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First off I'm 16/f. I have a dilemma... These two boys (a 7th grader & a freshman) are sort of obsessed about me. They're both really starting to creep me out. How do I break this little unintended spell I have over them w/o making them mad or suicidal. The kid in 7th kind of has anger issues and seems to be really depressed already. The freshman is just really annoying. Thanks for reading, I'll rate or whatever...

Tell them to leave you the hell alone& that you don't like them that way..in a nicer way you could just say that you aren't interested..goodluck on that:/

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im 14 and my b/f's 15. He's a really sweet guy and always tells me that hes going to wait for me for when i want to lose my virginity and hes a virgin too. ive known him like my whole life and he is the sweetest guy ever and he is so nice and would never do anything to hurt anyone. all weve done is make out but everytime i come over or he comes over his older sister and older brother and older cousin will ask what we did and he just says nothing and theyre like well damn have you guys at least made out??? and they tease him sometimes n just be like oo all you guys do is make out??? and all that stuff and so lately i think its been bothering him. i know im young and all but i feel like, "pressured" to have sex with him and like i want to in a way so they stop teasing him, and i also feel that theyre gunna think im some prude kind of person and i dont want them to think that of me, i want them to like me and not talk about us. i dont really know how this is a question but i need some kind of advice, like what i should do and if i should have sex with him or not.

Don't have sex with him just b/c you want them to stop teasing him. Wait until you're really ready, and don't just give in b/c you're being pressured. If he really doesn't wanna hurt anyone, he'll get over the fatc that you two are being teased about it. It's just b/c they are older& love picking on younger kids..it always works that way! Just don't give into the pressure! Goodluck!

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okayy .. sorry this is long but i need advice. so this guy from school and me have been talking online since last april. first we were gunna go to the movies over april vacation . but i couldnt go. and like he was gunna ask me out there and it was like the biggest disapointment .. then he was gunna ask me out so many times but never did. so like in august he was like so maybe we could hang out sometime and i was like yea because i really like him. we tried to go out to the movies like 10 times but something always came up for one of his wtth family or w.e. then this girl came from cali. she started i.ming everyone to tell people that she was new and stuff. well like she i.med him and they like started talking and she i.med me too. but like i guess they went to the mall and stuff together, my friend told me that like he had started to like her and i was heart broken bcuas i really thought we would be the best couple.. but like so he started to like her and she went over his house and stuff .. and i guess she liked him. but then school started and she didnt like him anymore. now he talks to me a lot more and i dont know if he likes me again but i dont want to ask because i'm so scared of getting hurt and like i dont wanna ruin anything we have as friends now .. but i still want to go out with him.. its like the worst feeling ever to be so close to pardise and then its completely g o ne .. blahh .. so i just need sum advice .. thanks =) your the best

Yea that feeling always has sucked..but I say you should ask him if he still does like you! B/c then if he does..you two could hook up FINALLY! I can understand you not wanting to get hurt again but with every relationship there is some sort of consequence or risk you'll have to take! Hope everything works out!

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does anyone know what this song is called?? its like:
i think about it over and over again cause its all in my head?
ive tryed google and everything i cnt find it. ill rate you a 5 jus for answering thanx!

Nelly& Tim McGraw- Over and Over..I'm listening to it now :) GOOD SONG!

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hey -

i was just like wondering how you makeout.and wahts the difference between kissing and makingout.im 13

Hey..making out& kissing are completely different..making out involves your tounges..kissing is just simply..touching of the lips..hope I helped

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last year i gotinto this huge fight with my best friend in the whole world and its too long to explain but to fill you in the fight caused us to not be friends anymore. Now this year , out of the blue she apologizes and she confessed how she really feels and how she regrets how she stopped being my friend and stuff and i started to miss being friends with her. Should i be friends with her again...i mean theres always room to start over...right?

There's DEFINATELY always room to start over when it comes to best friends. Since she was the one to come out& apologize I think you should give her credit for that. Friendship is a very important thing in your life..so hold onto it;-)

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okay i know this is pretty dumb but my boobs arent as big as id like..is there anything that would make em bigger..probally not without takeing pills but its worth the ask..but does anyone know any experience that they know of that worked for them? pills..certain food..excerise?

I'm telling you..you really don't want your boobs to get bigger!..I used to think I did and then..I got what I wished for and uhm..I'm not too happy! But without taking pills all you can do is stuff your bra or get padded &/or push-up bras..Goodluck :/

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ok..i have a bf and we live kinda close but he goes to another school but i never see him we r in the same religion class but that is for only an hour every week and he doesnt really like to go out like to the movies so does anybody no wat i should do without breaking up with him
thanks

Call him..go over to his house..have him come over..watch movies at home instead of going out..you don't always have to go out somewhere! Even if that's boring..it's always better to be bored with more than one person than it is to be bored alone..

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hey everyone. im manda and im 14 years old. i need to start babysitting in order to get some money. well i just moved into my new house in a new town. i want to make babysitting flyers to take and give to some of my neibors. i just need to know what to put on it. um.. i get pretty decent grades, im responsible, i love kids, i dont mind changing dipers. i am trained in CPR and First Aid and have the cards to prove it. so what should i put on the flyer to make it look appealing to parents n stuff? thanks for ur guys' help!

much love
xoxo
manda

Put exactly what you just told me..& maybe put in on bright colored cardstock or w/e you're using so it stands out more. Parents who are looking for babysitters feel much more confident having a sitter who is certified in CPR& First Aid& that type of thing..it makes them feel safer. Goodluck!

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i like this guy a lot...i have liked him for like 2 1/2 years and no1 knows that i like him except like 4 friends. every1 always tells me that he likes me, (which people think is a bad thing because he is sort of a dork in my grade). but there is this other girl who is REALLY popular (nice, pretty, funny) and when i am in classes with the guy i like but she isn't in them, he flirts with me. but when he is in a class with me and the really popular girl he flirts with her A LOT and like forgets me. he is moving away in a little while and i really need to know what i should do? any ideas? thanx

Talk to him..maybe he does like you but is afraid of rejection? If he's considered a "dork" maybe he flirts with the "popular" girl to get more attention or become "popular" or something. If you've liked him for that long and he's moving away..that's gunna be tough on ya..so definately let him know how you feel before he leaves! Hope I helped you!

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ive been with my boyfriend for just a week or so and he wants to have sex, and i want to too...and he told me he loved me but i dunno to belive him or not, what do i do?

You've been together a week..and he is already saying he loves you? Hmm.. Well if you think you can trust him, then go on& believe him. But don't have sex with him unless you truly believe that he loves you! Just don't be surprised if after you two have sex then it gets incredibly awkward& you break up. Be safe! Goodluck hun!

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Ok, well,Im 16 & there is this guy that Im falling really hard for. He's so funny and I love to hang around him, but it seems like whenever I'm around him, I get so scared. I'll be talking to my friends and I'll be like, ok, tomorrow, I'm gonna tell him how I feel. And then when I see him, I'm like, oh no...I cant do it. I just get so intimidated! I know why I cant talk to him, too. Its cuz, well, I know Im not very pretty or anything and I find it really hard to believe that he would like me back. So I just think that it would just be so weird for me to be around him if I told him I liked him and he didnt like me. But all my friends are like, OMG, you need to tell him NOW! This has been a problem for me for a very long time. Everytime I like a guy, I like him so much that i bring myself to tears thinking about him, but I just cant get the courage to tell him how I feel. Am I right to hide my feelings from him so it wouldnt be awkward to be friends, or do I need to suck it up and spill my heart to him? Thanks a million!

First of all, you're gorgeous! You should do whatever you feel you need to do. I personlly think that you should tell him how you feel, since almost everyone else already knows..you apparently don't have too much self confidence..I understand that you wouldn't wanna make things weird between you 2, but "You might regret what you do- but you'll regret what you don't do SO much more" I really think you should get the courage to tell him how you feel b/c you will feel alot better that he knows:/ Goodluck!

..."Whatta Loser"

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There's this one girl at school and everyday it seems like she gives me a hug. Her name sounds the same as this other gurl'z who gave me a hug the other day, too. When she gave me a hug she said i love u and i said i love u 2 ______. I accidentally said the other gurls name and i feel really bad. What should i do? Should i just ask u right now online? :-D LOL

Haha! Hun there's really nothing you can do, but I forgive you ;-)! Don't feel bad though, it happens..even though my name sounds NOTHING like Amanda, LOL! You're a sweetheart so I forgave you right after it happened! :]

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Okay, theres this chickk that goes to my school. I was haveing such a good day cuz I got my hair cut and I got stuff to scrunch my hair, and I thought I looked soo nice. EVERYBODY was complimenting me, and I've never got any compliments from any of these, like my best friend amanda told me i looked pretty, and I've never been told that i was pretty before so it was really cool. But this one chick, shes supposed to be one of my best friends, says I look really bad, and I'm trying to looklike one of my other best friends named Justine, But i wasn't, because Justine doesn't even scrunch her hair! And my belt had broken that day and It wasn't cuz of me, it was because I wore it like everyday and it was fallen apart, it was my favorite belt, and I like put pins in it so it wouldn't break anymore, and then of course I said. "look at my belt" in front of her, and she said "That's what happens when your fat" and I'm like "Dude your mean" and shes like "Truth Hurts", I dunno, she was never mean before, Do you think she was just mad that everybody was complimenting me and not her??

I rate high..!

I think you're exactly correct. I think she was just jealous that everyone was complimenting YOU and not HER! People who are like that tend to put others down, I guess it's their way of letting you know they want the attention everyone is giving YOU& not her. Don't pay any attention to it, she'll have to get over it eventually.

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yeah..my friends say i do give great advice..i guess he doesnt notice what im tryin 2 say is true..and doesnt think that "being ur self" is the gr8 way to ask a girl out...urgh *scoffs* MEN they are all the same!! lol

and he 1st said..to me when this whole thing started a few weeks ago..then end of september.."i wanna ask this girl out in my school...she is soooo niccccccccccccce and she is sooooooooooooooooooo hotttttttttttttttttttttttt" and i we both joined youth group at our church and we meet every other thrusday and it started the on the 7th or w/e and i was sittin on the end of the row with my friend on my right..and he came in a little late or w/e and sat the row behind us..4 seats over or soo..and he was sittin with an empty sit on his left and his friend frank or w/e on his right ..and he kept smiling back at me everytime i glanced over and looked at him..and my friend who behind me went to go fix the office computer or w/e and my friend who was on the right of me is the daughter of the princpial of the religious formation..so she went w/ him to her mom's office while he was workin on the computer and they while the 3 of them were gone, that left 5 other ppl..we were talkin about ideas of raising money..and he kept sayin all these ideas and all...and when the other 3 came back..my friend sat down back next me..and said "what did i miss?" and i said "oh nothing much just dj's brillant idea's..." and i guess he heard me and i look back at him with the corner of my eye and he chuckled and i aid to my self.."ohh boyy" and after it was over i went into the office to call my mom to tell her when it was over and that my friend was gonna take me home since she lives 2 blocks away..and all..and dj had his friends cell..and he he kept takin creepy pictures of me...and i was like wow..ok.?? and all that stuff..and it seems like its all the signs but he doesnt want to amit it..inless he is tryin 2 get my ideas of askin a girl out or w/e..so he can ask me out...i have no clue..its gets more confusing everytime i talk to him or i see him...*looks around room tryin not to make eye contact*

HAHA! Amen girl! But how things are going now, it seems like you are the girl he's been wanting to ask out..maybe the reason he doesn't think "being himself" is a good reason is maybe b/c he's being himself around you& you're not liking it? I'm not too sure, but from what you've told me that's how it seems to me. I can see why it's getting confusing..some guys have a tendency to complicate the heck outta everything, heh! Well goodluck& keep me updated on how everything goes! Bye hun

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ileant my mum 40 pounds and she wont give me it back cause she think i stole it out of her purse I DIDNT

uhm..I'm hoping that wasnt a question..b/c it REALLY doesn't sound like one..but incase it WAS a question..try convincing her you didn't steal from her& she should trust you about it..Goodluck

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OK, Before me and my boyfriend were going out we were bestfriends. We've been going out for a week and I have realized that I like being just friends with him. I can talk to him better if we were friends. How do I break up with him without hurting our friendship?

Although it's a "famous line" for girls to use when they break up with a guy, tell him that you feel closer to him as friends. Maybe he feels the same way, after all when you decided to go out with each other, that's when you mutually agreed that there will be risks in doing this b/c it could hurt your friendship. I've been through that without realizing it as well. There is no way to completely not hurt your friendship together by breaking up with him UNLESS he also feels like ya'll were closer before you two started dating. Goodluck!

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Mkay.. im 13 and i am really falling in love with my boyfriend. Like i want to be with him for the rest of my life and ive never felt this way before. How do i know if this is really true love? Is it to eairly to have a serious relationship?

p.s. my aunt found her true love in Jr.High. they got married so maybe it will happen to me!

If you found the guy you love at 13, and you stick with him for the rest of your life& get married..you are one VERY lucky girl! That doesn't happen very often at ALL! You asked "How do I know if this is really true love?"..you'll just know..No one can tell you except yourself. There is no age on love, but not very many 13 yr olds know what LOVE is, they just say "I love you" b/c that's what everyone else is doing& b/c they THINK they are in love, but they're not. On the other hand, if you ARE in love at this age and you do end up getting married, I wish you best of luck! Hope everything works out for ya!

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I go out wit this guy but i like another guy too i dont know what to do ???

That happens to alot of people. If you like the other guy more than your current b/f..then talk to him& see if he feels the same wasy as you do to him. If you like your b/f better..stay with him..It all depends on who makes you feel like a happier person!Goodluck!

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holy crap people i want to beat the shit out of everyone at my school.

There is this grl that i sit with every single day at lunch and i chill with her at school all the time and i really like her cuz shes 1.REALLY HOT..but 2. shes the nicest n sweetest person i have ever met in mi whole life and like seriously i love her..ppl r like kid ur so shallow u just like her cuz shes a cheerleader..when thats not even the reason...wut do i do?? beat the shyt out of all these gay kids or just ignore them cuz theyre just people and i shudnt care wut they think??

2nd choice sounds best to me. Don't beat the crap out of those people just b/c they don't know you or what you feel for this girl. You really shouldn't care what they think if it's not the real reason ya know? They're just choosing to judge you based on what looks like you being shallow. But you don't seem shallow at all. Those oher gus are just jealous! But don't forget to talk to this girl about how you feel about her, maybe she likes you as well. Hope everything works out!

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