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Q: Ive been with my bf for 7 months. Ive met his parents and talked to them a bit. Im a shy person at first. His moms 50th bday is coming and i want to get her something and surprise her and not tell my bf. Any ideas would be great? Please help.
you should talk to her about some things about her past and get her something that would remind her of something from her childhood. maybe like a toy she never got or a old teddybear she used to love . let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: okay so my girlfriend is pregnant and she dont get her period does that mean the baby is like drinking the blood?
no if she is pregnant then she wouldnt get her period. thats what happens when your pregnant.
lizzie

Q: There this boy that i like and he knows i like him. Ive been liking him for awhile now. You see there this other gurl that also like him and so they been hanging out for awhile. But he stills talk to him and stuff and be messing around. And from what i heard is that he really dont like her but i be seeing him with her.
So what does this all add up to, is he doing this to make me jealous or what.
maybe he does like her and he dosnt want his friends to know he does or maybe your right and he is trying to make you jelous , but i think you should talk to him and see if he likes you
let me know how it all works out '
lots of love,lizzie

Q: 14/f

So I've been going out with this guy for a month, two months by valentines day. The lasts boyfriends I had was never during valentines day so I am clueless. Am I supposed to get him something? I mean I want to but not too much because he definitely will not get me something too much since he is like really broke. Should I just get a card? or more? I like him alot and we don't see each other that much, only like twice a week, maybe 3. So what should I do? Thanks!
i would just get him a box of candy that way you got him something but its not to much so he dosnt think your obsesive or anything.
let me know what you think
lots of love,lizzie

Q: recently my boyfriend has been lying alot he has cheated on my once by kissing another girl but he was drunk.

he lied to me and went into a girls house with two other girls. and he is making a movie for school with 3 girls but he only told me one.

i figured this out and he says he will never lie to me again. we have been together for two years. were both 16.

do you think i should break up with him or stay with him. i love him and i feel like i cant live without him yet i cant trust him and i know that you cant have a relationship without trust. but i am trying. i broke up with him when he cheated on me but i was misrable.

should i give him one more chance? what would you do.
i know it would be hard to do but I deffinitly think that it would be good for you to break up with him. Thats good that you two have been dating for so long but you don't want to be in a relationship with someone that you can't trust. i was in a relationship for 4 years with someone and i tryed to make excuses for everytime he lied. and as hard as it was i eventually had to break it off because i couldnt make up lies for him anymore. i think it would be good for you to break it off until he learns not to lie, afterall trust is a key factor to a relationship.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: ah okay. my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9 months, it'll be 10 months by valentines day. but shes in college so we have a long distance relationship.
we wont be together on valentines day but i still want to do something sweet for her, whether i mail it or whatever.

any ideas?!
i would send a few different packages to her and on the outside of them have numbers written
write # 1 on the first pack and have a teddy bear inside and a picture of you kissing the bear with a note that say this kiss is for you
write # 2 on the next box and have a box of candy inside with a note that says " it was hard finding candy as sweet as you "
and on the 3rd box write #3 and on the inside have somekind of peice of jewlery and maybe one of your hoodies or something with a note that says " i hope that when you wear these you'll think of me.
let me know what you think
lots of love,lizzie

Q: hii well I haven't had my period in about 2 months =\... and my friend who is pregnant (Marlene) and told my friend katie who told me that when she got her period and it ended it about 2 days later something like that, she ended up being pregnant afterwards.. which is weird. and she said that its like you get your period for the last time.. is this true, because I'm pretty scared, and when my friend marlene was pregnant she didn't puke or anything.. and that's how I'm feeling.. I feel dizzy at points and have huge stomach pains.. (boob pains)... but idk if thats normal or maybe I'm getting it soon... idk please help! what do yout think? is this fact true?!?

Thanks so much.
you should get a test you could be pregnant or you could be exspriencing mind over matter which is when you have it in your mind that your pregnant or you maybe are that your body is tricking itself into having these symptoms. it's happened to my friend before.
let me know how it all works out'
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I Get headaches when i come. it doesnt matter if its with my girlfriend or if i masterbate. it all seemed to start shortly after i had hit my head snowboarding, but it could just be a coincidence. the pain is sometimes in the back of my head or in my eye socket. i don't have a headache prior to sex but right after i come, POW, shooting pain. what do you think? help before i come again.
ok i think that your headaches probably are because of your accident and you could probably stop them with some tylenol a little before sex that should stop them from popping up . and hey if that dosn't work i would find something else. sex is something your suppost to look forward to and you cant have headaches messing that up for you

Q: Well, ive known this guy for years but ive never really been great friends with him, a "hello" in the corridors at school is as much of a friendship we have. The other day he added me on msn instant messenger and he was talking to me and flirting, he asked me if i wanted to go for a walk with him, i said i was busy (which was true) and i was sorry. I dont know if he was asking me out or just being friendly. I dont know if i like him like that either. ( we are both 16)

What should i do if he asks me out?

Please help!!
first i would send him a message when he is online and say " how about that walk now " and then go for a short walk and get to know him a little more. that way if he asks you out you will know if you two would be good for each other
let me know what you think
lots of love,lizzie

Q: There are two really cute guys that like me and i like them but I cant decide!!! There both friends and on the same team my friends say go for the cuter one and my other friends say who you like more, but i dont know who!!! And worst of all i'm a cheerleader so i see them after school and cheer for them both how can i know who to pick.
i would say you should pick the one you would be able to spend more time with. sure the one may be cute, but you cant base a relationship on looks. also pick the one who you think you would be able to talk to more. you dont want a guy who is always busy and cant fit you in.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love
lizzie

Q: When a guy goes to second base and is feeling your boobs, is he getting something out of it or doing it for you?
i think they try to make it be for you but they mostly get something out of it

Q: okay me and this guy were going to hook up in the summer?but he said to wait till school started.eventually it started and we didnt talk as much as we used to..should i tell him how i feel or just wait for him?
i think telling him would be a good idea. afterall, why should you have to sit around and wonder ?
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I got highlights in my hair about three months ago. Now, I want my hair all one color and am opting for a medium brown color. Would my highlights turn a funky orange colors or something if I put box dye over them to make my hair a uniform color? Thanks!
definitly if u do them by yourself but the hair salons could do it just like you want

Q: ok well I've had a crush on this kid and then it turned into me liking him. but from the first time we talked he told me he had a girlfriend and I was ok with that because just being friends with him would be ok for now. but then I one day he told I'd he liked me and then I just thought that he would break up with her for me. he said that he liked me but he likes her alot too. I mean I know were just sophomores in highschool but I don't know. I'm really confused because he's like the nicest guy ever and he doesn't play with girls but I just feel like giving up on this. she's a freshman but he talks to me all the time and tells me I'm cute and that he really wants to hang with me and when I asked him if this was all a joke he said I do like u, let me put it this way if I wasn't dating my gf right now I would be dating you. and I think that means he wants to date me in the near future. but I just don t want to get my hopes up and then he never breaks up with her. I need big time advice on what to do!!!!!!!!! HELP PLEASE!!!!!!
well i would still hang out with him and everything like you have been but you cant just wait around for him. just because he said those things dosnt mean he is planning on breaking up with her girlfriend for you . if there is anyone else who caught your eye i would date them maybe they could end up being mr.perfect you never know. but as for your friend if he breaks up with her then i say go for it , just dont wait around for something that could possibly never happen

Q: I need some help in trying to gain back a friend. Our history is pretty, well very, complicated.

About 2 years ago we dated, only for 3 weeks but still. Then we broke up and he promised that we'd "still be friends". Except, much to my dismay, he actually meant it. And our friendship grew from there. We became even closer. Then he sorta started ignoring me for no reason. Then that stopped and we talked again. Then we made a mistake....we hooked up. So up until about 3 months ago, it was continuous hooking up + remaining close friends, then fighting, then not talking, then hooking up again, then fighting, then not talking. Then in February we had a huge fight that pretty much ended it all. Until a few weeks later, when we actually started talking again. Despite all the messiness and our huge fight, we were able to put that all behind us and have at least some semblance of a friendship again. The last time I saw him was on St. Paddy's Day, and things were pretty good between us. We talked a little after that and he even (in his own way) seemed kinda sorry and remorseful for the way he had been acting. Then one night I was talking to him online, and he gave me an attitude and he has been ignoring me ever since.

I left out a lot of the details of stuff that went down between us throughout all those times, but it's just too much to get into. And I'm not looking for reasons as to why he's ignoring me or why he does the things he does, because I don't even think he knows that. His ignoring me is most likely because he's moody and goes through weird phases of who he hangs out with and who he associates himself with. He's done this before, but we've gotten over it before. And I know the past has been rocky and hooking up always changes things, but I don't understand why it's IMPOSSIBLE to be friends again. I've had feelings for him for a long time, but I'm not interested like that anymore. I just want him as a friend again, because I really honestly miss the good friendship that we had.


Now, before anyone says "just get over him, he's not worth it" or "it can't be done, its way past being friends again", just be advised that I know that. And I've heard that before (hell, even from myself). But I guess I'm stubborn and I just refuse to believe that it's completely out of the question to be friends again. I'm totally willing to put all of the ugliness of our past behind us and just look to the future and toward the possible good times.

So what I want to know is:
- What's a good way of at the very least attempting a friendship again?
- How do you get someone to stop ignoring you (like what would be a good thing to say?)
- How do you make someone reason with you in this situation?


Ok...that's all that I can think of for now...


Thanks in advanceee =)
i think that a good way to get him to listen and gain him back at the same time would be to write him a letter explaining why you would like to be friends again. the chances of him ignoring a letter is not very likely. what could giving it a try hurt ?
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: About two weeks ago I asked a girl out who I was very close with. She said she didn't know yet and that she would like to hang out more first. We have been hanging out ever since almost every day even though we both work and have other responsibilities, we have made time in the day. For the past few days all of our friends have been telling me to ask her out again. I'm not sure what to do. Is the a certain period of time to wait before asking again? Since the first time I asked in kind of an extravagant way should i do something better this time? Is there anything she will do to let me know she's ready now?
well when your hanging out you may notice that she is paying ore attention to you then she did before . i think that you should wait until you have been hanging out for a month since you last asked her and if it has allready been a month then i dont see why you shouldnt ask her again. just be carefull how you ask so she doesnt think you are desperate.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I'm really passionate about singing, but I know I have a long way to go.
Here is my YouTube account:
http://www.youtube.com/user/lisaxbexloco

If anyone could suggest some songs to sing, so that I can be more open to other music styles...I would appreciate that greatly!
taylor swift-our song
celine dion-my heart will go on
hilary duff-fly
taylor swift-teardrops on my guitar
george strait-i cross my heart

let me know if you liked any
lots of love,lizzie

Q: were can you go for cheers on the internet
google is an amazing thing for searching for "cheers"

Q: Today is Friday July the eleventh. On July the fourth i was with my boyfriend at his lake house. We took the boat out, and did some stuff in the water. However it was not sex, and i was still wearing my bathing suit. He was not. Basically he rubbed his dick all over my bathing suit clad vagina. I don't know if he cummed or not, but im assuming he did. He also fingered me right before that. I was supposed to get my period yesterday, and it hasnt come. My boyfriend thinks im overreacting, but im a bit concerned. He says that there is no way i could be pregnant, but im still unsure. I am regular with my period, Im a junior in highschool now, and i was regular since the day i got it in fifth grade. Can somebody please tell me whether i am overreacting or is there really a possibility of me being pregnant. I have decided that if i dont get my period in the next week i will take a pregnancy test and decide what to do from there.

I would really appreciate help.
the pregnancy test next week is a good idea but there is about a 3 percent chance you are pregnant so to ease your mind take the test but you are most likely not

Q: Alright.
How can a guy tell if a girl is fake moaning or if its real? I've been wondering this.
i have never met a guy that coul ha ha but there allways so worried your having a good time that they dont notice
lots of love,trisha

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lizzielovesyou
hey guys whats up im Lizzie .i love to give people advice and i sometimes need to ask others for advice if i dont know what to do .the most important thing i want everyone to know is that they shouldnt be ashamed to ask others for advice.it will get you far if u ask questions.im not here to tell people how to live there lives,im just here to help .so if u ever need advice or just want to make a friend im allways hear .hope to hear from u soon ,
lots of love,lizzie

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