In love with a best friend who's supposedly in love with me too...
Question Posted Friday August 21 2009, 4:44 pm
I'm reallllly crushing on my best friend who I became friends with in the first place because I knew he liked me. We're total nerds and we have soooo much in common. this past summer, we were emailing each other and stuff which I thought brought our relationship a little higher, you know? Sooo here comes the new school year, and he's not nearly as outgoing as last year. we've walked together a couple times from class to class and even got lost together. we got lost on purpose, but it wasn't planned on. he just kinda walked right past the right door and I followed cuz I knew what he was trying to do... we had a mild conversation in the hallways while we were lost, he kept stuttering and keeping his distance. lately I've been trying to decode what he was trying to show me through that. I tried to start a conversation, but it would always end up being clipped short. once he finally DID say something, it was something like "uh... dd... eh..." and a lot of blushing. what was he trying to say? please help me i'm going stir crazy here lol :) xoxo
Additional info, added Friday August 21 2009, 9:52 pm: I think right before we got on the buses at the end of the day, right after we got "lost," he started to try and ask me something. I hope this wasn't just wishful thinking because I've been waiting 2 years now for him to speak up about his feelings... I'm certainly not doing anything of the sort until he shows some kind of interest haha :) I've been laughing at his jokes more, because I can actually understand what he's talking about. We're best friends and he's just so smart he amazes me. He's literally the reason I wake up at 4:30 am in the morning to catch my school bus that comes at 6:40 am. (is it just me, or is that the most unnecessary bus time EVER?) I really wanna know what's up with him lately. Is he about to ask me out, or is he just confused about how I feel? I wish there was a way for me to tall him to not worry about taking things too fast... We've waited long enough :)
Oh yeah and I forgot to mention he has quietly mumbled "I love you" when talking to me once at lunch. I was showing him a picture I put on my MP3 player for him (it was a character from a YouTube video he was obsessed with) and he was just like "I love you" and blushed A LOT.
We get asked 24/7 if we're going out, and he just blushes and lets me do the talking. I always just say" No, we're just friends" trying not to add a "so far" at the end.
Another "moment" we've had is one of my friends, note that she was one year younger than me and we didn't talk that often and she didn't really know my friends - only what I said about them which was nothing about him, came out of no where while me and him were talking. She just blurted out, not even knowing I liked him or that he liked me, "So is this your nerd boyfriend?" and he ran around in circles like the loon he is and yelled "YESSS!!!"
that was about a year from now and I somehow forgot about it.
Alright, you probably have better things to do then listen to my "romantic" flashbacks. Please help me decode what he thinks of me... I'm so nervous :) I smile every time I read a response soooo don't you dare hesitate like I do :). Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships? DearAbby92 answered Friday August 21 2009, 6:46 pm: I deffinitely think he likes you. Tell tale signs are if he becomes less out going around you and more shy, he might be nervous since he likes you. It isn't easy for any guy to ask a girl that he likes out, even the guy who acts like he could care less. If he's a nerdy type like you said, he's probably just extra shy. Help him out! If he starts stuttering again, you could make a bold move and give him a kiss (not neccesarily on the lips, I think the cheek is a very cute option)or you could try to finish his sentences. Smile to reassure him. Drop hints that you like him. If he only wanted to be your friend, I'm sure he wouldn't act so nervous around you.
shelbz7077 answered Friday August 21 2009, 5:36 pm: He may have been trying to ask you out. Sometimes it's hard for people, especially if they are nervous. If he likes you then that could be it but it could have also been anything. You should just ask him about it. I hope this helps :) [ shelbz7077's advice column | Ask shelbz7077 A Question ]
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