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workplace flirtation
I am nineteen and a female. I work at a retail store and have a bit of a crush on a fellow coworker. I don't know him too well, but he's attractive and nice and all that. We sort of banter back and forth a little bit, and I'm interested in spending time with him outside of work, but I don't really know how to get to this next step. I'm a girl who usually lets guys come to me, but, of course, I'm not sure he's going to because it's a work environment. How should I coyly give him my number or ask him to hang out or whatever? It's not like we have every shift together. Should I just wait for him to come to me?
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Not to be lame but does he have a fb? I'd friend him if i were you, fb chat him over the weekend. Make some kinda connection outside of work before you try to go for the number. He may want to ask you to hang out or make the next move but doesn't think its appropriate in that environment. If you establish a connection like that outside of the work place than he has no excuse but to ask you out.
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I think you should wait for him to come to you. One thing you could do is pretend you might need a day off. Most work places provide you with all the employee numbers just in case. You can call him and ask him about it. Or text. And you guys could start talking out of work little by little.
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You've been given two answers as to how to do what you asked. Let me give you a reason as to why not to or why he may not be interested in seeing you outside of work.
Work place romances, flirtations or relationships are fraught with problems. Many companies even have rules against this as it can adversely affects productivity.
For the sake of discussion lets just say you two have a good relationship. Then one of you is put in a supervisory position. No matter how hard you try to hide your off work relationship your coworkers will find out. Whoever is promoted will be in the position of showing favoratsim towards the other. Even if there is none shown your coworkers will still believe there is. This is bad for moral.
What happens if you break up for some reason and it is a bad breakup. Are you prepared to find a new job? After all you still will be seeing him at work every day. Would you want to find a new job? Then what if the break up is so bad that the two of you are so hostal to one another the owner/manager sees this and fires both of you.
These are the problems that come along with work place flirtations. Not all flirtations go bad. Most though do not last and then their are some problems that lead to one or the other leaving or being fired.
My advice is not fish at work. Their are plenty of fish to be caught outside the work place.
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I know how hard it is to bring up the courage to tell him about your feelings, but trust me, if you don't, someone else will. Start by inviting him to a party; preferably where he knows some of the people there. Take him away from the crowd and talk to him.
If not, then a coffee or lunch together.
Good luck
~ Sarah
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This might sound dumb to you but I would do it
sing "Call Me Maybe" to him and give him your number when you say "but here's my number, so call me maybe" haha trust me it works!
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aww thanks, that's a first
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