydrated horse! if anyone has any suggestions let me know.. please dont guess id rather have someone who knows what their saying tell me what to do.. thank you
I had my tonsils out when I was 15. They say the older you are, the worse it is. Honestly, the only thing you can do if your not doing it already, is gargle with warm salt water. Dont swallow it, just gargle with it. It helps it heal a little bit faster. Its not a miracle treatment, its not like your gonna gargle for one day and be good as new, but it does help. Other than that just let nature take its course and take the pain meds, if they prescribed you any. I do feel your pain tho. Its one of the most frustrating things.
18 years old, female...
i have the worst luck with guys. i've liked the same guy for like two years now but he's had a girlfriend of seems like forever. me and him are pretty close, and i'm sure that now he knows i like him. i know he is attracted to me too, and wants to get physical but obviously not going to happen since he has a girlfriend. when he says he wants to get with me i say, "you know i want to, but you also know there is always something holding me back.." and he'll be like and what is that i will be like your GIRLFRIEND. well tonight he texted me and we're suppose to hang out tomorrow but he texted me tonight and was like, what are you doing and i was like just with my friends and i was like how bout you and he was just like, with some dudes.. lets hang out. i said, i can't im with my friends AND your with your friends! and he was like i'll leave. and then i was like but i wont, see me tomorrow! and then he was like "fuck you tomorrow" meaning he wants to have sex. but we havent done ANYTHING keep in mind, not even kiss. and then thats when again i was like you know whats holding me back, your girlfriend. and he was like just don't think about it, we're like breaking away kind of anyways its not how it use to be (this is true i've noticed) and then i respond by saying well then please tell me why you're still with her and he said, "i dont know, i feel bad like to break up and im all close to her family and stuff and i would be pissed if she got with another guy" i know that it would be hard, i understand but i just don't get it so then i was kind of upset and was like "well you can have fun with her for the rest of your life" and he was like haha oh yeah. that wouldn't happen. i'm just so confused. don't tell me he's a jerk, not a good friend and everything else that may go through your mind i don't want to hear that. they have been going out for 2 and a half years which is long. they haven't had any other boyfriends or girlfriends except each other. I UNDERSTAND it would be extremely hard but for me, it's even harder. i thought they would end up breaking up, but when i heard what he said i was shattered, heartbroken, everything you could feel at once... if they broke up, of course i would give him alone time, i would give him freedom i wouldn't pressure him to go out with me or anything. i don't see how he can say he doesn't want to break up with her, but doesn't want to be with her forever? i'm so lost you don't even know...i still want to be friends with the kid but i'm completely head over heals for him and nothing or nobody will change that.
oh and this guy is 17.
I agree with you that it would be extremely hard for him to break up with his girlfriend. That is definately a tough thing to do. My concern is that he may be using it as an excuse not to break up with her. If he truly did not want to be with her, he wouldnt worry about things like her family or not wanting her to be with another guy. Things like that are just excuses he is making for himself not to break up with her. I was in a 3 yr relationship with a guy from the time I was 14 till I was 17. I broke up with him because I had fallen for another guy. Was it hard?? ABSOLUTELY. It was one of the hardest things Ive ever done in my life so far. But I did it and I made it thru. If he truly wanted to do it, he would too. Being that he's young and has been with the same girl for a while now, he may be wanting to experience other things, like hooking up with other girls. And you may be the perfect way for him to do that. Im not saying he doesnt have any feelings for you or anything like that. He probably does. But I honestly dont think that he would break up with his girlfriend for you. Its your decision if you want to hang out with him, but I think that if you do and something happens between you guys, you'll end up even more hurt and confused than you are now. If you do hang out with him, just be cautious. Dont get your hopes up. Chances are that if he hasnt broken up with her already, he's not going to just because you guys hung out and maybe hooked up. I hope everything works out.
okay so at a party a guy tried to hook up with me....(just makeout not like actual sex or itd be rape) he basically forced me up against a wall and i couldnt get out of it...my boyfriend of 3 months walked in and he had to saddest look on his face that ive ever seen and he just walked out the door when i tried begging him to come back. my boyfriends friends with a few of my friends and they said that he was so heartbroken and i feel like shit because i feel like i wasnt cheating on him, even though it looked that way. i like him sooo much and i would never wanna lose him but i think i did =( my friends say he said he doesnt wanna talk cause hes too upset...what should i do? =(((
16/f
give him a little bit of time. i dont know when exactly this happened but i think like 2 days after it happened should be enough. try talkin to him face to face because that always means more and a phone convo or txts or anything like that. just be honest with him and tell him how you feel about him and how miserable you have been since this happened and everything. and maybe try to ahve some of your friends talk to him. dont overwhelm him with ppl talkin to him and dont make it obvious that you asked them to talk to him but maybe have one or 2 friends tell him hhow upset you have been and that your tellin the truth. good luck and i hope it all works out.
well ive been talking to this girl for a while now but not "talking" talking just regular talk and well i like but she seems to think my friend his cute and she wants me to talk to him for her but i really dont wanna do it and i told her that and she got mad at me for it so i told her im doin it to make her happy and so i told my other friend about everything and then outta nowhere she told me that the girl i is confused about guys and that shes mad that when a guy likes her and she can tell and he wont tell her so should i help her with my friend or should i tell her i like her?
tell her. you never know, you might be the one she really wants but maybe shes afraid to tell u. whats the worst that could happen?? she'll say she doesnt feel the same and then you'll help her. if you dont tell her you'll never know what could have happened if you did and in my opinion thats worse.
or its possible that maybe your friend told your other friend to say that to you so that you would tell her you like her. girls do things like that. trust me.. i am one. =)
Ok so this is probably a weird question. For about 4 years ive been cutting, not out of control or anything just a comfort thing for me. This isnt a question about how to stop or w/e so please dont tell me anything like that. Well when i first started and for about 2 years after, I felt really bad about it and felt like it was stupid and wrong and just all around bad. But lately i find myself seeing it as just a normal part of life, it doesnt phase me anymore. I have no real desire left in me to stop because i dont personally see it as a problem. what i want to know is: is the fact that i no longer see it as a problem, a problem itself? or since it just doesnt bother me, should it not matter? obviously im seeing things irrationally, but in anyone elses opinion, is this bad?
Of course we all know that cutting isnt a good thing because we've been taught that. We are taught that there are other and better ways to deal with things like stress or anger or emotional pain. But better for who?? Obviously your "harming yourself", but everyone has gotten a cut or scrape or something countless times in their lives. The only difference if that you are doing it to yourself. In my opinion, if your okay with it, then thats you and your decision. Now if it was out of control and you couldnt stop and it was getting worse and worse and you were doing it more and more often, then maybe it could be a problem. I say just be careful and cautious. You are the only person that knows yourself. If you start to see its gettin out of control and your doing it more and cutting deeper, then try to talk to somebody or try different, less harmful ways to find comfort.
P.S. Im not saying that cutting is okay and people should do it. Im just not the type of person who is going to sit here and be like, "Cutting is very bad for you, you need to get help right away." People need to make their own decisions and do what is best for them. I hope I helped.
16/f
i have this question about age differences. why is it that there are married people and people dating that are 10 yrs apart, but it's not okay for a 17 yr old to be dating a 21 or 22 yr old?
your technically allowed to date at 16 right?
i need some insight from people.
thanks. =)
Im a 20 yr old female and I think its because in the eyes of the state and adults, what does a 21 or 22 year old want with a 16 or 17 year old. In their eyes they should be looking for someone theyre own age that they would have common interests with. Maybe in their minds a 21 or 22 yr old is possible of corrupting a teenager with drinking and sex and things like that. Now we know that 16 and 17 year old are going to do what theyre going to do, with or without the help of a person of legal age, but adults dont see it that way. I didnt understand it much when I was 16 or 17 either, but as the years go by I see it making a little more sense and Im starting to think that when I have kids and they are 16 or 17 Im not going to want them dating a 21 or 22 year old either. I guess its just something that comes with age haha
Hi please help
My girlfriend and i are about to get married. This week her ex boyfriend contact her. He needs help. He has been lying to everyone. He is at a stage where he want to end his life. My girlfriend decides that she want to help him. She feels sorry for him. In four years he has had no contact with her. Why now. What should i do.
its difficult because i dont know the type of person your girlfriend ex is but i would be aware because people that are suicidal sometimes arent thinking straight. but try to trust your girlfriends judgement. i think its normal for her to want to help him and he may be contacting her because he needs help from someone that really knows him. again i dont know the type of person he os or the type of relationship that they had but if they havent had contact in 4 yrs i wouldnt be to worried about them hooking up or anything. i dont think shes going to leave her fiance for a suicidal ex who needs help because he has a lying problem.
If I have an eating disorder.
Personally, I don't really want to bring attention to it. But my boyfriend believes that something must be done due to my unusual behavior that occurs after meals.
I told him that before I make a fool of myself, I want to be sure that there's something to worry about.
He wants me to list the unusual symptoms that I have:
-constantly monitor what I eat
-only eat healthy foods
-avoid sugars at all costs
-terrified of gaining weight
-go to the bathroom often (because you feel lighter after urinating)
-do 1,400 situps a day (if i eat unhealthily)
-i don't like sitting in chairs (then my stomach folds over itself and it feels gross..)
-in fact.. i'm on my knees right now..
-i like being cold because heat makes your stomach swell
-this causes me to take freezing cold showers
-i don't like it when anyone touches my stomach..
-if i eat too much i feel sick until i work it off
-when i eat too much, i feel irritable and snap at everyone around me
-if i don't eat at specific times of the day then i get really grouchy..
-i take extremely small bites (example: it takes me a half hour to eat an apple)
-i haven't gotten my period in over 2 months. and before that it had been 4 months.
I tried to tell my boyfriend that they're just habits, but he believes that I truly have a problem.
If you guys agree with him, then I he says I have to get professional help. So, please let me know honestly if you think there's something wrong. And also, do you think it's necessary for me to get help?
I agree with your boyfriend. You definately have some type of problem. I dont know exactly what it is but normal people arent that obsessive over their weight and body image. Its okay to want to eat healthy but theres no reason to go to those extremes. My guess would be anorexia. If you weigh that much theres absolutely no way that your fat. But people with anorexia constantly view themselves as over weight even when theyre not. And they go to drastic measures to prevent and avoid gaining weight. You should try to get some type of help because even if your not actually doing yourself harm now, things could get worse. Listen to your boyfriend.
like theres these guys that i'm going to hang out with tomorrow. so i need and answer fast. i've hung out with them before with my friends who are alos coming tomorrow.
well how can i like flirt without seeming TO flirtatious.
or without my friends really noticing. only the guy.
haha thank youu!!
Im a little late I know but maybe this will help for next time. When he says something funny, laugh and put your hand on him arm. Or act really interested in his stories. Ask questions. Guys notice when a girl touches them so whenever the opportinuty arises, put your hand lightly on a shoulder, knee, or arm.
OK in school i want to go to the school dancee..
But have no one to go withh..
I know guys like me in school..
But they wont ask me outt..
So how do i get people to ask me out??
Try dropping little hints. It might be akward at first but it could get yoou what you want. Ask the guy you wanna go with if hes going. If he says yes ask who hes going with. If he is going with someone you obviously end it there. If hes not chances are he would ask you who you were going with. Say something like you wish you had someone to go with. If he doesnt pick up on it, he obviously needs things spelled out for him. Hope this helps
i have been dating my bf for almost 3 yrs. we have a long history with a lot of pain inbetween. he has left me to date around for a few months, when we got back together the abuse started. hitting me, puncing,kicking,grabbed at screamed at, cursed at. there have been a few incidents of this severe abuse. we tried to patch things up. and it worked for awhile. now it seems like if i dont do something he wants or if he gets mad at me, he will jab me in the ribs with his fingers, or dig his nails in my skin, etc. he is cursing at me again. i feel like im hitting rock bottom. i feel so depressed, i know its time to leave him..but i love him and i wish it would all just stop :(
i see him all day every day. im his way to college. we both attend a local college. and it feels like i need him in my life. i have helped hiim so much , im so happy hes goinhg to college and i dont want him to fall on his face because he has no way to get there if i leave him.
i feel like im trapped with him un til i transfer colleges in a year. i feel like i dont want to deal with him stalking me. i just wish we could work out together, i love him so much. but enduring the abuse is seriously taking a big toll on me. i feel worthless at night. the affection is dying, and i feel like crap all the time. i cry myself to sleep. i am so hurt by the way im treated.
im also angry at myself for letting it get so far. now i feel like im in way over my head and that i have to put up with it. i dont want to live an unhappy life..are we beyond repair?
I know exactly how you feel. I am in a relationship that is abusive at times as well. I am a 20 year old female and my girlfriend has pushed and shoved me, punched me in the face, threw things at me, yelled, screamed, the whole 9 yards. It sounds to me like it happens to you more often tho. I really sympathize with you. Does your boyfriend ever apologize after he does this? If not then he clearly has no remorse and doesnt think he's doing anything wrong and doesnt repesct or love you. If he does, there is a chance things might change one day. Im not going to sit here and tell you you need to leave him right now because trust me I know how much that is easier said than done. What I will tell you is follow your heart. Nobody deserves what you are going thru but you are the only one in the relationship who knows what its like on the inside. And dont let the fact that you are his way to school keep you around. If he doesnt care enough about you to not abuse you then you shouldnt put that burden on your shoulders. If he wants to be in school enough he will find a way with or without you. Three years is a long time, I know. Ive been with my girlfriend for almost 2 but I was with someone for 3 years before that. Its hard to even imagine being without that person. But chances are you will never be truly happy if your going thru this day in and day out. And you must know that there is someone out there who will love you and respect you 100x more than your current guy.
If you really want to be with this guy, maybe you should try scaring him into seeing what life is like with out you. Next time he does this to you, tell him you cant live like that and leave. That might show him what an ass he is and change him. If it has no effect on him, that should show you that your the only one with the reall feelings here.
I know that this answer is all kind of out of order but I have so many thoughts running thru my head at this point its hard to get them down right. Just know that your not the only one and you do deserve better. The question is if your willing to cause yourself a little bit of heart ache in order to find the better. If you ever need someone to talk to I can give you my email and you can email me anytime. I wish you the best and I hope things work out for the best.
Why would a guy act completely strange and distant around a girl sometimes, then later when she isn't looking he points at her while talking to his friend? If he liked her, wouldn't he want to be less awkward and possibly talk to her more? And if he didn't like her wouldn't he not point to her and not look down at the floor and start fidgeting when she is talking to someone next to him. And then sometimes he doesn't say a word around her, then other times he acts overjoyed to see her. I mean, awkward much? How does one even approach this situation?
Not trying to be mean here, just trying to give any possible answers to your question. Maybe he's pointing when your not looking because he's making fun of you. Or maybe he's too shy to talk to you or make it known he's interested. If you are really getting the vibes that he likes you, then try talking to him. Alot of guys like a girl who takes initiative. Good luck.
I can not stand smoking. i mean i really cant, my entire family was shocked when they found out that my boyfriend of over a year smoked. We have talked about him quitting, ways to quit, trying to cut down, cold turkey, patches, ect. I cant be around him for like 20 minutes every time after he smokes he has to pretty much brush his teeth and use breath strips all the time and change his clothes just to be around me. I find it weird that he is willing to do all of these things but WILL OT STOP SMOKNG. He says he has been cutting down for the last .. nearly two years.. but he really has not. He says he really does want to quit, bad habbit, bad for his heart, ME..ect. I have been to just about every "quit smoking" web site with him reading, trying to understand, trying to help him put a mental block up. He thinks he is going to have terrible withdrawls so bad hes going to have a heart attack. (he has a heart defect but nothing really says that the withdrawls will do anything like THAT to him). So i dont know how or what more to say. Please any help, anything at this point.. thanks in advance
I understand what your saying about wanting him to quit because smoking is not good for the health and it bothers you. But I think by you pressuring him like this and involving your family the way you say you have isnt right. Quitting smoking is something you can only do when you want to. The time has to be right. If he doesnt %110 want to, he wont succeed. And it sounds to me like the main reason that you want him to quit is because YOU dont like smoking. Not because of the health issues or anything like that. And thats kind of selfish. Im only being honest here. It you want him to quit, let him know, which you obviously have, but dont pressure him so much. That will only stress him out and possibly make him want to smoke more. Your supposed to love him for him and accept him. Giving your opinion is fine, but forcing it is not. What if you were with someone who was a vegetarian and hated meat and you loved it. How would you feel if they tried to get you to stop eating meat the way you and your family try to get him to stop smoking. Think about it. Again, im not trying to be mean. Im just trying to show you things from his possible perspective. Its good to try to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Good luck.
i out of nowhere broke out with pimples alll over my shoulders and chest
i hav medicine but mayb you guys no of a good trick to get rid of it??
thank you-
I actually just read in a magazine that if you wash the area thats broken out with an anti dandruff shampoo like head and shoulders, that should help. Ive never tried it, just read it the other day.
I went shopping at the Gap yesterday with my best friend. We did our normal routine and checked out a few places in the mall before heading over to the Gap, where my best friend spotted a really cute top. She couldn't (and still can't) afford the top at the Gap though so we ended up having to pass it up. We had lunch at Subway after shopping and she started talking about the top at the Gap. Her sweet 16 birthday is coming up and, even though I'm throwing her a party, I think it would be kind of nice to buy the top for my best friend as a birthday present.
The Gap top is actually $48 though.
Do you think it's appropriate for me to give this to her as a birthday gift or do you think it's too expensive? She has no idea that I'm thinking of purchasing the top from the Gap for her so it isn't a big deal if I pass it up. I could always pick her up something from Hollister since she is crazy about Hollister too. My first though was to pick her up a shirt from Hollister actually until she fell in love with this shirt at The Gap. (Anyone have a general preference to The Gap or Hollister anyway?)
I guess what I'm really questioning is: How much should I spend on a birthday gift for my best friend who is turning 16?
It doesnt matter if its appropriate or not. Giving gifts isnt about whats appropriate. Its about the thought. And I think that getting her the top would be a very thoughtful gift and she would really love it. Yea you could just get her another top in Hollister but if you know she really loves this one I think it would be a really nice suprise for her.
And by the way I personally prefer Hollister to the Gap.
So, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's really great. I love her and care about her and everything, but I have feelings for this other girl. This other girl is out of this world. We'll call my girlfriend J and the girl I like L ok? ok. Well L knows I like her, and L really likes me. I never see L though. But I get so happy when I talk to her. J pisses me off a lot of the time. We fight over everything. We tried taking a break, but it didn't work out. We missed each other. I care about J, but I have these strong feelings for L also. I don't know what to do. I can't bring myself to end the relationship because I don't want to lose J. J has become one of my best friends, and I don't want to lose that. At the same time, these feelings for L wont go away.
Can someone help me?
(Don't say to sort out your feelings, cause I sorted them up there. I feel confused. And no, who would you rather be with. I get that all the time from my friends.)
Thank you.
Honestly, i think u should stay with your girlfriend. I have been in this situation numerous times and there was one time that I left my current boyfriend for the "L" and I completely regretted it. Think of it this way, the grass always seems greener on the other side. But it NEVER is. It would be a different situation if you were completely unhappy with your current girlfriend but to me it doesnt sound like thats the case. And i think if you break up w/ her for the other one, your just gonna regret it and even if you were able to get back with your girlfriend, it would cause major problems for you both. Let me know what you decide and good luck.