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i love him but i dont think he cares
hello, my names louise and im 13. i recently went on holiday with my best friend and her brother, whose friend who is two years older than me came for 3 days. as soon as i saw him i really liked him. his not the best looking boy ever but he is sweet and caring. we held hands alot and at night we slept in the front room with my friend and he had his arm round me and we kissed a few times. he knew that when he went away i would really miss him and he said he would miss me too.
since he went ive asked for his number on numberous occassions but he doesnt reply. ive spoken to him over facebook but he doesnt seem to care. if i message him he will either reply with about a sentence or ignore it. i asked whether he was free in the next two weeks because i really miss him but he didnt reply.
i really want his number so i can try and talk to him more. ive cried because all i want it to be able to see him. but for starters he doesnt know how i feel about him because i never told him when i had the chance. and secondly he lives about 50 minutes from me.
i REALLY love him. and i dont know what ive done wrong for him to ignore me like this.
thankyou x
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The truth is that he doesn't really like you like you like him. Honestly. I know that might hurt but you have to face it.
If a boy is interested in you then he's going to make an effort to push things forward. He'll ask for your phone number, give you his, or find some way of contacting you regularly.
His behavior screams dislike. If he wanted to go out with you then he'd definitely step-it-up, as they say.
It's possible he already has a girlfriend and that's why he won't give you the phone number and ignores you when you ask.
It's possible he isn't allowed to see girls and he doesn't want his parent finding out that he's been talking to you so he won't give you the phone number in case you call and they answer. (This is pretty doubtful for boys, by the way.)
It's possible that he likes you as a friend and he just doesn't want more than that. Maybe you were sort-of like his summer-fling, in a sense. He enjoyed the kisses and wants to keep talking to you but really doesn't want a relationship with you. Sometimes boys DO just want to be friends.
If you really cannot come to grips with this then you will just have to ask him about it. You'll just have to say, "Why won't you give me your phone number?" But if he's trying to hide something then might not give you an answer to that.
Just walk away while you can. Really. You're better off finding a boy who you can talk with on the phone if that's what you want.
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I don't want to be the bearer of bad news...but hun, He's Just Not That Into You. Throughout your life you're going to have the ups and downs of boys...you're only 13, and well it might've been fun hanging out with this guy for a few days but when you say he's 2 years older than you and you REALLY love him, you don't. You knew him for 3 days, and I know it happens in the movies, where you know a boy for moments and he's "the one" but in real life it doesn't happen like that. In the real world you need time to develop a good relationship and a strong love connection like that. I know it might seem confusing and hard to believe now, but trust me you'll understand in a year or two.
Back to the fact of this boy, I don't mean to bring you down, but it's best you know the truth of what he was probably thinking when he met you. He was probably thinking something along the lines of "Oh, a new younger girl I'll probably never see again...she's kinda cute (cute enough..for a few days)" Since you were younger he probably knew he'd easily be able to get involved with you. But never intentionally wanted to start a relationship or anything with you. He most likely just wanted a fling for the 3 days he was with you all, especially since he was in an unknown area and knew no other girls.
On the bright side, you've done absolutely NOTHING wrong. You just fell into the arms of a jerk boy. It's okay, it'll probably happen more than once. But it's good you're gaining this experience now. The best thing for you to do, is to forget about him, and try not to talk to him or talk about him. It's no big deal, you're going to find many other guys you're going to really really like, probably a lot more than you think you like this boy.
I know a lot of this probably hurt to hear, but it's good to know. I hope this helps, good luck!
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Sometimes, people are just lazy. He may just be bad at getting back to people. You have to ask him directly or tell him exactly how you feel.
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He's not into you.
He is very deliberately ignoring you. This isn't going to go anywhere at all.
I'm sorry. I know it hurts. It's very possible you didn't do anything at all wrong. It's very possible that you could be the perfect girl for him in every possible way. You can do and be everything right and still have a guy not be interested in you.
Stop trying to contact him. You are only prolonging your own suffering. You can't get over him if you keep hunting him, so stop it. It will hurt like hell for a while, but that will pass.
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You have a crush on this young man (you don't know him well enough to love him)and he clearly does not want anything to do with you. I know this hurts like crazy. He is obviously not as sweet and caring as you think.
Forget about him. I know that's much easier said than done, but what are you expecting from someone who is so rude as to not return your messages in a meaningful way?
In the future, take you time and don't be so quick to become physically involved with guys. For you it was an expression of emotion, but for him, it was a meaningless encounter.
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