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HELP ME! I WILL RATE 5s FOR ANYONE WHO TRYS TO HELP! i am going out with this guy that i really like and i kinda like this other guy to and he likes me and idk what to do cause i like the guy i am going out with and i dont want us to break up! what is a better choice. THANKS SO MUCH

stick with the guy you are going out with, i mean you obviously really like him and you were with him first, if the crush on this other guy gets to be bigger than the crush on ur bf then you should break up but for now it seems like you still like your bf too much to just break up with him
good luck!

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how can u tell a friend u don't want 2 be her friend anymore without hurtin her feelings ok my so called best friend wouldn't come 2 my b-day party becuause 3 of my other friendz who she hates came she told me this and i told her 2 ignor them but she still wouldnt come and also she is a back stabber one day i was over her house and we were about 2 go outside and have a snowball fight and her couison called and she went to the mall with her couison and just blew me off and her couisin hates me me and her have been friends since kindergarten pleze help


thnx:-)

ok if you and her have been friends that long you should try and keep it up, just talk to her and tell her what is bothering you, honesty is always the way to go, sit down with her and in a really calm non offensive voice just tell her that it bothered you when she blew you off and stuff, if you have this talk you might get into a fight but it should blow over and you two will become better friends
good luck

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hey i was wondering if it was nomal for me to wt=rite songs at my age we'll just say(11-13) lemme know

of course it's normal, some people just have a gift for composing, if i were you i would keep writing as much as i could, i wish i could write music
good luck!

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hey well I'm going to go on a diet and I dont really know what type of foods to get for when I go to the grocery store. Any ideas?

well you need a little bit from every food group, if you really want to be healthy you need to have some of everything, stay away from really processed things like american cheese, stay away from unhealthy carbs, instead of white bread get wheat get lots of fruits and vegetables, eat a little bit of each food group but not a ton of it
i hope that helped
good luck!

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Ok I have these 2 friends. I know them both really well. We are so close. Well today they played a trick on me. They made up a screenname and pretended they were this girl that I hate with a passion. They talked a bunch of shit. Well it got to the point that when the convo was over that I sent the convo to 2 of my other friends e-mail and told them to read it. Well i go to tell my friend about it and turns out it was her and my other friend..The thing that made me mad and pissed off at them is the fact that they said it was that girl and they know i hate her. They completly don't know what happened between me and her and shouldn't have done it. But my ? is .....What should I do about it? I mean it might of been funny to them but they don't know the whole story and it completly pissed me off...Should I tell them it made me mad and that I am still mad at them....But please tell me what I should do....
Signed ,,,,TrueHope10

i would tell them the truth, tell them you are kinda mad, and you will have to tell them why, if you aren't willing to tell them why then you can't really be mad at them because they dont think it's that big of a deal, i'm sure they didnt really mean any harm, but just talk to them
good luck

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The only reason i'm up now is because i can never fall asleep! if u help me with this i will give u a five!
i think this is urgent so please answer asap!

try not consuming large amounts of sugar and caffeine close to bed time, even during the day, maybe take a sleeping pill just to make you drowsy, and if all else fails then talk to a doctor...
good luck! i hope you get some sleep

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so im 13, female, and me and my boyfriend just began to go out. he has had many girlfriends before me, what im getting at is, he is experienced, and im not. i have only made out 1 time, and i dont think i did anything right.

i dont know what im supposed to do with my tongue?

i will rate 5's to anyone who answers decent.


sorry, i know this is a stupid question.

just do what he does, play with his tongue with yours, bite his tongue a lil, just dont jam it down his throat, maybe if you tell him that you are inexperienced he will help you, it never hurts to be honest, you will probably be nervous, but it kinda just comes naturally
good luck!

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ok, my girlfriend's dad died the other day (they were on vacation in Qubec with her, her dad, her mom, & 2 friends) & so she was very upset & so she broke up with me. I understood & said it was ok. & so I bought her a card (witch I'm gonna send once I get her address from her friend) & I'm afraid to call her & everything cos I don't want to talk about it & that'd be the only thing we'd talk about.

but what I'm asking is if I should wait for her to get over it all & maby go back with her, or if I should just move on?

more about our realationship, she lives about 45 mins. away & I haven't been able to see her much & I haven't been the best boyfriend since I'm going through some really hard times right now, but I try

I'm 14/M & shes 14/F

thanks

ok you need to ask yourself how much you care about her, if you care enough to wait for her, then i would wait, if you dont think it is worth waiting, and maybe you would break up anyway because of the distance then just move on, do you think she is worth the wait?? how long could you really go with the distance? i know i'm just askind questions when i should be answereing them but you are the only one who can answer those questions
good luck

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I am a 13/f and never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend keeps on looking at me and once he was starring at me so I turend around to look and he quikly turend around.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

well there is no absolute correct answer to the question because all guys act differently, if he flirts with you, seems to watch you a lot, acts truly interested in you, pays more attention to you than other girls, maybe even gets a lil upset when you talk to another guy (he may be jealous) otherwise all you can do is maybe have a friend ask him or talk to his friends, show an interest in him and see how he responds, i really hope this helped
good luck with him!

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hey, so i asked this girl to goto a concert with me because one of my friends is getting tickets, but she said that her friend really like this band too so shes going too. And idk whats gonna happen because i think were just goin as friends, but im still confused about it. Any input????


-thanx-

well she obviously thinks you are just going as friends, but if you wanted to go with her as more than friends then you should definitely talk to her about it, you can clear things up and even if her friend still comes she will at least know your intentions and maybe you can go out another time... sorry if this didnt really answer your question but it was kinda hard to understand
good luck!!

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Ok I went out with a guy named kasey... and I knew everyone thought he is a bad person.. and He does bad stuff and everthin.. but he really treated me soo good.. Like I was lyin down on a bed.. and he picked me up and was like carryin me.. and I had my legs around his waist.. and my head on his shoulder.. and he just like started dancin with me.. but he was like holden me.. and then he wispered in my ear.. I love you .. and kissed me.. and then I new.. I really loved him (or I thought) and I really thought i did.. and then he broke up with me.. and I was sooo hurtt I cryd and cryd and I couldnt controle myself I was dyin.. and i had started cutting again and I wouldnt stop.. and then the next day he asked me back out.. and I said yes.. and then I looked in his pro and go why am I not in your pro.. and he goes I was jk.. so he was kiddin bout asken me out.. and I was sooo hurt I grabbed a nife and was bout to slit my throat.. but sunday had her bf call the cops on me.. and they came to my house and came in my room and found me holden a nife to my throat...

well here is the problem... I am now in a relation ship with a guy named mike.. and everyone says he is a player.. and has cheated on his gfs alot.. But I really like him.. and I want to believe he wont hurt me and stuff.. Well he is gone for 3 weeks camping with my friends bf.. jimmy.. so me and my friend are goin up to visit them friday.. Im not sure what to do cause I really dont want to get hurt again and I want to give us a try and all.. and I want to believe it will work out.. What do I do HELP!

ok some relationships are just going to hurt, i mean not all of them are going to end perfectly, and your past experiences need to make you cautious but not paraniod, i'm not saying you are or anything but you need to be careful of who you go out with because you need someone who will really take care of you, i would stick with the guy you have for now but be careful and listen to your friends because they always have good advice, i hope that if this relationship doesnt work out that you find an amazing guy who loves you as much as possible and takes complete care of you, every girl needs a guy like that

good luck

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Hi im a 17/f. Im not that out going but my best friend is a very social person. She introduced me to her Older brother who is in collage. My best friend invited me to stay the night at her house. while i was there it turned out that her older brother was throwing a crazy frat party at there house whle there parents were away. Later that night after partying for awhile my friends older borther came up to me and asked if i wanted to dance. after a while he said he needed to talk to me in private. Wwe went up to his room and started talking for a while. he said how he really liked me and how he didnt care how i was 17 and he is 21. by that point i could tell he was drunk. i said "i'll be right bak" not meaning to return. i walked out of the room and went down stairs and started dancng again. about 15 minutes later he came down and said we needed to talk again. so i went along with it. when i walked in first he locked the door pushed me down on the bed and started rapeing me. now im 5 months pregnant and im supposed to be heading off to collage ona full scholorship. i really want to keep my child but it will be hard to go to school and keep a child. my parents dont want anything to do ith me so they wont help out. what should i do. keep my baby and skip out on Yale or give the baby up for adoption and go to Yale? im so confused please help!!!!!!!!

i would put the baby up for adoption, the guy who raped you is not a "great man" and do you really want him caring for your child? the baby needs a stable environment where there are two parents who are married and can easily support the child. You need to work on your future so you can graduate from college and have a good life, get married and have a kid that way. It will be really hard to give the baby up but you have to do it, i've heard that you can get a certain adoption where the adoptive parents will allow you to see the child as much as you want so you can still be a part of it's life.

I am really sorry this happened to you.
good luck
donny

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Well i have this friend lets call him fred... Yesterday i was talking to fred when i found out that he had tried to kill himself tree times already... but the worst thing is he is only in 7th grade... what can i do to help him? please help..

i had a friend who tried to commit suicide a few times, and even though it was really hard i told a councilor, i thought she would totally hate me for it but you know what she actually thanked me so i would tell a councilor or another adult

good luck
donny

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i like a guy, but whenever im around him i get nervous and start acting like i don't like him (like im not interested) and basically ignore him. And its not just around that guy, its like around all of them. what can i do to make talking to guys easier?

that's actually a really hard question: ok i would just pretend like the guy is your best friend and maybe when you start to get to know him better things will get easier. If know that you are doing this couldnt you stop yourself in the process? just calm down and think to yourself that he is just another person, things should get easier as you go. sorry if that wasn't much help!

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Well. For your sake of answering, here's a summary.

I met this guy, I'm pretty sure we like each other alot. hopefully that is.. We've been dating for about a month, but yeah I am prone to get jealous Really Easily I honestly don't know why, but that's how it is.. Well This guy always is really nice to other girls.. like comments he leaves on his friend's blogs and xangas or whatever.. he's always like Super nice to them.. and it seems like lately, he's been less nicer(??) to me. AND being prone to jealousy I'm getting a little jealous.. Is that bad? well What should i Do? should i just lay back and just let him do what he does.. or interfere? well thanks for ur help

ok um i think you should wait a little bit and see how it goes, meybe he is just going through a phase or something, if it doesnt change or it gets worse i would talk to him but be careful of what you say because if you say something like "i dont understand why you seem to like other girls more than me" he will get mad but just talk to him about how you feel without making him feel bad and if things dont change then i hate to tell you but maybe you two werent meant to be
good luck
hope i helped

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ok.. this guy at school likes me and i kinda like him. But he said he might ask me out. The only thing is that he has a reputation of being a jackass and doing stuff with girls. And i always see him like hugging other girls and stuff. SO even if i was going to go out with him i would be nervous bout it cuz all the stuff above makes it look like he might cheat on me. what should i do?! PLEase hELP!

i would give him a chance becuase you never know when someone could pull through and are you positive that stuff about him is true?? maybe he isnt even like that or if he is then maybe he will change but if you do go out with him be careful and watch closely to see how he acts, maybe talk to his friends and see what they say about him

good luck!

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there is this guy at school who likes me ALOT! and i kinda like him, but hes part of the popular group, and im not really.. im just part of the normal group. His friends asked him "why do you like her, she doesnt hang out with us, she doesnt deserve you" should i go out with him even though his friends said that, and people would make fun of me if i went out with him? PLEASE HELP!

if the guy likes you and admits to it then popularity obviously isnt a problem for him, who cares what his friends think! if you like him then go for it! i mean c mon he sounds like a real good guy and if he is willing to forget the popularity differences then you should too...

good luck!

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I want to ask a girl out, but i don't really know how. Iv done the whole "will you go out with me" thing before, but it seems kinda childish. What do you think the best way would be?

ask her to the park or movies or something and while you are there, make your move!! if you dont really have a move then just tell her that you enjoyed hanging out with her and look into her eyes, or hug her, or even hold her hand, something to show her that you really like her, then ask her if she'd like to hang out again or something... i hope that helps!

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I am a 15/m. I was wondering what girls expected from a guy. Guys tend to want to feel girls breasts etc. and most likely go further. Do girls want to go this far with guys? What is your personal experiance with this and what did you feel. How far would you want to go with a guy. Lets say it was a serious realtionship also.

ok well the farthest i would go would be second base... and that's if it's a really serious realationship, there are many girls who would go a lot further so i might not be the right one to ask this question anyway i hope that kinda helps

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does midol cure headaches? what effect does it have on guys? lol ur secret admirer lol

lol midol has been found to cure headaches!! haha just kidding but as for the effect on guys... hmm we'll have to get jake to try it

p.s. who is this?? ceej, ash, or jake?

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