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so pretty much every day for the past two years or so i inhale nailpolish remover...
i press the opening of the bottle to one nostrle and hold the other nostrel shut and inhale threw my nose until it burns.. i dont know why but i love it... even when im at my friends house ill look for a bottle in their bathroom and sniff it up for a good ten minutes.. is this a problem??? (link)
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Yeah, this is a problem.
As in, this is a problem that can kill you. It's nick name is "huffing".
The problem being, while you are inhaling the remover, or whatever, your body and brain aren't getting oxygen. Huffing is addictive. It can lead to liver damage, heart attacks, sever anxiety and suffocation. This can happen while inhaling, but also day or weeks later when you are not.
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20/f
Alright, so I hate these kinds of questions. I'm not too much of a girly-girl, and I always look over these questions, but I'm stuck. I'd really appreciate it if some of you could look at this thoroughly, and then give me an appropriate response.
I'm a natural blonde with green eyes and pale skin.
I've been searching for some way to make myself stand out more. Not specifically for a lot of attention or anything, I just want to spice my look up a little bit. You know, change things.
I want to dye my hair dark. I've heard that people with pale eye-color who have dark hair have extremely noticeable eyes. Like it makes them "pop".
But I was just wondering, since I've got pale skin, would black be too much of a contrast? Should I just go for a dark brown instead? It's just that black is very permanent, considering it doesn't fade, and you can't just change it if you change your mind afterwards. You'll have to wait 'till it grows back out again to do anything to it. So that being said, I would like to know an honest opinion on the matter. I would hate to be stuck with black hair if it looks shitty on me, wouldn't you? And bleaching it back would just horribly damage it; as I just said up above, you're pretty much stuck with it once you do it.
Any advice is welcome, thank you. (link)
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Dyed black hardly ever looks good, or real, so I'd suggest not going this way.
What about building up a wardrobe of interesting eyeglasses - you can get them even if you don't need them, or a wardrobe of scarfs?
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my boyfriend & i go to a smaller college & we both play sports ( me volleyball, him football) football is everything to my boyfriend. it is the one thing he is really passionate about and he has been doing it. he has big shoes to fill because his dad was a great football player and pressures himi to be better. however, he recently was injured and his football career may be over for good. I'm just having a hard time trying to find the right words to say to him. he's really upset about it and i just want to be able to comfort him...help! (link)
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You can be there and be understanding, and if he will,let him talk it out (mostly listen). But if indeed this is going to be an end of his football career, this is going to be a major change in his life.
First, encourage him to get the very best medical care. If you're in a small town, get him to a major hospital. The difference in care and the results, can be dramatic. At minimum, he wants a second opinion, maybe a third.
It sounds like the focus of his whole life, with encouragement from parents, has been playing football. That's going to make his new life quite a change. His whole identity has been wrapped up in the game. A change in personality to some degree, would not be uncommon.
There is a huge world outside of football, but he has to believe that and see that. That will take some time. If your college offers counseling for students, he may find it helpful to give that a try.
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I'm 18/f and I am 5'10'' weighing about 165 lbs.
I've always had somewhat of an issue with my body. I have huge hips, and (not huge) but a pretty bigger than normal ass, and my breasts are DD's. I've got a definitely noticeable hourglass figure.
Over the years, I've randomly made myself throw up just because I felt like I ate too much. Just a few times. Nothing more.
Now it's becoming almost a regular thing. Whenever I eat something I know is healthy though, I won't throw it up and I make sure it's a normal-sized serving. But if it's like a cupcake, or something sweet, I go and throw it up. I feel an urge to do it, like if I don't my body will absorb it immediately and I'll get fat. So it's not with everything I eat - I DO eat - I just feel the need to throw up if I ate too much, or if I ate something that's not healthy.
So, technically, because I'm making myself throw up food I eat sometimes that means I'm bulimic, right? I don't want to be, I used to criticize (not publicly) those kind of girls. And now.... I'm one of them....? It's really weird for me to accept it, like my mind keeps rejecting the thought of me being bulimic. It feels weird even saying it right now.
I'm not doing it for attention, (literally no one knows I do this) I do it because I feel like I HAVE to. To feel better about myself. It's some kind of way for me to control what's going into my body. And because no one knows about it, that shows I'm not attention-seeking, right? I don't want to to be percieved as an "attention-whore" or anything.
Anyone who is, or has been, bulimic, please give your advice, what you're going through, or what you have been through in the past because of this. It would help. And of course other people who aren't, or never have been bulimic, can express their opinion too. I'm not afraid of the cold-hard truth. Give it to me sraight.
No judgment though, I already feel like shit about myself.
Thanks. (link)
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You know you are not alone.
And you know you need some professional help.
Look for a therapist or counselor, not necessarily one who specializes in bulimia, but one whose been around awhile and you like - it sometimes can take a little trial and error. Figuring out why you have poor body image and why you deal with eating this way will make it easier for you to change how you do things.
I haven't had an eating disorder but I had another problem that tended to gross people out. When I figured out why, through some hard work in therapy, it make a huge improvement in my life.
You do not have to continue this way, that's the cold hard truth.
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19/f
Hi, I didn't know what category to put this in, so I apologize if it's wrong. Anyways, lately I've been thinking of sponsoring a child. I always see those commercials on TV and they constantly break my heart, and it hurts knowing that I'm comfortable and healthy and that someone else isn't - especially someone who cannot take care of themselves.
I want to help. I'm not doing it because I feel guilty of having a better life, but because I know it's the right thing to do since and because it's something I want to do. I visited the World Vision website, and I read up on it, but some part of me is still reluctant. Are they legit? Have any of you sponsored a child? How is the process?
I figured I'd help someone in need because I have the spare $35 a month to give, and because I don't really need to spend hundreds of dollars on myself every 2 weeks like I usually do. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Sponsoring a child is a wonderful thing to do!
World Vision is one of the very legit groups out there. They've been around for years, and my daughter started sponsoring a girl through there when she was in college and has found it a rewarding experience.
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22/f, okay so I work in a school as a SPED instructional aide, and I like a co-worker of mine, a teacher who is a 27/m. He's is like the sweetest man ever... almost too sweet. So sweet that alot of women(not really much competition considering my self esteem isn't really high) are/were after him too. But I know he dosen't like them cause the teacher I work with told. The two of them are best friends.
Anyhow, he's like a big kid and that's what I like the most. Still plays video games,and a very caring teacher (teaches SPED) and cares alot about his brother who is also special needs. Plus he lent me his super expensive calculator for an entire year... We've hung out a few times but I can't really tell if we vibing or not cause I never paid attention to it. I was just happy to be in his presence. He's bought me drinks and food before too :)
So now, a co-worker of mine has told him I liked and he said "Ms.P---, I'm going to have to holler at her...." *I don't even know what that means*... so the first day back to work he came and sat next to me and I sat there for like a hot second cause I got nervous and had to move...
Now I'm too shy to really say much of anything to him. I only say Hi to him when I see him in the hallways and whatnot...So should I try to pursue him still? Do I have any kind of chance? Any ideas as to how I can break out of this shyness?
The only reason why I didn't tell him I liked him was because, well as any other human I don't want to get rejected. But my co-worker said that she "needed to get the ball rolling"
Any advice/opinions/ideas/thoughts are greatly appreciated! (link)
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I've always thought we women got off easy in our dating customs because they guy always had to stick his neck out first... and risk getting it lopped off!
But I think you are going to have to make a move if you want this to go anywhere.
Any fall festivals or something coming up nearby, but not in the town where you teach? These are great because there's lots to do and see, but the kind of things that allow for lots of conversation and interaction. If there is, say something like: "I thought I'd check out the Old Apple Time festival in Pleasantown at the end of the month. Would you like to go with me?"
...and see if he's interested in some more tghan a workplace flirtation.
Good luck!
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I have a friend to whome i am close to. He is one of my ultimate best friends and we talk on a regular basis. There has always been this "thing" between me and him and we both know its there. There is like a spark in the air but then again, we have NEVER kissed or anything . But we are so close mentally and emotionally.
He always talks abou what kind of girl he's gunna marry and how hell treat her. It just makes me think even more about how badly i want that life with him. They say that your husband is like your best friend. I think i do want my bestfriend to eventually become my husband. I have never really thought about is like that before but i legit think that we are almost perfect for eachother. And i do think that we could date very easily but I do beleive that the ONLY thing that is holding us back is me. My weight.Dont get it wrong he does love me but he also wants a "fitter " looking gf. And i honestly dont resent him for that. He is really into body building and fitness and he doesnt really judge me at all. I just have that gut feeling that that is what is holding him back from me. But me, i dont at ALL eat junk food. All my weight was put on when I was younger and now im just been kind of stuck with it for four years. For four years after i gradually began to eat healthier my weight still just kinda stayed the same. This summer i have been watching and kind of obsessing what i eat and i have lost about 15 pounds. All i drink is water and eat three times a day of mostly vegetables. But i dont only want to lose weight because i have this weird theory lol...but so i feel better about myself in general...im just getting sick of being fat.
anyway i guess i dont even really know what im asking i just kinda wonderr i guess what you think about all of this or just any advice. ... (link)
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If you want to lose weight, more power to ya'!
But if you want to lose weight so that he can turn from from a friend to a beau, you should think twice about that.
If your weight is the only thing keeping you two from getting together, that's not a very good reason to be apart. That also says that he has some pretty superficial values, if he can only like you in a certain size. And what happens if you gain any of it back - does he then stop loving you?
I think friendship is a great beginning to a romance since the two people know each other better when they get caught up in an emotional haze.
So, I encourage you to lose the weight for your health and well being, but if he's he prime motivator, think twice.
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So I have GAD (general anxiety disorder). I'm on Paxil CR right now for it, but I'm switching meds soon because this one cause me to become very depressed.
Here's my problem: I started school about a week ago. I have to get up every morning at 5:30 AM because I had to take an early pre-period class...the thing is, by me getting up at 5:30 I'm constantly exhausted and I feel like I'm not getting enough sleep. The earliest I'm ever able to fall asleep is around 10, but usually 11. I can turn off the TV, turn off the lights, and just relax but I still can't seem to fall asleep until around 10-11.
And this is where the anxiety comes in...all summer I had really severe anxiety attacks. I'd wake up in the morning, just go through the day feeling anxious until around 12 AM at night I'd finally fall asleep after having multiple anxiety attacks. I started Paxil CR in July..and at first I DID notice a difference but as of a few weeks, I've been feeling really depressed and anxious, which according to my doctor is most likely due the Paxil. So today I have an appointment with my doc and I will be switching meds. Anyway, when I don't get enough sleep...my anxiety is usually 20x worse.
Just last night I had a VERY severe round of anxiety attacks from the time of getting home from school, till around 11 when I finally fell asleep. I wasn't able to go to school today. I feel like a big part of this is because I'm just not getting enough sleep.
I don't know what to do. I can't drop the early morning class, because I have to take it. 5:30 is the LATEST I can get up in the morning. I'm just wondering if anyone has any relaxation techniques to help me calm down earlier in the night and be able to fall asleep earlier? Or if anyone has any other advice on what I can do about this anxiety and sleep.
Thanks. (link)
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You got some great advice already...
Do you drink beverages with caffeine in them? Try and cut them out, at least don't drink them after 3:00 PM. Most people aren't aware of the effect it has on them until they cut it out.
Cut out highly sugared foods/drinks from dinner on. These, too can make it hard for you to relax.
Make you bedroom as dark as possible. This makes a big difference! Add a sheet as another layer of curtains, use a draft stopper if a lot of light comes in under your door.
How quiet is your room? People do not get good quality sleep when there are TV sounds in the background. If there are household sounds you can't block out, consider ear plugs, or a masking noise, like the running of a fan.
Stop watching TV in bed, or studying in bed or anything else but sleeping in bed.
Hopefully you will get the better of this soon.
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hello, my names louise and im 13. i recently went on holiday with my best friend and her brother, whose friend who is two years older than me came for 3 days. as soon as i saw him i really liked him. his not the best looking boy ever but he is sweet and caring. we held hands alot and at night we slept in the front room with my friend and he had his arm round me and we kissed a few times. he knew that when he went away i would really miss him and he said he would miss me too.
since he went ive asked for his number on numberous occassions but he doesnt reply. ive spoken to him over facebook but he doesnt seem to care. if i message him he will either reply with about a sentence or ignore it. i asked whether he was free in the next two weeks because i really miss him but he didnt reply.
i really want his number so i can try and talk to him more. ive cried because all i want it to be able to see him. but for starters he doesnt know how i feel about him because i never told him when i had the chance. and secondly he lives about 50 minutes from me.
i REALLY love him. and i dont know what ive done wrong for him to ignore me like this.
thankyou x (link)
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You have a crush on this young man (you don't know him well enough to love him)and he clearly does not want anything to do with you. I know this hurts like crazy. He is obviously not as sweet and caring as you think.
Forget about him. I know that's much easier said than done, but what are you expecting from someone who is so rude as to not return your messages in a meaningful way?
In the future, take you time and don't be so quick to become physically involved with guys. For you it was an expression of emotion, but for him, it was a meaningless encounter.
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Next year I will be going to college. My gpa isn't very good (2.5) so I assumed I'd have to go to a community college for two years then transfer somewhere better. Going to community college my parents could pay for all
of it. The plan was I'd get a job and save up for after community college so I wouldn't have to get loans or be in debt. However all my friends are going to Kent (in Ohio, party school) and it seems like a lot of fun there. I heard I can get in with my gpa. It's not too expensive there but more then community obviously. Which means all my money and
my parents would go to it plus I'd have to take
out some loans. Do you think I'm making a mistake by not going away? Kent is only an hour away... (link)
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I think it's time for you to take two giant steps backward and think about why you want to go to college and what you want out of it.
Going to college because it's a lot of fun is some very expensive fun.
What do you want out of college?
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As per you question in the comments section...
It depends on the student.
I've seen some students go 5 hours away from home, and they are home every weekend - they never make the transition to college and living at college or knowing that they can and have mastered a new culture.
I've seen students live on a campus where their parent's home is closer to the dinning hall than their dorm is, and they are away at college, they make all new friends etc.
I think going to a college where you know a number of people can make it harder to change and become a new person - it's just to easy and comfortable in the first few weeks when everything is new, to hang with those you know.
Hope that's more food for thought...
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18/m
My gf and i have been together for two and a half years. In the beginning, things were going so great and we really loved eachother. But lately, i just dont even enjoy spending time with her. we argue about everything. I don't want to be with her anymore. On top of that, there's another girl that ive been talking to that i really like. I told her that we could be together once i leave my current girlfriend, and i really do want to be with her. The problem is, i cant bring myself to break up with my current girlfriend and hurt her. I know thats stupid, because ive been hurting the girl i really like all along by telling her that she and i can be together, and im having a hard time maning up and doing the right thing. Also, im leaving for college in a few days, and its 6 hours away. Any advice at all would be awesome. Thanks :) (link)
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You must resolve this before you leave.
Break up with the current girlfriend - face-to-face. Site the constant arguments + you leaving for school. She's going to be hurt no matter how you do it, but try to be a class act. Use "I" sentences, not "you" messages.
I suggest that you initiate a "getting to know you" relationship with the new girl since you are packing up and leaving town. Email and skype have changed long distance relationships, but you will soon be involved in a whole new world.
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hi guys im 17/f/cali
to start with me & my b/f have been dating for 5 months now. everything has been great except 1 thing. lexi (my sis) gets in the way of everythin like shes been against me & my b/f since the beginning b/c she says hes lying about things to me...&& she constantly b!tches about him to me. imo sisters dont do that she should jus support me. shes took it a step 2 far now she says ive completely changed who i am now were together & nobody else thinks that
everyone else loves my b/f, incl the rest of my family & my mom loves him so shes jus been lame for no reason & it has really upset my b/f idk what to do now (link)
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How close in age is this sister?
My hunch is that she's jealous. She may not even be aware of it, in fact, she would probably go out of her way to deny it.
Since I don't know you sister, I hate to offer advice. I suggest you ask your mom. She might feel better to be included now and again, or she may see that as rubbing salt in a wound.
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I know this is kind of a dumb question but what do you bring to class in college? I was thinking like my computer, the textbook, a binder with some paper, a pencil, highlighter, and some pens, and a calculator for the math like classes. Do I really have to bring that much? (link)
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Generally the computer only comes to class if you are going to be taking notes on it. Some schools encourage that, others are not so fond. Professors vary.
I suggest you take everything but the computer to your first classes where you'll get the lay of the land.
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I'm kinda mixed with a a lot.I have been told we are Scottish and some say Irish. My last name has Mac. And when I search it, it says it's Irish and Scottish.It says it's Irish but then there is a Scottish clan called Colquhoun & my last name is under Colquhoun. But if Colquhoun is Scottish, how is it Irish? IDK, but when people ask about the name, what do I say? I just say both. IDK (link)
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Both is a good answer.
Your last names comes from only one side of your heritage, but your biological connection comes from both sides.
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Ok so I just got into a relationship with this guy. He is really sweet and cute. Last night we were chatting over facebook and he told me he wants to go to the movies and finger me when we are there. I am 13 and i wanna know if i should? and if i do what should i know.. when he does is my cherry gonna pop? And is it gonna hurt? I think he only likes me to have sex with me but I am only 13 im not ready to have sex.. Ok well Please Help Me! (link)
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This guy has told you up front what he is interested in, and it's not you. It's your body, or, more to the point, it's any body he can get his hands on.
Stay away, stay far away!
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I've been called a "whore" around my neighborhood and I know some people who think "oh she gets around". But I don't act that way... People who don't know me think I'm all innocent.
I'm 15 and I've had sex with 5 people(and multiple times), given oral to 6 or 7 including those 5, and I lost my virginity when I was 14.
At this point I'm having sex with my boyfriend a few times a week.
Is this bad? .. Like, have I done too much for my age? What do you think..? (link)
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Since you asked, I think this is very foolish and unwise. You are putting you health at risk, but worse than that, you are devaluing yourself.
Just because you've done some things in the past is no reason why you have to continue them in the future.
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About 2 years ago, people kept telling me to "Wake Up" My teachers, and adults. I was sick and tired of hearing it. "You need to wake up" I must have heard it 1000 times. It used to make me feel stupid and slow. What exactly does "wake up mean"? Like I remember once the teacher thought I wasn't paying attention yet I really was. I don't hear it anymore. But what did it mean? Was I like stupid or slow back then? (link)
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Perception is everything. For whatever reason, people perceive you as being half asleep in school. It could be something as simple as having eyes that don't open wide.
This is good for you to know!
What you need to do now is send out subliminal messages that you are paying attention. How to do this?
When you have a choice, sit toward the front of the room.
Make eye contact with the teacher.
Respond - in the obvious ways, by answering questions and nodding your head slightly in agreement, but in subtle ways, like leaning forward slightly in your seat, sitting upright. Smile at jokes.
Ask questions.
All of these kinds of things send the message to teachers that you are trying and interested.
Yes, it's a little like a game. So, learn the rules and play along.
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I got a keyboard for my graduation present from my aunt and uncle. They knew I would love this gift and I do. I am still not very good and I have taken time away from the keyboard.. I am now starting up again. (I know it takes practice)
However, I also eventually want to learn guitar or bass. If I ask for say a guitar for Christmas or my birthday would this be a slap in the face to my aunt and uncle? (link)
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Not if you're making progress, that you've shared with them, on the keyboard.
If you have a good guitar store in your neck of the country, you might ask for a second hand guitar. You can get a better quality for less money.
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16/F
My Grandpop is an alumni, my uncle is stationed in the monastery there, and my great uncle was president of the university. There is also a dormitory building on campus named after my family (it has my last name) I'm a pretty good student, though I haven't taken my SATs yet. What I'm saying is that will any of these things help my chances of admission? Oh I'm going to be a Junior by the way lol. (link)
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The horrible truth is that, yeah, you'll probably be accepted there. Someone in the admissions process is sure to notice the name and check it out, and you'd get accepted in spite of your grades and scores.
Now, the good truth is that you can probably be accepted there because of your grades and scores.
I would hate to see you going to a college because you felt you had no other choice.
Take the PSAT or SATs as early as you can so you will be at ease about that. No one likes to admit it, but SAT prep classes can help improve your score. But don't waste the time and money until you know if you need it.
Apply to some other colleges you also like as well as V. so you'll really believe that you belong at V. and didn't sneak in the back door.
Good luck.
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Hi.
I live with my boyfriend, and his mom. His sister had her son about a year ago, and we have a problem. He is all in all a good, healthy little boy who loves to have fun, but he also loves being picked up. If you hold him, and you try to put him down, he cries. If you put him in his play pen and leave him there, he screams at the top of his lungs.
It's been becoming a problem because he's almost 1 (he'll be 1 in like, a week) and he's bigger than most babies his age, and he's a lot heavier than them. It's difficult to carry him for long periods of time, and since my boyfriend's mom watches him while his mom is at work, she's become very exhausted. I would help out, but my boyfriend and I work a lot so we're not always home, and by time we do get home, we're worn out.
How can we wean the baby off of wanting to be carried? I love him, and hate seeing him cry, as does everyone else, but he's becoming too spoiled and too dependent on it and we're all very exhausted. I know we're very much at fault, but we're at our wits end. Any ideas?
Thank you! (link)
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There are two ways to go:
1. Simply refuse to hold the child. He'll adjust and over time, come to expect that no one is going to hold him. He'll scream bloody murder for several days, but he'll " cry it out" and he'll learn.
2. Hold the child as much as possible. Babies need to be held as much as they need food. They need contact with people, skin to skin, and lots of loving. A backpack may help as he gets older. It is impossible to spoil a baby. Trade off as you need to, but every moment he's held makes him feel loved and secure.
I know how hard it can be, but I obviously suggest option #2. In a short time he'll be cruising the house and that will drive you crazy. Enjoy this time whiile he's still a baby.
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