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Hello everyone, how can you know if it is really love or not. There's this guy who I have a crush on for four years plus already and I still can't forget him. Whenever I see him last time and he goes near me, my mind can't think anything. It's like my mind is saying say something say something but I can't think of anything to say. Now, I'm worried about him and I don't know if this is really love. If it is, could it be possible that love exist at my age? I'm 16. And could it be possible that you love someone you don't know really that much?
yea its kinda like what they say "Do you believe in first site?" and maybe your crush turned into something more! and yea love can exist at any age. and i pretty sure its possible to fall in love with some that you dont really know because you know when your in love when you cant live without that person you know?
I think I have sort of created some sort of irreversible obsession over my best friend. I'ts not that I cant live with out her. It just that I refuse to do the simplest thing without her consent or at least knowledge. In some sort of twisted way, I cant think without her.... Shes sort of that one thing that completes me in almost all aspects of my life. I'ts scares me day by day because i feel that such a good thing is always lost... Im paranoid about losing one of the only things that makes my life, worthwhile.... Praying for her everynight doesnt seem enough and even when I'm sleeping next to her...I sleep with the deep penetrating thought that She wont be there when i wake up.... My question to you is this.. Is this a friendship or some sort of ill obsession?????
Please help me?????
19...Female
it could be maybe a lil bit of both but... maybe your such great friends you cant live without her like she always there when you need her and you afraid of losing her
Can you get your belly button peirced at Claire's? i heard that from a friend but i dont think you can. thanks for your help.
i doubt that and i dont think you should get it there either but you should just go to a peircing place
i just started straightening my hair and when i straighten it its always frizzy and doesnt stay straight..i always see ppl with perfect straight silky hair and i wanna know how to get mine like that. please help!
well you can always get a chinse straighting or when your done straighting your hair put very light hair spray then brush it it should stay down
14+f ...all right.. well I dont like hugging people.. i just dont.. like after achieving something amazing.. or saying hello/goodbye... i just HATE giving hugs and try to avoid them.. like.. i dont know.. I think i'm just afraid... is there like something wrong with me??
-Anti-Hug Person
no its comment for all people to be afraid of things like people that hate spiders
well see i go camping with my grandparents.. and i really wanna bring my boyfriend along one time but its kinda the time i get to spend with my grandmother.. how do u think i could ask her to bring him?
just ask her dont be afraid
Well my bf of over six months is leaving for the summer. Im not gonna be able to talk to him or see him all sumer till he comes back. So I'm thinking do we stay together or should I just tell him well see what happens when he gets back (not necciseraly breaking up)or should we just stick it out all summer and stay together. we both love each other very much Im confussed what should we do? I rate 5's!
if you love him that much you should deff. stay together but if you feel maybe you should stay together but really like bf n gf like stay open to other pepl to c wut happens but thats hard because you wont be able to talk to him or anything..
When ever I like a guy.. they like me a lill bit and then they just like 1 of my BFF.. I am popular in my school and have a bunch of friends! but why is it whenever me n a guy start to get to know each other.. oneof my friend comes along n he starts to like her? is there anything I can do to keep a guy hooked? n to stay likeing me?
Sincerely,
Confused Lover
since your popular and is pretty much friends with everyone most of the time they use that person to get to one of there friends you flirt and stuff like that..keep him coming for more
Here's the deal.
I have been single for about a month now, and it really sucks, I don't feel lonely so much, but at the same time, I am really lonely. I just need help meeting guys and getting them to like me and everything, something I've done before, I just don't know what to look for anymore. I guess I just need help finding a good guy, someone better than my past relationships. I have to get back into the single life I guess you could say. 14/f.
Signed,
Lost Mojo
try becomeing friend with more boys...what you need in a guys is trust, honsty, etc.((very important)) i just broke up with my bf and i was broken into pieces! but yea you try and become more social to the boys once your friends with them keep it that way flirt when its the right time you know?
ok, there's this girl, i'm not really 'friends' with her but i act like it because she is shy and not a lot of people can stand how shy she is...anyways, at lunch yesterday her chicken sandwich wasnt cooked properly and she started telling me to bring it up for her. so i said 'no, it's yours, i'm eating my lunch, you gotta do some things on your own' was i right? because she always wants someone to do things for her....like take out her trash go to the bathroom with her...i'm sick of her being so dependent on others.
yes, you are right you cant let her take advantage of you. she should learn to do somethings on her own!
well my boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me a little over a week ago but he asked me back out as soon as possible. now we are doing really good and back to the way we were. he tells me he loves me and everything and doesn't want to break up with me again, but before he broke up with me he promised he wouldn't do it, but he did! i understand it was a mistake and he regrets it, but the point is...HE DID IT! well, every now and then i start feeling really sad and depressed and i don't think he loves me. and he has changed a little, but i don't know if it's just me or if he really did. i just don't feel the same anymore and i get REALLY sad and i love him so much. i don't want to loose him... why am i feeling like that when we are doing good, and what should i do?
well you have to trust him enough to know that he wont do it again...but if he shows that he reli loves you and everything and everything is going great whats the worry? you should love the time you spend with him lifes to short to be unhappy
okay so.. I was talking to this guy over easter break.. and this guy never usually talked to me. He always seemed to have hated me or something. But he was with his fmaily in another state for the break.. and on easter night we just started to talk. And we kind of got "dirty" online if oyu should say... for the next couple of nights until it was time for him to ocme home. And like 2 nights after that we would talk dirty still and he would joke around about having me come over. And now this GUY knows that I have a major crush on him! And h knows that I would have sex with him at any point in time if he asked me 2! But now that school has started up again.. he hasnt talked to me like that again. But his mood towards me has totally changed and now hes always laughing and stuff with me. I like it and yet.. I wish that he would talk to me like when we were on spring break. I miss it. It was fun. It was kind of like a trust thing between us. oh ya P.S. this dude is kind of older than me..by a few years.Im 16 and he's over 18... but it was our secret. How can I get him to talk to me like that again or to actually get him to invite me to his house? PLEASE HELP ME!
I'll rate 5 for a serious answer
ummmm well are you sure you should being going to his house? i mean you are 16 and hes over 18
ok, my legs are so white right now! Im embarrised to wear anything other than sweat pants or jeans! They say italians tan fast,but that dosent happen with me! [[im also portuguese.]] Theres this sunblock that attracts the sun to get a tan with out burning,dose any one no where i can get that/what its called/and if it works?
**rate to 5's** thanks :)
go outside alot when it suni or laydown outside n get a tan you have to like sit there for a hour
i dont really no what category this should be under,but anyways...
My legs are sort of sensitive and get dry a lot,does anyone no what shaving cream that would pervent dry legs?
if you shave you should put cream after you get out of the shower
I have a friend i call a best friend. She doesnt feel like a best friend to me. Its hard to be friendz with her n stuff becuz shes kind of spreading my lil secrets like how i talk about ppls behind their bak, n mi favs. I hate that but shes a litto bit powerful than me and im only a weak person. Iuno wat to do...
you should deff. stop telling her stuff... you shouldnt become her friend if she does that! and what shes doing is nothing a "friend" would do!
ok so my boyfriend and me have been going out for about a month and a half or so.. he goes to a different school and hes 16, im 13.. i loved him sooo much! last night i was talking to him online and i asked if he was gonna come and meet me at the ice skating rink (where i always meet him) and he said "maybe, i might go to the mall with some friends instead but if we dont go then ill come see you." i felt kind of offended by this that he wanted to go see his friends instead of me. i can only see him on friday nights so if he didnt come i wouldnt see him till next friday (if he decided to come) and so i was like oh, alright i guess. then later that night i was talking to one of his friends... (not a very good friend tho) i only met him last weekend when my boyfriend wasnt at the ice skating rink... we talked for like 5 minutes... then when we were talking online last night he asked if i was goin ice skating.. i said probably not, he asked why and i told him about me being kinda mad about john not going. so then i ask what jake has said about me to him. chris, (the guy im talkin to online) says he wont tell me what john said about me because he doesnt want to hurt me. i finally get him to tell me what jake does on the nights when he doesnt go to the rink with me. he tells me that john has been seeing another girl and goes to hook up with her and only comes and sees me if shes not availiable. im so upset when i hear this... but i think his friend likes me so i dont know if hes telling the truth... but john never tells me where he goes when he doesnt come.. it all makes sence... both stories do... i dont know what to do...
well thats hard because maybe he does like you... because when a guy likes you they ussally try anything to get the gurl.. i think you should have a seri. talk with your boyfriend because thats something really importan and you dont want to get hurt even more that you are now!
This might take awhile...but my ex boyfriend and I are talking again about going back out. Our past relationships...were good but then it wasn't. We broke up a couple of times. The thing is, he's a smoker...weed! Awhile ago...he use to do it constantly, then every other day. Then once a week, thne now once a month. I know he's trying, but not hard enough. The other day, I asked him..."What's more important? Your weed..or me?" He replied "Your more important then anything" So I was happy. But still I'm in confusion. We want to go out, but then again, rumors will start up and bets will be place on how long we would last. He's Qb of our Varsity football team(which is huge), and I'm well known for who i hang with, and the sports i played. In other ppls eyes, We look like high school sweethearts. Its just how do i tell him i wnat to be with him, and i like him so much, not the hundred other guys who ask for my number or gives me theres! They don't mean anything to me...just friends. But like what can we do to have a better relationship? how do i know if he's sincere about his feelings for me? How do i know it'll be different? Sorry it's so long, but thanx so much if your able to help me!
well if he really care about you so much he should just quit because this happened to one of my friends he use to do it but then he liked my beat friend and she told him to stop and what it does and hes like i know and everything he even told her im trying my best and a like a few weeks later he stoped for her so if loves you so much he should just quit now!
my b/f and i have been together for a month and last weekend he already had plans (he really did) then he felt guilty for not being with me then when i asked him what he was doing that day. then yesterday, i asked him what him what he was doing tomorrow (today) and he already had plans to spent the night at friends house. the excuse is legit but i really want to spend time with him. today, we would be going to see a movie with a bunch of friends so should i invite his friend too? (i know him and im alright with him going) or should i just let him go and not do anything with him? i need to know soon! thanks in advanced!
well if you feel ok with his friend being around like because you want to be with him. but if you feel like you too should just be together them leave it as that
my father abuses me what should i do
tell someone you mom or a teacher someone who can help you really fast!
this guy i dated 4 a week brokeup with me. it was relly hard 4 me 2 getover him and 2 just move on. i said some rude things 2 him and now i guess u could say he h8s me. i still love him and i really want himback but after what i said 2him he doesnt want me. he called me fat and ugly but i said that i h8ted him. i stll really like him and wan him back. please help me i really need it. i r8 5s!
14/f
that must really hard on you. tell your friends that it was wrong and you didnt mean anything that you said and you want him back to spread it around i mean one of them as to tell him but if not try talking to him say you sry and you miss him so much but in school try talking to him say your sorry DONT GIVE HIM DIRTY LOOKS!