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um yeah i asked this quistions before but some real jerks answerd ok so here it is
does ne one have some tips on surfing? and dont give me some craped up answers like you dont know how to surf
thx

keeping the board steady is a little tough. practice balance in shallow water, just standing you know. it helps a lot, getting a feel for the board you know. mostly it just takes practice.

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You know how everyone will tell you " do it when the time is right " well how do you know when the time is right?

youll know when the time is right. if you cant tell when the time is right, then it must not be the right time. so when the time is right, youll definately know, otherwise it wouldnt be right.

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Hey, ok first before I say anything I don't mean to sound conceded... but it's true. Ok, I'm pretty and popular, and like guys like me and stuff... it's just I'm kind of incicure about myself because I'm only a 32 A. I'm probably not going to get any bigger because my mom was a 34 A... so... it just makes me feel really small because most of my friends are starting to get big boobs... and it's not like my small boobs have stopped alot of guys from liking me or anything... it's just kind of depressing. And I want to get a boob job when I'm 16, but I'm kind of scared that something's going to go wrong... so... help!

1. your not done growing when your 16
2. boobs arent what life is about
3. you dont need to impress anyone
and 4. i kind of hope someone beats some sense into you

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Okay so when a guy asks what's up? *not on aim but in person* can you just say nothing much? bah that just sounds dumb? is it just me or should i say something else?

just tell them whats up. if nothing much is up, say nothing much. just say whats on your mind.

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wut if i wanna hav sex but i am to young and that is all i can think and dream about

its called masturbation.

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I have a friend who hangs out with me when we are in class and since we have a locker right next to eachother she hangs out with me. But when she is around certain "friends" she acts really mean to mean and ignores me. Sometimes I feel like i'm not her friend and sometimes i feel like we are best friends, What should I do?

ditch her.
1.you dont need that two faced bimbo
2.you can do way better
why force yourself to be friends with someone whos just using you for when shes bored.

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how do you do the heart thingy on like myspace??
thanks dawg

you should use dawg..ever again. EVER

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I posted this to a single person, before I knew it could be answered by anybody with an account;
I am a 17 year old male, and came across your site by accident, or possibly fate. I have a big social problem. I've always been described as "the different one". I was always the one who did his work in class, or didn't do things exactly the same way as everybody else. I was just different like that since primary school. (I'll just say at this point that I'm not gay. A lot of people ask that when you say you're "different") The problem is, I've never been able to shake certain difficulties I've had as a result of being unusual. So now I find myself at 17; I've never been to a party where I've drunk. I've never been kissed. I've never had a girlfriend. Nobody knows who I am, nobody seems to care. I find it difficult to make friends, because I feel socially awkward, because everybody expects me to know things that I don't, because I never developed those social skills. Most of the friends I do have are the poisonous kind. They will be friendly some days, but only because it benefits them. At other times they seem totally unfriendly. I feel like I'm tied into keeping them, because it's not as easy as just pretending they don't exist, and if I alienated them, then I wouldn't have anybody left.
I don't want to become "normal" (if that exists as something to become), I would just like to know how I can fit better into the social structure of school life, and develop general social skills. I feel like I got expelled from the school of social interaction as a kid, and now I've found out there's no adult ed. class.
Thanks,
SilentOne

you do sound very intelligent, and i do feel the need to say that most highschool students are immature, untrustworthy, idiots, that you dont want as friends. i think that what you need to do is join some sort of after school club or something like that, that youre interested in. that way the people there share the same interests as you. there wont be a lot of people, so it wont be akward and i guarantee youll make new friends you can count on and have fun with. i also feel the need to say that you really need to *dump* your old "friends" i know its a lot harder to do than it sounds, but like i said, join a club and make some new friends you like. it will boost your confidence having good friends and it wont be so hard shaking the crappy ones. you dont need to force yourself to be with other people you dont like to make you happy..when its obviously not making you happy anyway. you also dont need to impress anyone (so dont try..just be yourself. as if you havent heard that enough) because im going to ask you..who does it all matter to in the end? plus, you say youve never drank at a party..well good for you. your my new hero. you didnt conform like the rest of the world, and you havent killed any brain cells. good job. you havent made an idiot of yorself, or said things you shouldnt have. by saying you havent had a girlfriend, that just means you havent settled for what you can get. once you do get a girlfriend its going to be very very special. but *never settle for second best* always shoot for what you want and if you dont get it, just keep on trying. haha off topic a little but that reminded me of joe dirt when hes like "just keep on keepin on, lifes a garden dig it." anyway, i hope you dont change because i can tell your a very special person, your girlfriend will be very lucky, and the people who chose not to be your friend are missing out. good luck with everything :) i hope you become happy

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is it normal to get a cold in the summer? because i think i have one i have a really soar throat and my nose is sooo stuffy! also what can i do to help get my nose unstuffed?

GAH! i get a cold every summer, like the last few days of school, or right when school lets out. i dont know why, but just drink a lot of water and keep tissues around. just have your mom take you to your local walgreens or cvs (a pharmacy) and ask someone there what you can take for a stuffy nose. theres plenty of over the counter pills/liquids, but ask your mom for sure, ill bet shes got something in the medicine cabinet to fix you up. i hope you feel better.

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okay just a couple of weeks ago i had to go to the hospital fer a few weeks and they found out i have FSGS a form of kidney disease..and now i have to take steroids (not the kind fer sports and making you strong) but they have all these really bad effects on me and body swelling is one of them my face and stomach are really swollen and it makes me feel really uncomfortable taking pictures or going swimming...

should i feel this way??

its only natural that your going to feel uncomfortable for a while, until you get used to being this way. but you shouldnt be ashamed of it or anything, you cant help it and you should just be glad that it wasnt something youll die from in a few days you know? anyone who knows you should know what you have and that your going to look a little different, and if they are someone you want as a friend then theyll understand. if its someone whos going to make fun of you or judge you, they dont matter anyway. so just know who your real friends are and know that theyll love you know matter what you look like in a picture. just do what makes you happy.

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Ok..If I'm around loud noises I feel like really nausious ((Sp.)) and like I love to go dancing but my "friend" and I clog and his shoes that he has to wear for his like dancy deal are so loud that i feel sick when im around the noise...does this happen to anyone or do you know what i should do?

((and i cant stop going dancing or stay away from loud noises because I'm around them at work))

that happens to me sometimes when im around loud noises it makes me sick at my stomache and my head feels all echoey. but it only does that when i havent eaten in a while. maybe thats your problem. but i doubt it, if its happening all the time, someone had said maybe you have a phobia, and that could very well be a possibility. you should definately get it checked out, and they do make little clear earplugs that you can buy at like a swim store. no one can tell theyre even in your ear. by the way its *nauseous* but i had to look it up, haha i couldnt spell it either, its a tricky one.

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Alright i told this girl a while back i liked her. and i do still. i was supposed to move but i didnt soo... now i want to get back with her. i think she just thinks i want to get some what do i do. i mean i do want to mess around but i also kinda want a relationship?

well youll need a relationship before you got any action. but i think that your chances of getting with her are good. you should talk to her about it.

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Hey there.. I rate fives no matter the answer..

so yeah dont laugh but i am a slut. I know i am.. i sleep with anyone with a penis and now i'm pregnant for the 2nd time but im not going to have an abortion and i cant tell anyone becuase i live on my own on a street corner.. so yeah i dont have enough money for like a DNA test to see who the father is.. but i really want help or a place where i can go to help me and the new baby.. Babysafehaven isnt working for me. I've already tried.. thanks a bunch!

love,
worried mom

i dont really know what to tell you, and im not going to lecture you, i just want to say good luck with finding help and taking care of your baby. most people will look down on you right now and say mean things, but i hope you do good.

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okay.. well i have been dating this guy, cOrey, for 4 months and 3 weeks and we have gOtten RELE clOse tO each Other and he is all i ever think abOut..but he has been gOne for the past twO weeks and we haven't been able tO talk hardly any.. and i miss him a LOT.. and he is gOin to be home for a little while tOmOrrOw but not very lOng then he is leaving again fOr anOther camp.. is there anything i can dO tO help deal with this at all?!? *please&thankyou*

i DiDnt even Read yOuR questiOn, i just nOticed hOw annOying it waS that yOu typed likE thiS. cut it Out.

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I think I love this boy named Mat. I'm not sure. Every time I think about him I feel sick and I cry. Everytime I hear the song We Belong Together by Maria Carrie I think about him and I cry. He was the first boy I ever held hands with on the bus, and he broke up with me that night. I cried myself to sleep every night. Please tell me what is wrong with me. I am 12, and I am a girl.
- Chelsea Leigh

its called puberty look it up.

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my moms friend had cancer and about 1 week ago the treatment finished and he is okay. well the hole company is having a party for him [john]. it is also his 61th birthday. Could i have some suggestions on sayings for him cake.
1) it needs to involve something w. gettin his cancer treated and bein well
2) he loves golf
3) it needs to include something for his b-day

have a cake that says something along the lines of "good as 16 again..or was it 61?" something like that, and then fit the golf in there, like the 6 in 16, a cockeyed golf club, or the circles in the sixes, golf balls. or the ones could be those little golf flags, and the border of the cake could be little golf balls. i hope my ideas werent too crappy!

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whoz the author or the poem 'alone'?

do you have any idea how many poems there are called "alone"?
"i, one who never speaks.." by yvor winters
"from childhoods hour.." by edgar allen poe
"over the fence, the dead.." by deborah ager
"i sit alone in my room.." by matthew schnider
"the sky became murky.." by megan jarman
"as i sit here alone.." by amy bostock
"i stand out all alone.." by joey matthews
"i wander through.." by richard pichowsky
We reall need more info about the poem to help you. but i tried, if you didnt find what your looking for, why dont you send me the whole poem?

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I have a 2 friends who always hang out with eachother. I get jealous of them because I feel left out. So one of my friends asked me to sleepover so I accepted and got really happy. Then later that night I told the other friend that I was sleeping over. She said why did u tell mee that? I told her because my friend that I was sleeping over wanted me to tell her to see if she would be jealous. So she said now my friend said that she is ask her why she said that even though she didn't. What should I do?

confess to your lie, and tell them how you feel. you shouldnt be jealous of them though. if they have fun be happy for them. find some new friends if your feeling left out with the ones youve got. but stop lying, it just complicates things and makes them worse.

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i was wondering what would happen to my puppy (about 4 monthes) if i would give her rawhides/pigsears. My family wanted to give them to her because she chews alot and shes starting to get bored with the toys she has and everytime we get her a bone ( like a nylabone) she eats the 3 back in a day or 2. We figured that her stomach was strong enough for them because she hasnt gotten sick at all from the wide variety of food and treats shes had. also shes unintentionally gotten some people food and has been just fine.

you can give your pup rawhides and pigsears, but you need to supervise it so that it doesnt start to choke because its so little. so dont like give him one and leave the house, just keep an eye on him and make sure hes not trying to eat it too fast or anything, and it'll be alright.

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sometimes i cut. what do i do?

cut it out. get it?? hahaha CUT it out. man!

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