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im 17/f. so i've been in a relationship for a year and i just got out of it like a few weeks ago...i went to a college party last night and i started hooking up with this really hott guy but i felt so dirty and slutty so i stopped and told him that i couldn't do this. when i was with my boyfriend i was like a sex maniac haha but i never felt slutty at all because we had that really strong connection you know? i thought being single and meeting guys and hooking up is suppose to be fun? i don't understand. i'm young and i'm suppose to like this....i guess all i want is someone who cares...idk what should i do...
like if thats what college is like then i'm not that excited..i don't just want to be another pointless girl he's hooked up with...i want to mean something.
You need a good solid relationship with set bounderies. You should find a guy who will love you and respect that you want a relationship and not just for sex. You want something that will last. so before you hook up get to know the person. Let them like you for you first, not what you have under your clothes. And if they like you they can wait til you want to and they'll still want to be with you afterwards.
OK mi bf wants me to give him a blowjob and i dnt know if i should or not? and he tells me tat u cant get pregnat and im not really sure what do u say? Hes the most amazingest thing in ta world to me and i want to please him soo what shld i do? and im a female well duhhh
Well it's your choice really. and you can't get pregnant from that but make sure if to wash your hands after if you touch it because if you touch it then touch yourself (an itch or anything) it is possible. So just remember that. It's your choice though. I give them to my boyfriend (have been dating over a year) and I love doing it for him.
when my boyfriend and i (both 17) make out, sometimes i sit backwards in his lap. like with my legs spread and his legs together so our 'privates' are usually touching. we never remove clothes. that's one of our rules. we make out and usually grind while kissing. i let him run his hands up under my shirt, but not touch my boobs. he never has and we've agreed not to go that far. this is very satisfying for both of us, but sometimes the same old making out gets kind of old. does anybody have any tips for making this a little hotter? we're not giving handjobs, blowjobs, or taking off clothes just to clarify.. are there any sexy kissing tips? like what can i do with my hips to turn him on more while sitting like this? or where do i kiss to turn him on? he really likes this, and i just don't want him getting bored. any suggestions help. thank you! :)
Yeah licking his ear and and sucking on it a bit. Also neck kisses. You could just kiss him all over his face haha.
so i'm turning 18 soon, and my mom is paying for my tattoo that i've been wanting.
but the problem is, is i cant decide what i want.
I kinda thought maybe something religious, but, my religion can change here in a few years.
i was thinking a peace sign and a heart and some music notes maybe? cause i really like those.
i had this idea to get a barcode, and put my parents birth digits on there, like i'm an item of my parents, but i still dont know.
any help?
I personally like the peace sign, heart, and music note. I also like stars as well. It really just depends on what you want though.
ok me and my cusin and her friend and her friends little sister where about tew get jumped and you wouldnt want your little sister to get jumped so i ended up geting jumped for no reason but the good thing is i didnt have nothin wrong im just a little sore but then the girl with the little sister ran because she was tryna protect her little sister but my cusin ran and left me to get jumped and this is my second time bein with her and geting jumped so should i still be friends with her or ignore her please give me and answer and thank you those who do answer
Well I think if you dunno why you are being jumped you should try to reason with them and ask. But if not then I think you should tell your cousin that if she wants to hang out with you then she needs to help or tell you to run too because you can just fight by yourself but also if she runs then most likely you should go too. Work out a strategy.
How do you know if a guy has an orgasm? And also I was wondering, last night me and my boyfriend were dry humping and it felt good for both of us so we did it a little more then he like stoppedd and i could feel his penis like tingling or shaking against my leg? What was happening? I asked him if he came he said no.
When a guy gets an orgasm this white stuff comes out called semen. It can get pretty messy and you wanna make sure if you get it on your hand or something to wash it because that contains sperm which if you were to touch yourself "down there" afterwards then you could get pregnant.
So like i'm sorta new at this and i've given my bf a hj but like when he...ahem...finishes it kinda goes everywhere, i've talked to him about how to avoid such a mess but he just shrugs and says theres no real way to avoid it, so like what can i do to like contain this cause i've already had to like wash my sheets and his clothes a few times
You could keep a towel or rag handy. Tell him to let you know when he is about to come and get it ready. Or you could always swallow it but since you are doing hjs i'm not sure if you are into bjs but that's up to you. Just keep a rag around.
17/f
my mom is really annoying, about stupid stuff. like i don't like football games, i used to but now were not allowed to walk around, and you just stand there in the crowd, and you can't talk, because its too loud, and i don't like football, so its just not enjoyable. well my mom is like why don't you want to go, why aren't you going, you'll regret it. grrrrrrrrrrr. & like homecoming, i don't like dances, i never have.
how can i explain this to her, so it will sink in?
ahaa sorry my fried sarah answered this one. okay you need to be forward with her and tell her you are old enough to make your own decisions. Explain to her that you don't enjoy these activities and that you'd rather be doing something else with your time. But you should tell her exactly how you feel about it and don't be afraid. She is your mom I mean she should listen to your feelings.
So I'm ready to ask this girl out, we're friends, and we've been talking a lot lately. Here is more or less what I plan to say, is this good at all? Give me specific suggestions please.
"I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you better over the past couple months, and I feel like we’ve become pretty close since we’ve been talking everyday. To be honest, I am realizing that I’m starting to fall for you and your awesome personality. Basically I would like to know where you think you see this going between us, because I know where I would like to see it go."
I think this is great. It's very sweet and honest and she will know that you took the time and put a lot of thought into making it special. It's great and I'm sure she'll love it.
My ex-boyfriend and I lived together for a year and a half in NY before moving to CA together and then breaking up a few months later. We've been working on maintaining our friendship since then and it has it's ups and downs. Recently he has been talking about moving back to NY and I have looked at it as an opportunity to move on with my life without him around confusing me. Since we broke up I have hung out with other guys from time to time casually, but haven't really felt anything for anyone else.
Recently I met a guy at work and I like him and was eager to start dating again and see how things progressed. However, now my ex (without knowing about the other guy) is telling me he loves me and wants me back. I told him we'll talk about it this weekend because I need some time to think, but I'm really confused. I love him and want to be with him but am afraid that our problems run too deep, I think we have fundamental differences in our personalities and behaviors that make it a bad idea to be together. But we did fine when we were more open and trusting with each other, we were able to discuss the little ways we hurt each other and understand that it was unintentional. I don't want to start dating someone else only to run off with my ex later, and I don't want to blow this new guy off only to realize that I would have been happier with him if things don't work out with my ex.
I think the main problem I'm having is that I used to trust my ex completely and we never had any major problems but that trust is gone and since that happened we fight a lot, even just as friends. I have the best time with him and I care about him so much, but I don't know if it's worth it to give it another try. I'm afraid to get my heart broken again, but he knows me better than anyone and I don't know if I want to open myself up to someone new. Please if you have any advice help me. I can't go to family and friends because they have a horrible opinion of my ex and had a lot to do with our break up in the first place. This is about me and what makes me happy not them so I don't really want their skewed opinions.
It seems to me like you really care about your ex but you do have a lot of problems. You have to think long term if you didn't work out before and you have even more problems and fights now then it may not work out again and you might lose your chance with the other guy. But then again, it seems that you have some unfinished business with your ex and you still have deep feelings for him. If you still love him I think you should try to work it out with him. Be open and tell him that you want all honesty with him. Then again if your personalities and priorities are different maybe you shouldn't try again. It all comes down to this.. do you think you and your ex can work through the differences? Does he love you as much as you love him? Do you think toy will ever feel this way or even stronger about the other guy because if not then maybe you shouldn't even go for him. Listen to your heart and keep these things in mind. I hope this helps you.
16/f
people usually say im pretty skinny, but i have 36 D's and i have a hard time standing up straight and supporting them because i already have back problems without the boobs. im pregnant though, so theyll probably get even bigger...
i hate hate hate the thick ass straps, and bras that come up so high that i cant wear a v neck or spaghetti straps. and i really hate push up bras because i feel like thats just tryin to make them loook better.
so wear can i get affordable bras that i'd like that will pick them up and keep them up. (cuz a lot of bras hold ya at first then they sink through out the day).
thanks !
Like you, I have big ones too and have a hard time finding a bra that fits right (especially since they keep growing and yours will be too especially since you are pregnant) I have one from victoria's secret that fits great. The bar isn't too big and hard and it doesn't really hurt to wear it. You kind of have to worry about the straps because they unclip from time to time but that's about it. i suggest that. Good luck.
My mom was talking to her friend on the phone about something she called a skin tag. What in the world is a skin tag? I am pretty sure my mom doesn't have a tattoo and she looks normal to me. She is white, by the way, if that matters any. I'm just curious is all (and wondering if I have them too and just don't know it).
What's a skin tag?
It's a piece of skin, much like a mole except it is kind of different. It's nothing bad and you can get them taken off too.
me and this guy, we say were "best friends" but we flirt NONSTOP everytime we're together, and i just don't know if its us being comofortable with each other, or if we both want to be more, if we're just really attracted to each other or if its just a best friend kinda thing. i'll give you a couple examples of what we do and i'll get your opinion!(:
i took a shower, and i came out with only a towel on and he was like "daaaaaaang, i'll dry you off;)!" and i started laughing and he took my water and i was like give me my water! and he sat down on a chair and he was like come sit on me. and i shyly was like "noooo:)" and i bent over and he like lifted my towel up, but it wasnt embarassing because we do things like that to each other.
he always knows when something's wrong, and he is always looking out for me and is like "you don't smoke do you, you better not linds i'm serious!" or if i ask him a question and i feel like he's not telling me the truth he'll be like "you know you can trust me, we tell each other everything" and when i'm sad, he does everything he can to make me laugh.
everytime we hangout, and one of us leaves the other, he'll always give me a hug and won't let go for a long time, its so cute:)
he's seen me naked, i've seen him naked. we haven't done anything though not even kissed BUT doing that, was a dare kind of thing and we were totally comfortable with it.
one time i was making food and he came up from behind me, and like put his chin on my shoulder and his arms around me and i like leaned back, if you can picture that and i was like do i smell all sweaty! hahaaa because i just got done running, and he was like noo not at all you smell like your perfume!
we do things like that all the time. i can wear whatever i want around him! hes seen me with no makeup, my hair not done and grubby clothes on and he doesnt care.
i just don't know what to think about our friendship. everyone always asks me if we like each other because they say we flirt all the time but i'm just like "we're just best friends:)"
even though he is really hot! and i know he thinks i am, i just don't know about us!
You two flirt a lot. It does seem like you are more than friends and that is also the reason everyone keeps asking if you like each other. It's pretty clear that you do. I suggest you talk to him about it. I'm sure he wants to date you and it seems you like him too. Why not go on a date? I hope this helps and good luck to ya.
so me and my crush were streaking (yeah i know, it's like not right or whatever) but it was in his backyard hahaa. anyways so it was the first time he seen me naked and i don't have the biggest of boobs. i have like a 34b..
and i have a good body, i'm in shape. it's just self-conscious about the boobs thing. well me and him were at our friends house and my friend was like he's talking dirty about you! and then i was standing there in like a tank top and i could hear him doing gestures to his friend about me but i didn't know if it was good or bad.
i'm really self-conscious he thinks i have small boobs. he didnt say anything. i know he wants to get with me and thinks im really hot but my boobs look bigger because i usually wear a push up bra.
i just don't know if hes talking good about me or not!?
by the way i'm 19/f
Yeah he probably likes them. I'm sure he was happy to see you naked and he thinks your body is great i'm sure. Plus most guys just like boobs in general.. big or small.
I really want to tell my boyfriend how much he means to me but I'm really nervous about it. I suck at expressing my feelings and I don't want it to come off as something forced, you know? I just want to let him know that he means a lot to me and that I, well, love him.
I mean, I know he might not feel as strongly about me as I do about him but that's okay with me right now. We haven't been going out too long so I don't expect him to say, "I feel the same way about you!" I just feel like I should tell him what I think about our relationship and how I feel about him...
Is it a bad idea since I'm not good at talking about my feelings or is it something that is ok?
I think you should tell him how you feel but just be careful not to say something that you aren't trying to say. Just let him know you love him and really care about him. Let him know exactly how you feel. Maybe you could even write down what you want to say and practice it or if you want write it in a note but I think it'll be sweeter coming from you.
My friend told me that she is gay and I do not want to be friends with her anymore. It's not that I don't like her as a person but I cannot grasp the fact that she has become a lesbian. Just months ago she was dating men and now she is claiming homosexuality. I don't like it and the entire thing makes me uncomfortable. I'm trying to avoid her now more than ever since she has confessed her sexuality to me and I feel that I need to just tell her to her face why I no longer have interest in our friendship. How should I tell her? What should I say? I don't want to come off as cruel by saying, "You're a homosexual and that makes me too uncomfortable to continue a friendship with you," but at the same time I think it sounds most appropriate because it is the truth.
I know it isn't fair of me to not tell her why I have been avoiding contact with her. I know I should tell her but I'm not sure how I should go about this. I was thinking a neutral setting would be most appropriate but I don't want to embarrass her if she gets upset in some form.
Does anyone have experience with this or any ideas of how I should handle this matter? Thank you.
I don't think that you should end your friendship because of that. I mean just tell her you don't want to have a relationship with her and you will never like her in that way. Make sure she doesn't come on to you. If you still don't want to be her friend then just tell her nicely but be truthful. I think you should continue to be her friend though. But it's what you want. I hope this helps.
When you're growing up you always say you want to be something like a doctor or lawyer. When you get older you realise that your choice has changed and sometimes you realise you have no idea what you want to be anymore.
i'm here. i'm not sure what i want to do. i did a pre-law course this past academic year and i failed. I thought i wanted to be a lawyer, actually I still want to do law. But since i failed, I feel like maybe it's not the choice for me.
I only have a few days to decide and I've been thinking of doing business instead. It's something I think I can pass, since I did 3 years of business prior and passed.
It's difficult for me to decide. I want to be a lawyer, but the failing grade made me think more about if i really want and think i can pass it. while i know i can pass business studies.
which should i choose? do i choose something i can pass? or do i choose what i WANT and risk the chance of failing?
I think you should choose what you want to do over what you can do right now. If you choose the one you want you will be making a lot of money AND doing something you enjoy. It's better to have a job that you like then something just to make some cash (although sometimes you have to). Plus I bet you can be trained and taught to be a very good lawyer and will eventually pass that test. Don't give up hope and your dream job. I hope this helps.
I'm reallllly crushing on my best friend who I became friends with in the first place because I knew he liked me. We're total nerds and we have soooo much in common. this past summer, we were emailing each other and stuff which I thought brought our relationship a little higher, you know? Sooo here comes the new school year, and he's not nearly as outgoing as last year. we've walked together a couple times from class to class and even got lost together. we got lost on purpose, but it wasn't planned on. he just kinda walked right past the right door and I followed cuz I knew what he was trying to do... we had a mild conversation in the hallways while we were lost, he kept stuttering and keeping his distance. lately I've been trying to decode what he was trying to show me through that. I tried to start a conversation, but it would always end up being clipped short. once he finally DID say something, it was something like "uh... dd... eh..." and a lot of blushing. what was he trying to say? please help me i'm going stir crazy here lol :) xoxo
He may have been trying to ask you out. Sometimes it's hard for people, especially if they are nervous. If he likes you then that could be it but it could have also been anything. You should just ask him about it. I hope this helps :)
I have a best friend who just admitted to me that she was bisexual. I don't really card if she's bi or not though it's just I told her I was curious and didn't know if I was or not. Well I think I kinda like her we talk on the phone everyday all day. I'm just kinda attracted to her i don't know if she feels or would ever consider me soo how do I tell her and how can I know if she might feel the same. She told some people that I was her girlfriend as a joke soo does this mean anything? HELP!!
First you could just ask her to hang out or something. Start a conversation then bring up the bi issue. Ask her about it then tell her that you want to try it out. There is nothing wrong with that. Then see if she's interested. She might even ask you out first. And the joke thing might mean something yes. Some people do that because they want that person to date them.I hope this helps.
Firstly thanks for taking the time to read my question :-) Sorry if this is too long! There's quite a few people involved in this so i'll explain now ha ha:
Jordan - One of my friends (he used to have a crush on me for a long time but we're just friends now)
Joe - A guy I met through Jordan who I now like.
Nate - One of my guy friends who has a crush on me.
Rachael - Me, ha ha
To start with, I have had feelings for Joe since around May. We've been friends for a few months before then, we met through one of our close friends, Jordan.
I've always had troubles believing that someone actually likes me, I'm not the most confident person ever, and although people tell me a lot that i'm beautiful, I don't really believe them. Once I started to have feelings for Joe, I told him that I liked him. He admitted that he liked me too. A couple of weeks later, our friend Jordan told me that Joe said to him "Would you mind if I asked Rachael out? I know you had feelings for her and I want to check that this won't hurt you" Jordan explained that he didn't have a crush on me any more and we're just friends.
Any way, it was my friend Nate's party one Saturday night and I went and Joe was there. He didn't really know Nate, but his friends did. So Joe took me outside and said he wanted to speak to me (so I thought he was going to ask me out like Jordan had told me) and just as we went outside, my friend Nate came over to us and said he had feelings for me and asked me out - right infront of Joe (he knew I liked Joe - his friends told him days before) I was so angry that he did this. I told Nate I didn't want to go out with him. Joe looked quite annoyed but he told me to go out with Nate if I wanted to. This has been an on-going thing now. It's kinda like they're fighting for me, only Nate is fighting more. I don't like Nate in that way and I have told him so many times. I have also told Joe that I like him and not Nate. But Joe doesn't seem to believe me. His friends say it's because he's insecure.
A few weeks later Nate had another party, I was there with my friends and so was Joe. I was speaking to Nate (just like I speak to all of my friends) and Joe wouldn't speak to me because of it. When I tried to talk to him he said "it's obvious you like him and not me, please don't talk to me" I gave him some space and hung out with my friends. Joe got really drunk and said to me "I really wanted to be with you, but it p*ssed me off when I saw you with Nate" And he said he didn't want to speak to me again (Even though he called me the next day) Nate told me that Joe said to him that night "If you even try and get with Rachael i'm seriously gonna punch you"
Does Joe even like me? I can't tell! His friends say he really likes me. I'm so useless at times :-( I saw him again at my other friend's party and he came over to me and apoligised to me, kissed me and started saying he was really sorry that he really likes me and that he hates Nate...BUT he isn't ready for a relationship.
What do I do?! I really like this guy, I know it isn't love - i'm not so naive. But I know that I have feelings for him, do you think he likes me too? What should I say? What should I do? I need help guys!
Hey does like you, he's just very jealous. A lot of people are like that about people they like. If you saw a girl ask him out in front of you wouldn't you be too? Make him believe you. Prove it to him somehow. Maybe blow off Nate just once for Joe.. just to prove it to him. And make sure not to flirt with Nate too. I hope this helps you.