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Im in college studying Fashion. Its been almost 4 years since I've been on advicenators.I have to admit this site has changed my world. There were days when I felt that I have the worst life on this planet and no one could be more unhappy than me. But I guess things have changed since I saw the kind of problems people face everyday. Involving myself in solving other people's problems makes me feel great. I feel like I've grown up. I am a 20 year old girl who has experienced a lot in life. Giving advice by those experiences makes me feel a better human at the end of the day. Its like stopping people from making the mistakes I have made. It's great!
So let me know if you have any problems and I will surely help you...
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anyone know the song playing in the background?
http://stickam.com/viewMedia.do?mId=178014394 (link)
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It's Ayo Technology by 50 cents feat. Justin Timberlake :D
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i wrote to you earlier today about my troubles im 17 and im a male and ive lost trust in my girlfriend we have been together for 2 years she cheated on me in an early point of our relationship when she cheated our relationship was fine no arguments we were okay but as i said i happened along time ago i forgave her it doesnt bother me any more im an understanding person after the initial shock i was ok but recently she went on a trip with her friends i was ok with it but while she was gone i realized i dont trust her i dont think she would cheat on me i just get that filling in my stomach and then i think what if i mean i know she loves me and she knows i love her but if i fill like that when she goes away it could become a problem for both of us i just need to know if you have some advice on how to get my trust in her back (link)
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There isn't a sure shot remedy for this... What I think is you should just try and talk to her about it.. Its only when she assures you that she is never gonna do it again will you ever be at peace... But dont just storm at her... When you two are alone, tell her that you love her more than anything else and that your priority in life is her happiness. Then tell her that you feel really uneasy when she goes away coz you think you might lose her again the way you lost her when she dwindled in the relationship previously (don't use words like cheated and trust)... Then tell her never to leave you ever again... And say mushy stuff like that. Trust me, its all gonna get sorted.
XO
DS89
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ive been with my girlfriend for two years and i love her to death im 17 and im a male she cheated on me once but i forgave her but recently she went away for a couple of days to hang out with some friends of hers i was ok with it but while she was gone i realized i dont trust her anymore but i still love her and to me trust is a very important thing in a relationship i dont know why i dont trust her anymore i think it probably has something to do with her cheating on me but i just need some advice on what i should do to get my trust in her back (link)
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Hey!
First of all, trust is really very important in a relationship. I have gone through a lot of issues in this in my previous relationship. I used to fight with my guy a lot and cry my eyes out and accuse him of cheating me... But he never really gave it any importance and continued going out with other girls because I used to whine so much when he would call and he was so bugged with me. After a point, I realised that, I was making a complete FOOL of myself. I had got obsessed about him being ALL MINE and all that. So I let myself ease up a bit thinking less about my "obsession" and spending more time with my friends and other guy friends...And soon enough, he started thinking why I was all normal all of a sudden. He actually started going out with me when I went to meet my guy friends and hung out with me more often.
You have been with her for 2 years...That’s a lot in these times. You know her mentality pretty well now. What was your situation when she cheated? Were you completely normal? Or were you going through a rough patch? Are you in the same situation now? I don't think so...
You say you love her. That is a very strong word. So don’t compromise on your relationship because of one mistake she made. Try and love her as much as you can so that she doesn’t get an excuse next time...
Also, try not to think about it so much...Give her the space she needs. You too may have friends, hang out with them, have a nice guy time and talk about guy things...Meet new girls (as friends).. This will help you to think about other things.
When you say you have forgiven her, forgive her entirely. Don’t let bits and pieces of the past eat you up coz later on it can be a big thing.
Do mail me again so I can know how it’s going. I wish you the best, bud...
XO
DS89
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I have never had a boyfriend, nor have I felt the desire. I wanted to wait , until I was mature, ready. Last week, at a party, I met a guy. I just loved him, maybe not loved him, but wow.
I never like guys, but this was different. He had all the qualities, I really liked him.
My best friend, HAD a boyfriend at the time. They were going though a rocky patch.
A couple of days after , my best friend's relationship ended. She was PRETTY gutted. She said to me, I still love him. The guy I met invited her round (cos he did get to know her, as well) and he turned round and kissed her. She didnt stop it - obviously I know she was on the rebound - BUT she didn't even like him - I mean she was making little remarks about him during the party.
He said to her, that he really liked her. And now they are going out. WTF.
I am so hurt, I can't even breath. My friend doesnt know I've fallen for him, and now, they're happy together. I am so gutted, it hurts so bad, the first guy i like and I'm already been knocked down. I spoke to him and he was saying all this stuff about how happy they are and I had to sit there and smile.
& I have to be a best friend to her. I am not going to say I've fallen for him, when she's going out with him and she's on the rebound. But it hurts so bad because, well this is no jealousy issue she gets what she wants. I am second best against her(not as intelligent,pretty etc) that DOESNT bother me, because I know I am still a good person :) I am totally secure.
But she gets everything, and it's just lie YOU HAD A BOYFRIEND, why for once? Couldnt I get the guy? I've never felt this attraction, and now. It's over.
The whole gang go out together all the time, I have to sit there and be happy for them.
God, I''ve been crying. I never cry.
How do I get over this? I mean, what advice do you give me?
I Still wanna hang out with the gang - just because my best mate and him are there doesnt mean I should stop hanging out and dodging them. I should be happy for them, I should support her right no matter how much it hurts me, right? (link)
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I can’t help but feel sad for you... You sound like a very strong girl. But, sweetie, sometimes you feel like your second best. But that's not true. You are an individual who for the first time liked someone. But he just couldn't be yours. Not this time at least. Think about it this way: Maybe its just not supposed to happen right now. Maybe some other guy is probably waiting right now for someone special and it could be you..
I say stick around with your gang. Get used to seeing those two because I know, for one thing, it might just ease the pain. Don’t compromise out on your happiness. And don't try and avoid the boy to get out of your misery. Think of him as just another guy. Try and be his best friend. One day he might just be yours. This is your first heartbreak. It's gonna suck big time! You won’t forget it. But at least you will learn from your experience.
I'm not trying to be preachy...But I actually felt really sad reading about your problem...
XO
DS89
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Is there a good way to lose weight in the face and neck? cuz I have a really chubby face and neck. any advice?
chubby cheeks 21/f (link)
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Ok, this might sound funny/embarrasing... You might even laugh doing it... But it worked for me and its the only one I know of:
Look towards the ceiling. Then say (or mouth) "Oooh" and "Aaah" alternatively. Make sure your neck muscles stretch as much as you can make them. Tilt your head sideways to work the other areas.
I hope I helped... :)
XO
DS89
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hm; i wanna change the way
i put on my eyeliner to make
my eyes pop i have black eye
liner and my eye change from
blue to green to grey so how
can i shape it so it looks
different and it pops? &
most of all so it looks
pretty (: please help.
thanks (link)
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Ok, I used this technique using a black waterproof Kohl (Loreal, Revlon). Just gently pull your eyelids a little back with your finger and line the kohl on the part under the lashes. It looks like you have eyeliner but its not on visible your lids. Then you line the kohl on the lower lids. And dont forget the 2 coats of mascara. This thing really makes your eyes look dramatic...
Another thing I do is use a light colour liner on the top (Aqua marine blue, Silver, Forest Green, Purple) and use the darker version of the same colour on the lower lids (Deep blue, Hunter green, Deep Purple). This makes the eyes stand out.
Yet another way is to use a light shadow as the base(Silver, Gold, White, Beige, Aquamarine blue) and then line your eyes with a black liner and your on your lower lids. When you apply the liner on the lower lids, start madway till the outer edge instead of going all the way. Makes your eyes pop out.
Hope I helped...
XO
DS89
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im a dark skinned girl. like hispanic, indian dark. and i want to get eye shawdow that will stand out and look good on me and cheap. like walmart any ideas? (link)
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You should try metallic green..The dark one...(Its my fav) Or The metallic eggshell, Deep purple, Black (always classy)...You can also use an aquamarine eyelier-it always looks great! Gold will look grat provided its not overdone. For a more casual look, opt for matte eyeshadows in brown.
The brands you should try- Revlon, L'oreal (the best range) and Maybelline (decent stuff)...
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can you give me steps to curl hair like either one of these pics
i use a curling iron- 1"
http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e151/hip9314/prom-hair2.jpg
http://i39.photobucket.com/albums/e151/hip9314/wavy-and-curly-hairstyles.jpg (link)
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Step1-Begin by applying a styling gel, mousse or styling spray to clean, damp hair and blow dry until completely dry. Your curls will form better and last longer with the aid of good quality hair products.
Step2-Clip your hair back in multiple sections. Release one section and brush or comb it to remove any knots or tangles. Spray lightly with a soft-hold hairspray if your hair is very fine and doesn't hold curls well.
Step3-Begin with the undersection of your hair, working your way up to the top. Twist a small section of your hair with your hands for spiral curls, or take a flat, larger section for loose curls.
Step4-Open the curling iron by pressing the lever and insert your hair. Close the curling iron barrel on your hair, making sure that all of the ends of that section are completely enclosed in the barrel.
Step5-Roll the iron up and hold it for about 10 seconds.
Step6-Open the curling iron and release the curls. Proceed with other sections until all areas have been curled.
Step7-Flip your head and shake out the curls, then style your hair with your fingers.
Step8Spray with a light hold hair spray to keep your curls in place. For humid climates use a humidity resistant hair spray.
And your done!!
Also you can watch videos on youtube which show how you can curl your hair to have a clearer idea...!!
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Hi i'm 15 and a girl. you see when i was 13 i met this guy and really fell hard but i never told him how i felt and eventually i got into a different relationship and moved on and he started dating a friend of mine and we got close as friends. Recently his relationship ended like HARD it really hit him. you know how first break ups are and she wouldnt just leave him she'd still flirt and send mixed messages. I stopped being her friend and spent all my time helping him and such. these past two days he told me he was depressed and really just wanted to do something physical with anyone really to possibly distract him. He asked me first if i wanted to just basically make out and such without the relationship part. but you see i'm in a relationship now with another guy so i kinda said no. However now i cant stop staring at him and just wondering what it would be like to kiss him just once and etc. Today we were waiting outside an office to get some forms signed and he was really flirting. he stepped on my shoes one on top of the other and i was like 'stop i'll fall' all giggly and he was like 'not if i catch you.' and he put his arms around me and gently tried to knock me back and he was so close my heart was racing so hard. and now i've like not been attrated to my current boyfriend at all but i would hate to hurt him cause he tried so long and hard to get me and i just dont know what to do....help (link)
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Look, i do not think it is a good idea to get physical with this guy if your a girl with sensitivity issues, coz then u might just get hooked onto him. But if you feel you can stop your emotions from moving forward, do it. It will stop your curiosity. But then there might be consequences like if he turns out to be better than your bf, you might not be attracted to your bf. Then not only will you lose your bf, this guy wil not be with you coz he's already said that he doesnt want a relationship.
Whatever you do, think of its consequences. If I were in your place I would have stuck to my bf, and tried to make the other guy less important in my life.
Best of Luck, Sweetie...
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where do i go about finding out what brand this is/where to get it?
(not an imitation but the same exact)
shes at The Grove with her bf Justin Gaston on November 15, 2008
http://mileycyrusfever.com/Portals/39/Gallery/Album/4084/normal_004.jpg
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I think that dress is a gucci dress. i have seen a simmiliar print on a gucci dress.
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OKay...umm can you get pregnant from dry sex....i mean if the guy his has penis out but the girl was wearing underwear AND pantyhose...my friend told me that her bf didn't ejaculate but h di earlier when she gave him a handjob but it went in the toilet...then like 10-15 mins later they did the whole penis showing/underwear & panty hose thing.
Please answer she's FREAKED OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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No you cant get pregnant. People try for years to have a baby and there has to be an intercourse for that. The chances are 1 in 99, hun.
Best of luck!
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visiting someone i don't know in waking life but i did in the dream they were dying,they didn't die in the dream he was in a hospital bed though but not in a hospital,and it was comforting i even recall laughing in the dream
what could this mean??
also,i was texting my friend in the dream,and suddenly she rejected me saying through text:
uh c (a bunch of random letters)
i could never love you that way
but i said i don't love you any way
and idk it was wierd
could this mean something also (link)
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I have analysed my own dreams for a few years so i can probably help you. Sometimes you do see people you might meet in the future/someone you knew in your past life. Not neccesarily in a hospital though. The fact that he/she didn't die signifies that you almost lost someone (divorce, death, break up etc.) but you saved it from happening. The hspital signifies your own subconcious body recovering from a blow. You were hurt about something and seeing yourself laughing in a hospital obviously means that you are recovering from it. It does not neccesarily mean hurt mentally. Maybe some kind of pressure was bogging you down and now that the worst is over, your life is finally stable and you're feeling soothed about most of the things in your life.
And the whole text message thing signifies either that you are insecure about your friend or you let yourself get intimidated by her. Thats why you see her rejecting you. And the fact that you replied "I dont love you anyway" means that your trying to cover up your wounded ego beacuse of your intimidation. I'm not trying to sound nasty but this COULD BE what you think in your subonscience. I am not saying this is exactly what it is but, you need to think about it.
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So I downloaded this antivirus thing. and it's really annoying and always pops up and it doesn't work unless you buy it. so its pretty muchc useless. and i can't get rid of it. like i went to "start" and i deleted it from the "programs" and i deleted it from my desktop and it won't go away... lol just right now a stupid thing popped up again saying "your computer is unprotected blah blah blah" its very frustrating and i want it GONE for good.
THank you in advance (link)
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1.Click on the start button.
2.Click on Control Panel.
3.When the window opens, Click on Add/Remove programs.
4.A list of programs will appear.
5.Search for the dumb antivirus shit.
6.Right click and Click Uninstall.
7.Rejoice!!
Now remember the following: Dont download any random antivirus from the web (Its never free anyway)
Buy a good quality anti virus.
If you want to remove any program for ever and ever always do it from the control panel!
Best of Luck...haha
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I am doing a paper on how the freedom to dress as women pleased stressed their liborartion but i need hep,
if anyone can assist me please leave me ur email
really appriciated (link)
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Your question is not clear. However, I presume you are asking about the fashion during the 18th and 19th century.
You should search, www.about.com
I dont remember the exact address but I stumbled upon it. It was something related to 18th and 19th century costumes or Elizabethan costumes.
Search for it there. I'm sure you'll get it.
Best of Luck...
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How do you cope with your life when 80 percent of your friends have decided to just smoke weed all the time? Half of what they even talk about is weed and drugs in general. I'm not an idiot so I'm not going to try it, but how do you deal when your social life is in shambles because I refuse to hang out with them when there are drugs involved?
17/m (link)
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18/f
I am a coward. I left college because half my friends were into coccaine and heroin and I was afraid that I would get into it too. I dont regret not being with my friends. Because I know that when I'll be 25 and a leading fashion designer, they will be in the hospital battling liver faliures, blood cancers and AIDS. I know I could have helped them, by telling the cops under anonimity but I didnt want to be the cause of their lives being ruined. Over time I made friends. Not as many as had in college but definitely better than them. It is better to have just that one good friend with a good nature than have many who are likely to be your friends because you talk about weeds and needles and Coke.
If you really think they are your friends, you have to decide if you have to help them or stay away from them.
Hope I helped.
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Ok my mom just can not see how bad her boyfriend is treating me. And in the end I am the one that ends up looking bad. What do I think. I dont want to tell her but I know if I told her she will probably talk to him about it. Its annoying me. (link)
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Your mom p'bly isn't noticing this because obviously she trusts him too much. If he is treating you badly, you should first go and talk to him about it. Calmly explain to him that you have no issues with him except certain things which really annoy you.
If that doesn't work, i think that you should talk to your mom, i know its annoying but you can always explain to her how YOU should be her first priority. Dont tell her directly that he is treating you bad, but leave hints. Dont say everything in one go. TAke your time.
If all else fails, you know that its no use being a goodie...Let him have it and Take your revenge!!!
Best Of Luck, Sweetie...
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I'm in a serious relationship but there's a problem. I love my boyfriend (I'm female...sorry :P) but I'm not physically attracted to him anymore. Like I think he's hot (because really, he is!:P) but when he tries to kiss me or hug me I just roll my eyes - I just don't want to do it back to him.
I used to love hugging and kissing him but now there's just something in me thats died. I only have two (pretty lame) theories: 1. I've been finding studying and work stressful (I just started a new job) and I thought that may have something to do with it and 2. I started taking the pill about 4 or 5 months ago and I've heard that can effect that sexual drive - or what ever it's called.
Anywho, my question is does anyone know what could be causing this? And any ideas on how to overcome it?
Thanks heaps (link)
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I think that you should definitely talk to your doc about the pill.
But I presume that you have got so used to your bf that it is affecting your sexual attraction towards him. I've been through the same thing and I somehow understood that even though I still loved him, i was at such a stage of my life that other things were more important to me than sex (that, for you, could be your work) Also, we made out frequently in the one year I was with my bf which, towards the end, made it very meaningless and boring. Probably if you wait for sometime and then make out, i think both of you will have a good time (because the whole desire thingy might build up inside) lol ...
Best of luck, sweetie...
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My dog : http://i35.tinypic.com/e0llc8.jpg
She's only 8 months, and i know you have to discipline/train a puppy so i was just wondering if there's an effective quick solution to her problems. She's very hyperactive and when we leave her alone she barks, cries, poops/pees on the carpet, and most importantly: she destroys anything in sight of her. At night we have to keep her in the cage, in the day we have to keep her outside. I hate it, especially since we're close to winter. Me and my dad are most likely going to fight about this. He's already yelled at me for what she did last time (She tore of some of the old couch from the basement). He told me next time it happens he's going to take the dog away:(
So, anybody know any nice effective training methods to stop my dog from biting and chewing things she shouldn't? She's already ruined a whole bunch of my teddy bears >. (link)
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Hi, There is really nothing to worry about. Your dog is still a pup and since his teeth are growing it is going to irritate him which is why he chews on everything in sight. It relieves him from the irritation. For this you could get some chew toys for puppies. They are easily availble in the market. Get him lots of that. You said your pup is hyperactive--Do you feed her any of these:Salt,Chocolate,undiluted milk,Too much sugar,excess red meat? If yes then Stop. You will notice the difference soon. and in any case your dog is still a puppy. Do not put it in a cage coz as it grows it will get bitter and fierce. About the poop part, go to a library there are many books on hoew to train your dog yourself. When my dog was a puppy it had the same problems, all you need is patience.
Best of Luck
xo
Darkside89
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I am an Indian.I m getting married three months from now.And so will be having Sex for the first time.What is it that I should be prepared for?I don wanna embarras myself or my fiance.how to make it a pleasant experience for the first time?
I m excited but nervous too.please advice. (link)
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Ok, there is nothing to be prepared for. It comes naturally. I know it sounds cliched but thats the most you have to know. If you are getting married its better to talk to him about planning a family rather than just having sex for fun. It comes with a lot of responsibility.
The first time may be painful but it surely is fun.
Best of Luck.
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Okay, so I just recently moved into my dorm room and there are cum stains on my walls. How can I get them off?
I did try the usual soap and water with no luck.
I cannot re-paint, or damage the walls in any way because I am renting so paint friendly solutions would be best. (link)
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You can use turpentine with a sponge. You can use 1 part of vinegar and lime with water. If nothing works use Nail Polish Remover (works on any stains). Best of Luck.
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