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My friend...
Well i have this friend lets call him fred... Yesterday i was talking to fred when i found out that he had tried to kill himself tree times already... but the worst thing is he is only in 7th grade... what can i do to help him? please help..
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talk to him about it. tell him how much you would miss him. Tell him that he shouldn't kill him slef because he has so much more life left for him to experience.
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Do not refer anything with "crazy, psychologist, or insane" in the conversation :) The reason people do these things is because theyre
- Not liking how they see themselves
- Sick of Rumors
- Not getting along with someone close to them
And many other reasons!
Ask him one day "You know, you may be going through something now, but you have many years ahead of you. You will meet people, have fun, and have everlasting memories. Do you really want to throw ALL these away, and hurt people around you? Like, your family, or friends, or even me? *do NOT do a puppy dog face, hehe.* Your suicide would kill people, not physically, but emotionally. They'll feel closed off, and unstable, because of what you would have done. Just because (whatever his reason is), do you want to make everyone numb inside?" He needs to think, about his reason. Just confront him saying that (if the reason is small) something so little shouldn't take a life!
*gives you something to think about, when talking to him*
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So many will grieve, so many you will leave.
A loss of brown eyes, don't ignore the help of cries.
Your family...and friends, heart won't break but will only bend.
Whats the use, who will you amuse, no one...
It will be a waste of precious youth.
What is the reason? It won't be the right conclusion.
Seek the ones you love, they'll give you the right shove.
Don't be afraid, they give many healings.
I don't want a flower on your casket, rather the petals in a basket.
You are stronger, hold on longer. You can make it, get out of the pit.
Wake up, Sure, the road will be bumpy, but don't get so jumpy.
Don't let this be the end....
Just ask him, WHY! And Good Luck hun :)
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When Fred told you this, he was obviously reaching out. He wanted attention, and there is nothing wrong with giving it to him. Let him know that you care about him, invite him over to places, and let a counselor or parent know ASAP. Just continue to be his friend, and pray he makes it through this hard time.
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Call for help, trust me, I know. I've dealt with situations like this before. Does your school have a guidance counsellor and do you guys go to the same school? If yes, seek the guidance counsellor; I know it will be hard to tell everything but you need to in order to save your friend. Have you tried talking to him? I'm guessing you did and it didn't work. If your school doesn't have a guidance counsellor, go to a teacher, or an adult who knows both of you and whom you trust. If you go to different schools, there are usually the helplines that you can call. You are usually able to keep your identity annoymous, just say that you're worried if your friend thinks that you betrayed his trust he might get worse and they'll understand, at the most extent say a concerned friend. If your name really has to be exposed, so be it. I think you and I both feel that it's better to save a friend and have him/her hate you for life than to have them die and know that there was something you could do but didn't. It's hard, I know, but it's the right thing to do. I hope I helped, try not to worry about it too much.=]
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Leave frend alone. He is a pussie who cant deal with the fact he's probably got a good life.
He doesnt know there are poor starving children out there with crappy lives who live in tents and have a bajillion different dieseases out there.
Are they trying to kill themselves?
No cuz they arent pussies.
Do me a favor, punch fred in the face and leave him alone.
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Hey he needs a shoulder to cry or or someone who can talk to him about it. Just tell him if he does try killing him self, tell him all the things and people he loves will miss him.
luv roxie
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try and talk to him and find out why he did it. Most of all just be there for him when he needs you thats the most important thing. letting him know that you'll always be there for him.
luv shelly
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At this moment he may need a friend to stick by him.Try and show him all the good things he has in life.I think just beign a good friend at this time is all you can do.
Love kim
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try talkin this over with him ask him way he wants to kill himself tell him that he is so young and has a long life to go through help him go htrought this try to help him fix his problem. you sound like a good friend tryin to make sure your friend is alright i hope i helped you.bye.
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talk to an adult. a counselor, a teacher, a close adult, like a parent
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I had a friend just like Fred. We weren't very close but I ended up helping her in the end. Maybe you can do some of the things I did so you can help your friend. For starters, we'll review some background information about suicide attempts. Most people try to kill themselves because they don't feel as if anyone cares about them & are very unhappy with their current life. You could help Fred out by talking to him & telling him what a great friend he is. Suicide is a serious situation & there are 2 ways that a friend can help out. One is, like I said, hang out with him & make him feel loved & needed. Let him know that if he did kill himself, you would miss him. The other thing to do is to tell someone (an adult like a parent, or someone you trust) about his condition. They'll be able to talk to him about it. Communication is the best way to go! In fact, you could even be the one to sit with him & have a talk about his feelings. Good luck & if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox. =]
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i had a friend who tried to commit suicide a few times, and even though it was really hard i told a councilor, i thought she would totally hate me for it but you know what she actually thanked me so i would tell a councilor or another adult
good luck
donny
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