Well, I'm a serious sometimes funny type of person and usually my problem evolves in my love life :) ain't as lucky as you are.lol. I'm 16 and somewhat emotional. They say one of my assets is being sensitive to the feelings of others and one of my bad habits is playing with my hands while looking for words.
E-mail: phinyf@lycos.com
Gender: Female
Location: Philippines
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Age: 16
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here is what he said. but first of all...sorry about some of the language he says. we are emailing eachother back and forth...and when i got a new email from him..this is what it said. i have nooo idea what to say back to him! i dont want to just say sorry...that would be like i dont really care or something. i do care..and i feel really bad...and i like him. could you please give me any ideas on what to say to him? dont tell me to tell him that i like him though..im not ready yet. please help!
i found out that my dad hates jews and gays soo we got in a fight cause my singer is bi. now i'm grounded for the weakend and have to quit the band. i told nhim i can't listen to a nazi. then i told him to fuck off. now i'm in my room all pissed off. what a fucker.
you see the whole problem started 'cause my dad said to be home at 10:00 P.M. but al myfriends son't have to be home till midnite or 2:00A.M. so i don't want to say"hey guys. we can't go out cause i have to be home in 10 minutes." Then they would hate me. soo i figure to tell my parents that i can get a ride home but i'll be alittle late. which is true. then i have to wait for kyle to want to go home which is later than he said originally said. so now i have to keep waiting. as it turns out, i end up being 2 hours late. but i kept my parents updated on the time i would be home at. so i finally get home as soon as posable and explain that i tried to get home as soon as posable and i get grounded cause "i'm only 14 and have too many freedoms. I had to wait till i was in college till i could stay out after midnite. you should be lucky. there will be times when you can stay out late but you;re too young now."my alchoholic dad says
I said "Brad is 14 and his parents let him stay out past 2. his parents are cool about it."
My dad responded "i don't care what his parents said. that shows that they don't care about him. we are only strict because we love you."
I screamed "that just shows that they want him to be happy. you keep enbarising me in front of my friends. now ther're probably making fun of me and then what friends will i have? i might as well cut my wrists now. maybe i'll have friends in heaven. maybe some one will care for em there. maybe i won;t have the constant embarasment of having to tell my friends that we can't do anything cause i have to be home earlier than everybody else. maybe if you could let me go to someone's house without you having to call the people and talk about what's going tho happen there and talk to my rides to see if there certain or not, then i wouldn't have the embarassment of having tell them that my mom doesn't trust me. she'll never trust me. she thinks i'm lying about having a ride home." if i call her and say that a ride has changed then she thnks i never had a ride at all. it's like no matter what i do, she thinks i'm doing something wrong. she has to constantly check up on me and know a number to reach me on. if we go to some one's house then she wants me to call her on their phone so she has their number on coller i.d. i ususally don;t even go to a house. this time, we ended up walking around the neighborhood and just talking.
"why didn't you call me and give me the number?' my mom bitches at me.
"we didn;t even go to their house. we just hung out outside."
" why didn't you call us to tell us that you didn't have a number to be reached at?" she's still bitching
"you know i can always be reached on my cell phone." i say calmly.
" you know i don't remember that number."
i say" i can't help that you keep lossing all the papers you write it down on. you need to be more organized. then you can talk to me again."
then she grabs another beer and watches t.v. with my drunk dad.
what the fuck do you say to make someone believe you? what do you do when some one's mind is made up before hearing the real story? all they do is jud my friends by how many piercings do they have? or how does their hair look? or what color clothes do they wair? and what kind of music do they listen to. all they hear are the rumors. please stop spreading rumors. all they do is destroy reputations and destroy families. all the stereotypes need to stop. all they want do is hurt reputations.if you have a problem with some one then just say it to their faces. don't spread rumors.
so here i am. sitting in my room. depresed and pissed. wondering if in heaven, some one would give a shit about me. Hell doesn't even sound to bad right now.i can feel God getting further and further away from me. this is my own personal hell. (link)
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You are the one who's getting away from God. Why not pray to him so that he can enlighten your mind. I don't care if you'll give me a low rating but somehow getting angry at your mother and father for caring for your safety and making sure that you're all right is unjustified. True, they have their vices but they care for you and i'm sure they don't want you to be like them when you grow up. God does care for you and is with you even till now. Why don't you explain to your mother in a sincere and right way that you're not doing anything bad or whatever. If your mother says it's ok. for you to go past midnight when you're college then don't argue with her. Instead, show to her even as early as now that you can be trusted to go out past midnight even if you aren't a college yet.
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there is a guy that i have liked for 2 monthes now and every night he asks me to sneak out with him.....to make out and crap like that and i talk to his friends and i found out that he never liked me but he asked me out 2 weeks ago but the only time he will hang out with me is at night when we sneak out!!!! sometimes i say no but he always says he has a surprise for me which always works but im tired of just talking to him at night i want to hang out with him and talk during the day as well but he wont!!! so i no i should break up with him but i dk!!! please help me!!! (link)
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You know what? It's obvious he's just using you to fulfill his sexual needs. You're right he's just using you. If he likes you like you do to him then he won't just come at night and refuse talking to you at day. I know it'll be hard breaking up with him but I can see also that you're hurting more and more. Don't let yourself be in his trap again. Next time he sneaks at you in the night. Tell him you won't let him do that to you anymore. If he wants still to let your relationship going then he'll talk to you in the morning and hang out with you. If he doesn't like then tell him face to face and with conviction that you don't like to sneak with him at night again!
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ohkay, im a really *challenged person when it comes to my weight. No matter how hard i try to lose weight, i always tend to gain more & more. how do become skinny? how do i control my blubber?
love, shamoo aka moby dick (link)
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Basically, maybe the reason is because you love food. When you eat, do you do something afterwards or sleep right away? After eating if you aren't doing something then there's so much stored energy in you then you get fat since you won't burn off your calories. Becoming skinny is not also good since you'll be unhealthy. Maybe it'll be better if you'll not be too skinny nor too fat. You can exercise twice or thrice a week. Jogging or going to the gym. If not, even walking can burn off the calories. Make sure that everytime, you'll exercise even in simple ways. Try not to eat less suddenly. Just take it slowly. Little by little you'll eat less.
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First off, im 15/f. Ok, well, i like this guy and i know he likes me, he's driven me home from work several times, we've exchanges numbers and he has asked me out on dates. We both got out of serious relationships in january and are both ready to be in another one. We've talked about being in love and relationships and everything, but there is one problem... he is 18. He is 2 years and 11 months older than me. I know its not illegal if we dated, only illegal if we had sex, which he knows im not gunna do that. But my parents don't like the fact that i am friends with him, ONLY because he is 18. We like each other a lot, but i don't know what to do. I'm not going to ignore the felings, because i know that there is something there, we can both feel it and we both want to act on them. So my question is how can i convince my parents about him. He's a great guy, probably one of the best i've ever met. And we want to be together! Thanks a lot! (link)
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Maybe your parents are worried that the guy you like will just play with your feelings since after all he's older than you. I think you should tell the guy you like about this and ask if he's willing to confront your parents and tell them that he'll not fool you. That is one way how to convince your parents that he's sincere of his feelings towards you. If not, you can explain to your parents your dilemma. Tell them that he's a great guy and is sincere and will not play with your feelings. Even if the first time they'll not listen to you, sooner or later if they can see that inspite of the fact that you're seeing each other, you aren't hurt or being hurt by this guy. They'll accept him even as your friend. After all, they had once undergone that stage. :)
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does anyone know any websites that you take a quiz and then you get a result. like the quizes are about urself like what you like to do and stuff like that. (link)
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www.astrology.com it also specializes on your love life and etc. who's your dream partner and more.
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Ive always had a small group of friends that all got along. Well in the past 3 days it all fell apart. One friend got mad at me for something totally retarded, and then all of a sudden the other friend had a problem with me too. Now come to find out they've been talking behind my back about it. Im not saying they're totally at fault for whats going on because I know I am partly responsible for it, but I dont see why they couldnt come to me and say whatever it is they had to say instead of ganging up on me and then talking behind my back. I just dont know what to do. Ive tried talking to them about it and that didnt make anything better they just acted as if I was full of it and ignored what I said. So should I just give up on 2 people who were my bestfriends and get over it, or keep trying no matter how bad things already are? Please help. And if anyone wouldn't mind it would be easier to give off the whole situation over aim to give a better view point. Thanks again everyone. (link)
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Okay when you approach them, make it sure that you're not really angry at them because it'll really show. If you want your friendship to be back just apologize and tell them that you admit having a mistake on some parts but talking behind your back is such a cowardly way so ask them what is the reason why they're doing this? What's wrong with me? You say that one and I'm sure they'll respond. After all, you had a friendship.
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I have a little brother (who though i love him very very much) is overweight. Not really badly but it's no longer cute "baby fat". He's 10 years old and has problems running and stuff. It's not his fault. He loves food, and it always puts a smile on his face. If he's upset or mad, my parents will offer him a soda or bowl of icecream. They offer him food when there's no way he can be hungry. I'll come home from swimming practice at 3:00 and be starving. I'll grab a piece of pizza and stick it in the microwave. my mom will see and yell to my little brother who's in his room playing PS2... hey honey... want some pizza? then tell me to cut him a small piece because he just ate lunch an hour ago. he'll come in the room and ask if he can have some chips and a soda w/ it. "of course honey". and she asks why he's overweight. i've tried to make her stop a couple times but she doesn't understand that he's not old enough to make good desicions about what he eats. we got to mcdonalads and he'll order two cheeseburgers,fries, a soda, and a sundae. how do i explain to my parents that they're teaching him bad eating habits and he's gonna end up really fat if they don't cut it out... with out insulting them? (link)
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The only way I could think of is to tell your parents straight that they aren't helping your little brother to lessen his weight. When you say this to your parents, tell it in a way that you're not raising your voice or you're like angry. Just saying something so important. If they don't realize it still then you can continue on saying it always until your parents will realize. Repeating it will let them know it's that important.
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ok this is really worryin me my g/f is in middlsboro with her mom 4 the summer there is alot of boys that like her up there. i mean yea i trust her and all but i rlly dont kno what 2 think about all those boys can any1 help me???? (link)
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It's just normal to feel worried when there are really many boys out there but as you said you trust your gf. So tell her that you trust her not to entertain other boys then just keep your mind from worrying.
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Well, I met this boy through a friend..and me and him went out. I was shallow and wouldnt stay with him..it was about 3 years ago. and then we stopped talking and then started talking again..he was having problems at home and moved in with my family (hes 17 now). We became the best of friends..then all of the sudden "poof" he left out of NO WHERE. and now we are talking and stuff and i really miss him. i told him i didnt want him to leave and that i miss him. but do you have any ideas on how to really hit him on how much he hurt me? i need the help. That boy means alot to me, and i dont want the only person that was ever there to go away..
thanx (link)
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Aside from what they've said, I think you should let him realize how much he've hurt you by telling him your feelings if not in front of his face on the telephone. You tell him that he hurted you by leaving you and etc. Let him really realize by showing your true feelings. Don't let this pass by and ignore it since he'll do just the same mistake again and again.
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I am looking for a guy that goes to Las Colinas Middle School theres this guy hes in my elective his nam is Yuehuan and i think i like him and i think he likes me what should i do (link)
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I think you should talk to him. Be friendly with him and really check out if your thinking is true. Like, walk towards him and ask him anything that might be of interest to him. Then if he answers then that's it. I'm sure he won't be afraid/shy to talk to you already.
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about a year ago i lost my virginity to the guy who i thought i was in love with. we were together for about 7 or 8 months after that. we would always just hold each other and make each other laugh and i still love him so much! but we got in trouble together(has nothing to do with this story so i just won;t go into details) and now we can see each other. about a month after that happened he got a girlfriend andi started dating this who i really like but i don't think i love him yet. we are both cool with seeing other people now but i know it secretly rips us up inside. but we still manage to sneak around and see each other from time to time. and i know that we can never ever be together again so it just makes it harder every time we see each other cuz i miss him and i want him back so bad. and he always does the little things that he knows drives me crazy about him and i do the same. i know i should move on but i couldn't go on living knowing that i am never going to see him or be able to talk to him again. what should i do?? please help. i think i might be hurting myself more then helping. (link)
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Okay. So tell your ex-bf that once and for all if he really likes you still and wants you back then that'll be the case, you'll be with him and you'll stop hurting. Confront him about this and you need to tell him that this secret meeting must stop since both of you are hurting yourselves. You need to let him make a choice whether to be with you or completely out of your life.
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I am realy bored.Please can someonne think of something for me to do.Thank you (link)
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You can do whatever you like. Go out of your house and do something different. Swim in the beach or swimming pool or else watch tv. There are practically many things to do like shopping and etc.
But if you want something to do in the net then you can chat in mirc or yahoo, aol or msn.
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My cousin takes cough syrup to sleep in the day.Without internet for 1 minute I get extremly cranky and rude.Why do people get bored.Why do we always have to be doing something (link)
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So that we can entertain ourselves. Go out of your house and do something unusual, maybe you'll love what you're doing and not question your happiness on doing something.
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I broke up with my bf about 3 weeks ago and within that time he started going out with a girl but she broke up with him. While he was with her he was being bitchy and plain out wrong with me but now that they have broken up he regrets everything he said and did and wants me back.When we broke up I cried and was hurt for a LONG while but now I am dealing with it.Well he wants me back and I don't know if I should give him a chance part of me says yes but the other says no. I don't know what I should do but sometimes I just feel like calling him just to hear his voice but then again I don't want to get hurt again. Pleace help me out! (link)
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I think you should test if he's really sincere or not. Why not pretend saying no to him at first not only will you test his sincerity in this, you'll also get even with him. Why did he go out with a girl and being ill with you the whole time. Then now wants you back? Does he want to use you only? So maybe you can use this tactic to him. After saying no to him, he still persists for a long time and you really really think he's sincere and you still have feelings for him then go on. Let him promise to you not to hurt you again and let him explain why he was ill with you the whole time he was with the other girl. If you're acceptable with it then go on and say yes to him.
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I am currently 16, male, and have been told I don't understand love. Even if that is true, I KNOW I love this one girl. See, we know each other very well, but we dont live close together. She moved away last year. We know there is something there, but we are both scared. What should I do? Ask her out, or wait till I can get back to her? (link)
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I think you should choose aking her out. I don't think you can right away say that you need to move on without even trying to show your feelings to her. Most girls who like a particular guy waits for the guy to ask them out. So I really think you need to do the first move. You know each other well so that'll be easy to ask her out. Good luck!
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okay. so i dated this girl for a while. and we seemed to have a really good connection with each other. we were into the same things, we were both sarcastic smartasses, and we both liked doing the same kinda stuff. and well when i met her she was in the process of breaking up with her boyfriend. and so i was more of the friend to turn to than anything else. then slowly we started to date like after they broke up. and for about a weekend we were very into each other, and things seemed to be wonderful. then as the weekend ended she said she didn't feel the same way about me as i did about her. and so i decided to sit back and wait until she was really ready for a relationship because after some talking we kinda realized she needed some time to get back into the swing of things. and it was during this time that she began to change. she became mean, she began just totally ignoring me for days on end. the phone calls ceased. there would be whole days when i'd hear nothing from her. then i'd talk to her a bit and that was it. and now finally i come home to find out she spent the last couple days drinking, partying, and hanging out with sleazy guys. and i instantly became very mad and jealous. and i just wanna know. is it wrong for me to be mad? for me to not want her around? for me to tell her she's changed and become someone i don't know anymore? i told her not to contact me any longer, and that she had become someone else, someone i didn't know or love. and now in hindsight i kinda wanna know: was it wrong? (link)
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In my personal opinion it isn't wrong for you to be mad at her and don't want her around since she didn't do what you thought she'll do. Instead of using the time you gave her to think things over, she use it in drinking and partying with other guys. You're right when you said for her to not contact you unless ofcourse she have changed. She must have had a really big problem to be drinking like that. Does she still have feelings for her ex-bf or what? She was the one who cut all the ties with you. What with not contacting you and changing her attitude. I think it's just fair for you to go on with your life and find someone better than her.
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Ok well I like this guy but the problem is, we havn't met in person yet. We've talked on the phone and computer but havn't met! And im like, So crazy about this kid its weird! And i don't want him to see me in person 'cause i think im really ugly and fat. People say no but i think they're lieing! But i need help on what I should do. Because what if we do meet and he thinks im ugly or what ever and doesn't talk to me anymore? He's seen a few of my pictures but i don't think they look like me! So i don't know what to do. Please help. ANYTHING! I rate high. Thank you so much.
x333 Kara (link)
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I think as early as now you should reduce your figure so that when you meet him you'll be physically fit infront of his eyes. You eat lesser now and if you can afford it, have a make-over. Choose a hairstyle that fits your face. I don't believe there's a person made by God that's ugly. Maybe you haven't found the hairstyle and the products to use to enhance your face. Not only that be confident too. Have extra care on your body.
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My friend called me out of the blue asking me if i hav e my older friends brothers number.And she said she wants to ask him out! but she already has a great boyfriend that likes her ALOT! and so then she asked me for the number so i gave it 2 her and they yelledat her ..... she asked me if she should stay with akram or go out with danny! wat shoul i tell her (link)
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Maybe you should ask her which she prefers? Does sh likes to be with akram more than danny or otherwise? If she'll choose danny then there's no going back. If things doesn't work out, she musn't like regret if ever she'll break up with danny. If she'll choose akram then there will be no problem except if she really wanted to go out with danny. Tell your friend to make up her mind and choose someone who'll she'll not regret choosing.
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kay well I was with this guy for a year i basically lived with him i was never home id go home to visit once ina while we told each other we loved each other and of course thought we would be together forever.. well forever doesnt last as we all know.. but he has a girlfriend now.. someone that ive known since i was like 5 use to be friends with then didnt like each other anymore.. when we broke up he told me he didnt wnat to be with anyone but then like a week later he was with her & still is but he always comes to me like im his back up girl he cheats on his girlfriend with me my question is do you think he still has feelings for me? or he just uses me because he knows he can? im still heartbroken and cant get over him but am living to live my life without him but it hurts even more when he uses me and tell me he loves me then leaves and then im just his friend again I wrote him a note the other day saying that i cant let him use me anymore because its only hurting me more and it not fair to his girlfriend. He tells her he loves her now but i jsut dont see how you can love one person then ina week happy to be with someone else and in 2 months tell them you love them.. thanx to anyone who trys to answer (link)
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Men are as what they say polygamous so in my point of view I really don't know if he has feelings for you still. All I know is that maybe he isn't contented to be with his girlfriend always. Loving isn't cheating so I think also he doesn't love his current girlfriend. Did he ever cheat on you when you were still in a relationship? You're doing right when you gave him a note and said that you can't let him use you. If he has feelings for you still, I think the proof that'll support it is if he'll break with his current girlfriend when you said that you can't let him use you. It's better to get hurt and go on with your life than getting hurt and being stagnant in a relationship that hurts more.
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This boy & I have been flirting/messsing with eachother all school year now. Everyone can tell we like eachother but neither of us will make a serious move. I know he won't because his friends will tease and he's a little shy/immature. I'm afraid of rejection & being teased. It's the end of the year and this boy is one in a million, I like him very much. What can I do to let him know being friends isn't enough and over the summer I want to see him? (link)
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Maybe you should talk to him when like he's alone and just ask him hey, where are you going this summer that kind of things and then all will just follow you know. Don't think of rejection because you know that he likes you too. Not only that, if he'll be gone and you don't know where when classes stop then I know you'll really regret not knowing where he is and also his number.
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