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Name: Laura
Age: 14
Single or taken: Hem, single...
Height: 5'7 and a half
Weight: A three digit number
Eyes: Green
Hair: Reddish Brownish blondeish? lol
Grade: 9th.
Schooled at: Home
Race: Umm, I'm German, Irish, French and Italian...?
Religion: Christian (Baptist to be exact)

Don't fall for someone who won't be there to catch you.

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Today everybody forced me and my boyfriend to kiss and we did but I totally freaked out as soon as I felt his tongue and jumped back going: Ew! He got really pissed and ran off. I thought everything was over until I saw him and we hugged and he said it was OK. Now he's gone cold on me, hung up on me and switched his phone off. I think I've runined everything but I like him so much. I need help and fast.

Heh. I think it's funny that you think that's gross. If you didn't want him to do that, then MAYBE you shouldn't kissed him, HMM? You gotta admit, it was quite rude of you to say "EWW", considering he IS your boyfriend and all.

~Laura~

i stayed home today cuz im really sick..and like my face has gotten SOOOO dry from it like around my nose and under my chin and under my eyes..does neone know somthing that'll help? like hand lotion? but isn't that for ur hand..and i kinda need somthin that'll work fast cuz i got skool tomorrow well thanx

Sometimes Ucerine(sp?) works, just use it like a moisterizer. And obviously a good moisterizer would work, but yes, so would any kind of lotion.

~Laura~

i like this guy and him and his girlfriend just broke up today.. if i ask him out, is taht bad? because me and his ex are like friends but not really

If you wait a few days to a week, you'll have a better chance. Right now he probably wants to be alone to get over it, and even if he said yes, it might be because he's desperate for someone.

~Laura~

ok...well tomorrow is picture day, and i have this zit!! YIKES!! so...how can i make it go away by tomorrow?

There's no for sure way to clear them up in a day. You can try scrubbing it hard with a soapy cloth, and then covering it with a cream of some sort and a bandaid. If it's not completely gone tomorrow, put ice on it to reduce swelling or puffiness, and like the others said, use concealer that matches your skin tone.

~Laura~

Hey guys im a 15 f. At nite it takes me like 45 mins to fall asleep. i have no clue why but its SO frustrating. Neways.... i was just wonderin if u guys had any tricks to fallin asleep (besides counting sheep) that could help me. Thanks so much!

Make sure that when you get in bed, you're tired.

If you do something, like read a book, or watch tv, you'll fall asleep in no time, while you're doing it. You could play some REALLY soft music, not like hard rock, either, just something soft, like, my sister got this CD that has "night-time helpers" on it, and it has like music that is really soft on it that you can fall asleep to. I use it sometimes, I'll ask her where she got it.

But I DON'T reccomend Tylenol PM, because that's for when something hurts, like a tooth, and you can't fall asleep because of pain. If you take them like every night, your body WON'T sleep on its' own, and it's used to the sleep aid and your body is basically addicted.

~Laura~

ok my friend jessica has a HORRIBLE problem! she never stops sweating. even shes sitting down shes sweating. People usually sweat when there hot or doing physical activity but she sweats when shes sitting on the couch and watching tv. she was too embarased to ask this question online so i told her that i would do it for her (ima good friend lol) shes tried ALL diff deoderants and NOTHING can stop it. its only under arm sweating and its gotten so bad. please help her! thanks!

signed..
trying to help a friend!

Make sure your friend shaves her under arms. That will help. Then, try a deodorant that says "anti-persperant(sp?)" or "stops sweating". After she puts the deodorant on, tell her to put baby powder on. That should work. If not, see a doctor. She could have a problem.

~Laura~

I have thick hair and a lot of it....and its layered. School starts next thursday and i want a new style. Ive been tryin to get my hair to flip up on the ends but no matter what i try (curling irons, gel, blow drying with a rounded brush,) i cant make it work. My hair is also really wavy in the back and i want to know what works good to make the front look like the back. (tryed scrunching) If you have any style ideas plz let me know!

I have the EXACT problem. Next time you get your hair cut, ask your stylist to thin your hair. She'll take a little razor type of thing and run it through your hair, and it thins is out a little bit, so it's a lot easier to handle. I can never get my hair to flip up, but try a flat iron, or a straightening iron. I don't have one, but I've heard they work. Also, after you wash your hair, use a rounded brush while your hair is still SOAKING wet and flip it up. It should work. Then work some gel into it and put a little hair spray on it.

As for making it look wavy, try braiding it the night before and then taking the braids out in the morning. The bigger the braid, the bigger the wave.

~Laura~

my hair is really frizzy does any1 have a good idea on how to make it less frizzy thanxs

Herbal Essences(sp?) makes a GREAT leave in conditioner, you spray it on your hair and comb it, and it makes it less-frizzy. BUT, don't use too much or your hair will look oily. You can get it at Wal-Mart for like two bucks, and it lasts a really long time.

It's also great for protecting your hair from chlorine when you swim.

~Laura~

dont have my period yet, but when i do.. i need steps for putting on a tampon, im not wearing diapers!

There are directions in every box, so I won't bother telling you much, but the best thing to do is sit on the toilet, and RELAX. If you're tense about it, it WON'T go in. So just be calm and relax. Be sure to get the kind with applicators, so you don't have to stick your fingers in there. Yeah, gross. Just be sure to read all the directions, and remember, don't tense up.

~Laura~

Okay, this guy really likes me and stuff like that. i am starting to like him to, but he isn't the cutest guy ever, what should I do??

Like OH MY GOD! He's not Brad Pitt! LIKE OMFG! DARN! So what if you don't think he's "the cutest guy ever". If you like him, you like him. Screw looks.

~Laura~

Ok tomorrow's picture day and I think I'm going to wear a black and pink skirt, pink flip flops, and a pink tanktop with a pink cool looking thing over it (I don't remember the name of it) Anyways, I was wondering how I should do my makeup and my hair. I want something easy to do but I don't know what. I'd appreciate the help! And yes, I rate but if you ask for ratings I will rate you a 1. PlEaSe HeLp!

Well, it depends on the length of your hair. If it's about shoulder length, you could...

1. Leave it down, but that's kinda boring, isn't it?

2. If your bangs are sorta long (it looks best with chin length) put your hair in a pony tail, and put banana curls in your bangs. You know, small curls.

3. Put soft curls all over it.

If it's not shoulder length, but about chin length, you could...

1. Flip the ends up, like...
http://www.1001-hairstyles.com/gallery/medium-short/no-parting/1/tsl2n56.htm

and leave your bangs down, if they are short. otherwise, flip them up, too.

2. Braid it the night before, all over, except your bangs, and then take it out that morning for a soft wavey look.

Sorry if that wasn't much help, but the site I told you about, with the picture, has TONS of ideas, they are all great.

As for make-up, stay natural. Just your regular foundation and powder, a glossy lip color (or just plain gloss, with no color, if you like), but not too glossy because that doesn't look too good in pictures. Some pinky cream eyeshadow, and black eyeliner and mascara.

~Laura~

i have a terrible fear of drowning each time my body goes into the pool and the water reaches my neck. i was wondering, how can i overcome this fear that ive been having for such a long time already?

Take some swimming lessons. Just be sure to tell your instructor about your fear, but I think swimming lessons would REALLY help you. Then you would KNOW that you wouldn't drown, because you can swim. It helped me.

~Laura~

Hi , okay when i wake up and i brush my teeth , after i get a HORRIBLE stomach ache ! it really sucks because it ruins my day ! is it normal? am i doing something wrong when i brush my teeth? PLEESE HELP ! I RATE 5 !

It could be the brand, try getting a different brand.

But try eating something before you brush your teeth, so the first thing hitting your stomach isn't some nasty tasting toothpaste. Just eat like a piece of bread or something bland, or even your breakfast, and then brush your teeth. Maybe you need something in your stomach.

But still, tell your parents.

~Laura~

Hey on my legs i have these little red bumps and sometimes they have 2 hairs growing outta it and it bugs me because i have a wedding soon and it looks like i have freakin pimples on my leg!! how do i get it to go away?? And what is it? My second question is i have pimple on my arm how to i get them to go away?? And how do you get stretch marks to go away? THanks so much ill rate yall!

The things on your legs are probably ingrown hairs. They come from shaving with a dull razor, no soap, or dry legs. They go away on their own, but it takes a little while. If you have to show your legs, you could always put a little concealer on them, or wear pantyhose with a dress.

Pimples are easy to get rid of. Just take a washcloth and get it wet and put some really strong body wash on it, and scrub HARD. That will usually break them, and you'll see, they might start to bleed a little. If that doesn't work, you can squeeze them to pop them. Once they pop, put alchohol on them, to dry it up so they don't come back.

And sorry, stretch marks are permanent.

~Laura~

Okay here's my problem...I slept with my best friend, but he doesn't remember, and now I might be pregnant. Maybe I should explain...About a month & a half ago, my best friend/roommate and I went to a party and when we got home we kinda started making out (we had both been drinking). When he said he something that he really needed to tell me, and said that he was in love with me. It was so sweet and we ended up sleeping together. The next morning I woke up before him and cooked breakfast for him. But when he woke up, he was really confused, and he said he couldn't remember how he got home, and he really didn't remember anything since the beginning of the party the night before. I was freaking out and I didn't say anything about what happened between us. We later found out that someone had put something in the drinks at the party and a bunch of people couldn't remember stuff. I had decided that I wasn't going to tell him about out night together because it would be to weird. Then I didn't get my period this month, so now I'm really freaking out. I know I need to tell him but I don't know how. Then to make matters worse, I was trying to tell him yesterday, and he said that he wanted to tell me something (I thought he was gonna say he loved me) and he said that he was still a virgin and he was saving himself for the person that he was gonna spend the rest of his life with. I didn't think it was possible to feel any worse. I'm 22 and he's 20.

Can anyone help me please? I don't know what to do...

I agree with allisonmarie, I think you should tell your friend, I know I'd want to know if someone slept with me. It's not really fair to keep it a secret. If he's really your friend, you can probably talk to him. He may be very angry with you, or very upset, but he needs to know.

And remember, it could be stress of the whole situation making your period late. But still, buy a pregnancy test (EPT, error proof test, works great).

~Laura~

I love my bf but im in love with my best friend.. I wanna stay with my bf and i cant have my best friend.. i dont even know how he feels about me... but i cant stand it what do i DO?!
you know I think i can answer this myself... if i love my bf i'd stay with him right.. well Im gunna of course... but i just wanna know how to just stop and forget about the love and just be his best friend and stay in love with my bf.. cuz my bf means the world to me

If he really means the world to you, why are you thinking about other guys? If you REALLY love him you wouldn't love anyone else, you have to stay true to him. That's what love is. Faithful, committed people.

~Laura~

what are some good deoderents that dont leave white marks on ur clothes ANND work well to stop sweating???
thanks, Manda

Try a liquid type of deodorant! Like the kind that have the little ball and you roll them on, they were REALLY great, and leave NO white marks. Or try "Soft Solids", I think Secret Platinum makes some, they are white, and kinda gelly, but they work really great. Also, look for anythign that says "Goes on clear" or "leaves no white residue". Hope that helps you.

~Laura~

PS. I use degree, it's the hard-ish kind. It works great.

Ok heres the problem.. my friend got her peroid in 5th grade.. so she gets it normally now.. but when she was supposed to get it this month she didnt.. She never had sex.. what could be the problem?

Yeah, I got mine every month faithfully for like 7 months, and now I'm skipping like every other month. If your friend REALLY wants to know when she's going ot have them, like if she has 6 a year and she doesn't know when to prepare, have her ask her doctor about the pill.

~Laura~

i have a classmate who has terrible body odour and we duno how to tell her that she really needs a deodrant or perfume! how can i tell her that shes BO, without hurting her feelings?

Just buy her some perfume and tell her that you thought of her when you saw it and you thought she would like it.

~Laura~

I'm 14/f, and my best guy friend is really awesome, so awesome infact that I actually like him as more than a friend. The problem is, I liked him before too and I told him then and he (atleast then) liked someone else. I really like him, but I don't want to ruin our friendship!

You have NO idea how many times this has happened to me. Not just having them liking someone else, just liking your best friend. For me, it's always turned out badly. I either get "I don't date friends, it ruins friendships if you break up", or "I'm not sure what to say..." or "Aww, I'm flattered". But it depends on the way you say it. I mean, telling them alone can change friendships. So just do what you think is right, no one can make this choice for you. If you do tell him, I hope it turns out great.

~Laura~

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