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Hey. I love giving advice. I enjoying giving advice about the sexual things, I've been thinking about getting a degree to be a sexual education teach or, or a sex therapist. I my second best would be friendship[s] and relationship[s]. I am 21yrs old. I have a pit bull named Zip. I work at a middle school as a nutriton assistant. I have 4 god children, 1 boy, 3 girls.

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That you can possibly be pregnant and have your period the month after having sex?

There is a possibility. When I was pregnant I had my period the next month, but it was only a 3 day period. Also a friend of mine did have a period when she was pregnant. So always use preotection, and if you believe that you are, get and over the conter pregnancy test to find out.

Alriiiight. So I'm fifteen and my ex is sixteen but I was fourteen while I dated him. Since we broke up (he dumped me) I've left him alone, been a good girl, ya know, didn't cause drama. But he's telling everyone I gave him a BJ, which... yeah I did. I really regret it cause Jesus I was fourteen, but while we were dating I let him walk all over me... I was definitely whipped. He made me feel so guilty saying I should do it if I loved him and stuff like that... I know I know, please don't tell me it was a mistake because you'll only be telling me what I already know. And you wouldn't understand how it felt unless you were in my place... and I got dumped four days later in a text message so I think I got my punishment. Anyway it was my understanding that something like that is supposed to stay inbetween you and your boy (thats what he promised me at least...) but yeah he told the entire baseball team, who told the football team, who told the basketball team... I don't know why only guys are hearing this... Well anyway my ex ALSO started telling people that we had sex which ISN'T true. He's saying digusting things too. Like "When I was on top I was scared I was gonna break her cause she's so tiny." and "She let me do whatever I wanted, I bet I coulda stuck it up the a$$ if I wanted to." And now all the guys think it's real funny to come up to me and put their finger up my butt. Ha-ha, right? It's been two months and these rumors HAVEN'T faded... I even went away for camp for a week and when I came back WORSE things were being said. I don't know what to do. Our school is so small... and my repuatation before this has been "goody goody two shoes" now people are looking at me differently and guys have been saying all these gross things to me... I told my ex that I don't deserve any of this because I never did anything to hurt him... Everytime I tell him about this he says he's telling people he was lying... but he's not. He just doesn't care he's being an ass... he doesn't care but I do. How can I just make this all go away? I have super supportive friends but I can't handle this anymore.

I had things said about me when I was your age before I even knew what sex was. But just look past it, that is what boys do they run there mouth they like to be the "big guy" around..it's like a compation on or something with them. Just look past it, but sometimes things like these can get out of hand, if you feel that it is, you need to go to a teacher or something to stop the sexul herasment, don't worry about what people are going to say, your safty is more important then being popular.
Your not going to be able to "make it go away" just act like it doesn't bother you and go on threw the day. That's what I had to do. I have become a better person for not listening to those kids of things. In time it will stop, another girl will get involved with him, and she then will be the talk of the school.
If you ever get your self in another relationship like that, get out, or don't stup to that level. Love is a strong word, she someone say "you'll do it if you love me" your response needs to be, "if you love me you want care that i want". I've been there i've done this sweetie.
If you need any other advice or would like to further talk about what I have wrote you, you are more then welcome to msg me on here! :)
take care.

so i been on the shot since january 09 and every since then me & my boyfriend has been having unprotected sex allll the time and everytime i go to get a pap or get the shot the pregnancy test comes up negative but lately ive been real sleepy and feeling sick not actually throwing up but i feel super sick then i goes away. ive been also real emo the past few days like ill just be sitting there and feel like crying for no reason. my tummy isnt really getting bigger cause its already a little pudge but all i wanna kno is whats the chances of me being pregnant or am i just going through a depression? also i dont have my period since i started the shot and after my most recent shot in july i stopped spotting. well thanks in advance =]

I am also on the shot. And first off your not suppose to have your period while on the shot, some girls or didn't I had a period of the first 2 months when I started, sometimes I spot and other times I want get nothing. I've been on the shot since Nov 08. Now on to the prego thing, I doubt your pregnant, me and my Fiancee have been having unprotected sex ever since I've been on it, and well he actually goes in me, and I have yet to get pregnant, but that doesn't mean you might have the chance, most likely if you have been regular on getting your shot, and also getting it in the correct time, you should be okay. But snag(buy) and prego test from the store and take one just in case. Also, if you end up not being pregnant you need to speak with your doctor and see if those could be some side affects your experiencing because of the shot. I have notice I've been a little more moody since I've been on the shot, but I haven't had any sick feelings. You could be also going threw a depression, witch could be a side affect if that is the case. I hope I helped in some way. If you have anymore question or want more on and answer I have giving you, feel free to ask. Good luck with everything. :)

my boyfriend just recently moved to houston. i live in virginia. we have been dating for 2 years and are both in 10th grade. the thing is, i really want to visit him so badly but my parents wont let me. i want to know if i can buy a plane ticket and secretly go and visit him? can 16 year olds buy plane tickets? also, i want to move out to houston with him when i turn 18. i dont have alot of money though so i dont know if going to an out of state college is part of my options. but maybe if i live with him and his mom it wont be considered out of state? i just want to do whatever i can to be with him. can someone give me any tips of reassurance? i really need help with this

I was in the same shoes when I was 16 also. But my mother got me a ticket to go visit the boy i was seeing, but he ended up breaking up with me the next day, so my mother wasted her money. So i would advise you to wait about a month or so before you decide to do ANYTHING. Some people can deal with long distance relationships and there are others that can't. Your young, don't tie your self down right now like that, but also don't give up if you truly think in your hear things will work. And moving out there to live with him and his mom, might not work out either. I know when i stayed with my present boyfriend at his moms house, it was HELL for me at times. It's better for it to just be you and him. But like i said wait a while before you spend all kinds of money to go out there to him.

ok so im a bisexual female (18) and i've only had one girlfriend before my current one. I love her so much and we havent done anything sexual yet we are taking our time. I was wondering where i can go for free information on how to pleasure her. I have to keep up with her boyfriend and i feel a little insecure about it. please help me out

There are plenty of web sites you can go to. Just go into Google and type in pleasuring a woman or something around that line. Also your a woman you know what gets you going and what doesn't, try some of the things you like on her and see if she enjoys them too. And i wouldn't be so insecure and thinking you need to keep up with her boyfriend, you have something TOTALLY different then what her boyfriend had, and also you know what you like and most girls like that same thing, you get what I'm saying? Also, just to throw something out there, have you talked to her about a 3some, that might help with your "keeping up" with the boyfriend feeling. that gives you all 3 a chance to see how each other are and see what he does to her that you can learn how to do better. hehe. good luck!

wat do u do after you pop a girl cherry

Well there really isn't anything to do after you "pop a girls cherry". Actually what it is a small piece of skin at the bottom of her vagina that rips and that is the "cherry". Some girls already tear this if they use tampons. Some girls will bleed a some what decent amount and some girls will not bleed at all. To some girls it is very painful and to others it's not. Also, depending on your penis size, you may not "pop her cherry", witch isn't a bad thing, she just want experience the horrible pain.

Haha. It turns us both on.
But its weird. Idk.

And another question.

What turns your man on?

Name everything with detail please? :] And if you don't want it public. Then message me. :]

And yea. I like to here about kinky stuff. :]] tell me somethings? :D

Btw I'm 15, f. I'm from floridaaa :P

hm. lets see. I see nothing wrong with you getting turned on watching him do that. Actually some guys get turned on watching girls do the same. So yall should pleasure your selves in front of each other the arousal will be so un-real.

hm. Sometimes I'll do a little tease. Like walk around in boy shorts and bend over in front of him acting like i'm doing something else...that gets him sometimes.

Wow. Idk all guys are different about what turns them on. You just have to try all sorts of things out and see how he reacts to it.

You can go to some web sites and actually look at things you can try and do. Actually I find the cosmopolitain magazine very useful it has all sorts of tricks and treats for about every issue and I have used some of them on my mind and most of them drive him crazy to where he has to have me....

Now let me pull the "responsible" card. Your 15, if you haven't already had sex I would like to advise you to wait. I lost mine when I was about your age and I wish I never did every day. So make sure its someone you feel will consider your feelings during the "act". I wish I had waited. But if you already have and are for sure this is something you want to do, please be responsible about it. Protection & Birth Control...K?!

Hope my advice did some justice of what you where looking for....
I love kinky stuff to, so what I do is Google a lot of things [positions, turn ons, toys, etc.]

Does anyone know of any websites that you dont have to buy the movies or download anything on your computer but it plays the whole entire movieee. If you get what im sayingggg.

http://www.watch-movies-links.net/

I go to this web site to watch movies before they even come out, it shows the whole movie, some have are good and can see everything, some are just good enough....

17/f.

In my math class their is this girl, who is a dyke, and I have nothing against gay people or anything. I actually have a friend that is gay, just to clear that up right now.

Anyway, she always does really weird things when she is sitting next to me, like she put her lighter on, or she'll stick her tongue out and be like oh this is what i do to my girlfriend! and she just says all these things about her sex life, or her parents sex life too.. its really disturbing and I don't want to hear it. She isn't usually talking directly to me, but she is talking to the girl who sits on the other side of me, who i am friends with and is really the only person i talk to in class. I personally don't like hearing about anyones sex life, no matter who they are. Its awkward and to me personal information between them and their boyfriend/girlfriend.

I feel like if I say something, I'll come across rude, because she is kind of depressed and I don't want to make it worse or anything, and she is nice besides that, I just don't know what to do. Any help?

I personally would say something to her. Not in a mean way cuz there are ways to ask someone to stop without being rude, its just how you come off. But if you think you can't say anything to her, just ask the teacher if you could be moved, if you don't want to explain to the teacher that you want to move because of the conversations this girl likes to have, then just say you would like a better spot to see things on the board or be near someone who you know could help you better.

I know this sounds random but I have been thinking about sleeping with My boyfriend and he would be My first.

The thing is he has told Me he is also a virgin, but for some reason I can't quite believe him, I trust him about everything else but I just can't get My head around that he is a virgin, because he isn't the type of boy who appears to be and his mates are always going on about who they have recently slept with.

I really don't know what to believe.

Secondly if I was to sleep with him and he was a virgin, would he know what he was doing because I personally don't have a clue, I'm shy and easily embarrassed. I've been in a relationship with him for a while but still don't feel I know him that well.

Female - 17

If you don't believe him and feel like you don't know him that well I would not lose my v-card to him. Also, if he is telling the truth about being a virgin then there is going to be an awkward moment when yall do start having intercourse. Sex for the first time is scary sometimes painful, so make sure you are having it with someone how is going to consider your feelings and do his best to make sure he is not hurting you to bad (if it does start hurting). But if you in any way second guess ANYTHING I would say not to have sex with him right now.

ok. when my girlfriend and i are making out in bed and things she sometimes puts her leg in between my legs so that her upper leg is pressed against my crotch. i was just wondering what thats about or what it means or anything?

I do this to my boyfriend when ever we start making out. Sometimes its cuz I want him to go further and actually have sex. Other times I just want to feel his penis getting bigger with out actually putting my hands down there.

But don't think she wants to go further if she does this, ask her if she wants to before you try!

ok so im on birth control and have been for a while and i have never had any problems, every month my period comes 3 days late then 3 days early, it alternates every month and never lasts more than 6 days. Well this month it came 4 or 5 days early and has lasted a week and a half and i dont know why or what it could be from, and certainly dont know what it could mean?? please help me im so confused and kinda nervous about this.

If you have had any type of stress that could have a lot to do with it. You might think your not stressed when you really are. If your taken the pill & you just so happened to miss it onces that could also have some sort of affect on it. Also, when i used the nuva ring, when i had sex the day be4 i was suppose to take it out, it would take my period a little while to start. so sometimes sex can trigger your period to delay. I wouldn't worry about it, the smallest thing could set your body off track.

i am a virgin but i really want 2 have sex,but i cant find any 1 2 have sex with wat shud i do have sex with a random person or just keep masturbating 13/f

whoa! you need to wait to have sex. i lost my v-card on a one night stand (5yrs ago i was 15) & i still to this day & i wish i had waited till i found someone who cared about me. So just keep masturbating. plus the more you masturbate the more you know what you will want when you are ready to have sex. =]

okays sooo, ive been on birth control for like two years now, and i have never known the answer to this question, ive tried to ask my ginocologest but she didnt really answer me.
butt.. when your on birth control, can the guy like cum in you and you wont get pregnant. Like im not stupid me and my boyfriend still use condoms every single time and were still going to, but im just kinda curious casue if not then what does birth control do?

Well for me [im on the shot] my boyfriend goes in me & i haven't gotten pregnant since ive been on birth control [knock on wood]. But a few of my friends have gotten pregnant even though they where on birth control. So its more of a yes or no thing, to me i think it depends on the bc and how its used.

So ive been taking birthcontrol since thursaday..
saturday i didnt take it..

this morning me and my husband had sex. and the condom broke.. we're not sure if his sperm went inside..

can i still get pregnant even though ive been on birth control for a couple of days? :[

I don't take the pill, I'm on the shot. But I started out on the pill, then the nuva ring, now the shot. Between each of those I wasn't taken birth control, so every time I saw my doctor he told me to give it at lest a month be4 the birth control kicks in [that includes the pill]. So yes you could probably get prego.

i really like the nuva ring, cuz you only take it our for a week witch is the week you will have your period. but you gotta get a new ring every month, i get the debo shot and i really like it cuz i only go every 3 months, & im pretty much payin the same i paid for the nuva ring, but only every 3 months. But they say u don't have period during the shot, but i have had a period with it...i have only gotten the shot twice so i pretty much just started it....

okay me and my boyfriend had sex twice, were both sixteen. everytime i give him head or something he lasts like a minute before he tells me he is about to cum then we wait a second or two till it goes away and make out or something and when we have sex its like 6 thrusts then he is about to cum or he does cum. how can i help him last longer? i want to get off when we have sex. please i need advice!

I had this problem when I was 16 with the boy I was dating, so what I got him to do was when ever he thought or was close to just stop & just kiss, nothing heavy just a slit pause in the action. It might take a while for him to build up be4 he can actually last longer....also don't give him head be4 yall do it see if that helps too. & then he can try masturbating be4 he comes over so he already has one relief. but if you really wanna get urs, then get on top do the work to get urs & then let him go...

So i know the only safe sex is no sex. but me and my boyfriend have been dating and it's pretty serious. we both really want to do it, but i'm so paranoid about getting pregnant! even with a condom! any advice? I'm 15, i'm not ready to be a mom haha.

Just like helpinghand247 said, if your not ready to be a parent then your not ready for sex. But I can't say much though, I lost my v-card at about 15 with no condom & that was the dumbest choice I ever made. But if you really think you are ready to have sex, condoms & birth control, if your not on birth control SOME health clinics have em & you can get the pill from there. BUT birth control is not 100% like NO SEX. Same with condoms. Just know the risks & things like that be4 you have sex. But no matter what USE A CONDOM!!! AND PLEASE make sure he is the one you want to lose it to....

So yesterday (Sunday) my boyfriend and I were fooling around. Things got very heated, but there was no actual penetration. Both of us had our underwear off, however, but his penis only made contact with my vagina for a few seconds, when he was massaging my clit with it (not the actual hole). There was no precum at the moment, I had wiped it dry beforehand. I'm wondering if there could have possibly been any remanents on the head of his penis, and if there is any possible way they could have made their way into my actual vagina and gotten me pregnant. Like I said, there was no wetness, and he did not come. I'm just terrified. Please help!!

Most sperm dies once it hits air. But those things are VERY tricky. But unless he was in you i doubt you are prego. Just play it safe, if your scared of every getting prego right now use a condom if you think there is any way of you getting prego. Everyone wants to have fun and fool around, but think a head and be prepared.. =) but still have fun!

so that my boyfriend doesnt "go" in me, he tells me when he is about to orgasm and he pulls out... but i feel stupid not doing anything after that point so my question is should i touch him or give him head after he says that? guys answer...

thank youuuuu
f/20 fyi

I'm a girl. But I'm going to tell you what I use to do. You can either give him a hand job, but I personal think it would be better if you gave him head, BUT you have to be comfortable with him going in your mouth on that case or just have a signal [tap on the shoulder etc] for him to let you know when his about to go and keep the motion you had going with your hand [thats if you use your hand during head (up&dwn on the shaft)]

well i was flippin through the channels and dr. ruth was on and she was talking abotu hand jobs. when you do that to someone does the semen like shoot out straight up or come out slowly? i was just wondering cause i had to leave to go somewhere before i finished watching the show.

It depends on the guy, either they are shooters or oozes. It has nothing to do with the "motions" of the act. It really just based off the way the guy cums. Look at it like this, if you squeeze a tube of lotion it just oozes out, if you squeeze it fast it shoots out. [im not sayin the motion does this, its just an ex of how the cum comes out]. but like i said its about the guy, but either way, your going to get it on your hands!

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