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so i'm a freshman in college and i have noo idea what i want to major in. business is definetly out. and i don't want to do something that will be super hard in college, i want to have some kind of life. right now i'm in pre-nursing but i don't know if i'm gonna stick with it cause its super hard to get into. i think psychology is interesting and criminalogy, but i couldn't be a psychologist because i'm not really a people person and i don't wanna deal with crazy people lol. i like hands on stuff and i hate just sitting behind a desk/computer for my whole job. can anyone help mee?

Pretty much all of the challenging courses are the ones that have the majority of hands-on activities. What I always recommend to people who cant seem to figure out what they wanna major in. Just major in something simple. Like English or Mathematics. But for right now, dont stress, your just a freshman.

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So I'm still hurting over this guy that I dated like three months ago... we dated for seven months, he broke my heart and I'm still not like over it! I wanna move on so bad, to find a new guy. But the first guy I liked I just stopeed being interested in. I had a spree of liking all sorts of guys scattered around, intertwining into eachother for about two months. I kind of got involved with one guy, but he's bad news so I gave up. This last guy I really liked amd had been texting for a few weeks but he all of the sudden stopped texting me and I heard he has a thing with this other girl... it could not be true tho IDK. After the end of all the guys, I always find myself wanting my ex back. And it hurts so bad... I don't understand. I suddenly just start missing him like crazy. I cry for about two hours and I can't sleep. He really hurt me... I just don't know what to do. My ex was bad for me. Bad bad bad. I can't go back to him. he likes this new girl and I can't help but compare her to me. She has to be better than me in some way right? Or he'd want me and not her. He's hasn't ever asked to have me back. There;s just a lot of hurt still left over from that relationship. Things he's tried to apologize for but I didn't let him. I just want to be happy. I'm so sick of being sad over him. He hurt me and I can't seem no matter how hard I try to forget it. Its been three months! we only dated for seven. Every other five munutes I think about him, and I swear to God, that is not an exageration. Not one tiny bit. It doesn't help that I see him every day at school. with the new girl. PLEASE help me. I am fifteen female

Your major problem here is the psychology of the matter. You haven't forgiven him, which is why you cant move on. What you need to do to forget and move on is forgive him for what he's done to you. Once you break the emotional barriers and is able to do that. You need to come to conclusion that there is a very slim chance of you and him getting back together. If he was still single like you are now, maybe he would be feeling the same and I could tell you to go for it. But because he's moved on, it shows that he has no real concern for how you feel, and he's moved on to someone new, and has forgotten about you. I dont know the severity of the problem, but 7 months can be a lot of time for someone your age. Your not emotionally ready for another relationship so stop trying to find someone new. Time is key. Forgive and forget. Whats making the situation more difficult is that you see him everyday with the new girl and you clearly get "jealous". Its natural. But when the day comes that your jealousy wears off and your ready to actually move on. Thats the moment when your ready to start seeing other people. Good Luck

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what jobs are hiring 15 year olds in springfield illinois

No one can answer that for you, your best bet is to find out on your own. If I were you I would search for a job at your age as being mainly a store clerk somewhere. Like maybe a clothing store, or food store. Cause at your age all your going to be able to do is something part time so your ability to work is EXTREMELY limited.

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My best friend and I have been friends since third grade. I am a girl and he is a boy, we are both 16. I feel like I have a fairy tale friendship with this boy. We had our own little posse in third grade, it was him, me and two gay boys. We were always together in school. Then they two boys moved away leaving just me and this boy who has now grown to be one of my best guy friends. I can trust him with anything. I like him always being there because girls are catty and start drama all the time, being friends with this boy assures me that my secrets are actually safe with him. Every time I'm down, I text him and he would make me feel so much better, all the time. When I got into a fight with an ex friend of mine over her calling me fake, he said I wasn't at all and he hadn't a clue as to where she got that idea. My friend isn't the most confident person you'd meet so I always try to help him feel better whenever he's down and give him little ego boosts. He knows everything about me, bands I like, my favorite color, how I like to do my hair, my best friends name that goes to another school. We talk allll the time, whether it's in school or out of school, texting. We text all the time as well about nonsense. I would always text him with the intention of finding something out but then we would talk for four more hours after that about God knows what. Whenever I have trouble on homework or I need him to help me study for a test, I'll text him and he'll ask what question I'm on and he'll help me out so much that I understand everything for the rest of the chapter. My friend sings, he writes songs and plays them on his guitar.. he can't sing for me, though ): he sang in front of a crowd at a party, he wrote a song and sang it to the last girl he liked, yet he can't sing for me. Why is that? Every time I make a plan for him to come over and have a jam sesh, he bails.. reschedules.. then bails again. He also wears one of my silly bandz and I bring him in his favorite pack of crackers, and he eats them everyday at lunch. He goes to parties quite frequently, but when I go, he asks whose it is. A few days ago, I texted my friend that his buddy was complaining about how hungry he was and my friend texted me back asking "texting or in person?" Was he trying to subtly ask if I was hanging out with this boy?
Both of our moms think we are going to get married one day.
Everyone thinks we like each other because we're so close and can tell each other everything. I tell them that we are just best friends.
What do you think? And don't answer that I should talk to him about this because when I bring up that everyone thinks we like eachother, he just says "wow.."
Thanks!

Its kinda hard to understand what your asking here. If you need additional advice let me know. But from what im reading it looks like you both have a best friend and emotional connectivity. When I say emotional I mean as more than friends. The way how you give him expectations of singing songs to you like he did his ex, or the way you feel for this guy so strongly seems to go over the limit of best friend and more into an "emotional" state. The way I see it, you need to think to yourself what is it that you REALLY want from your BFF. Do you just wanna be friends all your life. Or do you think that you want a little more possibly someday. What is it that you really want, once you answer that, you know what to do.

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I wore a pair of flats that was a size too small for about 6 hours straight. That night, I came home to find out that my big toe nails have a bruise at the side for both big toe nails. How do i make it go away faster and how long does this last?

Bruises on the toenails typically last a few weeks from my experience. Depending on the severity of the bruising. But, a logical guess to help them go away would be to increase your daily calcium intake. Calcium can help strengthen your nails im sure. Try a couple of glasses of milk everyday.

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18f.

So I lost my virginity about 2 weeks ago. I'm on birth control and he used a condom. But still, the whole time we were having sex I couldn't stop thinking: is the condom still on? did it break?

Just things like that kept running through my mind which sort of killed the moment. Don't get me wrong, it was great but I still couldn't stop thinking about the possibility of something going wrong. Is it always like this? Or do you think it was just because it was my first time having sex?

It was just your first time paranoia of becoming pregnant. Something that you obviously arent ready for is motherhood thats why you were nervous. I believe you should be fine, condoms do break but rarely. If your paranoia is that bad of pregnancy, maybe you should consider not having sex anymore until your ready to take on the risks better of possibly becoming pregnant.

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i got a shot 2 weeks ago and there is still a big bruise around it and every once in a while a little bubble of blood comes out. why is it still doing that after 2 weeks?

You may have a damaged vein or most likely if the shot was done correctly your not covering up the area where you got the shot enough for it to fully heal. If its not covered or patched up well enough any external damage to that area can cause it to stay wounded and not heal. Keep it covered and try rubbing an anti-bacterial ointment on it. Give it about 3 days and if it continues contact your doctor.

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Ok I have never EVER been jealous of a partner's ex before. Except now I have.

In all honesty, I dont even know why I am jealous. I have seen many pictures of her & she isnt ugly, but I wouldnt say shes pretty, she doesnt really make an effort with herself. So I know that its not the looks thing.

In fact I dont know if its jealousy. Id rather be in my situation than hers. But for some reason I couldnt stop looking at pictures of her & my boyfriend together. & im interested in seeing what shes doing now, like if she has a new boyfriend, what shes been up to, looking at her pics etc.

They split about 2 months before we got together & its played on my mind whether he still likes her, they were together for 8 months. My boyfriend denies still liking her but I think he only says that because he doesnt want to admit to it. I know he loved her because I was friends with him & saw them together & he told me he did.

I think its because im quite a competitive person & id hate to feel second best, what do you think? has anyone felt this way before?

Ive been in this situation myself. Your problem is just the nerves of the situation. The key reason why you feel this way is because you were friends with your bf at the same time that he was with her. You heard him say from his own mouth how much he loved her and why. What gets to you is that unlike any other relationship most likely you've never been in one where your bf has been your friend when he was with his ex. You had a chance with your past bf's to just start something new without knowing anything of their past lives. So its easy to go from their without being jealous or even curious of their past life. But because your current bf was your friend while they were together, and you've heard the way he talked of her, Its just hard for you to believe him when he says he doesn't still like her. And it only bothers you because you had knowledge of the sincerity and depth of their relationship. What do you do? Just talk to him and ask him why he loves you, what he tells you should be enough to keep your curiosity of "them" at a minimum.

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18, Female.

This is SO weird, but I'm not complaining :) Just curious.

I've only been fingered twice, nothing else has been in my vagina. Well I get wet really easily, and it's a lot. The first time I had sex, I was SO scared it was going to hurt and it didn't hurt ONE BIT, NOTHING. I was shocked, is this normal? I'm scared if I do it again or something it's going to hurt, but I don't know if it will since it didn't the first time??

And, the guy I had sex with didn't believe I was a virgin. Long story, no I don't regret having sex with him we're friends. But what I'm asking is ..is this a good or bad thing? He knew I was before, told him to be careful with me and he said he would but I know he still didn't believe me. After we had sex and were laying in bed, I said you took my virginity you know that? I was a virgin. He smiled and looked at me and said "No you weren't ;)"

I don't know if I was loose or something, or if I was just good at it? Haha I was wondering, why he still didn't think I was a virgin before I had sex with him. What do you guys think?

He most likely believed you were a virgin when you told him before you two had sexual intercourse but afterwards given the situation that you just described no longer did. My answer to this is that its just normal. I was reading an article about how sex feels different to everyone. The feel of sex can change based on anything. Mood, hunger, thirst, e.t.c. Of course you hear all the time virgins who have sex experience pain, but as normal as it gets, due to certain things in your daily life, the painless feeling you got is just as normal as a virgin experiencing pain her first time. Its different for everyone. Yeah maybe you are just good at it lol.

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There is this guy that i have been going out with for almost 2 months. I like him a lot and we tell each other that we love each other and stuff like that. I think that i really do too bc he's the first guy that i've liked this much and i love practically everything about him, but it is realy hard for me to be the first one to say that i love him. I dont understand why either. Im fine with saying it AFTER he says it but not first. Am i taking this 'love' thing too serious? tell the truth please:-)

This is puppy love. May not seem like it to the two people who are in the relationship but from the outside looking in you are definitely in puppy love. The reason why you feel so awkward telling him you love him first is cause your still uncertain as to either a) If you "truly" mean it yet and/or b) It makes you uncomfortable to say it first because you feel your too early on in the relationship to be feeling this way about someone. Whatever the case may be if this is not puppy love, then you shouldnt feel that way PERIOD. If you truly love this guy the way you say you do then there should be no barrier of thought or emotion holding you back from being the first to say I love you sometimes. If you always have to wait for him to say it before you feel comfortable enough to follow, then that means you have uncomfortability with this guy somewhere deep down inside your heart, and you need to fix it.

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I got an iPod video in December 2007 and it always worked perfectly for a year. Then a few weeks ago when I plugged it into my computer after about 2 months of not updating it a box came up that said 'scan and fix?' and there was 2 options: scan and fix (recommended) or don't scan and fix. This box used to pop up all the time but i would just click don't scan and fix and it would go away, my iPod would appear on the side and sync my music like normal. For some reason, that day when the box came up and i clicked no, the iPod would not come up and it didn't come up in the side column. This had happened before and all i had to do was unplug and replug the iPod a few times, so I did that, and nothing changed, so i took it out and gave up. The next time I tried to use my iPod I would click on a song and it said it was playing (the play button was shown on the top), but the time bar wasn't moving at all and no sound was coming out. i had full battery and it wasn't my headphones because i tried multiple different ones. my iPod didn't make any sound when i put it in my iHome either. I've been trying to fix this for a few weeks but nothing has changed. I heard from someone who this had happened to before (the not playing sound thing) that all i had to do was restore my iPod. But that means that when the iPod connected to my iTunes and showed up in the left column, i would click restore. My only problem was that the iPod never connected, all that happened was the 'scan and fix' box would come up and if i clicked no nothing would happen, and if i clicked yes, a smaller box would come up for a little and a green bar would move across it (like something was being loaded), but then nothing would happen when it was done. I have searched all over the web and tried things they've told me to do to get the iPod to show up in the left column on my iTunes when i connected it, like pressing menu and hold and then opening iTunes and things like that. But nothing ever happened, always just the box. I know that all i need to do fix the not playing sound thing is to click 'restore' , but now my only problem is the scan and fix box coming up and my iPod not connecting, so it is impossible for me to do that. The iTunes website was no help for me at all, some forums were even more helpful than that, so please don't recommend looking there or anywhere else on the internet, because I already have. I have a hp laptop with windows vista and i already have a backup cd for my iTunes because i know that restoring could erase everything. My iTunes works fine on my computer (i can download music, listen to it, etc.). If anyone knows how to fix this problem, could you please give me step-by-step instructions on what to do? Is it necessary for me to take my iPod to the Apple store in order for it to be fixed? or is there something i can do on my own computer, with my iPod. and if this has happened to anyone else please let me know and tell me what you did. thanks!

You messed your Ipod up there is no way of fixing it now
When your computer recommends next time that you "Scan and Fix" any Plug-In device next time
Just let your computer scan it and fix it, because it will save your device in the long run
Obviously your computer pciked up a virus from within your Ipod and tried to fight it off for you but you wouldnt allow it
Most likely the virus came from an illegally downloaded song, such as if you download your songs from limewire or any other free music download sites
or maybe from uploading too many "un-scanned" videos into your Ipod
my advice in order to try and save your device
Quickly find a way to have your computers security software scan your Ipod through the USB cable, if it fins a threat have your computer remove it
If you cant run a security scan through your Ipod its too late sorry

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Alright, I am 13/f and he is 14/m. To be blunt, I am CRAZY about him, but I can never tell how he feels about me. Sometimes I feel like he's truely into me, but other times its just confusing. Sometimes its like we are just friends. Sometimes its like we are pretty much a couple that isn't dating. And then there are times when I feel like he's just playing with me. Not the kind of playing where its like, flirt with you then go off and flirt with another girl, no, not at all. Haha, actually, I think I'm the only girl he talks to on a regular basis. Anyway, the kind of playing I'm talking about is the mess with your emotions. Its where i think he only talks to me because he is bored, or he gets a laugh out of teasing and messing with me. It seems like everytime I snap out of my lovidoviness to confront him about our little relationship-rollercoastet, he develops an uncanny ability to sweet talk me, make me adore him, and confuse me more before I even get an answer, because of this, I never know where we stand on the relationship scale. He says he doesn't want a girlfriend right now but sometimes it feels like we might as well be dating! He gets kind of protective of me when other boys get a little carried away with their pervertedness. And it sometimes feels like he gets a little jelous when I talk about other boys. But then other times it feels like he doesn't even care about me! My main questions are:
1. How is he so good at keeping me confused?
2. Is he trying to keep me confused? Or am I just imagining it?3. If he is trying to confuse me, why would he do that? If he isn't trying to confuse me, then what is he doing?
4. How can I be SNEAKY to find out how he REALLY feels about me without him knowing that I am?
5. Is this all just a game to him???

Yes it is a game to him for several reasons and I'm not going to lie to to you I will however make this as brief as possible

He thinks its a game becauase he says he doesnt want a girlfriend rite now yet he DOES PLAY like her cares for u when he really doesnt
I know he doesnt care for you because if he did, than he would allow you to date him
He is justing playing the role and that is what makes you confused
Dont fall for it the only reason he plays like he's jealous when other guys talk about you is because he's mad he knows he can have you but he doesnt want you he's just playing the role like i said
dont fall for it any longer
if u wanna find out if he really cares about you or not
determine an ultimatum meaning tell him that if he cares for you than you guys should date and if he still denies to date u, than tell him your moving on, if he tries and stop you and changes his mind to date you thasn he cares about you, if he lets you go and does not change his mind to date you than he was jus playin with your emotions

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For the past week, maybe less ... I've been having wierd dreams about this guy who said he liked me, I said I liked him, and then like a couple days later he goes out with his ex girlfriend. well they've been going out for like 3 weeks now, and I don't know if it's the fact that it's valentines day and I'm not his girlfriend, but my dreams are always INVOLVING HIM. And I wake up wishing that they were real, although it's never about him breaking up with his girlfriend, I always want him to in the dream, but he never it does. They're all basically about getting him to notice me and trying to tell him how I feel and how he hurt me and that I still like him. [right now we've been ignoring eachother for countless weeks] In my drea last night I made a poem thing [I write poems and stories] and I remember bits and pieces of it. He was standing infront of me in a gray suit, black tie, and white undershirt. I was like looking at him from the ground. It seemed like I was lower than him, I don't know. But I was saying a poem to him, it was something like not wearing me as a coat and that I won't be the heart on his sleeve and something about how he can't do that to me, and how can he not see...
I don't know. But I seriously need to know why this is happening now. I can't get him off my mind. Like, we just stopped poking eachother on facebook, his girlfriend is OPENLY flirting with this guy on facebook wall to wall. I just don't know what to make of my dreams or any of this? please help me figure this out!!!!

I'm going to tell you from personal experience and something that just happened to me that relates to you EXACTLY

Just a couple of weeks ago I felt that I fell in love with a girl that goes to my school, I couldnt stop thinking about her, her fatal attraction, and how i dreamed of her evey night and wished that those dreams were true. Where we had a family and loved each other and what-not, than eventually I got over it I relaized that it was only PUPPY-LOVE and it happens very often to next to everyone I know.

When I see her in the halls I always try and do my best to get her to notice me but she never does and it upsets me and I'm still trying to get over her but every time I try to it seems next to impossible for me to stop trying to get her to notice me

And this is what is happening to you correct?

You feel that you CANNOT go without this person
And you may be right because I'm in the same situation as you
But just let time fly and believe me eventually the urge to be with him with de-tensify (dont know if thats a real word or not)
You wont get over him TRUST ME no matter how hard you try but you will find a way to deal wth it believe me this is something that you must do for yourself and advice cant fix

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17/F

I have known "Ashley" as an acquaintance for a couple of years. Last semester, we had an art class together, and we gossiped and talked a lot because we didn't know anyone else. I was never really close to her at all. However, at the beginning of the semester, I was very kind to her and invited her to hang out once in a while. I don't know how it happened, but now she won't leave me alone!

For instance, I invited her to my friend's swim meet, and she keeps calling it 'our thing' and she acts as if it had always been our thing (even though i used to go alone). She's constantly inviting herself to places with me. Like, today I had a movie date with my best guy friends, and she tagged along without bothering to ask any of us. I don't mind, but sometimes I'd like to bond with my best friends and when she feels left out, she mopes and tries to drag me around and play the pity card when she shouldn't have invited herself in the first place. My guy friends are getting annoyed with her too, because she's constantly trying to be their friend and tries too hard. One of them said, "It's actually creepy how much she tries/wants to be like you." She also has crazy mood swings and when she feels left out, she thinks everyone's out to get her and that everyone's being bitchy towards her (when in actuality it's more of a "don't tell everyone someone's private business" sort of thing)

I'm getting SO annoyed, but i don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but she is not giving me enough space and I feel suffocated, and I'd hardly consider her a close friend.

I will give u the best advice that i can

Don't let her run your social life seriosuly
This is the est advice I believe anyone can give you
I'm sure that talking to her won't help at all because of the way you describe her to be

The best to do is to take ACTION

Tell her that she's been pushing a bit too far and you need your space and that its not that you dont like her, jus that you need time to yourself when you feel like it and thats not what she's giving you

If all else fails just ignore her, any time she comes to you in person, just do your best to shrug her off, she may think your mean and she may be right, but at least she'll pick up the hint and leave you alone for good

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18,female.
i've always had a good relationship with my parents, they do trust me and we're probably closer than most parents and teenagers are. i can talk to my mom about alot of stuff but there is one thing i can't talk to either one of them about and that is sex, and being sexual. they know i'm on birth control, my mom went with me to get it but i went on it to control my periods and they also know i'm a virgin (i hope they still believe me) well anyways a couple weeks ago my dad caught me doing something he probably didn't want to see, and that was me in my bra with my best guy friend. they both love this kid, but they thought we were just best friends. well i tried to cover it up, but my dad knew exactly what was going on. now we were not having sex or really doing anything sexual we were just messing around with each other and cuddling but i've never had a boyfriend before so they think i have no interaction with boys, at least in a physical state. well he talked to me about it that night and was like i don't care if you mess around with him, just be smart about it and i was like i know dad i'm not stupid!! well i would hope this awkward situation would be put in the past but today i was driving with my mom and we were sort of fighting and then she brought up how i should go see the doctor, well i want to, to ask them about my birth control and make sure everything is okay and she was like maybe you should get a papsmear and i was like NO! i don't want to, doesn't it hurt? and we were talking about it and she was like you can start getting them when your 18 but usually if your sexually active, and then she said "but i know dad said you and nick (my best friend) were "fooling around"" and i was like yeah mom we are having sex, being sarcastic and she was like well maybe he gave you cooties then i was like whatever. AWKWARD!!! it's just annoying that they assume i'm doing this sort of thing. i think it's cool that they don't really care if i do things like this or not just as long as i'm smart and safe but i hate talking about it because it's not what it seems. me and this guy haven't like done anything but i don't think my dad beleives me no matter what i say because yeah what would you think if you saw your daughter with a boy in her bra when you came home? i just don't know what to do!! it's not that i want to stay a virgin until i'm married, i'm just waiting for that right guy and they always bring up how i don't have a boyfriend, which also gets on my last nerve. they put me down when they talk about it, like i'm not good enough for any boy because they say "i'm too needy, and all i care about is myself and no wonder why i don't have a boyfriend" which makes me feel so good about myself..yeah...

well any suggestions would be well appreciated thank you so much.

Parents are always going to make you feel like that, they're your parents, there's nothing to give you advice on except try to feel more comfortable about talking to your parents about sex....

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okay. so why does it seem like all guys are douche bags???


and how do you really know if a guy is flirting with you? i mean i know somethings for like if you talk to the guy a lot. but like for a guy that you talk to some, how do you know that he's flirting with you?

help? =[.

1) They often stare at you ALOT. 2) They will give you a smile, or hello every now and than. 3) They will repeatedly try and strike up conversation about ANYTHING any chance they get. 4) If they are shy, they will most likely wait on you to make the first move. 5) They will often attempt to compliment you any chance they can get and also try and get to know you better, ask when is your birthday, your favorite color. 6) Will often make a fool of themselves in front of you, or attempt to act cool, or a class clown, to get your attention.

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ok. so my boyfriend LOVES the pittsburgh, steelers football team. So for christmas i was thinking bout getting him the whole steelers comforter set and a glass case for his signed football. Is that a good idea?

He would definitely love it, it will be something to him from you and at least it shows that you gave him something from the heart... You know? But if it were me I wouldn't give him an entire set, maybe some items here or there, but just imagine having a couch, table and glass set of the steelers, if he were to invite someone over, he'd be thought of as a steelers maniac. So just get him the glass set, I think that shows the he is a fan, and not a maniac that has the whole set.

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17/f

So a few months ago me and my no ex had broke up. It hurt a lot and it still does but im better at dealing with it now... The weird thing is though I feel as if I have no feelings for anyone... Like friendship or anything. I sometimes find myself dreading to hang out with people... Normally Im a very affectionate person and love to get out with people. Im a very social person. All this started happening after the break up. It's weird because Im trying to get out there and im trying to like new people and stuff but it's not working I just feel like no one matters anymore. I tried detaching myself from my ex but I feel like I did with everyone around me too. It's weird....Any ideas about whats up with me?

Your moving too fast, you just broke up and your trying to move on to keep up with your social life when you know your not ready for that yet. I can tell you this, because just today I had my heart broken, and it wasn't pretty. I will tell you though that I got over it in like 3 hours however because I sat in my room for 3 hours just thinking. Thinking until I fell asleep about how I need to get over this person and how I need to find someone more appreciative of me. And I encouraged myself that I was right. So, encourage yourself that your ready to move on, and MOVE ON... but don't move on until your ready to, I know I wasn't ready to move on and when I tried to, it bothered me so much that I cursed my friends out because I was so upset, so don't let that happen to you, make sure that you think before you go out again and straighten out your brain cells, lol... That's what I did and I'm over it. I know that I have someone to fall back on that I know I can love. So please take this advice. I hope I helped

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helllo :) well im 18 yrs old, female and i am a virgin. well when i finger myself i do it in the bath and it always feel like i have to pee! sometimes a little will come out(embarassing) but if i were to have sex would the same feeling happen? i hear your suppose to go to the bathroom BEFORE but what if you cant and don't have to? well thank you !

Well, try at least before you have sex, and if you can't... Well than while your having sex, most likely you'll be able to control it... Another factor is just plain and simple that your doing it in the bath, and with being in so much water your going to have the urge to go, most likely if your in a dry area like a bed, having sex, you won't have that urge.

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what some other stuff i can do other than make out with my bf. no hand job or blow job. like something romantic or something.

LEt's see, you can cuddle, you can talk romantic to one another, talk dirty to one another, I see that you don't want to get sexual so sex wouldn't be a factor. The most I can say is just cuddle and hold hands. There is really nothing much more.

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