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I like a co-worker (teacher)... IDK what 2 do!
22/f, okay so I work in a school as a SPED instructional aide, and I like a co-worker of mine, a teacher who is a 27/m. He's is like the sweetest man ever... almost too sweet. So sweet that alot of women(not really much competition considering my self esteem isn't really high) are/were after him too. But I know he dosen't like them cause the teacher I work with told. The two of them are best friends.
Anyhow, he's like a big kid and that's what I like the most. Still plays video games,and a very caring teacher (teaches SPED) and cares alot about his brother who is also special needs. Plus he lent me his super expensive calculator for an entire year... We've hung out a few times but I can't really tell if we vibing or not cause I never paid attention to it. I was just happy to be in his presence. He's bought me drinks and food before too :)
So now, a co-worker of mine has told him I liked and he said "Ms.P---, I'm going to have to holler at her...." *I don't even know what that means*... so the first day back to work he came and sat next to me and I sat there for like a hot second cause I got nervous and had to move...
Now I'm too shy to really say much of anything to him. I only say Hi to him when I see him in the hallways and whatnot...So should I try to pursue him still? Do I have any kind of chance? Any ideas as to how I can break out of this shyness?
The only reason why I didn't tell him I liked him was because, well as any other human I don't want to get rejected. But my co-worker said that she "needed to get the ball rolling"
Any advice/opinions/ideas/thoughts are greatly appreciated!
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WOW! This must be tough huh? trying to get noticed in a sea of women who are desperate to get your man. Okay when he says hollar at you it means he'll have to think about it and call you. But he was probably just saying it as you do. This does NOT mean he doesn't like you. Its just a habit of speech. You should ask him if he wants to go for a bite to eat and leave it at that. If nothing really happens, and he doesn't make a move don't keep asking him places it'll look desperate, just leave it. If he knows you like him, stepping back a bit and secretly crushing on him from afar will make him less pressured and maybe he'll ask you to go out instead. The only way to break the shyness barrier is to go straight to the gold and ask him outright to go out for a drink or something to eat. Don't call it a date, just a bite to eat/or drink. Good luck x
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Tell him how you feel but also keep in mind that most relationships between coworkers can get very intense an sometimes in certain states aren't even allowed. Just do what your heart says to do..
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I've always thought we women got off easy in our dating customs because they guy always had to stick his neck out first... and risk getting it lopped off!
But I think you are going to have to make a move if you want this to go anywhere.
Any fall festivals or something coming up nearby, but not in the town where you teach? These are great because there's lots to do and see, but the kind of things that allow for lots of conversation and interaction. If there is, say something like: "I thought I'd check out the Old Apple Time festival in Pleasantown at the end of the month. Would you like to go with me?"
...and see if he's interested in some more tghan a workplace flirtation.
Good luck!
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Ellaih4yue:
okay darling you sound like my bestfriend
you still somewhat at high-school stage which
is okay for now to him it may be cute rite now
but if he make the move before you and you guys do start talking that shyness must go away we dont want the guy thinking that your some lil girl who is just to shy to speak...sometime being
straight froward help like for example start your conversation of with a hi and how is your day going and to continue on with it say so what do you got plan after work and so far on...not saying you have to ask the co-worker out...this is just to help you get over your shyness with him and the more and more you do this you will feel more confrotable with talking to him....
Elliah4yue
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