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He hurt me and I cant forget it
So I'm still hurting over this guy that I dated like three months ago... we dated for seven months, he broke my heart and I'm still not like over it! I wanna move on so bad, to find a new guy. But the first guy I liked I just stopeed being interested in. I had a spree of liking all sorts of guys scattered around, intertwining into eachother for about two months. I kind of got involved with one guy, but he's bad news so I gave up. This last guy I really liked amd had been texting for a few weeks but he all of the sudden stopped texting me and I heard he has a thing with this other girl... it could not be true tho IDK. After the end of all the guys, I always find myself wanting my ex back. And it hurts so bad... I don't understand. I suddenly just start missing him like crazy. I cry for about two hours and I can't sleep. He really hurt me... I just don't know what to do. My ex was bad for me. Bad bad bad. I can't go back to him. he likes this new girl and I can't help but compare her to me. She has to be better than me in some way right? Or he'd want me and not her. He's hasn't ever asked to have me back. There;s just a lot of hurt still left over from that relationship. Things he's tried to apologize for but I didn't let him. I just want to be happy. I'm so sick of being sad over him. He hurt me and I can't seem no matter how hard I try to forget it. Its been three months! we only dated for seven. Every other five munutes I think about him, and I swear to God, that is not an exageration. Not one tiny bit. It doesn't help that I see him every day at school. with the new girl. PLEASE help me. I am fifteen female
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The relationship "experts" say that it takes the same amount of time to get over a failed relationship as you put into it. So if you dated for 7 months then it will likely take 7 months to get over him. My daughter just got over her boyfriend of one year about two weeks ago. She had been broken up with him for one year exactly. She thought she would never get over him and she was so sad and hurt. But, she did get over him and now she's doing even better. Now she's glad that she moved on and she can look back and see that it really was for the best. Good luck
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Your major problem here is the psychology of the matter. You haven't forgiven him, which is why you cant move on. What you need to do to forget and move on is forgive him for what he's done to you. Once you break the emotional barriers and is able to do that. You need to come to conclusion that there is a very slim chance of you and him getting back together. If he was still single like you are now, maybe he would be feeling the same and I could tell you to go for it. But because he's moved on, it shows that he has no real concern for how you feel, and he's moved on to someone new, and has forgotten about you. I dont know the severity of the problem, but 7 months can be a lot of time for someone your age. Your not emotionally ready for another relationship so stop trying to find someone new. Time is key. Forgive and forget. Whats making the situation more difficult is that you see him everyday with the new girl and you clearly get "jealous". Its natural. But when the day comes that your jealousy wears off and your ready to actually move on. Thats the moment when your ready to start seeing other people. Good Luck
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