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My boyfriend and I have decided that we would like to start going jogging together in the mornings. For the past year or so, neither of us have done any sort of significant physical exercise, maybe a bike ride once or twice a week.
Are there any experienced runners or joggers out there that could give us a few tips on how to get into running again. Naturally it is not as simple as just going out and running.
Considerig we're quite out of shape in terms of stamina and endurance, what would be the best way to start?
Any information would be much appreciated :) (link)
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Make sure you stretch before you start jogging. Start with a thirty minute jog. Go fifteen minutes away from your starting point and then turn around and go back to your starting point. Make sure you are hydrated and not hungry (don't eat right before you go though). You can go a couple days with thirty. Increase the time limit by fifteen minutes every week. Make sure to stretch after running and drink water and eat. Eat healthy foods. Hope this helped.
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ok, for starters I'm 23 yrs of age, - female- my current boyfriend is the same age. We've been on and off for 5 years but he was my he sweetheart. We are the type if couple that everyone says you both look good together. When were good were great and in love but when were bad we try and hurt each others feeling and despise each other. He normally starts the fights and he's aware of that, but I don't walk away from the situation I feel like i need to stand up for myself, then suddenly its a game of whoever says or does the most irrational thing wins. We have been together for so long it's like we can freely say whatever and curse at each other because we love each other well apologize later and then go back to our old routine. But some of the stuff that he says stays in my mind and I'm sure its the same with him.
We've been through 2 major breakups and I'm usually the one to break up with him. But we often threaten each other were going to leave each other whenever in a fight. Now I'm states away from my hometown I lived all my life and before we moved we were fighting -though it would change when we moved in together -our fights have gotten worse to the point we fight in front of our friends and they wonder if we beat each other up at home.
I really do love him, and he loves me. We go on dates, have movie night and cuddle every night. When were good were great. But I feel myself wanting more out of life individually. He has talked to his parents about proposing to me and we TM have talked about marriage. And he has a great job with a good salary. So we could start a life and have kids. But he doesn't want me my parents in the same state as we are even though they want to move closer to me. I left my dog who is the love of my life at home first him because his dog didn't get along with mine. If i stay with him I will never fulfill my lifelong dream of being a professional dancer in California like my dad was because he wants to move to another country for his job. And i know I'm the only one sacrificing. But I don't know what's best for me?? It's not like I have a guaranteed in bring a successful dancer - its a gamble. But I'm young and I'm okay with taking that risk. But with him, I can't do the things i want and have the things i want, because its all planned out for me.
I'm scared because the linger I wait, I'm just gonna keep sinking into quicksand and it'll be harder to get out. But I'm so list. My parents want whatever I decide but it will devastate them to know my bf wants to move to another country where ill never see them again - and I'm an only child. All my friends think my bf cheats on me though my bf reassures me he doesn't all the time yet leads me into thinking he does.
I'm currently back home for a couple of days which I feel myself again and soooo happy to be home it feels like a dream come true. My dog actually cried and was so excited to see me - more than any other time. I thought she forgot about me but she didn't and she loves me being home. And so do I. But I have to go back to Idaho with idaho with bf and deep inside I don't want to. But we have a year lease which he can't pay for it by himself. And he too knows no one out there. So if i left him he'd be alllll alone. And i have such a big heart that even if I hated him I couldn't do that to him.
HELP HELP HELP HELP HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE!!! (link)
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Your story sounds a little familiar. Dating a guy who doesn't support you in your dreams is the hardest thing ever. It's like all the time you are doing what they want to be done and you don't get to put much say in it. I think it should be fifty fifty. There should be a middle ground in this where you can be able to still fulfill your dream of becoming a dancer while he does his. It is unfair for your to give everything up for him while he is not compromising anything. You need to talk to him about this and let him know how important your dream is also. That you guys need to figure a way to make each other happy when it comes to dreams or goals. He needs to be supportive in in that. If he keeps being selfish, then it will r up to you to decide wether or not you want to give up your dream. Life is too short to throw away your dreams. You only have so much time to get going with that. Wether or not it works out won't even matter. At least of you try you can say, "hey, I tried and it worked out!" or "hey, at least I tried". That way you won't have to live the rest of your life wondering what could have happened. Talk to him about it and he should be able to compromise and be supportive.
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I've been going out with my bofriend for 1month now and he lives 2.7 miles away from me and when he comes down to see me him and my best friend always flirts and when I ask them something,they completely ignore me:-( then after my boyfriend goes home they text eachother:-( help? Please:-( it gets me down so much:'( (link)
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Had the same thing happen to me a long time ago. Guess what? My friend called my boyfriend sexy in my face. From then on, we broke up because he kept hooking up with my friends. He did it for years until one of them just recently passed away. So what I would say to you is be careful. You shouldn't have to deal with that. It is disrespectful that your boyfriend and your friend will be texting each other and that he will ignore you. You should be the one and only. Confront them both about it and if it doesn't change get yourself out of there fast. There is a good reason why this is hurting you, because you know it's extremely wrong and unacceptable. You deserve much better.
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okay so my friends boyfriend was at this end of the school year party with us. He stayed mostly by me andmy other friend Alyssa. Bailey is the in one dating the guy so he ignores her. i felt bad not being by her so i talked 2 her. she was pissed off with her bf being by us n not her. so i go back by him and alyssa 2 find out hes flirting with us. asking us if he was hot, making us laugh etc. so now...if hes flirting with us how could we explain this 2 bailey and if he would b interested in us and how 2 have him admit it if he likes me and alyssa without him knowing...
female, age:15
by, XxKittyxX
thnx if u give me a good answer cause its importent to let bailey know about this owo (link)
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You are a very good friend. I'm sure she would appreciate this. And you are smart to let her know without him finding out. What I would do is somehow start up a conversation with him and bring up what he said before and make sure you are recording him button your phone. One day mayb when you are with Bailey or something, or when you know Bailey is not with him,call him asking for her and record the conversation. Then show her and let her listen. Not many girls would want to take care of their friends. I think you you are one of the very few people out there who care about their friends.
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I've posted an earlier question about being annoyed with the neighbour's kids because they keep coming over, and staying over at my house, and entering without knocking or anything.
Everyone has advised me earlier to speak to the parents, but I am extremely shy and I feel bad having to speak to the parents because I feel I shouldn't have to because 1) it might create animosity 2) i feel absolutely terrible
Just literally less than 5 minutes ago. I've had another experience that has me extremely annoyed. (link)
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Get a lock for your room. You can find one at Walmart for about ten dollars. Let your dad know that it bothers you, because he might find even another solution to the problem. You can also put a sign on your door saying something like "Knock first", something like that. You can also try to lock the other doors around the house. One thing with that you can do sometimes is let them know in a nice calm way like, "hey I want to show you something. When you first come into my room, you have to knock. You can walk to the door with them and show them. They will get it. Or if you want you can tell that they need to ring the doorbell before they come in the house or else you will get in big big trouble with your parents. Since you are shy this might be the easiest solution. Hope this helped :).
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To start off, I've met the most wonderful man, I met him on facebook and we had mutual friends, we talked a lot through facebook and text messaging for about 6 months until we finally decided to meet face to face, I met him at a party my friend had and needless to say we hit it off, after that we started hanging out often, I was seeing other guys because I wasn't sure if he wanted a relationship, well I slept with him one night and he stopped and looked at me and said he wanted more than a one night stand, after that we started dating exclusively and have been for over two months now, he has a daughter and said he doesn't want us to meet until we are more serious, he is absolutely perfect, compared to everyone I've dated I feel so strongly for him, he told me he loved me and I kindly told him I did not feel that strong yet, though the past week or so every time I wake up to him or we're together I just feel that strong feeling in my stomach, I am very nervous of telling him how I feel and I want to know the best and easiest way to tell him, the other night we were laying in bed and he wrapped his arms around me, I wanted to say it but I just couldn't, how do I tell him? I've never really said it to anyone, I told him when I get paid I wanted to treat him to dinner and I was thinking maybe then? Anyone have any advice to help me? Thanks! (link)
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I think you should wait for HIM to say it first. The reason being that I think it will keep things more mysterious and fresh between you guys. Don't just let everything out yet. Give whatever you have to him little by little. Go with the flow and see what happens next.
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i came on my period on may 1st when am i do for another period? (link)
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June first is the day that your next period should come. Or maybe the last week in may towards the first week in June. That would be my guess. Most girl's bodies are different so it might even come two months later. If you are sexually active, your period can change too. Hope this helped :).
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I have always been the kindof "fat" one in school. I do not think that i am very pretty at all. Whenever I say hi to the people in the halls, they dont say anything back. I don't know what i am doing wrong. I just got glasses a little over 4 weeks ago, and i feel like the nerd that no one wants to be around. I am only 13 years old. I weigh about 145 lbs. I need to know if there is anything i could do to be pretty and get boys to like me for who I am. (link)
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Everyone has something beautiful about them. No one is one hundred percent perfect. But I have a friend who went through the same thing you are and she was able to lose a lot of weight. You are still young and you still have time :). What you can do is figure out how tall you are and go online and see what the average weight for a person your age and height should weight :). Then make a goal of losing a certain amount of weight every month. The easiest way is by Ewing healthy. Start eating smaller meals and keep busy by exercise. Running is a good way to lose weight also. You can start out by just walking everyday in the mornings or afternoons. then start jogging and go to running. Its a good thing on your part that you are noticing that you must do something now because it will be a lot harder when your older. just start out by cutting out soda, junk food, fast food, and other unhealthy foods. Then once you get good at that start exercising :).
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I'm seventeen, female, freshman starting college in the fall. Now, I am firm believer in "everything happens for a reason", all senior year, this boy who has a girlfriend and I had gotten very close. We had a class together first semester, all we would do is goof off, we were quite the fans of taking pictures of people who weren't paying attention and we would laugh at the for days. By the end of the semester, we knew our class was going to change and we wouldn't see each other everyday so we exchanged numbers. We text sometimes but not very often. I wouldn't think much of his, I guess "advances" such as me catching him looking at me a lot or not even being a part of a conversation I'm having yet still laugh at a joke I said, because I'm pretty sure he loves his girlfriend but sometimes he has me second guessing myself. Today, I had college orientation, low and behold, he is attending the same college I am. We didnt acknowledge each other all day until we were let go for free time to go to the party in the dorm basement, as he was walking to the party, he saw me pass him, walking to my room and called my name and motioned with his head toward the party. Going full circle, back to everything happens for a reason, I think both of us coming here while his girlfriend attends college five hours away, isn't coincidence. I know I shouldn't get involved because he is taken so please, no lectures on that but just tell me what you're thinking. Am I thinking to much into it or is he flirting? What do you think I should do if he makes more "advances"? What of he wants to hang out? Thanks. (link)
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I'm sure he is interested. Whatever way it might be. There seems to be something there. And I believe in the same thing you do. Everything does happen for a reason. It could be a test on his end. It could also be a test for you too morally. If he were to make any advances on you, I think it would be a good idea to let him know that you have a lot of respect for his girlfriend. And you would not want to get between that. If he ends separating from his girlfriend, then that's another story :).
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I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy. (link)
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I think the breakup has really taken its toll on you. One thing I think you should do that will help a lot is to break lose any strings that are still attached to you and your ex. Being friends with benefits is not making you feel better. It's just causing heartache on your end. You shouldn't have to be the girl who is always available for him to do things with while he is running around. Either he is with you, or he isn't. once you cut those strings, you will be able to move on much faster. Another thing that might be helpful is keeping busy. Work, do your favorite hobbies on a daily basis, start up a new hobby, go out with your friend and look Hott. To to parties. Just try to do as many things that you can to keep you distracted. You will meet a new guy who will want you for you with no strings attatched :).
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I am nineteen and a female. I work at a retail store and have a bit of a crush on a fellow coworker. I don't know him too well, but he's attractive and nice and all that. We sort of banter back and forth a little bit, and I'm interested in spending time with him outside of work, but I don't really know how to get to this next step. I'm a girl who usually lets guys come to me, but, of course, I'm not sure he's going to because it's a work environment. How should I coyly give him my number or ask him to hang out or whatever? It's not like we have every shift together. Should I just wait for him to come to me? (link)
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I think you should wait for him to come to you. One thing you could do is pretend you might need a day off. Most work places provide you with all the employee numbers just in case. You can call him and ask him about it. Or text. And you guys could start talking out of work little by little.
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my friend just got a new boyfriend and he lives close to me ,so my friend wants to come to my house and go for a walk so she can meet up with him. But my mom always tells me before we go on walks to not run into any boys (I'm 13). So if we do go on the walk and my mom figures out what happened my mom will probably not trust me any more. but if I tell her before the walk she could say anything (she could maybe allow us to go but i don't know). So do you think i should tell my mom or keep it a secret. (link)
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You should be honest with her mom next time you go. Let her know what you are doing so that if anything happens to you guys while you are out she will know what to do. I'm sure she would let you :). Goodluck.
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Ok so 14/f and Im dissapointed in myself and my body. Im 110 lbs and I want to loose weight and my stomach isnt the sexiest :/ I want to have a flat looking stomach and I want to loose 10 lbs. How can I do this, I want that to be my accomplishment over the summer, advice? (link)
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At fourteen That is the perfect weight for you! I think if you were to try to lose any more weight
It wouldnt be good for your health. If it's just your stomach you don't like, you can do exercises that focus only on your stomach. Like crunches, leg lifts, bicycle leg movements that involve moving your shoulders from one side to the other while laying down. One thing is that all girls have a stomach or a little gut. Our bodies are formed this way so we can have babies some day :). So you might be fighting nature. But if not just look up workouts that will focus on your stomach.
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I have cone-like breast that are no more than a B cup. Every other girl -younger than me even- have a larger bust than me. At first I just told myself that I had less problems than other girls but then this friend of mine called me a washboard.. We always have little, silly fights but that was the one and only time it has ever hurt me. I feel uncomfortable wearing little clothing in fear of being ridiculed. Like my bra falling of or something. -Also I can't swim so I always take that as an excuse for not going to pool parties. (link)
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Most guys that I know don't care about boobs as much a they do about the rear end. You have nothing to worry about :). Having a b size cup is totally fine. Girls can be annoying when they try to knit pick on you. They can say things just to make you feel inferior because they are jealous of something else. That was just unnecessary for her to say that to you. And if it bothers you wayyyyyy too much. You can go to any store and buy a padded or push up bra. Victoria's secret ones ate amazing even though they are a bit pricy. And they also carry swim suits that are push up too ;).
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My boyfriends birthday's coming up soon and I don't know what to buy him! He doesn't like concerts or going to watch football,any idea's? (link)
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You could buy him clothes. If he like video games you could do that. A watch.
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Well i used to like this guy and lets say that we 'dated'...then he started going out with my best friend...they hurt me really bad and now they arent together anymore..it happened over a game of spin the bottle...the guy was really sad when they broke up and he didnt talk to a lot of people about it.. although it wanted them to break up i didnt want it to be like this..He talks to me about it and my 'best friend' talks to me about it too... no matter how much i try my best friend(female) wont take him back...her ex(my old crush/'boyfriend') was really sad, he even cired.. the girl cried too but for totally different reasons.. i know this is long and i am sorry but that wasnt even the end..What should i do?? they both really trust me now that this has happened..I dont wanna be mean and drop them both in the dirt but i dont wanna help them because i feel they will get back together...so what should i do??
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By being there for him. If not, then you will probably most likely meet someone else you like better. And being this way towards them will not only make you look good but will keep you from feeling guilty and bad about breaking them apart.
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I'm kinda at the end of my rope with my boyfriend. We live together, and he started a new job about 6 months ago that has him stressed out rather often.
I love him, and I want to enjoy our time together, but I just can't. He picks his nose and snorts, wipes his nose on his hands, scratches his crotch, burps, chews his nails, forget to brush his teeth... ectra...
It used to be that if I wanted to have a meal with him without this behavoir, I could at least drag him out of the house, but now that doesn't work either. He's nearly as bad in public as he is at home.
I'm sure he is feeling ignored and neglected, but I just can't take someone seriously when they are acting this way. I feel so disrespected by all this and find him so unattractive. I wish he'd just reach for a damn Kleenex or go to the bathroom and do some of this shit in private. I just want to feel like I'm living with an adult who values and respects my presence. He says lovely things all the time, but when he says while behaving this way it just adds insult to injury.
I'm not sure how to bring this up tho without it turning into a "Hey you do gross things too!" 'cause I'm sure I do things that piss him off, but I need him to understand this is reaching deal-breaking proportions for me. (link)
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Tell him how you feel about it and with that, of he respects you he should be able to stop. He needs to start being a man instead of acting childish. You Shouldn't have to babysit him. He knows that what he is doing is wrong. Just talk to him.
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Okay, so i have a boyfriend of almost a month now. He's really cute & nice but he's a year younger than me and he can be immature sometimes and it kind of bugs me. We're honestly complete opposites, but somehow i've fallen for him. Except the thing is, he's a sucky boyfriend. He never sends me cute paragraphs, or just tells me what he likes about me. Sometimes I feel like he's using me for my body, but then again he might not be. And when we're on facebook or texting he never sends me smiley faces or anything. He's just boring over messaging. But then there's times once in a while where he can be really cute and sweet. I've been thinking about breaking up with him because my feelings weren't that strong with him but the last time we hung out I completely fell in love with him somehow and i'm stuck now. And i recently met this other boy, who had a girlfriend of 10 monthes and just broke up with her yesterday. He's a complete sweetheart in real life and over texting and he just seems perfect. But i know him and he's kind of a player.. plus i think my bestfriend likes him now. But he's still making an effort to talk to me and flirt with me so I know he's interested. He told me if i think my boyfriend treats me like shit then I shouldn't put up with it. He's so sweet, but i know he's probably taking advantage of me. But he has a point with the whole boyfriend thing. I don't know what to do. (link)
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First off. Communication is the key. You should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and what is lacking in the relationship. If he wants to work on it and you are willing to also then great! :)....if not, that obviously won't be helping your feeling for him get stronger so it would probably be best to just back off. You would most likely end up finding someone else
more suitable for you in that case.
The other guy who just broke up with his girlfriend yesterday. Don't let him use you as a rebound. Ten months in a relationship is a long enough to need some time to get over a person. Again. Don't be the rebound. He is probably most like being nice just to have you as his rebound.
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So my ex bf broke up with me last year and we never talk anymore...it was a long distance relationship and i had really strong feelings for him but now 1 of my friends go ahold of the password and told him i was cheatng on him (when i wasnt) so he just took me off when i asked him why he said i had a weird look on life and he was sorry for me but we could still be friends. Now when go back to add him he just takes me off :( also is it illegal fr a 14 yr girl to date an almost 20 yr guy? its for my friends sister and shes dating him and shes very worried for her sister. (link)
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This is sick. How dare he dates a fourteen year old girl. That's is against the law!!!!!!!!!! He could get in deep trouble for that. He is a pedophile. You should be happy that he staying away from you. That gives you a chance to be free from him and wait for the right guy to come around :).
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I'm live in Canada. So a while ago I asked a question on this site about how to tell a guy how i feel about him and everything.. Someone said to message him on facebook to tell him that i like him and how I feel about him and everything.. But I really confused on what to say! Any ideas? (link)
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Alright so here is my view on this one. I don't think you should tell him you like him or pour out all your feelings to him. I think you should start out by becoming his friend, talk a lot, laugh together, and flirt with him. Be really cool with him. You can give flirtatious hints and with that HE will be the one to come on to you. Guys want what they can't have most of the time :).
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